Salaama All, "okay...what about if the man acts as if he is older...like the ones you prefer to date...and behaves like a man." ..... Then His mother won't leave me ALONE!.. she be saying "some Guumayse, ayaa Wiilkayga loo soo diraye" you know how our mothers are with thier boyz? No girl is ever good for them! Old or young!... so for that reason, even if the guy is mature or 'acts older' I wouldn't date him!... Man, I don't like In-laws especially Mother-in-law's, they'e always a Threat to the US..lol..but some are 'cool' as long as you live far I mean faaaaaaaaaaaar away from 'em MMA... Ceeb Ceeb.. a Lady Doesn't kiss and tell ..lol .. Leave my "oday" out of this ..lol Ma'salaama

Sorry Mataan... well, here are the places to start LQQKing..or the area codes to be calling.. 404,301,604,415,408,206 and 612! They say brotha "Experience is a good teacher, but her fees is very high." believe me those ' statistics' didn't just surface they are based on actual events! I'll change my mind when i see a 18-22yr old guy who cares about something more important and valuable then their FUBU,Mecca,Phat Farm Wear and What Nas and JayZ said! Ma'salaama

Sorry Mataan... well, here are the places to start LQQKing..or the area codes to be calling.. 404,301,604,415,408,206 and 612! They say brotha "Experience is a good teacher, but her fees is very high." believe me those ' statistics' didn't just surface they are based on actual events! I'll change my mind when i see a 18-22yr old guy who cares about something more important and valuable then their FUBU,Mecca,Phat Farm Wear and What Nas and JayZ said! Ma'salaama

Salaama, Well, Personally I wouldn't Mind dating someone my age and a Man older preferably 2-5yrs!.....as far as dating a younger man? Hell No! Naas maan jaqsiinaa? I really don't feel like babysitting!! It's not about being 'insecure' it's just a waiste of time since mostly those relationships don't work out! Ma'salaama [This message has been edited by LadyFatima (edited 02-02-2002).]

Qix Qix Qix, LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL............ Damn you guy's made my day! Thank you all, especially A+ and MMA...Now I see why you two didn't want to post it!.. [This message has been edited by LadyFatima (edited 02-01-2002).]

Salaama All, You can "help" your people by Helping yourself first! Paycheck to Paychek won't support you or your relatives back home! My People Trust me w/out Education you're Nothing! ....or as they say in somali Aqoon La'aani Waa iftiin La'aan!! Mataan... From Day one, we are taught that a younger man(man our age or younger) won't know how to "raise a Family", and to be Frank Most Men my age or 18-24 Don't know anything about being Responsible let along how to handle the responsibility of a whole Family!! There are 10 out of every 100 guy's in that age group that I can really say are way Mature then their age group! or up to the challenge of raising a family.....Thumbs up if you're one of the few You have to understand, age is nothing but a #, It all depends on how you "represent" yourself around people! especially the Ladyz. Ma'salaama

Salaama All, You can "help" your people by Helping yourself first! Paycheck to Paychek won't support you or your relatives back home! My People Trust me w/out Education you're Nothing! ....or as they say in somali Aqoon La'aani Waa iftiin La'aan!! Mataan... From Day one, we are taught that a younger man(man our age or younger) won't know how to "raise a Family", and to be Frank Most Men my age or 18-24 Don't know anything about being Responsible let along how to handle the responsibility of a whole Family!! There are 10 out of every 100 guy's in that age group that I can really say are way Mature then their age group! or up to the challenge of raising a family.....Thumbs up if you're one of the few You have to understand, age is nothing but a #, It all depends on how you "represent" yourself around people! especially the Ladyz. Ma'salaama

Salaama All, Well, Shukri you said he told you " he Loves you more then 100times"... My Question to you is DO YOU LOVE HIM?? I mean really , Love him?

Salaama, Do Plp really talk like that?..... No offense intended! Ma'salaama

lol@Onkod!..........You're right there is a time and place for everything...you know? Nimanka "wadaada"ah wax ka shukaansi badan ilaahaye ma abuurin ? Malcaamad aan dhigan jiraye waa dhexdaasa ayaa, waxaa wax noo dhigi jiraye nin Ilaah baa wayne aad iyo aad u wayne almost his late 45-50's... Wadaadka Malcaamada intii gabadh ahayed oo dugsigaa dhigan jirtaye wuu shukaansan jiraye..intuu guryahooda soo waco ayuu wuxuu familigooda ku dhahaa "cashar" baan siinayaa 'heblaayo'..so they sent the girls to the dugsi... this has been going on for months(perhaps even yrs) Finally one of the Ukhtiise ayaa Waxaye dhashaye "macalin Mohamed Jr."........lol, to make a long story short! These Wadaado are something else walaahi(not most, but some of 'em) Maybe Maryan Odaygeeda he is another Macalin Mohamed on the Hunt! But to be Honest, I think the "wadaad" is homesick!....that is all. Ma'salaama

Ayan..........you can trade 'ages' with me any time any place sis......Oh Lord Let me be sweet 17 again...lol No manena, No shida, No this no that!....your just a kid still, enjoy it while you have it sis!... Trust me when you get to be 23, you will wish to be young again! and full of life! Ma'salaama

Salaama All, Fligt13......Walaal Ma 'Qarax' badnin Lakin it's how you guy's act that makes the girls treat you that way!! I mean C'mon if you act like a 6yr old boy,and you have your pants falling off of your a$$ and talking like a Ni99a then of course they'll treat you the way you should be treated!..... girls don't like boyz.. we like MEN! ....Nothing Personal!! My Pet Peeve? Bossy Plp! & Men who think they're all that and a bag of chips when in reality they're nothing but a...... ? Ma'salaama

A+ and MMA Let me be your referee!..... You guy's both 'pm' your stories to me and I'll decide who is gonna go first?.... Is that a deal? Oh C'mon ...

Medman... I would have loved to call you dear, but I don't know how to dail the Phone?.... Anything else I can do? Ma'salaama

Waa Halkii Medman... How come reer 'Xamaroos' don't have jokes about'em? Sorry inadeer...Medman... Khaladku wuu dhacaa! My Apology

Salaama all, Well, Hibo Sis...Sadly, we can't agree on this matter! So, My advice is that you do what you think is right for you and I'll do the same without further argument?? Allah knows best! Ma'salaama

Salaam all, Nice reply's people... Plz do continue.. I still stand on the same believe that somalia is BETTER off UNITED!!.... Gacmo wada jir ayeey wax ku qabtaan!..This Division will only bring more hatered among the Tribes that reside in each area!.... Personally, I rather live with people from all kinds of tribes.. rather then with one group of people! and if you separate somalis that is the result, each group(Tribe) will live in their lil corner of the country and discriminate the other people who are not from their own tribes... Calaa Kuli Xaal... This is just my opinion..who knows it?.. as some of you stated already, it maybe better off separated or it may not... All I want for our country is PEACE again! Mataan:... Walaalo thanks for the sincere advice but your bit late!.... the User NQ no longer exist.... LF is the Name now! but thans again I appreciated. Ma'salaama

Thanks Barliin... Likewise sista Ma'salaama

Salaama All, ONKOD!........... Walaalo, for one as a Muslim man he is allowed not 1 not 2 but 4Wives...Even if the brotha is Talking with these women about things that are not related to his " Islamic classes" he is allowed to do so but also he has to respect Maryama in the process and Think about her own feelings as well..but don't judge him before you know him... There are Two sides to every story brotha or Sis.. we only know what Maryam said, we don't know his side of the story so lets not jump to conclusion! Besides, As Somalis we talk on the phone for hours and hours, that is a typical somali thing.. so we can't really say or conclude his talks with these women!..but Maryama needs to put her kindness for her husband aside for a minute and slap the Sh*t out of him......lol....Wait... Plz Don't do that, I'm just kidding!.. LOL@Medman... Waryaa, wiilka 'soomaliyeed' naagtiisa ha ku dirina!... Ma'salaama

Miskiini..yaa Macruufi... The Clock is runing buddy..... But I'll try to be patient

Salaama All, I gota admit...to this date I don't know how to walk on High heel shoes!...Anyway, Last new years some friends and I went to this Somali Rewayad... and a good friend of mine insisted that I wear High heels... after showing me few times how to walk on the damn things, I finally Mastered it or so I thought..anyway, we went to this rewaya and the guy was singing my favortie song(Shankaroon) I was dancing and Enjoying the moment when I twisted my ankel and BOOM I fell flat on my A$$ on the floor and everybody turned around and looked at me.... God, that was the most humiliating moment in my entire life!... However, I started LMAO and so did everybody at the end it didn't feel so bad..even though few weeks later.. I met some somali guy in a store and he said "he recognized" me, Oh yeah, you're that girl that fell in the party"....Sh*t... Now I'm back to stage one, the MOST humiliating Moment in my life!! Ma'salaama

CORRECTION CORRECTION CORRECTION...... Salaama All, First of all Allah knows what is best and most correct, Secondly Lets be HONEST here...what I wanna know is, which girl among you is brave enough to go to her parents/relatives and will tell them that she had commited adultry? I really want to know who?? in the Quran it says "24:2 "The woman and the man guilty of adultery or fornication, FLOG EACH OF THEM WITH A HUNDRED STRIPES :Let not compassion move you in their case, in a matter prescribed by God, if ye believe in God and the Last Day: and let a party of the Believers witness their punishment"... I used this Ayath Several times in this discussion.. Because in this ayath it says " Flog Each of them with a hundred Stripes" "and Let a party of believers WITNESS their Punishment" do you know when that happends? It's when the adulators admit their Zina and they want to repent their Zina and Perhaps be married in Halaal way. again I ask, which girl among you is Brave enough to tell her Parents? in my opinion Non of you will , Unless you're one heck of a woman! Mostly likely, you will hide your Zina or that you had sex b4 marriage cuz you're afraid of the penalty, I.E the shame that you will bring to yourself & your parents by admiting that you're an adulterer. Now lets say, the guy you had sex with and you didn't get married? lets also say that someone else is going to marry you, How will you tell your prospective Husband that you slept with other men before him? or that you're Not "virgin" anymore? Mostly, Likely you won't tell him so, in this case,he will find out for himself and later divorce you for deceiving him(believe me I've seen Plenty of cases like this one) or he will stay with you and Leave Allah to punish you for your deception and or Zina! .......... Either way, You're in Deep Sh*T. Remember it said in the Quran "Let no man guilty of adultery marry but a woman similarly guilty, or a polytheist; nor let any such a woman marry but a man similarly guilty or a polytheist; to the believers such a thing is FORBIDDEN . (24:3) " That is right, " Let no woman marry but a man similarly guilty" again, be Honest, who will admit their Guilt?? in order to be married the Righteous way What I failed to mention early on was that, you CAN MARRY ONLY and this is the only way you can is if "you(the adulterer)make sincere repentance. After doing so, if the man wants to marry you , he cannot do so until you also turns to Allah in repentance and your period of "Iddah" comes to an end. In this case your "Iddah" may be up to three months (from one to three according to various opinions) or until the birth of the child if you're pregnant. This period of waiting is legislated because the sperm from the act of Zina is considered Haram, disrespected, dishonorable and should not be mixed with the Halal, legal, honorable and respected fluid discharged during marriage. The issue of when the pregnancy occurs is important because all scholars agree that the child born from illegal inter course (Zina) cannot be traced to the father" Now, walaalayaal, like I said before Allah knows what is best and Most correct, in my believe since most of you(women or Men) won't Admit their Zin's, you can't marry unless or until you admit it and you have been both whipped one hundred times each in front of a group of believers... Ilaah baan ingu dhaarshee, Who will do that? who will be brave enough to stand in front of all these people and say they commit adultry?? Walaahi Bilaahi No one! not a person who lives in the 21st century by the way, even When Nabi Mohamed (S.C.W.) was here, even then the believers use to hide it out of fear. As for the marriage, it is permissible if you guy's had made sincere repentance and if you two no longer practices evil deeds. This Discussion is not about being right or 'wrong', and it's not about comeption either, but to me what it's, is sharing (knowledge) what you know and learning what you don't know from others... as I said earlier I never meant to bring any or cause resentment among ourselves.... Allah Alone is my Witness and Knows me best!! I didn't mean to offend anyone of you,If I did I apologize for it.. and Plz forgive me! Allah knows best. Ma'salaama

Salaama Maryam..... First of all, Allah knows what is best and Most correct... I would advice you to trust your husband and do not let jealousy drive you to suspecting him of bad things especially since your husband does the Dawah work and teaches the Qur'an. So, try to help him pursue this noble mission and do not become an obstacle to him sis.... Secondly, without accusing him Talk to your Husband in a calm manner and Explain to him that his long 'talks' with these women are bothering you!! Hopefully he will understand and shorten the conversation or speak in a language that you understand!! 3rdly, I don't know if you know this or not..but as Somalis we prefer to speak our own language with other somalis(since it's more comfortable then speaking with a broken ESL), and even though some speak English as their second language most somalis sis don't speak english that could also be another reason as to why your husband is talking with these women in their language? Ma'salaama and good luck.

LST.....LOL..man that is funny!!

Kuluco... What a women! masha'alaah