What a barmy people? Since when do piece chunks constitute value?

I am not too sure about the knees touching the floor first. Unless you are completely fit, most would use their hands to lower themselves. Also what if you are blessed with a small nose and a large forehead?

Duke Any progress with the case? Does the family need financial support, if so how could we contribute?

Ramadan Karim to all. I can honestly say that Ramadan is the best time of the year. For some reason I'm more at ease with myself and people (Muslims that is) are more receptive than usual. I am planning to go to the prayers tonight and I'm so looking fw to it. May Allah accept all our duahs, Amin.

Val, I’m not sure about you but the following traits are definitely not agreeable in my book: ‘is seldom happy with its feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions’ . Point, the above trees predict your character by birthday date while your mentioned trees predict by the year one is born.

Najma Do not let some of these cruel futile comments get to you, most are probably said in jest. There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling low especially when your hubby, the one person who’s support and love you need, decides to abandon you with the children he fathered. There is nothing abnormal or desperate with wanting him back regardless of any mistreatments by him towards you. It’s easy for us to tell you what we would have done under similar circumstances but acting upon them takes great efforts and time. Only you can make the finally decision. My advice to you is that in order to achieve a positive outcome, look at your inner-self and see how you might have contributed for your relationship to arrive at such a stage. On a note, smoking weed is no more harmful or of risky reputation than smoking cigarettes.

I am the Ash Tree (Ambition)

Hey guys something a little bit more fun and somewhat accurate (so I'm told). Find your birthday and see what your tree is! Dec 23 to Jan 01 Apple Tree Jan 01 to Jan 11 Fir Tree Jan 12 to Jan 24 Elm Tree Jan 25 to Feb 03 Cypress Tree Feb 04 to Feb 08 Poplar Tree Feb 09 to Feb 18 Cedar Tree Feb 19 to Feb 28 Pine Tree Mar 01 to Mar 10 Weeping Willow Tree Mar 11 to Mar 20 Lime Tree Mar 21 Oak Tree Mar 22 to Mar 31 Hazelnut Tree Apr 01 to Apr 10 Rowan Tree Apr 11 to Apr 20 Maple Tree Apr 21 to Apr 30 Walnut Tree May 01 to May 14 Poplar Tree May 15 to May 24 Chestnut Tree May 25 to Jun 03 Ash Tree Jun 04 to Jun 13 Hornbeam Tree Jun 14 to Jun 23 Fig Tree Jun 24 Birch Tree Jun 25 to Jul 04 Apple Tree Jul 05 to Jul 14 Fir Tree Jul 15 to Jul 25 Elm Tree Jul 26 to Aug 04 Cypress Tree Aug 05 to Aug 13 Poplar Tree Aug 14 to Aug 23 Cedar Tree Aug 24 to Sep 02 Pine Tree Sep 03 to Sep 12 Weeping Willow Tree Sep 13 to Sep 22 Lime Tree Sep 23 Olive Tree Sep 24 to Oct 03 Hazelnut Tree Oct 04 to Oct 13 Rowan Tree Oct 14 to Oct 23 Maple Tree Oct 24 to Nov 11 Walnut Tree Nov 12 to Nov 21 Chestnut Tree Nov 22 to Dec 01 Ash Tree Dec 02 to Dec 11 Hornbeam Tree Dec 12 to Dec 21 Fig Tree Dec 22 Beech Tree YOUR TREE (in alphabetical order) Apple Tree (the Love) — quiet and shy at times, lots of charm, appeal, and attraction, pleasant attitude, flirtatious smile, adventurous, sensitive, loyal in love, wants to love and be loved, faithful and tender partner, very generous, many talents, loves children, needs affectionate partner. Ash Tree (the Ambition) — extremely attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism. Ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with fate, can be very egotistic, reliable, restless lover, sometimes money rules over the heart, demands attention, needs love and much emotional support. Beech Tree (the Creative) — has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialistic, good organization of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable, splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.). Birch Tree (the Inspiration) — vivacious, attractive, elegant, friendly, unpretentious, modest, does not like anything in excess, abhors the vulgar, loves life in nature and in calm, not very passionate, full of imagination, little ambition, creates a calm and content atmosphere. Cedar Tree (the Confidence) — of rare strength, knows how to adapt, likes unexpected presents, of good health, not in the least shy, tends to look down on others, self-confident, a great speaker, determined, often impatient, likes to impress others, has many talents, industrious, healthy optimism, waits for the one true love, able to make quick decisions. Chestnut Tree (the Honesty) — of unusual stature, impressive, well-developed sense of justice, fun to be around, a planner, born diplomat, can be irritated easily, sensitive of others feelings, hard worker, sometimes acts superior, feels not understood at times, fiercely family oriented, very loyal in love, physically fit. Cypress Tree (the Faithfulness) — strong, muscular, adaptable, takes what life has to give but doesn't necessarily like it, strives to be content, optimistic, wants to be financially independent, wants love and affection, hates loneliness, passionate lover which cannot be satisfied, faithful, quick-tempered at times, can be unruly and careless, loves to gain knowledge, needs to be needed. Elm Tree (the Noble-mindedness) — pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, modest demands, tends not to forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but not to obey, honest and faithful partner, likes making decisions for others, noble-minded, generous, good sense of humor, practical. Fig Tree (the Sensibility) — very strong minded, a bit self-willed, honest, loyal, independent, hates contradiction or arguments, loves life and friends, enjoys children and animals, a social butterfly, great sense of humor, likes idleness and laziness after long demanding hours at work, has artistic talent and great intelligence. Fir Tree (the Mysterious) — extraordinary taste, handles stress poorly, loves anything beautiful, can become depressed at times, stubborn, tends to care for those close to them as well as helping strangers, rather modest, hard worker, talented, unselfish, few sexual relationships, many friends, doesn't want foes, very reliable. Hazelnut Tree (the Extraordinary) — charming, sense of humor, very demanding but can also be very understanding, knows how to make a lasting impression, active fighter for social causes and politics, popular, quite moody, sexually oriented, honest, a perfectionist, has a precise sense of judgment and expects complete fairness. Hornbeam Tree (the Good Taste) — of cool beauty, cares for its looks and condition, good taste, is not egoistic, makes life as comfortable as possible, leads a reasonable and disciplined life, looks for kindness and acknowledgment in an emotional partner, dreams of unusual lovers, is seldom happy with its feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions, very conscientious. Lime Tree (the Doubt) — intelligent, hard working, accepts what life dishes out, but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones, hates fighting and stress, enjoys getaway vacations, may appear tough, but is actually soft and relenting, always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends, has many talents but not always enough time to use them, can become a complainer, great leadership qualities, is jealous at times but extremely loyal. Maple Tree (Independence of Mind) — no ordinary person, full of imagination and originality, shy and reserved, ambitious, proud, self-confident, hungers for new experiences, sometimes nervous, has many complexities, good memory, learns easily, complicated love life, wants to impress. Oak Tree (the Brave) — robust nature, courageous, strong, unrelenting, independent, sensible, does not like change, keeps its feet on the ground, person of action. Olive Tree (the Wisdom) — loves sun, warmth and kind feelings, reasonable, balanced, avoids aggression and violence, tolerant, cheerful, calm, well-developed sense of justice, sensitive, empathetic, free of jealousy, loves to read and the company of sophisticated people. Pine Tree (the Peacemaker) — loves agreeable company, craves peace and harmony, loves to help others, active imagination, likes to write poetry, not fashion conscious, great compassion, friendly to all, falls strongly in love but will leave if betrayed or lied to, emotionally soft, low self esteem, needs affection and reassurance. Poplar Tree (the Uncertainty) — looks very decorative, talented, not very self-confident, extremely courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, great artistic nature, good organizer, tends to lean toward philosophy, reliable in any situation, takes partnership seriously. Rowan Tree (the Sensitivity) — full of charm, cheerful, gifted without egoism, likes to draw attention, loves life, motion, unrest, and even complications, is both dependent and independent, good taste, artistic, passionate, emotional, good company, does not forgive. Walnut Tree (the Passion)) — unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egotistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromise. Weeping Willow (the Melancholy) — likes to be stress free, loves family life, full of hopes and dreams, attractive, very empathetic, loves anything beautiful, musically inclined, loves to travel to exotic places, restless, capricious, honest, can be influenced but is not easy to live with when pressured, sometimes demanding, good intuition, suffers in love until they find that one loyal, steadfast partner; loves to make others laugh.

I don’t get what all the fuss is about. A girl likes a boy and vs, she decides to take the matter into her own capable hands and pops the question period! What’s so difficult and unislamic about that? Why waste your time in dallying. Just as long as you read the signs correctly and that you feel that your feelings are reciprocated then ask away. Life is just too short for waiting for the unknown.

For the ladies: If romance is ebbing from your relationship then train yourself to be a sensuous woman. Arm yourself with the right tools and master the arts of been sensuous. Lo siento can not be more descriptive without been labelled immoral by pugnacious upstarts.

My Earth dream home A buul in Somalia with my own adhi iyo geel. It would have to be away from the city, total tranquility and such beautiful views of xiddigo. My Aakiro home A house with my family in Jana Fardosa.

Faraax 2 sounds much more appealing. Life is all about taking chances and there are no guarantees that relationship with borrowing No1 would be a success. On a note commencing a concrete relationship with a doubtful mind is a bad omen. All the ‘what ifs’ would definitely drive me up the wall!

Yes.

As mentioned previously, with age we tend to outgrow certain things. What seemed to be fun once upon a time might not sway the same interest, thus what’s so peculiar about Somali girls of certain age not attending certain functions or places? Been over 27 years of age does not make one ‘obsolete’. I daresay that most of Somali girls in particular those with professional jobs who I’ve come across much prefer spinsterhood to matrimony to a bas***d faraax!

Walaal first change your name from Uglygeek for none of Allah’s creation should be deemed Ugly unless they are of evil character! Albeit, have you considered counselling, meeting people with acute problems such as yours? You need to believe in yourself and view yourself in a more positive light. Do not fret since the majority of people do not form decisions on one’s outer image and those few who do are shallow and unworthy of your attention. I am not too certain but perhaps you should look into lazer treatments too, if you are as uncomfortable with your image. Remember walaal there is a beauty in all of us, hence do not despair if yours is not your face.

Dares, how I love them. Do tell Mr Pfaarax exactly what you’ve find wanting in my thread.

Shukran walaal and Ramadan Karim.

The poor guy had hell of a nasty experience with one wicked sister.

I also intend to travel to Dubai during Ramadan/Eid. I think if you want to get a feel of the old Dubai it's best that stay in Suuk Dahab even if you are not a fan of dahab. I enjoy the buzz of the area!

ME answers to your questions - After you get married will you stop working? Nope - If you have kids will you stop working? Nope - If your partner can provide for your family would you rather stay at home or working? Work Remember, I am still who I was before marriage and my career goals are not limited to my marriage status.

I am aghast about the gibberish sprouted about career women by SOL male members who envisage themselves as educated individuals. Where do you deduce that career women are less worthy partners than stay home, cook and clean all day wives! Surely, spouses should be compatible thus one should seek a mate with similar goals and ambitions, a woman who is not afraid to voice her opinions, who can hold an intelligent conversation. Otherwise what a bore the relationship would be! A piece of advice lads, juggling a happy household and a successful career is not mutually exclusive as long as there is equal sharing between the spouses. Somali men should be proud to see their women striving for the best in life; you should support us just like we have been doing for centuries rather than debasing us at every opportunity. Khalaf, be afraid brother for it’s no longer unheard of a woman in her sixty to date or marry one half her age. I suggest that you familiarise yourself with the term toyboy, for you could become one!

Hey Preedy Welcome to SOL. What a dilemma! I suggest that you confront him in a mannerly fashion. Suggest meeting up with him and communicating your concerns. Do not corner him nor come across childish for instance, avoid nagging and begging. Give him the benefit of the doubt perhaps there is a logical explanation for his silence. If you are not satisfied with his explanation or he refuses to meet with you, then I suggest you try your outmost to erase him from your life and mind. In order words do not call him nor chase him. Remember you are lady and have a dignity to maintain. Been rejected by one you like very much and known for so long is heart wrenching. However you are a worthy person and with Allah on your side surely a more deserving one will stroll along.

What a load of bull. If there is any correlation it’s minimal magnified by insecure men. There is more to a successful relationship then earning more than the spouse! There is absolutely nothing amiss for challenging oneself and aiming for a high paid career. I can’t understand how a blue collar is less likely to cheat?!

The advice depends on why the question. For instance do you intend to travel there or completing a dissertation on Afg, only then can I assist if plausible.

The only solution since outright blind date is a taboo in our culture is to pray to Allah to bless me with a devout Somali brother whose character compliments mine.