ameenah enjoy yr stay sis, loads of good maqaayad, lol we love our food and aint apologise for it. princess_sexy, if u ever hit london,,,,,u will be welcomed with muufo and suqaar u will love it,,,,,,,it is like ceel gaab,,,,,but there are great places to visit, not to mention we throw amazing wlc to london parties,,let us know when!

S/A W/R W/B brother zaki, i think this is splended idea, men need to talk, well actually they need to learn how to discuss issues relating men. however so far, seems like u hitting yr head in a brick wall,,,,,,,ninba waxbaa u daran,,,,,u saw what shyhem wanted to talk about, it is debatable, is it big/is it small? but i hope there are more pressing matters to discuss. i think u need the ladies though,,,so dont discriminate,,,,,,,u need us to keep the conversation rolling

kkkkkkkkkkk Ameenah,,,u had me stitches i dont know where u guyz are but down here living next to the queen,,,,,i mean london there are practically every weekend a wedding,,,,so plently of places to practice. i dont know buraanbur, but my mom is a fine jumper, i always wonder how she manages kkkkk. i used to be good at niiko,,,,,but then i lost my shubby (fat)**** somewhere along the way, now i can shake it,,,,but there aint many waves going seriously girls,,,,it is our duty to keep the tradition going and to pass on to our daughters, so let the gurbaan beat.

salaaaaaam all, u see mizz unique, sister, i do admit that education could be a barrier but it need not be big one, yes she is educated, no he aint, but that does not mean he can not, no one said the guy is silly, given the opportunity he can be anything and everything, remember any ugly duckling can be prince charming mizz,,,u also mentioned that they might not have anything in common or be unable to communicate effectively, this with all respect i think,,,,,well let me give u an example, a girl got masters in law, her guy did architecture,,,,most of the time he does not know what she is talking about, just as she has no idea what he does, but that does not stop them, after all they both educated, macaaney what iam trying to say is lets not discriminate. marriage is more than shahaado, it is effort and selfless act of commitment, two people can remind individual and do their thing,,,,yet have a life together. lets give the brother a chance, i aint saying they should get married right away, iam saying she should look beyond,,,,see what the guy is like

salaam all, i think u guyz missing the point, some of yous responded saying education is gonna big big barrier, i totallly disagree, yes it will be hard for the brother to adopt, yes it will take time, but no nothing can not be undone, english is easiest language to learn, if he can learn germany, then so he could english. one more thing guyz, many of you said they totally opposite, but duuuuuuuuh, opposites attract, even if she makes more money or has bigger status, so what!!!!! :rolleyes: this is what i call somali xaasidnimo, an educated guy can marry a girl who can not write her name, then we go, ooooooh he will help her out, why can't this phd lady not do the same to him, help him out to reach his potential. bottomline is forget this ego, it should not be a big factor who makes the most, who is the breadwinner! that is ofcourse as long as the gentleman is hard working and willing to adopt and improve pls tell your cousin to explore her feelings

salaaaaam walaaley, first of all,,,,,marrying your cousin is not haram as u mentioned above. i think your cousin should let her guard down and try to explore if those feelings are real. i can understand where she is coming from, after all she is educated and he is not, so obviously there is a gap, but as they say no bridge is too wide to cross, love comes from unexpected corners and if it is any comfort, it is not too late to educate him, or bring him into same level of understanding as her, it seems they already are in same wave. tell your cousin education is not about degree, there are many men with phd and yet who are dhooros, dhago adag, marka abaayoy, she should go for it but with a causion, as u said the guy is family and onething u hate about getting involved with family members is that everyone gets involved. but she got to find out or she might miss out big time

OG-moti,,,,,,sweety,,,,,,i look up those posters everytime i come online and they crack me up,,,,,,,,a job welldone lol

salaaaam all, sis Ameenah this was truely interesting article which reflected closely at what is happening within the somali community in Europe, specially in london. the article mentioned few of the problems faced at married couples and how hard it is to adopt into this western world. i think the main problem is confusion, mixing religion with culture, and the inability of many couple to separate the traditional roles of men and women. it is true that back home most men were the providers, and women had all the time to tend to the children and the home. things have changed, but it is a choice, to make it for better or for worse. as a women i believe that women should chase their dreams, as many sisters mentioned above there is nothing wrong with been feminist, but it should not be at the cost of your marriage. i think everything can be compined, ambition and good marriage, but there is a limit and i found many women cross the line, making the man inadequate. i dont have to stress the importance of the religion, ilaah raaliyo hanaga dhigo, nin qeyr qaba oo wax garad ahna hanoo sahlo finally i would like to tell my sisters, that we all should do our best to give our kids good and secure upbringing 'ie a father', ayuuto iyo aroos la aado it is not gonna make them happy. may god show us the right path. Ask yourself, do u really want your man inuu jiko kula galo, adigoo caafimaad qabta,,,,,,if u sick, pregnant it is understandable,,,,the whole household thing does not take more than 2 hours, saxan bariis la karsho iyo sariir la hurgufo, marmarsiyo ma ahan :rolleyes:

salaaaaaaam, just like the other 2 sisters said,,,,,macaanto,,,,guurka waa calaf,,,,,,,kii laguu qorey ma gafaysid, 26 is not old,,,,,just think this way,,,,,instead of thinking the quality and quantity of men approaching you has decreased, remind yourself, that now u got more to offer, good and bright future, and believe me alot of men want educated and religious girl rather than one who is unable to spell her name correct. go out, enjoy yourself, just because you are last one to get married in your circle does not mean you the least, it meant you aim higher and have more to offer.

kkkkkkkk hadana kkkkkkkk hadana kkkkkk alright one last time kkkkkkkkk

s/a zakariye, bro it was honest mistake,,,,,nt many pple have juxa as a name,,,,,,but it was my mom's idea of joke ,,,,i guess the joke is on me! nin yaaban, walalo,,,u got many of us talking,,,,that is what counts, different minds, different ideas......to me marrying multiple spouses, is fine, just be upfront about it,,,,,,if u are man enough to marry two or more,,,,be a man and tell her about it, just dont lie and hide, qayaano ma fiicna, and soon or later it will catch up.

zakariye,,,,,,,walalo,,,,,,first of all,,,,,,if a somali lady is happy with the arrangment,,,,and u can afford i will say go for it, but ogow qalbi labo uma qeybsamo,,,,,cirweynaantada will be to the detriment of some of the family. be fair second,,,,,,iam a lady, so marrying more than once is strictly out of question just this Q,,,,,when u dating if u tell a girl,,,,,,hey lady are u willing to share,,,,,,ilaah aan kugu dhaarshee how many of them will say YES :rolleyes:

barwaaqo, sis,,,,i dont know about that,,,,,but is surely deserves some research, i will get back to u :confused:

shaka zulu, man what u got again me and my love story,,,,,,,,why tell him to find something real,,,,,,hope u aint implying that uam fake :mad:

ok girl, this was great idea to share how we all deal with it, couple of u mentioned the gudniin, which obviously plays major part, but other women suffer from it too. painkillers, some aromatherephy thing help, i even heard that taking the compined pill reduced heavy bleeding and cramp. so that might be a though,,,if u dont think going on the pill taboe u could try it. after marriage,,,,,,,does periods pain get lesser? i heard many pple say it does not,,,,,,just the same, however,,,sometimes having good diet and exercising is good way of dealing with forthcaping mentrual pains.

nin yaaban,,,,,,,walaalow yaab tire waa ilaahey, i wont comment into the religion side of this,,,,,basically u are allowed 4 wives,,,,but there are conditions,,,,,,,if u cannot satisfy those requirements and conditions,,,i suggest qof bina aadan ah xaq haka galin,,,,iimaankaaga sugo, alxamdu dheh with what u got. traditionally back home,,,,,yes there were men with more than one wife,,,,but lets be real,,,,,those men had work, and they could afford not only to house, feed and take care of the wives,,,,but they could provide for the offsprings,,,,,,here is a Question,,,,,how will u provide,,,,and dont say irsaqa alaa haya,,,,,i know that but ilaah wuxu ku dhahay dadaal waa kula jiraaye.so if u thinking of getting hitched many times and supporting them by showing them the welfare office,,,,,then i suggest u forget the idea,,,that is if u entertaining,,,, to all men,,,,i will say,,,,one good wife, aa kugu filan, be picky, have iimaan, ilaahey aan idin deeqee,,,,,,,,,peace :rolleyes:

this is what i dont understand,,,,,,before u fall for a guy,,,,,tell him how u feel about certain things,,,,,so that later u dont have to face awkward situations,,,if he knows the NO-GO areas,,,,he wont be tempted. anyway sister,,,,,it is not too late,,,,tell him u are not into,,,,it is yr life, yr body,,,,,u are the AMIIR. he does not show understanding,,,,,tell him to hit the Hway, he aint worth yr breath,,,,let alone yr time.

as soon as i heard the shop was in london,,,i hopped on the undeground,,,boy was i so disappointed,,,,,but never mind,,,,it aint first time a man let me down :rolleyes: moti,,,,OG-girl asked you,,,what have u got against women? lool am starting to wonder myself. but hey,,,,,,here is a though,,,,women are hard working, smart, love kids,,,,many of them get good pay,,,,,why on earth should they not want more,,,,,,,all that mentioned is something they have/do daily,,,,,,,,why not go for te extra-something factor,,,,,,lets look up ladies,,,,,there must be something more

moti,,,,,i could not help but nod my head from the begining of the email,,,,,u dumped her,,,,man i demand u write her a long email full of apology,,,,and applauding,,,she covered all bases, bless her.

zalaaaaam all OG-moti,,,,,man,,,,,oh my is all i can say few if not all got where u coming from,,,,,,sweety r wedding is on august,,,that s what is really bothering u right? cause u got to say bye to all that is dear to u,,,,,SOL included Magnoona,,,,got u toooo,,,,,,,OG-moti, u becoming predictable,,,,,that s not good sign lol. and what is with the pic? heaven that is not the one u showed me. moti, onething which is hopeful is about the twins,,,,,but well,,,eeh,,,,,,ooh the chance is one of them might look like u :cool: now let me answer yr Q, i can see it is keeping u awake,,,,,first august is end summer,,,weather is bit good, not hot and not too cold,,,,,as family and friends are back from holidays,,,it is double celebration, by da way mom says dont worry,,,,she will feed them

kix kix kix kix kix walee waa fuurey,,,,,,,,waxa la dhahay dariskaada haduu dagaalkaga rabo dooradaada iga cesho uu ku dhahaaaaaa!!!!!!! try that one. Shyham,,,,,,,,,,i have been sleepy,,,,,,lakin waxa loo dan iyo dig leeyahay,,,,is it my darling OG-Moti,,,,,,man,,,,,,what is with u guyz and chicken? one morething,,,,,,are u really familiar with john locke's work? let me know if the anwer is yes pls,,,,,,,,,nothing kinky,,,,,i just got another theory!

OG-moti,,,,,,,,i told u to stop looking up the sky, let alone talking to blessed, big women, besides i thought i did not like apple-pie,,,,,u love only my bur macsharo and kackac,,,,,,boy if slapping make u dizzy wait for my babis when i see u..... shaka,,,,,,,bro,,,,,,,,u got a point,,,,,,,,this man of mine,,,,,maybe mine is strong word need good slapping but again the heart rules the head,,,,,,maybe about time i let the head rule,,,,,after all the head over-lives/survives the heart........gosh am not making senses,,,that is love for u,,,,makes u wonder in da kalahari desert, anyway,,,if u like a man,,,,u got to take him with his qashin,,,,,,in this case i got to take Moti with his weirdness peace :rolleyes:

OG,,,,,,,,aaaaaaaaaaaaxxxxxx for a fatie who loves stuffing cakes down ma xxxxxxx,,,,iam late again.,,,,,,,,better late then never,,,,,,HAPPY BIRTHDAY SIS.,,,,,,,,may allah bless u with ever fighting spirit,,,,,,guided and always tii dadkeeda anfacda. umaaaaaaaaac

Ayaanick, iam sorry about yr friend, alaha u naxariisto, adigana samir iyo iimaan, life is like that.

gosh,,,,,,,what is up with u guyzzzzzzz!! this was supposed to be a love note to your beloved,,,,not a chitchat about age nor organising a hate group. it is deeply sad,,,,,,,or maybe the joke is on me. pls stay on da subject,,,,,if the guy is old,,,,,,hey u dont have to spend a life time with him Moti,,,,,i thought SOL was part of yr bet projects and past time favourites,,,,but somehow i fail to see words of encouragement, lol. i knew your so called human rights activities will make u so mmmmmpopular