Nomadic Princess u really dont have to entertain Lexy's crazy and disgusting arguments. She is obviously disturbed and i cant believe her topic went for three pages It is people who think like this that pollute our society into having self hatred and low self esteem in who we are. Subxaanallah you should be ashamed of yourself Lexy, ilaahay ka baq

^ shy...mmm i think we'll go with the difficult description

Zu.. the ad was for tampons hehe..see now that wasnt too hard

I was reading the paper today and alot of it was dedicated to the recent Live 8 concerts being held around the world. Even though its all for a good cause i couldnt help but feel really sad that it was an entire project aimed at helping Africa. I guess its that African pride of mine that is talking but the main reason i felt sad was that once again we need the 'western world' to come in and save us (i think mostly from each other)and how we have failed to help ourselves. So what are ppls views on whats happening with these concerts and the campaign to eradicate Africa's debt and lessen poverty? PS.i thought it was interesting that K'naan is performing in Barrie,Canada and Maryan Mursal is performing in Eden

Just how long have I been in a glass? Is there a way out? What constitutes an "emergency" in order for this glass to be broken? I may be wrong but didnt you say you were married with kids. If so, would you really want your glass to be broken in an emergency?

Kiwich, i do the same thing with songs, i like to call it 'short term xiise' Rahima, i got plenty of other little secrets for ya love (and no....im not hitting on you)

let it go ngonge, you have to choose your battles...and besides your rambling is getting to me

I can wiggle my ears like jawaahir...its fun

^^^ To you? Maybe nothing! You too.....Enjoy! Oh i see you're probably different because you're seeking an education so you can have a fantastic career and make lots of $$$, while the rest of us poor souls stay at home raising children. Im sorry to burst your little bubble of delusions, but no money, status or 'im an independent women' chant would ever bring you the same status of a women who dedicates herself to raising her children. The worst part is that you not only say you dont want to be a stay at home mother, which in my opinion is entirely your choice and wouldnt bother me one bit, but you degrade it with such ignorance forgetting that many of our mothers didnt have a career, possibly your mother too. I wonder how she would feel knowing her daughter thinks being a stay at home mother is a status she would look her nose down on...and plz dont start talking about how they had no choice, it was what our mothers did and im sure they are very proud of it and would like some appreciiation.

Maybe you want to get married at the age of 18 and have 10 kids, good luck with that because I don't want to be a stay home mother. Enjoy! Whats wrong with a stay at home mother??

By this I think if you expect your family and friends to be there for you and go out of their way for you, you should be willing to the same for them - i didnt mean you should do things for people purely based on the idea that you will get something back, but just to keep on mind that people behave towards you how you behave towards them, and not to be mad or hurt when others are less willing to jump at the thought of helping out if you have never done anything for them. Helping people should be a selfless act, but realistically, everyone knows that no one really enjoys helping someone out continuously who obviously doesnt appreciate it or doesnt even think to help themselves, im talking about the 'takers' and 'moochers' who never know how to give back or how to move up in their lives. It's not a selfish thing to stop wanting to help this person, it just means ur smart and not a dhabaal to continue allowing to be used by someone.

salaam...my two cents i dont really think looking out for your self is selfishness, it just means you know dantaada, however, never going out of your way for someone else, especially if they are your family or friends, or never actually wanting to sacrifice a little of your own comfort and happiness to help someone out is selfish...and mean... and not to mention rude. I think if you expect your family and friends to be there for you and go out of their way for you, you should be willing to the same for them. Besides it feels good when you know you did something for someone, whether it means helping them move, cooking a meal for them, driving them somewhere, lending them money or even keeping them company when they are down. For me a selfish person is one who somehow always seems to make everthing about themselves even when a situation isnt even about them and forgets about others.

I think its hilarious, dont u agree?

that was beautiful BlueEpocha, with that kind of description of the sea, its no wonder you love it

i agree with somamerican, sharing too much info sis...

asalamu alaikum, just my two cents There is a problem with Islam, a huge and very complicated problem too.-Ngonge There are problems with muslims, however, Islam is perfect. With the whole protesting issue, i actually wish i had half the guts those ppl do when protesting in the cause of our religion. I dont believe it should be aggressive or violent, however showing that you actually have a voice and are willing to stand up for what you believe in is an admirable quality.

MVP, did u mean to post this in the jokes section?

I have no idea how this topic came to be what it is but it has to stop...why are ppl attacking femme fatale and velvet like this...and why are some ppl who are supposedly meant to be intelligent adults making sweeping generalisations about men...i mean is there really any need to get this personal and vindictive when it all started with a just an article. My advice: everybody take a chill pill and just read the damn article then respond appropriately..if you have nothing productive to say...dont reply

Frankly i think some ppl here are overeacting a little...it looked to me like AJ was making a simple observation at the state of somali ppl living in the west, its not like he gave out names and addresses for those who said that somalis have been doing worse things, what difference does it make, it still doesnt excuse this type of behaviour although we may not know the true intentions of these ppl as in they could be islamically married, stories of men and women living together are not uncommon and there is room for discussions as to why these things happen

section6er i see u have a thing for half naked dancing women.... :confused: quite disturbing

watched it but cant say i liked it or enjoyed it. i think the idea or the moral of the story was ok but i was distracted by the weird fighting scenes, the unnecessary side stories like the girl working at the petrol station and all that music that was playing at times when the characters were talking to each other...ok i think im over-analysing lol it clearly is not a hollywood movie but nevertheless well intended

i completely agree with guardian...i think it would be a terrible idea to put pics and music and such on this website. for all those who do want that though, why not visit other somali websites that have these sort of things and more.

Asalamu alaikum, In light of what has happened to our brothers and sisters in Asia and Africa the past week, i thought this article would be helpful in reminding us on how we should deal with this calamity. Sabr (Patience) It implies patience, forbearance, perseverance, determination, fortitude, constancy and steadfastness. Sabr assumes different dimensions depending upon which aspect of life is the point of reference: Sabr in personal life 1. The first kind of Sabr is 'patience' as it is ordinarily understood. It is the ability to hold back, remain calm, maintain one's cool, restrain oneself and wait and see despite the urge to jump on, barge in, respond, and do something in the situations of heat, pressure, anxiety, curiosity, anger, confrontation, etc. It also represents the patience exercised during the hardships people face in their lives such as illnesses and diseases, death of loved ones, natural calamities and disasters, and problems or setbacks emanating from the situations and circumstances beyond one's control. Knowing that all these things are part of our test for which we have been put on the earth and knowing that our success lies in how well we react to and handle such situations helps a believer endure these hardships without panicking, complaining or being frustrated. "A person who faces a physical or financial setback, keeps quiet about it and does not complain to people, has a right on Allaah to be forgiven." (Attributed by Ibn 'Abbaas to the Prophet sal-Allaahu alaihi wasallam as reported in At-Tabaraani's Al-Owsat). "A Muslim does not suffer any mental or physical anguish, or any distress, grief, pain or sorrow - even from the prick of a thorn - except that Allaah expiates his mistakes and sins." (Bukhaari and Muslim) This Sabr is an extremely important virtue for a believer. The Prophet sal-Allaahu alaihi wa sallam, talking to some poor Muslims from Ansaar whom he had given whatever he had, said: "Whoever practices Sabr, Allaah Subhanahu wa Ta'aala gives him Sabr. And no one can be given anything better or more far-reaching (comprehensive) than Sabr." (Aboo S'eed Khudri in Bukhaari and Muslim) In a letter of condolence dictated for Mu'aadz Ibn Jabal on the death of his son, the Prophet sal-Allaahu alaihi wa sallam said, "May Allaah increase your reward and bestow you patience, and enable us and you to be thankful to Him. Our lives, our wealth and our families are blissful gifts that are trusts temporarily entrusted. Allaah gave you the opportunity to enjoy (your son gifted to you in trust) with happiness and pleasure, and then he took it from you in return for a big reward. May He bestow upon you blessings, mercy and guidance, if you restrain yourself in expectation for His reward. So, be patient and do not let wailing destroy your reward, to be sorry afterwards. Remember wailing neither brings back the dead, nor removes the grief. What had to happen has happened." (At-Tabaraani) However, tears or sadness is not against the spirit of the patience. When the son of the Prophet's daughter, Zainab, was taking his last breath in the Prophet's lap, tears came down from Prophet 's eyes. When Sa'd wondered, the Prophet sal-Allaahu alaihi wa sallam explained, "This is an expression of mercy that Allaah has put in the hearts of people." (Reported from Usamah Ibn Zaid in Bukhaari and Muslim) This kind of patience is the lowest level of Sabr expected of the believers and is one of the qualities emanating from the Taqwaa in the heart. The test of the patience is at the initial shock. With time, everyone cools down. The patient person controls his/her reactions at the very outset. Reacting emotionally in the beginning and then cooling off is indicative of lack of patience. The Messenger of Allaah sal-Allaahu alaihi wa sallam told a women crying over the grave of her husband, "Maintain Taqwaa and be patient." Later on he explained to her, "The real Sabr (patience) is that which is demonstrated at the initial shock." (Reported from Anas in Bukhaari and Muslim) The Messenger of Allaah sal-Allaahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Allaah Tabaaraka wa Ta'aala says: O son of Adam! If you remained patient restraining yourself and expecting my reward at the initial shock, I will not be happy without rewarding you with Jannah." (From Abee Umaamah in Ibn Maajah) The complementary quality for this Sabr is Shukr (gratitude) which means thanking Allaah Subhanahu wa Ta'aala for any good things, happy occasions, successes, health, profitability, good harvest and prosperity we enjoy in our life. Because all of these things depend, in addition to our hard work, on many favourable circumstances and conditions that are beyond our control, a believer thanks Allaah Subhanahu wa Ta'aala for providing the ability to work hard and making our efforts fruitful through all those favourable circumstances and conditions. This is what is alluded to in the following Ahaadeeth: The Messenger of Allaah sal-Allaahu alayhi wa sallam said, "Wondrous are the believer's affairs. For him there is good in all his affairs, and this is true only for a believer. If he encounters something troubling, he remains steadfast with patience, and that is good for him. If he experiences something pleasing, he thanks Allaah, and that is good for him. (Reported from Suhaib in the Muslim) The Messenger of Allaah sal-Allaahu alayhi wa sallam said, "Allaah told Eesa (Jesus) peace be upon him: I will bring up an Ummah after you who will thank Allaah when they encounter what they like; and they will restrain themselves expecting reward from Allaah and will remain patient when they suffer something they dislike." (Reported from Aboo-Ad-Dardaa by Baihiqi in Shu'abul-Eemaan) source: http://www.alinaam.org.za/library/char/sabr.htm

Xu i completely understand where ur coming from. Its not about what allah has asked of women, its societies views on women thats contradicting. Ok for example, my parents want me to get an education, if they could have it their way they would want me get a medical degree...by the same token, i think they would start to get worried if i wasnt married by 26..now does that make sense? communities praise women who are highly educated but look down on women who work and raise their kids at the same time saying that she isnt a good wife or mother, another contradiction...it goes on and i dont know about everyone else but frankly im confused

Life shouldnt be so rigid, i wouldnt mind someone with a harvard degree but if not that doesnt necessarily mean that person isnt intelligent...a degree doesnt=intelligence I think if someone is witty, well read, sharp and life smart that is more than enough...