Salaama all, I Heard about Cat Stevens aka Yusuf Islam but didn't know how he become a Muslim,Masha'alaah Walaahi I was Moved By his story. He was Rich and Famous had the Life that many of us only Dream about... and yet this guy left it all to Become a MUSLIM and preach the message of Allah Subxana Wa'talaah and our prophet Mohamed Peace and blessing be upon him! Hope you guy's like it too........... Cat Stevens : How I came to Islam All I have to say is all what you know already, to confirm what you already know, the message of the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) as given by God - the Religion of Truth. As human beings we are given a consciousness and a duty that has placed us at the top of creation. Man is created to be God's deputy on earth, and it is important to realize the obligation to rid ourselves of all illusions and to make our lives a preparation for the next life. Anybody who misses this chance is not likely to be given another, to be brought back again and again, because it says in Qur'an Majeed that when man is brought to account, he will say, {O Lord, send us back and give us another chance} The Lord will say, {If I send you back you will do the same} MY EARLY RELIGIOUS UPBRINGING I was brought up in the modern world of all the luxury and the high life of show business. I was born in a Christian home, but we know that every child is born in his original nature - it is only his parents that turn him to this or that religion. I was given this religion (Christianity) and thought this way. I was taught that God exists, but there was no direct contact with God, so we had to make contact with Him through Jesus - he was in fact the door to God. This was more or less accepted by me, but I did not swallow it all. I looked at some of the statues of Jesus; they were just stones with no life. And when they said that God is three, I was puzzled even more but could not argue. I more or less believed it, because I had to have respect for the faith of my parents. POP STAR Gradually I became alienated from this religious upbringing. I started making music. I wanted to be a big star. All those things I saw in the films and on the media took hold of me, and perhaps I thought this was my God, the goal of making money. I had an uncle who had a beautiful car. "Well," I said, "he has it made. He has a lot of money." The people around me influenced me to think that this was it; this world was their God. I decided then that this was the life for me; to make a lot of money, have a 'great life.' Now my examples were the pop stars. I started making songs, but deep down I had a feeling for humanity, a feeling that if I became rich I would help the needy. (It says in the Qur'an, we make a promise, but when we make something, we want to hold onto it and become greedy.) So what happened was that I became very famous. I was still a teenager, my name and photo were splashed in all the media. They made me larger than life, so I wanted to live larger than life and the only way to do that was to be intoxicated (with liquor and drugs). IN HOSPITAL After a year of financial success and 'high' living, I became very ill, contracted TB and had to be hospitalized. It was then that I started to think: What was to happen to me? Was I just a body, and my goal in life was merely to satisfy this body? I realized now that this calamity was a blessing given to me by Allah, a chance to open my eyes - "Why am I here? Why am I in bed?" - and I started looking for some of the answers. At that time there was great interest in the Eastern mysticism. I began reading, and the first thing I began to become aware of was death, and that the soul moves on; it does not stop. I felt I was taking the road to bliss and high accomplishment. I started meditating and even became a vegetarian. I now believed in 'peace and flower power,' and this was the general trend. But what I did believe in particular was that I was not just a body. This awareness came to me at the hospital. One day when I was walking and I was caught in the rain, I began running to the shelter and then I realized, 'Wait a minute, my body is getting wet, my body is telling me I am getting wet.' This made me think of a saying that the body is like a donkey, and it has to be trained where it has to go. Otherwise, the donkey will lead you where it wants to go. Then I realized I had a will, a God-given gift: follow the will of God. I was fascinated by the new termino- logy I was learning in the Eastern religion. By now I was fed up with Christianity. I started making music again and this time I started reflecting my own thoughts. I remember the lyric of one of my songs. It goes like this: "I wish I knew, I wish I knew what makes the Heaven, what makes the Hell. Do I get to know You in my bed or some dusty cell while others reach the big hotel?" and I knew I was on the Path. I also wrote another song, "The Way to Find God Out." I became even more famous in the world of music. I really had a difficult time because I was getting rich and famous, and at the same time, I was sincerely searching for the Truth. Then I came to a stage where I decided that Buddhism is all right and noble, but I was not ready to leave the world. I was too attached to the world and was not prepared to become a monk and to isolate myself from society. I tried Zen and Ching, numerology, tarot cards and astrology. I tried to look back into the Bible and could not find anything. At this time I did not know anything about Islam, and then, what I regarded as a miracle occurred. My brother had visited the mosque in Jerusalem and was greatly impressed that while on the one hand it throbbed with life (unlike the churches and synagogues which were empty), on the other hand, an atmosphere of peace and tranquillity prevailed. THE QUR'AN When he came to London he brought back a translation of the Qur'an, which he gave to me. He did not become a Muslim, but he felt something in this religion, and thought I might find something in it also. And when I received the book, a guidance that would explain everything to me - who I was; what was the purpose of life; what was the reality and what would be the reality; and where I came from - I realized that this was the true religion; religion not in the sense the West understands it, not the type for only your old age. In the West, whoever wishes to embrace a religion and make it his only way of life is deemed a fanatic. I was not a fanatic, I was at first confused between the body and the soul. Then I realized that the body and soul are not apart and you don't have to go to the mountain to be religious. We must follow the will of God. Then we can rise higher than the angels. The first thing I wanted to do now was to be a Muslim. I realized that everything belongs to God, that slumber does not overtake Him. He created everything. At this point I began to lose the pride in me, because hereto I had thought the reason I was here was because of my own greatness. But I realized that I did not create myself, and the whole purpose of my being here was to submit to the teaching that has been perfected by the religion we know as Al-Islam. At this point I started discovering my faith. I felt I was a Muslim. On reading the Qur'an, I now realized that all the Prophets sent by God brought the same message. Why then were the Jews and Christians different? I know now how the Jews did not accept Jesus as the Messiah and that they had changed His Word. Even the Christians misunderstand God's Word and called Jesus the son of God. Everything made so much sense. This is the beauty of the Qur'an; it asks you to reflect and reason, and not to worship the sun or moon but the One Who has created everything. The Qur'an asks man to reflect upon the sun and moon and God's creation in general. Do you realize how different the sun is from the moon? They are at varying distances from the earth, yet appear the same size to us; at times one seems to overlap the other. Even when many of the astronauts go to space, they see the insignificant size of the earth and vastness of space. They become very religious, because they have seen the Signs of Allah. When I read the Qur'an further, it talked about prayer, kindness and charity. I was not a Muslim yet, but I felt that the only answer for me was the Qur'an, and God had sent it to me, and I kept it a secret. But the Qur'an also speaks on different l I began to understand it on anothlevel, where the Qur'an says, {Those who believe do not take disbelievers for friends and the believers are brothers} Thus at this point I wished to meet my Muslim brothers. CONVERSION Then I decided to journey to Jerusalem (as my brother had done). At Jerusalem, I went to the mosque and sat down. A man asked me what I wanted. I told him I was a Muslim. He asked what was my name. I told him, "Stevens." He was confused. I then joined the prayer, though not so successfully. Back in London, I met a sister called Nafisa. I told her I wanted to embrace Islam and she directed me to the New Regent Mosque. This was in 1977, about one and a half years after I received the Qur'an. Now I realized that I must get rid of my pride, get rid of Iblis, and face one direction. So on a Friday, after Jumma' I went to the Imam and declared my faith (the Kalima) at this hands. You have before you someone who had achieved fame and fortune. But guidance was something that eluded me, no matter how hard I tried, until I was shown the Qur'an. Now I realize I can get in direct contact with God, unlike Christianity or any other religion. As one Hindu lady told me, "You don't understand the Hindus. We believe in one God; we use these objects (idols) to merely concentrate." What she was saying was that in order to reach God, one has to create associates, that are idols for the purpose. But Islam removes all these barriers. The only thing that moves the believers from the disbelievers is the salat. This is the process of purification. Finally I wish to say that everything I do is for the pleasure of Allah and pray that you gain some inspirations from my experiences. Furthermore, I would like to stress that I did not come into contact with any Muslim before I embraced Islam. I read the Qur'an first and realized that no person is perfect. Islam is perfect, and if we imitate the conduct of the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) we will be successful. May Allah give us guidance to follow the path of the ummah of Muhammad (Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam). Ameen! ------------------ "If Allah helps you, none can overcome you: If He forsakes you, who is there, after that, that can help you? in Allah, then, Let believers put their trust" al-Qur'an 3:160 [This message has been edited by LadyFatima (edited 12-09-2001).]

If yo say so brotha! Hey Look closer, The Extra + + is there you just need to open your Eyes Wider

If yo say so brotha! Hey Look closer, The Extra + + is there you just need to open your Eyes Wider

USSR..... I just hope your Kidding! With that kind of mentality your not gona go that Far in Life! Allah have Mercy on ya.. Yo go girl, tell him like it's! .... Just one piece of advice! Protect your self, about 2/3 of the World Has some form of STD's

Sasa Sista's.... a Friend E-mailed this to me, I thought you girls may like it as well......... Enjoy! Men are like... Men are like.....Floor tiles. If you lay them right the first time,you can walk all over them for years! Men are like.....Bank accounts. Without a lot of money, they won't generate much interest. Men are like.....Blenders. You need one, but you're not quite sure why. Men are like.....Chocolate bars. Sweet, smooth, and they usually head right for your hips. Men are like.....Coffee. The best ones are rich, warm, and and keep you up all night long. Men are like.....Commercials. You can't believe a word they say. Men are like.....Computers. Hard to figure out and never have enough memory. Men are like.....Coolers. Load them with beer and you can take them anywhere. Men are like.....Copiers. You need them for reproduction, but that's about it. Men are like.....Curling irons. They're always hot, and they're always in your hair. Men are like.... Cement. After getting laid, they take a long time to get hard. Men are like.....Government bonds. They take so long to mature. Men are like.....High heels. They're easy to walk on once you get the hang of it. Men are like.....Horoscopes. They always tell you what to do and are usually wrong. Men are like.....Lava lamps. Fun to look at, but not all that bright. Men are like.....Mascara. They usually run at the first sign of emotion. Men are like.....Parking spots. The good ones are already taken and the ones that are left are handicapped or extremely small. Men are like.....Popcorn. They satisfy you, but only for a little while. Men are like.....Place mats. They only show up when there's food on the table. Men are like.....Snow storms. You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long they will last. Men are like.....Used Cars. Both are easy-to-get, cheap, and unreliable. Men are like.....Bank Machines. Once they withdraw they lose interest. Men are like......Bananas. The older they get, the less firm they are. Men are like....Newborn babies. They're cute at first, but you get tired of cleaning up their crap. Men are like.....Crystal. Some look real good, but you can still see right through them. Men are like.....Dry cleaners. Most work fast and leave no ring. Men are like..... Laxatives. They irritate the shit out of you.

Thxs A+............how did I know? Well, only a MAN can be offended by what I said earlier?

Thxs A+............how did I know? Well, only a MAN can be offended by what I said earlier?

A++ C'mon brotha Nothing chases me away! Not that easy by the way.........anyway, C'mon don't make me feel bad! accept my aplogy! Plz You shouldn't be mad at me, I even Gave ya and Extra ++

A++ C'mon brotha Nothing chases me away! Not that easy by the way.........anyway, C'mon don't make me feel bad! accept my aplogy! Plz You shouldn't be mad at me, I even Gave ya and Extra ++

Salaama yaa Umah.... I found this article to be really interesting! Plz Read it if you got time!! Thx............. Duties of Men in Islam In America, we can see many men involved in drinking and carousing, refusing to get married, refusing to work, or if they do work, spending their money on silly and useless things like fancy cars, stereos, expensive clothes and whatnot. Meanwhile, there are women, young and old, fending for themselves. Sisters who are destroying their health because they have to raise and support children with no husband in sight. Really, we must ask ourselves, what good does it do for us to talk about making jihad against the Disbelievers when we are not taking care of our families and our own communities in the way of Allah? In the event that a Muslim sister is lacking the maintenance which the Quran demands for her and her children: to be given food, clothing and shelter, protection from harassment or crime, this is the responsibility of the entire community. We as Muslims must strive, in accordance with what Allah has given us, to make the world such a place that it will be safe for children to be born, where mothers and fathers will not grieve, but rejoice every time Allah grants them a little baby into their care out of his Mercy. It is important that we start the jihad for the establishment of Islam in our society within our families. If we cannot practice the Sunnah of love, respect and helpfulness in our own homes, of what use will it be if we proclaim the Sharia throughout the land? How are we going to heal our society? There is only one way. We can only do it by raising children who are willing to uphold Islam in their hearts and their actions. The son, especially, should be taught very early to respect his mothers and sisters and to defend their honor at any cost. To always speak well of them, and to help them with whatever they need, to the best of his ability. This kind of education will help him to know how to behave with his wife, who will be his permanent companion when he grows up. We can see in the Hadith how important it is for Muslim men to spend time with their families. The Prophet Muhammed, peace be upon him, always helped his wives with their housework, and he instructed us that this would be counted and rewarded by Allah as charity. His cousin Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, was also a model of Islamic courtesy and chivalry. He was a familiar sight at home, playing with his children. These Muslim men were courageous warriors, and yet, they treated their families with loving kindness. The role of the man in the marriage relationship is that of provider for the family. Many men complain that this is not fair. “Why is it MY job to pay the rent?” This is because in Islam, childbearing, nursing and taking care of the household are considered work. The man is expected to provide his wife for all her needs, regardless of how much money she has independently. This right to shelter, food and clothing is, or should be anyway, the privilege of all Muslim women. Any money a woman earns outside the home and contributes to the household is considered by Allah to be charity. It is contrary to Islamic boundaries of proper courtesy for a husband to expect his wife to feel forced to leave her home and earn money for the needs of her children or herself. It is also completely inappropriate for a Muslim family to reside in an upper-class neighborhood if this income is dependent on the wife’s working and giving all her money to her husband. At the same time, Islam has not restricted women to the home. This fact is obvious in the Quran (2:233) where it states, “If ye decide on a fostermother for your offspring, there is no blame on you, provided ye pay (her) what ye offered, on equitable terms.” Quite simply, this means that if the wife does not wish to nurse the baby, there is nothing wrong with the husband providing a nanny or baby-sitter for their children, so that his wife can lead an active lifestyle, if that is her choice. Now in Islam, the role of taking care another woman’s children is a very respected role. It’s not just that you give some teenager $5 so that you can go out to dinner. No, the role of the nursemaid means that she is considered family to your children, such that they will never intermarry with her biological children, because they are “related by milk.” This provision is also a sort of an Islamic welfare system. A woman who is in need of income may seek employment in a Muslim household as a nurse for their children. The parents should make sure she is of kind heart and true character before entrusting their children to her care. And all the while she is in the home, they are obliged to treat her as they would treat themselves, in complete decency. The relationship of the mother to the son is the closest relationship two human beings can have. That is why psychological studies show that boy babies are much more attracted to their mothers than girl babies, who demonstrate independence at a far earlier age. This is due to the Wisdom and Mercy of Allah’s great Plan, because the girl, when she grows up, will go on to be part of an entirely new family when she marries, and she will have her own children to bear and to raise. The boy, on the other hand, will be responsible for his mother until she dies. So the bond has to be very deep and very strong, that it will help the son to make the great sacrifices for the protection of his mother, especially in old age. A Muslim is supposed to listen to his mother even before he listens to his father. It is our mothers who have the greatest impact upon our lives. Even while we were still in the womb, she gave us love and taught us about Islam. During our lives, she is the one who will grieve the most when we do something wrong. On the day of Judgement, Allah will ask each person’s mother is she was pleased with her child. Insha’allah, if we can make our mothers happy, then Allah will be pleased with us. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- This article was published in the August 1996 issue of the Islamic Journal.

Salaama Brotha's/Sista's.... Well, MPLSKId... Walaalkiise, For one I missed you too 2ndly, Being the good cook I'm...lol, I spend most of the Time Preparing Afuro for the Family...my lil Net time was lost for a good cause,, but Alxamdulilaah.........Now I'm back to my Net Familia!! Cia....

A++............. Brotha or sis... There is no point in arguing! If this had offended you I apologize like I said.. you may be one of the few who don't have this kind of mentality BUT Men do and they did and always will....It's a FACT OF LIFE!! I don't like it but it's true....... for instance this close relative of mine got married to a lady who is 5yrs older then him... Well, it was prefectly FINE for him until he had to bring her to Moma and Papa! even though the family was not happy, still it was OK... few months into marriage the whole family started hating this girl! Why Cuz she is "GUUMAYSE" and she stole their lil prince's Mind........... God is my witness, the girl has nothing wrong with her or bad about her, the only mistake she made was marry Mama's lil boy!! Cia... P.S Thxs Nowaal....

A++............. Brotha or sis... There is no point in arguing! If this had offended you I apologize like I said.. you may be one of the few who don't have this kind of mentality BUT Men do and they did and always will....It's a FACT OF LIFE!! I don't like it but it's true....... for instance this close relative of mine got married to a lady who is 5yrs older then him... Well, it was prefectly FINE for him until he had to bring her to Moma and Papa! even though the family was not happy, still it was OK... few months into marriage the whole family started hating this girl! Why Cuz she is "GUUMAYSE" and she stole their lil prince's Mind........... God is my witness, the girl has nothing wrong with her or bad about her, the only mistake she made was marry Mama's lil boy!! Cia... P.S Thxs Nowaal....

Wlc Gabardadow! and Sista Nowaal, SHUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU Don't say that! My name aint NQ anymore... It's LadyFatima.... Thankyouverymuch!!

Salaama All, Well, It's Funny how all the Brothers I've been meeting lately want to have "sex" b4 marriage? Even though they all know it's a Major Sin?... Yet on the other Hand brothers want Virgins? So what is it going to be?? Personally, I believe we should all fallow the Prophet (PBUH) and his Sunnah..in that which Allah subxana'talaa Forbids us to commit Sinah be it small or major!! Basically if the Men who are our 'protectors' Behave in the way of Allah & His Prophet (PBUH) I believe a lot of Misguided Sisters wouldn't have been in the positions they're in today! For instance; This one Somali sister Was told by this guy if they "sleep together, and by chance she got pregnant, He will take care of her because she was his WOMAN"" Guess what? the sista fell for his Lie and did what he wanted her to do? that sista now lives on Welfare, Her parents disowned her when she had a baby, and the brotha? Well, She never seen him again! This situation could have easily been prevented if some brotha's and Sista's took the Time to study their Deen(Religion) and act upon it.. walaahi It's so sad these dayz that a Brotha has to ask a girl whether she is Virgin or not? it should not even be a Question! So my sist's Keep your Legs closed no matter what! unless or until there is Nikaax!! and for the Brotha's keep your pants up, Save yourself's and that of the girl from Hell-Fire!! Cia, P.S I thought this article was interesting...Plz read if you gota minute!! http://news.bbc.co.uk/hi/english/world/middle_east/newsid_1314000/1314090.stm

salaama all, Well, Like Unix already told you, he probably didn't tell you the Truth to start with.... Anyway, There are plenty of fish in the sea sis if you know what I mean? Just Move on!!............. Honestly, There are a lot of good plp on the Net! Don't let few Misguided plp discourage you from Meeting plp here..just make sure you don't sound too eager to meet even if you're! That scary's plp away sis, Besides, Just to be on the safe side, I don't think you should 'look' for on the net anything beyond friendship!! Every good 'relationship' starts with Frienship first!! So just be carefull on your selections next time..........and Good luck! Cia P.S Barliin.... Take it easy on the Brotha's sis.... I got ten of 'em and I know my brothers aint "JERKS"...... Remember Generalization equalls IGNORANCE!!

Salaama All, Hey bullet Glad to 'see' you back in one PIECE!! Who won you or Bin laden?? anyway..........Since I'm not the 'girl' who did this to you, I can't really say Why she did what she did BUT and this is a Big BUT.... Don't Generalize we aint all "Flukes" 2ndly............ If she gave you an excuse not to talk to you on the 1st time, then on the 2nd time? May god Don't you get it? you didn't had to call her on the 3rd and the 4th time...by now ya should have gotten the CLUE!! she didn't wanted you, So brotha by any means move on and Plz Keep your Private Life PRIVATE.... They say"If someone betrays you once, it is his fault; If he betrays you twice, it is your fault" Don't mean to offend ya but yo gota admit it's your fault for calling so many times! Cia

Masha'aLaah, Alxamdulilaah! as I said before, They tried to destroy us but they failed and are still failing....More power to Islam! ------------------ "If Allah helps you, none can overcome you: If He forsakes you, who is there, after that, that can help you? in Allah, then, Let believers put their trust" al-Qur'an 3:160

A+,,,, well, sis or bro... If everyone agreed with each other, then we would have lived in a BORING world!! U don't have to AGREE with me, But you should atleast ask around, What I said aint a Lie, you in particular may not have that concept but that Doesn't mean all MEN don't care whether a women is young or not! They did before and They still DO !!

A+,,,, well, sis or bro... If everyone agreed with each other, then we would have lived in a BORING world!! U don't have to AGREE with me, But you should atleast ask around, What I said aint a Lie, you in particular may not have that concept but that Doesn't mean all MEN don't care whether a women is young or not! They did before and They still DO !!

Hibo salaama sis, Well, I guess you misunderstood me somewhere.. I didn't say we,women should put our education on hold for the sake of Being married or marrying young!! Actually I'm against this believe most of us women have about "marrying b4 school, cuz later they don't want to be old and left out" that is the believes of some of my G-friends and a lot of somali women I met... The luckiest among them were the one's who finished High school, all the girls I used to go to school with few yrs back droped out in their junior yr(11th grade) and got married even had babies, 4yrs Later when I met them again, they were SINGLE MOTHERS with 2or 3kids, Struggling and couldn't afford anything and were depending on Gov't aide!! I always tell sista to get their GED's and BS,BA,AA's whatever they could get their hands on!! Cuz Without it, they're Nothing!! So sista I'm with you on this matter, Education is the Key for the Future and without it, they'll be locked in the Past! Cia

Hibo salaama sis, Well, I guess you misunderstood me somewhere.. I didn't say we,women should put our education on hold for the sake of Being married or marrying young!! Actually I'm against this believe most of us women have about "marrying b4 school, cuz later they don't want to be old and left out" that is the believes of some of my G-friends and a lot of somali women I met... The luckiest among them were the one's who finished High school, all the girls I used to go to school with few yrs back droped out in their junior yr(11th grade) and got married even had babies, 4yrs Later when I met them again, they were SINGLE MOTHERS with 2or 3kids, Struggling and couldn't afford anything and were depending on Gov't aide!! I always tell sista to get their GED's and BS,BA,AA's whatever they could get their hands on!! Cuz Without it, they're Nothing!! So sista I'm with you on this matter, Education is the Key for the Future and without it, they'll be locked in the Past! Cia

samawado, Walaalkiis no Proof needed he said He was behind it recently! That should be all the proof we need

Okay unixguru I don't know what world you are living in but where I came from? Men Want younger Chicks They have always wanted them Young!! our forfathers Have all Married younger Women.....I had a grandfather who is married to a younger women , My Grandmother is 4years younger then me! b4 he passed away he was 89yrd old! Where I live, we Have well Educated sisters, who are Financially,emotionally,psychologically, physically Stable to build a family!! Brothers who are their age, Those with Education and w/out it Both Don't want them Cuz in their own words " They're Not Fresh anymore" Men Want 18yr Old chick who are IGNORANT about the world and life in generall! They want a 18yr old who will Listen to their stupid needs, Who they "can Control"....... Well Educated sisters though, Will Not take crap from anyone and are well aware of the World!! Now they May Fulfill their Husbands "needs" and do their "Wifely Duties" but They're Not afraid to Say NO when they feel their Husband's are out of line!! Men Being the Domineering Creatures they're are too Chicken To be in a Relationship or Marriage where they feel they have "No control" Or "POWER" over it. so what do they do? They find themselves "Fresh" victims!! Ask any man if you don't Believe me, Walaahi they all will tell you the same thing!! Do you also notice how 'Somali'Males don't like or Never Marry Women Who are older then them? isn't funny how our culture makes it Fair or 'legal' should I say for Men to marry and date younger women and when another Guy lets say(one of those Mr. Nice Guy's) Comes around and finds an older women to be the one for him... He tells his family and BOOM!! Everybody is in his buZineZZ Telling him to get rid of the old women?? That is the world we live in brotha! Now some of you will say, That I'm Generalizing or that 'They're not like this" but Lets all be Realistic here? go back to your own family history and ask What are the ages of your grandmothes, Grandfathers, Check the age difference and you will see what I'm talking about... I dare you guy's To proof me wrong?? Cia .....

Okay unixguru I don't know what world you are living in but where I came from? Men Want younger Chicks They have always wanted them Young!! our forfathers Have all Married younger Women.....I had a grandfather who is married to a younger women , My Grandmother is 4years younger then me! b4 he passed away he was 89yrd old! Where I live, we Have well Educated sisters, who are Financially,emotionally,psychologically, physically Stable to build a family!! Brothers who are their age, Those with Education and w/out it Both Don't want them Cuz in their own words " They're Not Fresh anymore" Men Want 18yr Old chick who are IGNORANT about the world and life in generall! They want a 18yr old who will Listen to their stupid needs, Who they "can Control"....... Well Educated sisters though, Will Not take crap from anyone and are well aware of the World!! Now they May Fulfill their Husbands "needs" and do their "Wifely Duties" but They're Not afraid to Say NO when they feel their Husband's are out of line!! Men Being the Domineering Creatures they're are too Chicken To be in a Relationship or Marriage where they feel they have "No control" Or "POWER" over it. so what do they do? They find themselves "Fresh" victims!! Ask any man if you don't Believe me, Walaahi they all will tell you the same thing!! Do you also notice how 'Somali'Males don't like or Never Marry Women Who are older then them? isn't funny how our culture makes it Fair or 'legal' should I say for Men to marry and date younger women and when another Guy lets say(one of those Mr. Nice Guy's) Comes around and finds an older women to be the one for him... He tells his family and BOOM!! Everybody is in his buZineZZ Telling him to get rid of the old women?? That is the world we live in brotha! Now some of you will say, That I'm Generalizing or that 'They're not like this" but Lets all be Realistic here? go back to your own family history and ask What are the ages of your grandmothes, Grandfathers, Check the age difference and you will see what I'm talking about... I dare you guy's To proof me wrong?? Cia .....