Subxanalaah, Subxanalaah, Subxanalaah…war maxaad sheegaysaaa? MESSENGER, you can’t be serious man? And what do you mean MALAIKA turn out to be the ANGEL OF DEATH, who is she and what has she done to IL CAPO?. Inna Lillahi Wa inaa Ilahi Rajicon!!! Salam! Later

^Simply_the_best From: maxaa kaa galay? …..replace that with Canada plz ….waa is kashiftay … compromise “ehâ€â€¦â€¦.. Oh and for the topic I feel my input is useless here. But, I am equally curious why there isn’t any “Man’s section†on SOL, where guys can discuss Family, fatherhood, Profession, education etc… Salam! Later

AJ….yes it happens, but, if u are expecting a sympathy for guys like Jamac from the ladies on SOL and any other community cyber or the real-world then you are mistaken. A true story, I know this dude who paid the supposed pride’s plane tickets, prepared a fully furnished apartment and other expenses that go alone with it,. As he went to ATL airport to pick her up from Kenya, she had other folks waiting at the same terminal. Unfortunately, he had only a picture of her in his hand since they had never met in face to face, so when he walked up to the lady who he though resembled the picture, she quietly told him, that is not her. Salam! Later

Originally posted by raula: I guess they are still in SOMALIA or in some refugee camp kuwaasna BUUFIS iyo NUUS waaye-waa hadaad xamilli kartid-allaha idiin sahlo Intii aabaarti dabadheer kaso harte baa qurbaha joogaan ma calesh :cool: Raula,....as they say u took the words out of my nomad mouth,,,,But the best of the best Somali woman are in "Baadiye" herding goats, and reciting, who started this topic again? Wiilo? I can only wonder why?

What the rest of us (Somalis) could do is kill these warlords, each Tribe should point blank murder their warlord. This whole government is 100% warlords, it won’t work. Salam! Later

I hate two things in this world Pork and Ethiopian government, Ethiopia's middling with the internal affairs of Somalia is like Israel naming the successor of Arafat after his death and Palestinians letting it happen. In my judgement, we can’t blame Ethiopian government for taking advantage of feeble minded blood thrust warlords, also we can’t blame warlords for take advantage of Somalis who are loyal and worship the symbols of Tribalism, we only have ourselves to blame pll. Salam! Later

Thanks a lot for sharing Salam!

^^^^^ I think most guys go through this….cuz for me teenage yrs my staring was directed to sista’s with tight jeans. Now, seeing a sista with revealing clothes I automatically start sympathizing for the dude she is gona end up with….So, for me the more a sista is covered the more I stare and admire…..it has became an obsession I tell u… But the issue of staring has nothing to do with sexiness, cuz most Somali ladies are pretty and wearing skimpy clothes doesn’t make a lady sexy, but its more of announcing her marketability, u notice in these western countries when ladies get old and their biological clock gets caught up with them they tend to cover more. I can understand teenage girls with loose gear due to the societies we live that would change any one’s culture through TV, Movies and Music, and the peer pressure teenage girls go through. But what I don’t understand is adult Sista’s over 23 and up with skimpy clothes what is the point…and why ? Salam! Later

Qori, A persons life in this world is not stable. One passes through alternating periods of happiness and dismay, strength and weakness. wealth and poverty, health and sickness etc. A true believer is one who maintains a clear level of Eemaan throughout the worldly fluctuations. He continues to remember Allah and ascribe the bounties to Him; and he turns to Him in submission, asking for relief from his affliction. This is described by the Prophet (SAW) who said: " Indeed amazing are the affairs of a believer ! They are all for his benefit; If he is granted ease of living he is thankful; and this is best for him. And if he is afflicted with a hardship, he perseveres; and this is best for him." [ Muslim ] Try this Duca Please: A’oodhu Bi ‘Izzatillaahi Wa Qudratihi Min Sharri Maa Ajidu Wa Uhaadhir. Translation: {I seek refuge in the honour and power of Allah (SWT) from the mischief of the pain which I feel and fear}. Also know this: From the Quran: “If Allah touches you with affliction, none can remove it but He; if He touches you with happiness, He hath power over all things.†(Surah 6, al-An’aam, Verse 17)

Originally posted by Femme_Fatale: Never. Ever...EVER. He/she doesnt care about you...disrespects you...so why not say alhamdullilah that you saw his/her true colours before it was too late and move on? What is there to fight for? A cheater? A liar? A person with a weak character/faith? A person who does not follow their religion/culture? How can you be sure it wont be repeated again? I dont see anything worth tears or anger here. Woow, I love it when same one gets their point across with a little anger. But I agree with you there. Hope we talking about married folks, I was in Ohio yr and half ago when a Somali dude stabbed his wife to death for chatting online to other guys (Allah yaa raxma to her). Even being little suspicious can make same people flip. I think most men flip in these scenarios and do crazy stuff due to the fact that they might be suspicious about their own kids. I believe even if there is a good reason to be little suspicious that calls a reason to depart from that person even if there is 5 kids, cause the mental agony would be unbearable and it would get to a point where they could be suspicious if the kids are theirs, specially if it’s the men who is suspicious. But fighting over a woman Nooo!

WHERE ARE THE GOOD SOMALI MEN? Ladies searching? Didn’t see this coming….. Just as in basic economics if the supply is good ladies trust me the demand would be better, but it was honourable when the demand(good Somali men) searched for his market supplies. But, these days the market economics has been unfairly reversed causing the supply to seek the demand instead of waiting itself to be found. Yet, inflicting more damage to the survival of the family.

Underdog, sxb wlc back from your mini-tour… Yea the Caveman is on his little tour as well but only in Europe. After being in N-America for along time, …I was lucky enough to get out of there last Ramadan, visited few Scandinavian countries and I am in London now. Darn! I am coming back to Jewnited Snaked of America real soon and back to that grinding life we have adapted there. But, I think London is the best part in Europe, you’ll be amazed how Muslims here are respected and admired, the signs of Muslims are everywhere. There is mosque every corner on London, islamic schools, ladies and fella’s with full Islamic attire. I could be wrong but, I think UK could be the only western country where Muslims are so visible. All you nomads out of N-America to UK I would suggest that u visit Wembley district of London, I wouldn’t call this experience sight seeing its more of a Mini-Somalia seeing. UK houses are old as the kingdom itself I think, what a messed up houses, the restrooms are used like we would in small towns in Somalia……I am serous. Hey you’ll at least regain your lost hunger for soccer,, can’t beat that.

This is simply the best audio lecture I have heard in a lone time… Its two part series take your time listening to them, its even an excellent source to in light your non-Muslim co-workers or fellow students. http://www.islamicinvitationcentre.com/index.html?audio/Khaled_Yaseen/Purpose_Life/Purpose_Life.html If you know any particular lecture that you feel captures the hearts & minds of people don’t hesitate to add a link here if its online. Salam! Later

Aamiin..Amazing story!

sheherazade "So tell me guys, do I save my gestures for the women in the community and blank the men entirely? Is it possible for a gal to give to a guy and not have to worry how he will take it?" I believe your intentions where pure, so I wouldn’t accuse you of stereotyping all old men as Grumpy. But, I think you should see these old men as what they really are regardless of old age, I can’t speak for all of them but I believe their natural instinct of being the opposite gender kicks into full force when they see a young lady offering them help. Just like it does when I try to offer my help to an old lady and her initial reaction is stubbornly cling to her purse. Salam! Later

IL CAPO ^^"No, No,his name is Caveman, but the guy sounds like an 80 year old, some one from the past so i heard girls call him Tora Bora" explains Qaac. "No, I can't beat him, he is and old guy with 14 pairs of twins and I heard his wife left him so now he is raising money to go back to Somalia to get married to an innocent girl whom he wants to baby sit all his 28 kids" replies Qac^^ looooooooolz…sxb intaan Tora Bora ku jiray sheekadu idhaaftay…lolz Sujui kaa dhibbadan lama sheegin…sxb laakin if I could count how many times u said “Garisaa†its over 100. waraa u want the Movie or the Book to be based in Garissa?, NO way….taas dagaal aan ka xigaa. sxb Garissa labo mar baan tagay….lets just say, Gabdho Biibitooyin shaah ku gato oo faynuus u shidantahay iyo guys toosh wato oo Ganja afka ugu jirto aa meeshaas ka buuxo..lolz,,, laakiin I can’t hate u 4 that nin home-townkiisa jecel baatahay..

macalimuu, Beautiful Houses and gardens bro...specially the garden surrounding the last pic…woow is this really Xamar?

Nin Sabool ah, Sodog xoolo jecel…iyo Gabar Garaad badan. Nin Sabool ah = Raage Sodoga xoolaha jecel = Cigaal Gabadha Garaadka badan = Hibo Qisadani waxay dhacday damaadkii qarnigii hore, waxaa la yidhi nin(Raage) aad iyo aad sabool u ah baa gabar damcay in uu doono. Markaasuu wuxuu utagay Gabadhii uu rabay aabaheed (Cigaal), markaasu aabaheed u sheegay in uusan ahayn nin Geel leh, ee uu yahay nin haystay xayn ari ah iyo beer uu arigiisa daaqin jiray. Nin ari haystana uu ahaa nin sabool ah xiligaas. Gabadhii aabaheed wuxuu ahaa nin aad u maal iyo xoolo jecel, markaasuu Wiilkii gabadhiisa kasoo doonay ku yiri, adigoon 100 hal iyo rati baarqab ah ii keenin Gabadhayda ku ma siinayo. Raage talaa ku cadaadatay, Xoolo wuxuu kalahaa xayn ari ah oo kaliya 100 hal iyo rati baana lagarabaa. Raage wuxuu u tilaabo qaaday siduu arintaa u fulinlahaa intay ku qaadataba, maadaana Hibo guurkeeda uu aad u damcay, markaasuu wuxuu sameeyay wax alla wuxuu hanti lahaa geel u bedalay. Ehelkiisana intay amaah & deeq Geel u siinkareen ka qaatay, ayuu ugudambayntii isu keenay 100 hal & ratigii. Markaasaa Gabadhii lagu daray isagoo maal aduun cayr ka ah oo beertiisii iyo arigiisii ka gacmo maran. Raage gabadhii wuxuu ag dajiyay nin ugaarsade ahaa, oo isagaba waxba dhaamin. Subaxwalbo aroortii ayuu Raage u ugaarsi tagi jiray duurka si uu reerkiisa u nooleeyo, siduu reerku xaalkaas ugu jiray, ayaa waa dambe waxaa reerkii u soo martiyay Hibo aabaheed Cigaal. Markaasay noqotay in la marti sooro oo la soo dhaweeyo, Habeenkaa uu Cigaal soo hoyanayo, nasiibdaro Raage wax ugaar ah ma uusan soo halin oo isagoo gacmo maran ayuu soo hoyday. Hibo markay aragtay aabaheed oo gurigeeda ugu soo martiyay, ninkeediina uusan wax ugaar ah fiidkii guriga la imaanin. Hibo waxay aaday ninkii dariskooda ahaa oo isaguna ugaarsanjiray, oo kutiri walaaloow aabahay baa noo soo martiyay, Raage na maanta wax ugaarsi ah ma uusan so helin, ee waxaan kaa codsanayaa in aad garab sagaaro aad isiisid si aan ugu kariyo aabahay iyo ninkayga. Ninkii wuxuu ugu jawaabay aan kusiiyee aniga maxaa faa’iido ah oo iigugu jiro. Hibo waxay kutiri wax ala waxaad doonto diyaarbaan kuula ahay, Ninkii wuxuu yiri hadaad wax kasto isiinaysid Waa in aad ila seexataa hada intaadan gurigaada ku noqonin. Hibo waxay ku tiri war hooge taasi dhib maleh oo waxaa ka sii fiican bari markuu Raage ugaarsiga aado ee bal marka hore igu taabo garabka sagaaro aan aabahay iyo ninkayga u shiilee. Hibo garabkii sagaaro markay karisay, oo uu diyaar noqday bay waxay u yeertay ninkii dariskooda ahaa oo ay garabka sagaaro ka soo qaaday sii uu abaheed iyo ninkeeda oola casheeyo. Sadexdii nin markay garabkii sagaaro cuneen oo ka faro xasheen, markaasay Hibo ragii oo wali fadhiya soo dulistaagtay oo ku tiri aduunka sadaxdiinaa ugu caqli xun: 1). Ninkaan ugaarsadaha ah baana idinkugu caqliga xun, oo wuxuu rabaa in gabar 100 hal & Rati baarqab ah laga soo bixiyay in u garab sagaaro ku w**so 1).Asagana ninkayga raage ah baa kasii caqliga xun,..oo reer uu waxay xaalo lahayeen dhiibay ayuu hadana rabaa in uu marti qaad sodogii u sameeyo isagoo ugaarsade ah. 3), Labadiinana aabahay Cigaal baa idinka qacli xun oo reer uu waxay xoolo lahayeen uu ka qaatay, waxay ku noolaadaana u reebin buu marti u yahay oo uu karabaa waxuu cuno. Odaygii Cigaal wuxuu aad oolayaabay gabadhiisa garaadkeeda, markaasuu inta reerkiisii ku laabtay 100kii Geel usoo caliyay dib dambana uusan ugu soo martiyin. Ps. Sidaas bay Raage iyo Hibo caruur badaan oo badan ku dhaldhaleen oo qaarkood laga yaabo kuway sii dhaleen in ay SOL member ka yihiin.. = ) Magac yada jeebkaygaan kala soo baxan, laakiin qisadu waa qiso jirta…

Hasna, Subxanallah….you are telling an equally compelling story and the 16 year old is Somali?,,,Subxanallah…I am too old school to read these… Those juveniles that get locked up sounds like my Old home-town of Ottawa, Canada…but, I could be mistaken. I have heard lately of Somali juvenile offenders filling up jails over there.

^^^ I have heard enough Somali folklore stories not to mess with Dawaco. I am not planning to switch my Nomad name to Diin, So no Comments please. Salam! Later

FF ….excellent piece! *Diamante* Those images are powerful.. “My aunty who went back last year told me that they use oomo iyo saliid mixed together to make some brew they use to kill the fetuses.†Subxanalaah…subxanalaah!….Qiiyamahaa soo dhaw dadoow ilaahay ha laga cabsado…They are doing that in Somalia, don’t even want imagine what our folks are doing right here. "Then we developed the drop into a hanging (embryo), then developed the hanging (embryo) into a bite-size (fetus), then created the bite-size (fetus) into bones, then covered the bones with flesh. We thus produce (Anshaa) a new creature. Most blessed is GOD, the best Creator." [23:14] Quran condemns the killing of born and unborn children in verses (6:151, 17:31,6:140,60:12), i.e. abortion is murder. Here is one of them “You shall not kill any (Nafs) person - for GOD has made life sacred - except in the course of justice……."(17:33)

Silence “It is not man who gave you your rights, but Allah (SWT).†Well, said..Masha’allah The word 'Islam' simply means 'submission', it covers every right that a living human being has men or a women. If we as human’s only followed it perfectly as possible, then we wouldn’t have to read Authors like these who praise Islam and then questioned it,. I myself is aware of the attacks our religious has gone through for the last few years, So for all I know this Author could be sending a subliminal messages to effect our(Muslim) mind and quarrel each other as Muslim men Vs Muslim women. So, brothers and Sisters don’t jump the guns on each other when you read these types of editorial pieces, its these kind of tools westerners have used in the last 100 yrs against us, Please Don't fall into traps. Islam for everrrrrrrrr Salam! Later

Garab Tuujiye ^^Sxb I am learning the SOL community, and thnx for the help laakiin you left one person…adiga.. Legend of Zu, After reading your point-by-point counter-argument I appreciate your insight, but as you can see from my original piece I haven’t stated argument/reasoning for this “trendâ€, I merely asked why more and more people opted for this idea. Nor have I reached any conclusion supporting any particular view. Perhaps the missing piece to ask my question was not presenting polls and data, and then I’ll be more qualified to use the term “trendâ€. Nevertheless, I am glad I didn’t call it “influx†of young, educated brothers heading abroad for wives, but appreciate your reply. The Rendezvous Thanks for sharing that..my Allah(sw) reward you..Aamin!

Its interesting how the Bother was sincere on his intentions, and all of you are making an excuse for her some even suggesting she was following her diin and being Religious. If it was a different circumstance, say you where only driving alone by yourself instead of the friend, mostly likely she’ll jumped the chance. You know how sista’s are "Not-to-be-seen" theory, this whole topic might have been her telling how she met decent and carring brother who save her. Salam! Later

Our best example of marriage in terms of age, our Prophet(cw)’s first marriage was to Khadija he was 25 and she was 40, who you marry and their age is all predetermined by the almighty Allah(sw), its just shows us its all about “Calaf†and nothing to do with plans. max 22 for the ladies?… No! its to the contrary I believe, older, wiser and the more she is prepared for her motherhood. Salam! Later