The sweetest message I ever got was: Finding love is a mission Falling in love is an ambition Just follow the Somali tradition And let your father make the decision

LoooL, loved No.3 PS. You dont have a weird sense of humor cuz i thought it was funny too...mmm...never mind

My cousin recently told me about how she was at the doctors clinic in the waiting room where there was a Somali couple also waiting. This couple were calling each other 'habibi, sweetheart, darling etc, etc...'and my cousin was telling me how disgusted she was in this...in her words, 'she felt lab labo' and she didnt approve of that sort of suuro. She is older than me and couldnt see what was so cute about it. Personally i think its nice to call ur spouse by these terms but to a certain extent. What do u guys think? And what about things like holding hands in public... are there islamic rulings on this type of behaviour, and if not would you approve, or even do it urself?

is a man/woman worth fighting over? who are u fighting exactly? if a man/woman cheats on his/her significant other than the solution is simple, get rid of them, they obviously didnt care enough about u in the first place cuz if they did they wouldnt only think of u when the temptation comes but there wouldnt even be the temptation to cheat.

Sorry i missed the point of the program? Is it to call people? if so, why not just use the phone or is there more to it?

As Somalians i dont think you have to be divorced to be a single mother...i consider my mother to be a single mother even though she is married to my father but that is because he has another wife and another family. This is a major issue with our community because many men choose to remarry and arent able to divide their attention or finances between the two families so in most cases the newer family gets it all...not that im complaining, i think my mother did a great job with us and i wouldnt have wished it any other way. I also know of many other families who are in this same situation...and for this i blame the men. Allah has made it halal for men to marry more than one wife but not if they will neglect one family...I just hope in time someone gets it right.

Alle Ubaahne, Its ok aboowe never mind, i think there was a misunderstanding. Salaam

Allah_Ubaahne do sense sarcasm? Nevertheless i will take all of that as a compliment, asxantu walaal salaam

Good test,jazakallahu khayr i think as muslims we should help people if we have the will, and if not that doesnt make u a bad person, for example if someone comes to u for help with lets say financial problems, you give what you can without sacrificing u or ur families needs, if everyone gave up everything they have to help others another person would have to do the same for them and so on and so on, then we would have an unnecessary cycle. Salaam

SomeAlien you took the words right our of my mouth...or head...? I do feel a little left out when there are long posts in somali Personally Im not that great at speaking somali but i know enough to communicate..(that sounds sad), and the only reason i would be embarressed or scared to speak would be in front of ppl who have excellent somali. For children, they are probably embarressed which is understandable but not tolerable, i they should be taught to be proud Salaam

this is one of my fav poems. i was never really into shakespeare nor did i understand where he was coming from but when i studied this and realised it makes a lot of sense i thought it was beautiful My Mistress' Eyes My mistress' eyes are nothing like the sun; Coral is far more red than her lips' red: If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun; If hairs be wires, black wires grow on her head. I have seen roses damask'd, red and white, But no such roses see I in her cheeks; And in some perfumes is there more delight Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks. I love to hear her speak, yet well I know That music hath a far more pleasing sound. I grant I never saw a goddess go: My mistress, when she walks, treads on the ground. And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare As any she belied with false compare. -- William Shakespeare

asalamu alaikum, I dont usually post replies here but this one got me thinking, especially after reading some ppl's responses. I feel like (and correct me if im wrong) that some ppl have this black and white way of looking at marriage, ur either a dominating, overly ambitous femenist who doesnt want to have children or a woman who aspires to be a simple housewife. why cant a woman go to school and get her education whilst wanting to have a family and get married. I myself am studying at the moment and dont have any plans of getting married but thats not because i dont think its right to get married young but because i havent met anyone i want to marry. Sister Balsam thank you for well intended advise but i just want to add that not everyone woman has to put her marriage and family plans aside to get an education. If you are really hard working and want to than i believe its possible to have the best of both worlds Salaam

sis the problem isnt whether or not there should be a mens section, but why is the womens section dedicated to love...romance and relationships? i somehow have the feeling that people believe these things are the prevailing interests of women....dont know about u guys but i totally disagree.

i cannot stand gurlz that date any guy with legs that is willing to give them a minute of their time and then complain that no one respects them. and to top it off, they encourage me to date a guy who is interested in me even though we have nothing in common, he has no job, no future and no sense of style.

balsam, sister i agree with u, delaying a marriage is not a good thing. If a guy approaches and he is decent muslim man, dont just kick him out because u think u r too young. see wat he has to offer. There will be a lot of dificulties when u marry at a late age. first of all it will make it harder for u take care of children when u get old and also u may not be able to have as many children as u were hoping to have( ie. get married at 30yrs. by 40yrs u cant have a baby no more). also when u in a western country it is better off getting married young as it stops u from commiting any sins. (thats ur perants push u when u r young, cause they care about use and want u guys to go to jennah). i am a young man (20yrs old) and i wouldnt mind to get married its just i dont have the money to throw a wedding, u know how it is when u live in western society. so sister get married if find the right man. and if u dont marry a man make sure its for a good reason, and getting an education is not one of them. THIS IS NOT MY LOG ON IM A GUY macsalaam

you're saying our culture is importnant and we should hold on to it. well should we be cherishing our circumcision cuz its our culture, or maybe the fact that we are racist towards our own people (madhibaan) or is it the tribal factor that u love so dearly. God, there are so many wonderful things in our culture. Serioulsy, i think u guys should really wake up. Our culture is full of things that shouldnt ezist and there is no way im gonna be proud of that. as for the good things such as being good to ur parents and keeping ur relatives close, thats part of islam and not culture.

one thing that really makes me wonder is why people call and say, 'nabad miyaa' and then u answer 'nabad' then they say, 'see layahay' then u say 'nabad' then they say 'mala nabad qabaa' then u say 'haa', and that continues for like two hours before they get to the point of why they called

i cry when others cry my statement my idea of great time is....

asalamu alaikum first of all bro id like to say its good that u are interested in a girl who obviously has her head on straight, but i have one question for u. What do u have to offer her, if she is religous and educated, and u have already been with so many girls, that what makes u think u deserve her? i just dont like the idea of player guyz settling down with the 'good' girls after they are finished with the rest. get my drift? salaam

this article is interesting to say the least, however, the writer cannot be serious. Somalia is thriving?? For those of us who are constantly sending money to our families in somalia, we know this cannot be true or we wouldnt be hearing so many horroible stories about the real crisises in somalia. The author claims that in a society with many different clans and people, there should be no central governemnt because that government will use that power for its own gains. Well we should look at Western Countries that have centralised power. We may have a white non-muslim government in power however we have all the freedoms and luxuries anyone could ask for. We are given the right to practice our religion anywhere, anyhow and anytime. So if a country with many nationalities and cultures have a centralised government, one party will dominate all the others? this is obviously untrue for we would be forced to live the kufaar way in that case. Thank u mac salaama