U shud hav added "Someone who loves you and you love back" Or "sum1 who listens and respects u and dat u can live wiv" I've got my other half Alxamdulilah and there's no way on God's green earth dat I'm eva gona let him go and he surely wudnt eva let me go! *Sidu dhiiga jidhkiisa dhex maro uu bahanyahay ayuu aniigana ee bahaanyahay* *Anigana sidu jidhkayga biyaaha uu bahaanyahay ayaan isagana uu bahanyahay* So in other words we wouldnt be able to live properly without each other! We need each other like we need our hearts (howeva one's heart can b made to work wiv de help of machines but de heart wouldnt work properly) I dont care about de past, I dont hav de right to judge any1 dat Allah's job! As long as he's commited to me, makes me laugh, respects me, loves me and we're on a level (communicate properly, well mannered & has a good personality) he's alrite for me! "Ruuxi dhab ku jeceel, wa la dhadhamiyaa" Saynab Ciige.

Mine is simple and it all happens at de gym 4 or 5 times a week. I run for 30minutes, 2minutes= warm-up so a slow-brisk walk then I start runnin for 10mins then increase the rate every 5 minutes I swear at de at I feel like I just escaped death by a second! Ooh & after de 30mins the machine has a 3minutes coolin down period which is similar to de warm-up only dis slowly decreases automatically. Then when my blood is pumpin extra hard all ova my body I start to push weights (usin de soles of my feet) wiv my legs start at 40kgs 10-20times then I do 50kgs the same applies until I reach 70kgs. Then I lift sum weights using de front of my legs then other weights using de back & finally de sides (through a kickin-like action usin weight cushins I do both de inner sider and outer side of my legs). Then I strench my legs and move to my arms, I use several methods but my favourite is liftin light weights while boxing in de air for about 10mins (u feel like ur arms are about to come off) then I lift regular weights wiv both hands. Then I work on my abs and old-fashioned sit-ups on de bench (wiv de head down & legs up)are de best but I also use other weight equipments which r also good coz u can increase de load. Then I do sum kick boxing & finish it all off by stretchin out and then hav a nice warm shower followed by a trip to de sauna and back under de shower howeva dis time a nice cold one. Then I go home and sleep like a baby, but I hate washin my hair everyday coz its soo much hazzle & it aint good either so I do it every other day instead, does any1 kno of any good daily shampoos, dat dont ruin de hair? But a word of advice de best exercise ever is goin out to a club or sumthin and dance non-stop from 11pm-5am the mornin after u'll realise how much of ur leg muscles u've been using! (But wear trainers otherwise it mite not turn out soo well)

I wouldnt mind my hubby-2-b 2 hav female friends while married to me coz I dont mind him havin them now so why shud things change just because u got married, u mite say because things are more serious now, yeah fair enuf so he KNOWS not to mess around & since its more serious the consequences or messing around are far greater. Anyways why wud he wana mess around when he has me?? So unless I aint keepin him happy he surely wudnt go there and de chances of dat happenin are zilch! nada! Absolutely negative and impossible! Nah I trust him with a few girls whom he has known for years. But then there are a few whom I dont trust but the thing I trust him so I kno he'd stand up for himself in strange situations.

The way men stare when they see you like they'd neva seen another female before! I'd change the way guys just assume ur single and when u tell them u aint they claim ur a liar. The way men say u think ur important coz u dont let them finish the sick chat-up lines. The way old guys try to chat up little girls in school uniform! The way the slowly move closer and closer to u at a wedding until they're almost steppin on ur shoes without askin for a dance! More or less the lack of respect our brothers have for us fine somali ladies! Hey I'm sorry! I didnt mean to hate but u kno wat they say once u pop u cant stop! (this only applies to some not all!) I still love my Somali brothers to bits and pieces coz I've realised they wont eva change.

Word! The Clown I fail 2 understand y u choose The Clown as ur username because I've been lookin closely at ur posts and they r very interestin. I find it funny how no1 has even mentioned COMMUNICATION yet I mean dat is de most important part of any relationship. (obviously accompanied by respect and love) I dont think de above things are too much to ask for and definetely things I'll do for my hubby-2-b Insha Allah & much much more, so The Clown dis is de only place I disagree wiv ur comment about the Somali Queen not havin been born yet there are plenty of us out there! But then I expect similar from him & I kno he'll agree dats only fair. Ooh but bout de food being ready and preparred I aint too sure coz we'd hav 2 take it in turns coz I wont be home everyday waitin for him to return!

I neva used to believe in love although I used to date boys and they'd tell me how they loved me and sum say they still do to dis day. I thought love was like a one-way system & I happened to be in de wrong lane. I thought only one person in a relationship loves the other one. So I was in relationship where de guys loved me and I only liked them. They were aware of this coz I wouldnt tell a guy I love him if I really didnt. Then I met my other half and first we were just friends with great mutual understanding and bare things in common, we even took several personality tests, love tests, and came out wiv de same results and de same feedback (I was also wiv another boy) but then we went on holiday 2 Somalia and we both fell in love gradually, we grew attached to each other coz everythin in Somalia was soo different. I knew before I returned to England dat I was in love with him so we spoke about it and it was a mutual feeling. So know I sincerely believe in love. Before it was just a matter of survival I believed it was better to be loved by sum1 (coz u cud trust em more) rather than u lovin sum1 and them not lovin u back (coz they cud take advantage-so dats probably wat I did) it was all about security. I can look in my partners eyes and I can feel all de love he has for me, he doesnt hav to say I love u for me to sincerely kno he does and neither do I. We hav common grounds, goals and ideals about life so Insha Allah everythin will work out perfect. So next time ur wiv ur partner sit next to them for a lil while and look into their eyes! The effect knocks men off their feet.

Hey sis I believe it depends on wat sort of stuff he tells u to wear! I mean is it for ur own good or not? If it is then u kno urself dat u shud probably do it 1day or another but u need to let him kno dat u'll do it in ur own time and u dont need him to tell u wats good and wats bad! I used to have a hot temper but trust me I hate arguin wiv my other half. I have undoubtly changed since I started datin him but not because he wanted me to but it sort of just happened wiv time & I also believe he's changed a lil. But no 2 ppl will fit together like a puzzle first time round I mean u mite have bare things in common and stuff but u gotta sacrifice in order to make ur relationship last. U cant always b de same u. I kno u said dat u respect his choices and things but I believe dat u shud tell him if there's anythin u dont like, he doesnt HAVE to giv it up but once he realizes how it affects u, he'll truly stop but b PATIENT everythin doesnt happens overnite and if they do it will take a lil while until the effect is noticed or felt by u. Communication is the most important thing always be honest wiv him and tell him how u truly feel, also tell him u dont like him bossin u around by tellin u wat to do! Everything needs commitment walaal u cant just give up on ur relationship b'coz of dis, I mean dats if u really care about him coz in relationships things like dis will happen and often, u just gotta built up sumthin sort of like an immune system if u kno wat I mean to deal wiv lil thing like dis. Neva loose ur temper its not worth it sis coz once u do u aint in control of urself so u cant make proper judgements. Last but not least be strong. PM me if u need any clarifications or if u hav any other questions I'll be happy to help. Love ur sis ExDane

Originally posted by SomaliaOnline-President: Women are generally better drivers than men are. U tell em SomaliaOnline-President! U men just can face de facts just b'coz us women are better in practically all walks of life, so u wana start puttin us down one way or another but u kno wat it aint gona happen! We've worked to hard to acheive wat we have and we aint gona let it just slide past without a fight!! Take any book of statistics and u'll realise dat women are safer drivers than men. But because they are soo safe they can cause hazards to male drivers b'coz they dont care about their fellow drivers only bout themselves. I have to say dat some female drivers are deadly behind a wheel but hey not everyone's safe! But I bet there's a larger proportion of male drivers dat suck! & 2 encounters are not enuf to base ur theory on 90%! Unless u've only eva seen those 2 and 1 other!

I'm African all de way! Why wud I wana call myself an Arab? Give me 1 good reason any1. Wat good hav they eva done for us and wat hav we got in common? Nothin absolutely nothing. U cant say Religion because religion doesnt depend on one's nationality or ethnicity! Its clear to see dat Somalia is in Africa i.e The Horn of Africa so why deny it? Probably coz many somalis view them as inferior and possibly coz de whiter de better if u kno wat I mean. But I'm very light and people often think I'm an Arab or half white but I'm African wateva they say! Even though I was born in Denmark! I'm a proud African sista :cool:

I always used to wonder bout dis too. When I was little my mum would take us to Kindergarten before she went to work in de mornings and my dad would pick us up in de afternoon when he came back from work. My mum used to take me to all my parents evenings and my dad used to take my lil sis. I think dis was because I was de tomboy (I had to be coz I had to protect my lil sis at all times- na'mean) & would always get in trouble, my dad wud always say if sum1 says sumthin racist to u, dont look left dont look right punch them right between the eye! (dats why I was always in trouble) But my mum on de other hand, boy o boy she'd go crazy if she heard I'd been fightin again, she used to say - naa ma wiil baad tahay! :rolleyes: and wats even worse she would give me de silent treatment-dats horrible I tell u! Wheneva we used to go out as a family my mums beeper would always go off so she had to leave regardless of where she was! Dad only had Sundays for us coz he used to sleep on Saturdays (after a long week at work) and mum well she only had de public holidays and even then she mite have to run away. The only time we were all together were when there was special family parties at our place for example sum1's walqal or afaartan-bax or if sum1 was havin a mehr. Ooh and sumtimes if mum came back early we'd all hav snacks together b4 bed.

I think its because the people of the west have always wanted a warmer 2nd home if u kno wat I mean. I mean obviously they wouldnt give all this money to sum1 without gettin anythin in return for it. The Western world only seem to deal wiv countries dat have loads of raw materials still untouched or in de early process of unleashin it. Dat way they can get better deals & discounts once its out of the ground and they will provide sum machinery and that way they'll be seen as heros 4eva and will be respected like no other! I agree its horrible to see Arabs treatin their fellow Arabs wivout the respect they need and then treat the white man like he's some kind of king or something but dats life and I dont think its something dats about to change just overnight. But since dis war on Iraq or the so-called Liberation of Iraqi ppl began the white mans status has dramatically slipped in de Islamic world and much of the rest too. & trust me Syria or Sudan or other Islamic countries like dat are definetely gona be next. Mark my word. Bush wont rest until he has control ova de 'Arab' world and not before he has his puppets as rulers of all de countries dat pose a 'RISK' (yeah rite!) to the rest of the world! I only wish our fellow African countries whom hav de means could spread their money around a little better not necessarily to other countries but at least among themselves coz its those 'rich' African and Arab countries whom also have de poorest people among them! Coz the rich are FILTHY RICH and the poor well u kno wat they are (livin dead).

Najmo dat was a brilliant posts I swear probably de very best! It was informative yet it had a sense of humour attached (so I surely didnt fall asleep while readin it,lol, more like I got stomach pains for over-usin my abdominal muscles) "Where else would you bump into a name like "Promise", "Immaculate" or "Patience" other than in Zimbabwe?" Damn dat is sooo right! I study and live wiv soo many Zimbabweans and their names are soo hilarious I mean they all have English christian names (first names) but they have African surnames which is funny. I mean how can u name ur child Patience, Blessing, Immaculate, Fortunate and so on? I mean I love the meanings and all but it just seems a lil odd to me-probably coz its in English. Somali people use Arab names (mostly) and then we say oh dis name means dis in Arabic. So possibly de Zimbabweans say ooh dis name means dis in English although most people speak English there already. Once again Najmo keep doin wat u do. :cool:

I agree wiv Shujui the Turks are way better than de English & any1 watchin de first half wud agree de Turks were better players(most of it anyway). Although I watched it wivout any volume! Okey I must admit de English were much better than usual in de 2nd half coz the Turks started their horrible attitude business as usual! I swear their attitudes is de only thing dats keepin dat team from winnin anythin worthy, they can be great team players but they often let each other down coz they're soo bad tempered! But very well play for de English I havent seem them play dat well for a VERY long time!

I love sports and wish I cud play more often but I dont have de time + the hours of which de local teams do trainin I'll either be workin or at uni. Instead I go to the gym 4 times a week and I'm lovin it. I used to play serious b-ball, handball and football when I was back home (i.e Denmark) but as soon as I came to England things changed evry1 was like its not good 4 girls to play sports especially as I used to play wiv de boys. I mean I found most girls in England were too girlie for my likin even at school durin Physical Education the girls only wanted to do trampolining or dancing neva footie or b-ball which used to annoy me to bits so I used to practice wiv de boys and became de captain coz I was always soo calm in bad situations & the other teams used to laugh at me coz I was de only girl on de team, but they kept quiet once they saw me play. Now I occationally play b-ball wiv my class-mates at weekends or days off and go to de gym most days to work out but its important to enjoy it dats de ONLY reason why I do it not to please any1 but myself but I must admit its well liked. Ooh Aaliyah#10 I wish u de best keep doin wat ur doin girl & dont let any1 get in ure way! Keep ur head up! I can tell u hav will-power and u kno u'll get whereva u want Insha Allah.

Lool Section6er yeah I guess u hav a point but wud we also win de Nobel 'war' prize for utter self-destruction?? Killin our own people or wud dat go 2 Saddam or Hitler?

Ooh and if u were soo silly dat u actually happened to make 2 mistake in 1minute you could at least go to ur local GUM clinic or Walk-in centre and get the Morning-after pill (within 72hrs, preferably 24hrs after the incident) & if u didnt have de guts to go there within the 72hrs in other words 3DAYS after it happened u cud get a coil fitted and get protected against gettin pregnant but if u choose to do nothing then ur pretty much askin for it urself aint ya?? U mite ask urself why I kno dis well I'm at uni studyin to become nurse!

Shujui-1 I agree wiv u but I dont think its all to do with parents. I mean u cant lock sum1 up b'coz ur afraid of wat they mite do. Even if a parent take the initiative of becomin more involved in their child's life and actually does sumthin about it, it wont eva stop a teenager doin what he/she gotta do! Its often the 'best' of us, u kno those little angle-like kids with the perfect religious parents whom does sumthin drastic or is it only them whom gets noticed?? A person can only become a real person when he/she learns to deal wiv his/her own problems and by learning from their mistakes! -- Howeva a famous sayin goes sumthin like; 'A clever person learns from the mistakes of others' and dis is soo true. Living alone has nothin or very little to do wiv STD's or infections. Another thing I've always found weird is all those young somali girls whom just happen to get pregnated by 'that boy' I mean how silly can u get?? If u wanna commit a crime u dont leave evidence lying behind now do u?? doooh Yeah I kno sum of u mite say mistakes happen but making a mistake (i.e havin sex) shouldnt be accompanied by yet another mistake (i.e not using a condom!)

I agree wiv Scorpion_Sista but I also think dat one of the reasons cud b dat women r seen as an object of lust and since acting out one's desires by takin it one step further is considered wrong (for all God-fearing people) I think they believe that women are the gateway between good and evil. Which is true to a certain extent coz it is said dat once ur married u have completed half of ur religion. My favorite is de one from Kenya; "The man may be the head of the home, the wife is the heart" I also like de humour of dis one; "A wife is like an old cooking pot: you don't let your friend keep it for you"-(Uganda) I cant help but think dis proverb is a reflection of their way of life, i.e lack of food possible starvation? Just a thought. The South Afican one is by far de funniest; "A women is like the merino sheep: her beauty is judged by the backside" It just proves dat The Western World is soo against our (Africans) curvaceous bodies dat they have created their own 'look' "Naago jilayc iyo naxariis midna wax kuma laha" How else r we supposed to cope?? especially as, "Naag kun baa koodisa ,kow baana guursada" I strongly believe the reality of this proverb has shifted; "Rag waa shaah dumarna waa sheeko" I think its completely the other way around today! So, rag waa sheeko, dumarna waa shaah! wat do u say?

Ameenah once again I agree with u sis! I swear I was readin all de replies thinkin howcome no1 has mentioned BUSH. I swear I cant stand him, I think dat if I saw him :mad: I'd jump him like a freaked-out cat and scratch his empty brain cells out!!! :mad: Ameenah I love wat u said, it reminds me of my mum she always says dat bout the American government- Originally posted by Ameenah: Allah dhulku idin la go'! [/QB]

SCORPION_SISTA ur wlc n thanx 4 raisin such a good topic! I'm sure ur both (Ameenah and SCORPION_SISTA) on de same level and neither of u guys r attackin each other. I'm happy 2 b able 2 discuss things wiv de both of u! Ur both very aware of wats happenin around u which is gr8 2 c. But it just shows dat we 'abled' ppl also experience hardship in communicatin similar points but we just hav different ways of sayin de same thing and if u read a phrase and I read de exact same thing u mite come up with a completely different understandin of the phrase compared to mine. But dats life and wats makes it soo gr8-its uniqueness. Just wish there were more peers like u 2 out there Keep it up girls Luv ExDane ur sis

Ameenah I agree with u to a certain extend when u say dat someone in a wheelchair doesnt need an 'able-bodied' person to speak on their behalf but if u think about it if Somali people already regard ppl in wheelchairs as 'less' of a person than anyone else what makes u think they'll even listen? I often work with people with learning disablities many of whom are in wheelchairs or hav other forms of equipment to aid them in moving around yet there are soo many things these people are capable of and I wish that their level of will power would be reflected to the somali ppl. When I was in college the cleverest person at my campus was a guy who was wheel chair bound and he didnt have any fingers, he would type using his tongue yet his IQ level was unreachable by any other person on campus including the lectures!! People who are disabled in one way or form often try their very best to prove everyone else wrong, this gives them great will power and they often reach their goals way above everyone else. A famous Chinese proverb goes like dis; "I hear & I forget I see & I remember I do & I understand" If u wana teach any1 especially Somalis they need hands-on experiences, so some1 whom they see as a person on their level could teach them about people with disabilities & possibly have a couple of people wiv disabilities present to give a more powerful demonstration. People wiv disabilities are often way above us we're just too ignorant to accept it!

Idi Amiin my name in Danish doesnt mean much but in English a 'Dane' is someone from Denmark (or a Danish national) and Ex, well u kno wat dat is Doctor! Ooh hav u 4got bout findin me dat cure?? Dont make me come all de way to Australia to kick ur behind Stay cool pal

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So dis is where all my decent *********** peepz hang out when they wana see trouble! Hope ya'll doin good! & sis LayZie dont u think one war is enuf?? (i.e Iraq) (but u gota fight 4 wat u believe in, with or wthout war!)-just dont make it too dirty.

I speak Danish too (hence my name) + German. So I'm quadro-lingual or sumthin like dat