Simply don’t ever ask a guy out or say I have crash on you. As far as our culture concern that is just disrespecting yourself & ur family. Simple fact is he will disrespect you later on. Like our ppl say “laxba meesha ey is dhigto ayaa lagu goracaa”. So my sweetie naf isgili ee hanoqon laata bacleesh oo ma iska adkaato ah. No offence of course. ------------------ "Our Lord! forgive us our sins and anything we may have done that transgressed our duty: establish our feet firmly, and help us against those that resist Faith." (3:147)

Is really sad & heart breaking to see our Muslim sisters & brothers dying continuously, basically have no life whatsoever. We in the other hand live exceptionally well & enjoying our life. Subxaana laah walaahi I feel guilty & selfish for not doing anything. Sometimes I think why am I here getting educated, why can I just join them & die in jihad. I reckon Muslim leaders lives in denial world. They are the most selfish, ignorant & heartless ppl I ever seen, subxaana laah how can they not have any sympathy 4 these ppl, I don’t mean by mouth only I mean expressing it by actions. They own so many military equipment yet action less. In the other hand all the “gaalo” are helping one another, on the news they only talking about Israel & how many of them being killed. 4 god sake isn’t Palestinians human beings. It’s crystal clear that this is war against Islam, we heard it & seen it. What could we possibly wait. The US & it’s allays & the Israel’s all planed this just cuz they were too upset to learn Arabs were finally united & rejected US proposal of bombing Iraq. & The fact that all Muslims rejected Israel to make their capital city in Jerusalem. They think they could rule muslim by their power little do they know Allah is powerful & the ultimate victory will be with Islam.

Ar wuuuuuuuuuw where is the gargaarkii gadashee bud ayaa la isla dhacay ar aaway qowdhan hala dhacee umadaan budkiisa lol Mrjibriil bro it seems to me when u wrote ur input u were off ur head, maybe u had terrible date so u took ur anger on Hibo, iyada ayaa ku bulaacday. But sadly u miss target ur position. Put ur glasses nice & neat, & carefully read wat she wrote. No 1 criticized any particular gander so hold ur horses, or would I say learn how to hold ur horses. No offence. Hibo sis yeah u wlc to be my friend as long as u don’t hold any gas, oil or petrol lol. is funny when u touch the truth ppl get offended so easily truth hurts but it is the only medicine my dears. Stop the covering up wax la qarqariyo qurun ayaa ku jiro. ------------------ "Our Lord! forgive us our sins and anything we may have done that transgressed our duty: establish our feet firmly, and help us against those that resist Faith." (3:147)

Fatma Hold on ppl u misunderstood me completely. Horay ayaa waxaa loo yiri “truth hurts”. So ppl stop denying the facts, try to learn how to digest it & face the consequences in order to improve our negativities. I love my ppl & country dearly walaahi bilaahi talaahi & I don’t need to prove to youse. But wat piss’s me off is covering up the reality when we need to work it on so we can improve it. If we keep on covering it up, this problem won’t end it will keep on harming us, moreover we r the future of our ppl let us introduce new changes for future kids & ourselves. Come on ppl this problem we all agreed is there & getting worse that is the first step, the second step is to mention the major problems. If we say ok hana faag faagina well my dears u living in another world. The only way we could come over this problem is pointing out the negativities. So we know that is what we need to work on & solve. Just like math when u doing aljabra u first find what u need to solve so u can fix the problem. Sure we can not change the whole society but starting from urselfe is big step & educating ur kids & loved one’s the right way. As years go by this will hopefully change slowly. By the way sis fatma no hard feelings ur advise well taken, we humans need to be corrected so no harm done. Hibo & lady fatima Sister’s well u surly found the good friends. I didn’t not completely under-stimulate my sisters but just pointed out there r bad one’s out there then good one’s. I have seen it & developed phobia to it. I don’t trust “gaalo friends” infact all my friends is Somali but very close relatives. Cuz simply I was burned one’s can’t afford to be burned again. Stop being dictators Somalis. So wake up somali youth don't keep on fellowing ur elders footsteps, start making some changes. ------------------ "Our Lord! forgive us our sins and anything we may have done that transgressed our duty: establish our feet firmly, and help us against those that resist Faith." (3:147) [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 04-03-2002).]

Hibo Alxamdulilaah finally people have same problem as me. is shocking they say we muslim & they do everything that Allah banned from them. dabci xun oo dhan Somali ayaa qabto, qeelo, islaweeni, faan, dirdiraale, staring, being late, racisam, discrimination & etc. sis these ppl r unbelievable seriously they make me sick I sometimes say that is it I won’t get married to a Somali men just cuz how much I hate them judging ppl & talking behind them. “Somali u dhaw naar la diris” that is what I call them. u say one thing they change it to the opposite (subxaana laah). I used to love them so much just like u, when I saw starting fire I run away still am. These ppl r ignorant & ahbaliin walaahi. The only place I communicate Somalis other than my relatives is over the net, cuz I feel saver lol. That is how fed up I am. Just one advise never ever be best friend with Somali girl, even normal friend just do that lol "ilko cadees", don’t ever trust them, don’t ever believe them, ignore them & do what u think is the best for u as long as u pleasing Allah. I know it sounds cruel & over exaggerating but that is the reality girl. I did that alxamdulilaah is working 4 me so far. ------------------ "Our Lord! forgive us our sins and anything we may have done that transgressed our duty: establish our feet firmly, and help us against those that resist Faith." (3:147) [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 04-03-2002).]

wee awaay sheekada? ------------------ "Our Lord! forgive us our sins and anything we may have done that transgressed our duty: establish our feet firmly, and help us against those that resist Faith." (3:147)

ninba aqligiisa inta uu yahay ayuu ka hadlaa. loooooool i can't stop laughing looooooool go & buy big toys that will suit u. Moto well said ------------------ "Our Lord! forgive us our sins and anything we may have done that transgressed our duty: establish our feet firmly, and help us against those that resist Faith." (3:147)

And who could forget this beautiful expert buraanbur player ------------------ "Our Lord! forgive us our sins and anything we may have done that transgressed our duty: establish our feet firmly, and help us against those that resist Faith." (3:147)

How about this one jamaal [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 03-31-2002).]

I always wondered why do they stare so hard, can't even say "iska waran". I still can get the answer maybe they too excited perhaps seeing a Somali on the street loooooooool, but don't have the guts to say "iska waran". They could stare & take their time as long as they want but when they get into car accident while they driving a taxi I will be laughing in the other corner. Loooooooool. A while ago I was down town with a non Somali friend, a Somali men so me he couldn’t stop staring at me, until a tram nearly hit him. Oh god wat a strange ppl. ------------------ "Our Lord! forgive us our sins and anything we may have done that transgressed our duty: establish our feet firmly, and help us against those that resist Faith." (3:147)

Cartan waa ku mahadsantahay waanada aad noo soo jeedisay walaal jira ayaan ku leenahay. Gabayga mid aad u wanaagsan weeye. ) Lakinse mid ayaa ku qaldantahay, ma aheen in aad na hujuunto oo aad naga dhigto dad ka faantamaya afkooda oo il bax modaya af shisheeye. Like they say every story has to side to it. Horta wax ka faanid la yiraahdo haba yaratee ma jirto just, waxaa inoo fududaaday afkan qalaad oo aan isticmaalno daqiiqad waliba. Iyo walaalaheen oo aan netka wax ku kala weydaarsano adeegsada afka english-ka. Cartan waa adiga dhalinta weereeraye miyaadan u jeedin inta Somali website ey leedahay oo ku qoran af qalaad, xitaa hal website oo afkeena hooyo ku qoran ma ey jirto so what sort of example r they sending to our youth? Xitaa wey kari karaan in ey dhalinta example u noqdaan ey Somali language course online run gareyaan balse no they don’t. marka cartaanow waxba hana hujuumin. Qaladkan waa mid dhacay, dhalintana gafka malaha. Teeda kale reer guraa hadii aan nahay tani in ey dhici doonto wax garadka somaliyeed wey ogayeene maxaa la isku indho tiri, Somali Swedish, Somali Arabian, Somali American, Somali Nederland’s, Somali Denmark’s, Somali French, Somali uk & etc. intaba in ey soo baxayaan meyaan la ogeen.) Gacmo wadajir ayee wax ku qabtaan baa horay loo yiri aan is gacan qabano oo aan taa geerno afkeena waxna aan isku weydaarsano P.s Ameenah is right when i say i will write something in somali it takes me ages just worrying if the garama is right lol ------------------ "Our Lord! forgive us our sins and anything we may have done that transgressed our duty: establish our feet firmly, and help us against those that resist Faith." (3:147) [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 03-31-2002).]

Asalaamu Caleykum Wr Wb Sis I found a Islamic article for u regarding ur question here it is:- Listening to music and singing is a sin and cause for the sickening and weakening of the heart. The majority of the scholars of the Salaf are unanimous that listening to music and singing and using musical instruments is Haram (prohibited). Evidence that Music and Singing are Haram 1. Allaah said, what translated means, "And of mankind he who purchases idle talks to mislead (people) from the Path of Allaah without knowledge, and takes it (the Path of Allaah) by way of mockery, For such there will be a humiliating torment." [31:6]. Al-Wahidi , along with other scholars of Tafsir (explaining the Qur'aan), said that "Idle Talk" in this Ayah is singing. The following companions gave this Tafsir: Ibn Abbas, Ibn Masud, Mujahid and Ikrimah . Ibn Masud said, "By Allaah, whom there is no God except Him, idle talk is singing." 2. The Prophet said (which means), "From among my followers there will be some people who will consider illegal sexual intercourse, the wearing of silk, the drinking of alcoholic drinks and the use of musical instruments, as lawful. And there will be some people who will stay near the side of a mountain and in the evening their shepherd will come to them with their sheep and ask them for something, but they will say to him, 'Return to us tomorrow.' Allaah will destroy them during the night and will let the mountain fall on them, and He will transform the rest of them into monkeys and pigs and they will remain so till the Day of Resurrection." [Al-Bukhari Volume 7, Book 69, Number 494v]. This Hadeeth states that musical instruments are Haram, and there is no disagreement among the scholars on this. In his book, Ighathat Al-Lahfan, Ibn Al-Qayyim said, "When the Prophet said, 'render as lawful,' he meant that it was unlawful, then the people made it lawful." 3. Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet said, what translated means, group of this nation will be transformed into monkeys and swine." They said, "Do not they testify that there is no god except Allaah and that Muhammed is His Messenger?" He said, "Yes. And also they fast pray and perform Hajj." They said, "Then, what is their problem?" He said, "They use musical instruments, drums and female singers. (One day) they will go to sleep after a night of drinking and having fun, In the morning, they will be transformed (by Allaah) into monkeys and swine." [iughathat Al-Lahfan]. 4. Allaah said, criticizing the Kuffar's worship around the Kaa'bah, what translated means, "Their prayer at the House (Kaa'bah) was nothing but Muka'an and Tasdiyah." [8:35]. Ibn Abbas, Ibn Umar, Atiyyah, Muj ahid, Ad-Dhahh'ak, AlHasan and Qatadah said that Muka'an means whistling, and that Tasdiyah means clapping of hands. Sayings of the Scholars Regarding Music and Singing Imam IbnTaymiyyah said, "Listening to music and sinful fun are among what strengthens the satanic ways the most. This is exactly what the disbeliever's used to do. Allaah said, And their prayer at the House (of Allaah) was nothing but Muka 'an and Tasdiyah. [8:35]. Ibn Abbas, ibn Umar and others said that Tasdiyah is clapping of hands, and that Muka'an is whistling. This was the Mushrikeen's way of worship. The Prophet and his companions worshipped Allaah , according to His order, in their prayer, reading the Qur'aan and Dhikr (supplication). It never occurred that the Prophet and his companions gathered to listen to singing that is accompanied by clapping or using drums." Imam Ibn Taymiyyah also said regarding the person, whose habit is to listen to music, "His state of emotions becomes less passionate when he hears the Qur'aan. On the contrary, when he listens to instruments of the devil (music), he dances a lot. If the prayer is established, he either prays while sitting down or performs it as fast as when the roaster picks seeds. He dislikes listening to the Qur'aan and does not find beauty in it while reciting it. He has no taste for the Qur'aan and feels no love for it or pleasure when it is read. Rather, he finds pleasure if he listens to Mukaa' or Tasdiyah. These are satanic pleasures and he is among those whom Allaah mentioned in the Ayah, And whosoever turns away from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent (Allaah), We appoint for him Satan to be a companion for him. [43:36]." [Awliyaa' Ar-Rahman]. Imam Ibn Al-Qayyim said, "Of the tricks of the enemy of Allaah, Satan, that he uses to trap those who do not enjoy much intelligence, knowledge or sincerity in religion, are M ukaa' and Tasdiyah. These people of ignorance listen to and use musical instruments that are prohibited and which lead the hearts to abandoning the Qur'aan. These hearts are indulging in sin and disobedience of Allaah. Music, then, is Satan's Qur'aan and the barrier between one and Allaah. It is the way to sodomy and adultery. With it, the lover finds what he seeks and dreams of sinful love. Satan has trapped the weak hearts in the love of singing and made it beautiful to them. Satan reveals to his agents' fake proofs that they use as evidence to the beauty of singing. These people accept Satan's revelation and, as a consequence, abandon the Qur'aan. When you witness them while listening, you will find them silent in humbleness, sitting idle and their hearts are concentrating and totally enjoying music and singing. Their hearts will feel closer to music, as if they were drunk. They dance and move in a suggestive manner, like faggots and whores. And why not? They are drunk with the pleasure of listening to music and singing and act accordingly. For other than Allaah, and for Satan, there are hearts that are being broken by sin, and fortunes that are being spent for other than Allaah's Pleasure. They spend their lives in joyful fun and make a mockery of their religion. Instruments of the devil are sweeter to their ears than the Qur'aan. If one of them listens to the Qur'aan from beginning to end, it will have little effect or excitement on him. If Satan's Qur'aan is being performed and heard, they feel joy in their hearts and one can see it in their eyes. Their feet dance, their hands clap, their breathing intensifies and the rest of their bodies feel joy. O you who are trapped in this sin, you who have sold your share of Allaah to Satan, what a losing deal! Why not feels this joy when you listen to the Qur'aan? Why not feel pleasure and comfort when the Glorious Qur'aan is recited? But, everyone seeks what he feels is suitable for him, and ends up with what is really suitable for him." [ighathat Al-Lahfan]. Sheikh Abdulaziz bin Baz was asked about listening to music and songs, "Is it Haram? I only listen to it for pleasure. What about playing the Rababah (a kind of guitar) and old songs? What about using drums in weddings?" Sheikh Ibn Baz said, "Listening to music is Haram and a sin. It is a matter that leads to weakening the hearts and abandoning the Dhikr of Allaah and the prayer. The scholars said about the Ayah, And of' mankind he who purchases idle talks [31:6], that idle talks means singing. Abdullaah ibn Masud , the Prophet's companion, used to swear by Allaah that it is singing. If singing is accompanied by the Rababah, 'Ud (Arabic guitar), fiddles or drums, it is even more Haram. Any singing with any instrument is Haram and the scholars are unanimous on this. Therefore, Muslims must be aware of it. The Prophet said, "From among my nation there will be those who render as lawful adultery, silk (for men), AI-Khamr (alcohol) and musical instruments." [Al-Bukhari]. I advise you and others to read the Qur'aan and keep remembering Allaah. I advise you to listen to Qur'aanic programs on the radio. This way, one will find pleasure and will keep busy so he can stay away from music and songs. As for weddings, the Daff (tambourine) can be used along with innocent singing that does not call to sin. This can be done at night, only in weddings and only by and for women. These songs are a way of announcing an Islaamic marriage. The Sunnah of the Prophet supports the above. As for the drums, they are Haram all the time. The Daffis permitted in weddings and only for and by women." Many Muslims today render music as permissible. This is due to their ignorance or outright defiance of the religion. We ask Allaah that we are among those who listen to the speech and follow the best of what it contains. These are the ones whom Allaah has guided and granted them the bounty of sanity and comprehending minds. I hope that answered ur q. [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 03-30-2002).]

This is a very sensitive issue. Allah said in the qur’aan, “some ppl we give them all boys, some ppl all girls, some ppl mix & some ppl non”. That is qadar Alle that we need to know. If Allah meant 2 couples to remain together forever with kids or without kids they will do so. If they not meant together then, they don’t. that is simple fact of life, we here to be examined & that is a part of our exam. I know how this feels my anti is kid less, faced so many unbearable satiations Alhamdulilah she is strong & faithful. I know a very close relative of mine who is married for 20 something years with no kids, Alxamdulilah her husband is happy about it & faithful. So in my opinion no one can choose what he or she really want cuz whatever Allah is written for him or her to go through they will go through no matter how strong their love is. one thing i want to change our society being harsh & enemy to 2 lovers with no kids. kuli fidnah iyaga ayee ka bilabataa if i face that kind satiation as much as i hate & confence i would suggest to him to get wife #2 or divorce me. Is not worth hanging on to him, cuz sooner or later one of us will die. so why hang on to it when it is not forever? To Nomads Ilahay ha idinka yeelo kuwii ilmo & maal Ilahay ku maneesto oo ka yeela mu miniin saalix ah (Amin) [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 03-28-2002).]

may Allah relief it from u. like other sisters said consult it with ur doctor but don’t rush to pills that might effect ur future. My mum always tells me to drink xabadisooda with milk or xabadi soda with malab like sis kool_kat said. Xabadi soda is really good medicine is the best one infact. Take it 3 time a day.. Once u start it don’t cut it down continue it as a habbit, is not only good for period pain it also good for other pains. On top of that take filfil with a milk 2-3 times a day if u can. That should help insha Allah. P.s xabadi soda is one of the herbs that our prophet Mohamed recommended to us, “is a shifah” he said. There is many ppl who gave up on doctors, found their medicine in xabadi soda. So niyeeso then take it. best of luck [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 03-28-2002).]

Libaax Hanagu ciyin oradoo soo ugaaro geela. I honestly thought libaax san kataabte was a weird name. Now u telling me “Buubto” is a weird name aqli ayaa ku gaartay. Lool MMA I knew u weren’t what u nick says. Ur nick should be “aw shaciroole”

AShkira First of all sis u mistaken me to bulo, I guess the “b” confused u lol As for the topic. I don’t think our society really understands what Allah orders us to do. We tend to get confused by the culture & the religion, so ppl think this hazels r all from our beautiful religion. No no that is not, infact if we would have lived Islam to the fullest we wouldn’t be in mess right now. Look the divorce rate is high all this problems is due to lack of knowledge. I would not blame to any particular gender, they both contribute major problems in our society. Men don’t take care their wives, daughters & sisters. Once they get married that is it, they think the girl is their slave they could do whatever their mind cherishes which is wrong. If they would have known how much responsibility they caring in their shoulders they wouldn’t be acting like this. If the husbands would treat their wives exactly as Allah orders them to do so, women wouldn’t use 911 to have freedom. Like our ppl say “dharika maxaa kuleelka ka keenay”. Ppl say nagihii wey kibreen hell with their filthy mouth, they r ignorant can’t they see what she is in? how many women we see raising 4 & ove kids with out a father. Still our culture gives right to the men. Hell with this culture. Is absolutely unfair. I would not say women r innocent & right always no, they do have their negativity side as well, but hey women have soft heart they go to wherever u torn to. So unfortunately our men is being too dump to relies how lucky they r. This entire problem is due to our culture; our culture is designed to a way that convenient to men. How many things we hear “girl can’t do that is not permissible” for example a girl can’t drink shaah, if a girl can’t cook she is ………., a girl must be perfect, girls can’t play sports, girls can’t have too much freedom, girls can’t be educated, women have to obey their husbands even if he mistreating her (subxana laah), widow women with 4 kids can’t get married to another guy, above 35 women can’t get married they expired & etc. for god sake show me the ayah that says a girl can’t do the above things. Subxaana laah. Wallah is crystal clear that our ppl r knowledge less & that is what most effect us if we are women. Alxamdulilah nowadays those problems tend to be fading away us our women becoming educated. But still some of the problems r there. The only thing we could come over it is, if we fight for our rights meaning as long as we fellow what allah asks us & fighting for our rights that Allah gave us. So my sweet sisters don’t put up those crap things, believe in ur self fight for muslim women rights so we can’t make our lifes more appealing & enjoyable. Always know there r nice decent guys up there, so don’t let them discourage u. Girls the only way u could win this fight is to learn ur religion from A to Z so they don't fool u, like they fooled our grandmothers. [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 03-24-2002).]

How about Buubtoas far as i am concern this name got it all lool well my vote goes to 1. Qaxooti kambuter heshay (girl u told the truth waa la heshay) 2. MMA i don't know about him being maskiin but he is aqyaar 3. Caano geel (true nomads name)

Good point. I might self want something to be done about this but let’s be realistic here, whoever was written to die in such a way will die no matter how effort we put in to stop it, that is qadar Alle. The second reason:- Like our ppl said “ biyo ka badan & dad ka badan wey ku hirqiyaan” & “hooy aadan laheen ku hoogtay” & “shisheeye naf ka doonte ha ku shiilato” & “soo joog lagawaaye soo jiifso ayaa laga helaa”. We refused to negotiate and establish peace b/w our ppl’s heart let’s deal the consequences. Want to do something about this, why don’t u start from ur own heart stop obeying tribalism. Kuli fitnah cinda geel is us, we da one who came into their land & thought we all that. Unfortunately we have to face the circumstances, one way or the other we will loose unless we take our ass’s back to Somalia. remember HEEBAD WAXAAD KU LEEDAHAY DHULKAADA HOOYO

i agree with sis luul well said Fartuun sis u r heading to "qeyrkiisa loo xiiray adna soo qoyso" have u reread ur input? well it shows that u not even sure wat u truly want. is carystal clear that u r imature to get married right now. is just not right. u see getting married isn't fantacy as they make it seem, is big challange my dear even adults who are fully prapered can't handle it. I will say to ya stop dating and start dating books. to me he is buying u by his wealth that isn't a true love. true love isn't expressing it by money. so quit the whole thing. about ur prance i just got to say one thing about it "lax meesha ey is dhigto ayaa lagu goracaa" & "soo joog lagawaaye soo jiifso ayaa laga helaa" & "waalid waana diisa diiday ma liibaane" & "qooq qaade qurun la kulme". No offence just advising u like my own sis. good luck anyway P.s a Labanies girl i once met who was married to non labanies man, advised me never ever marry non somali man cuz simply u will pay the price. She said "is absolutly full of endless problems if u don't argue today u will argue tommorrow". i know u saying no it won't happen to me but hey Never under stumulate anything like sis LF said turn ur attention to ur faarax's 4 change [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 03-14-2002).]

That is funny good one [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 03-06-2002).]

Ismahaniina girl u r putting us into the test haaaaaa huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuhuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu I found 10 of them. Honestly i am not good observer but when i put my mind into it i do pretty job of it & here is the prove. Second picture i can only see 2 faces [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 03-05-2002).]

Ismahaniina girl u r putting us into the test haaaaaa huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuhuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu I found 10 of them. Honestly i am not good observer but when i put my mind into it i do pretty job of it & here is the prove. Second picture i can only see 2 faces [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 03-05-2002).]

I don’t really know wat to describe myself but most ppl say I am, quite, shy, isolated, straight forward, lovable, religious (though I don’t think I am that religious, hope to be though ) & I have bit sharaarad lol sometimes.

Oblivion, Samira, Abdinuur & Jalaato thanx 4 reading my peom. I hope we as somalis could finally close this chapter & re start freshly (Amin). [This message has been edited by Buubto (edited 02-28-2002).]

Asalaamu caleykum Wr Wb VAGirl “laxba meesha ey is dhigto ayaa lagu gooracaa” if u leave ur prance 4 a man, no matter whether they r unreasonable or reasonable either way is wrong. Remember one day he will leave u on the streets with no respect, cuz in the first place he got u cheap, meaning u disobeyed ur prance over him. Nabsi waalid is really bad. Note one thing “waano waalid waa malab” u might thing is unfair wat they doing, but is the right decision. Ur prance always wants ur best interest, cuz they r ur blood but this guy can not match or even come close to ur prance. So don’t be stupid & fool, stick with ur prance let the blood rule. Besides if u run away with this guy, 4 one u will disrespect ur family name, secondly u will disobey ur prance which is sin, thirdly u get married with out ur prance will meaning marriage without wali is haram. so girl don’t let teen world to rule u. use ur brain rather than ur heart. all the best Peace