Hi Aisha, a late welcome to you. It is good to know that SOL is a diverse community.

Centurion Walaal your idea of helping our people back in Somali is very noble. However while your vision materialises it would be of equal importance to help those living in the West and who are in dire need of your assistance. In particular, our young teenagers who are constantly truanting, under-achieving at schools and are preys to the drug lords. You can truly dedicate yourself in alleviating those symptoms through voluntary work such been an after school tutor, football coach, counsellors and mentors, the list is not exhaustive. Your skills are all which you require, the premises and resources can be obtained from your local community charities, schools or LEAs (for UK). It is honestly worth every effort to see one of your protégées improving from an under-achiever to an outstanding student both academically and behaviour. The knowledge that you helped shaped that one person life in a positive way is beautiful.

In the world that we live in today, I think celibacy is the best option. Do not waste time dream of things they may never materialise. Invest your precious time befriending good people that are likely to be by your side when you need them. A very crude remark but time is too short to fantasise of a farax that would sweep you and do wonderful things to and for you. I am afraid reality is a different matter, statistics indicate that 2/3 marriage end in divorce. Your husband is more likely to be a rogue than a knight. I kid you not ladies, do not limit yourself to one group and never give yourself fully to any men. Instead concentrate on bettering yourself and if you do meet someone guard yourself.

At least she is honest about her feelings and she did marry the boy. I wonder how many of the married couples could honestly say that they never fondled or kissed for that matter they current partner before getting hitched to them. Albeit, I agree that one should respect others but mostly our actions should be governed by our love for Allah.

Point taken Castro. Just read the topic which itself does not do justice to the message of your thread. Nonetheless, had I known this was politic where people never agree to disagree and where one's comment is savegely dismantled I would thought twice then to add my two cents. PS Northerners are not all racist old man!

What is the benefit of teaching Amharic in Hargeisa. The language is spoken by a minority, not the mother of tongue of people residing in Somaliland nor universally recognised. To be frank providing such classes would be a waste of the limited resources available in that city.

I don't see the difference between marrying two women at the same and having more than one wife. It just makes the process much simpler you know killing two birds with the same stone. I don't understand what the fuss is about who gets bedded first why not at the same time. I mean isn't that what excite and entice certain men to marry more than one woman and abuse the the basic law and principle for marrying 4 women.

I hope the turn up is high for the demonstration. I am stuck at the office so would not be able to attend but support the cause 100%. If the event continues after 5pm will try and add my voice!

Gosh, I had no ideas that Somali had lower or upper casts. Honestly, I can not understand why one should be discriminated on something of which they have no control of. Ignorance has no boundary. Parents should advice not dictate. Another good thing from the Islamic courts. Well done!

I wonder what the exiled Somali government expect to achieve from this illegal attack led by Ethiopia. Public support, I think not! Ethiopian government should stop interfering with Somali affairs and accept for once and all that we would not take to bullies easily. Somali people should forgo their tribal differences or past deeds and unite against this ennemy. If Ethopia wins this war there is no reason why they wouldn´t attack Somaliland next.

Eid Mubarak all!

Rendez-Vs Have you disclosed the details of the actual couple. It would be nice to know who we are congratulating. Unless of course your thread is false or perhaps there is more to the story then you have implied.

Shouldn't this be in the Joke section? Although the points all lack humour.

Solution to the above dilemma: Somali men are skinny simply due Khat.

Gosh, this is when I miss beloved Somalia. Honestly it was so wet and windy that I was nearly blowned into the road today.

I too would like to know everything about my partner however like Val said it has to be disclosed voluntarily. I think that although you cannot eliminate the risks of contracting a sexual disease you can take necessary steps to mitigate it. Hence follow the teachings of the Qu’ran to the latter and pray that your partner also adheres to it.

I disagree that prejudiced parents rear prejudiced children. A person’s character is not solely shaped by that of the parents but also by the environment within which s/he finds themselves. When choosing a potential partner one should heed the advice of the parent since most would have the best interest of their child at heart.

You should not contemplate having a child until you complete your education and are financially independent. There is no guarantee that everything would remain eternally blissful between yourself and your current hubby. Remember walaal everyone women can commence a family when she reaches the child bearing age unless there is certain complication with her system. Hence the issue of when to have a child should is insignificant instead focus in bettering yourself rather than relying on someone else.

I am abashed to say that I used to wear the hijab (Somali way) + the tight jeans. I wore the Hijab after been pressured by my childhood Qu’ran tutor while the jeans simply because I wanted to show off my curves. Fortunately, help came in the disguise of my current Qu’ran tutor whom (may Allah bless him) through sound advice and guidance elucidated the hypocrisy of my actions and the vast rewards to be gained from dressing modestly. For those who are fashion conscious you can actually wear jeans with modest tops or cabayad. In addition the job market is much more flexible towards employing women who wish to adhere to the teachings of the Qu’ran.

Congrats walaal and may your marriage be full of wonders.

JB Jin are people just like you and me with extraordinary powers. For instance they can make themselves invisible and make their presence felt when wished to do so. They are diverse too.

Good advice Che Although it is not always wise to interrupt the interviewers. An Interview is an opportunity to sell yourself to your prospective employer. If unsure of a question ask them to repeat and where unsure try and give a positive answer but never waffle. Be precise on your answers and speak clearly. Best of luck Stoic!

I wouldn’t necessarily associate financial security with nursing; even in developed countries nurses are poorly paid and overworked. Albeit, nursing is no less taxing to the brain than other professions just depends on the individual capabilities in absorbing and deciphering information given.

Any crime against humanity whether committed by SNM, which itself is a great dishonour to the actual SNM, or any other group for that matter is plain wrong. The government has a duty to the people to investigate the allegations and if crime was committed than justice should be done.

In the case of the Somali community the blame for the level of family break down and high rate of divorces lay with the number of dysfunctional and lazy fathers! I applaud the strength of black women for standing for their moral principles and voicing their objections to their spouses. However, it would be bias and ridiculous to presume that a gender is directly responsible for all problems within the family. The results of the above reasearch are highly nonsensical.