Thanx alot to the wonderful ladies of somaliaonline; much appreciation on your feedbacks. Brotha_Man; i'm well aware of the codes and regulations of a muslim sistah but the point which you let your decisions elobrate further is and was "do you think an individual should get into a relationship w/ the intension to change the other"? I only brought other scerno's in order for you all to get a clear vision on the difference. AND PLEASE, DISTINGUISH THE DIFFERENCE, I'M NOT BRINGING THE RELGION DOWN; HOW COULD I, I'M A MUSLIM FROM THE CRADLE TO THE CRAVE SO PLEASE DONT WRITE COMMENTS WHICH WILL BE UNUSEFUL TO YOU AND ME.--------& FOR YOU THE BROTHA'S THAT THINK THIS POST WAS MADE TO HATE BROTHA....LETS JUST SAY YOUR ASSUMPTIONS ARE WRONG. THERE'S NO REASON WHY INTELLECTUAL ARTISTIC NOMADS CAN EXCHANGE VIEWS. *1 XXX

"he should have every right to expect that she is excatly that i.e. modest in appreance, covered for the sake of him and their children" Shujui if am not mistaken you said COVER FOR THE SAKE OF HIM AND THE CHILDREN? AND THEN YOU USE THE RELGION AS A BACK UP...YOU NEED TO JUSTIFY WHAT EXACTLY YOU'RE SAYIN...LET ME ASK YOU THIS..YOU LIKE TO BE IN CONTROL..PERHAPS ORDER YOUR SIGNIFCANT OTHER?... DONT GET ME WRONG, SOMALIAN BROTHA'S ARE JUST LIKE ANY OTHER MALES WITH THEIR EGO'S STRING AROUND ON THEIR NUTZ. BIT GRAPHIC BUT THATS EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE...AND I SHOULDT SAY ALL, JUST THE MAJORITY. I BELIEVE A WOMEN SHOULD WEAR THE HAJIB WITHOUT A DOUBT BUT IF SHE SO CHOOSES NOT TO THEN ITS SIMPLY BETWEEN HER AND ALLAH (SWT). SHUJUI LET ME ASK YOU THIS; YOU SAID SOMETHING ALONG THE LINES OF I DID RATHER BE SINGLE THEN TO DATE A GIRL THAT WEARS GAP SHIRTS AND JEANS RITE...THEN ARENT YOU BEING SUPERFICAL AND STEROTYPIN...I EXPECT QUIET MORE IN YOU BROTHA'S HAVEN GIVEN THE EDUCATION AND THE OPPOUNRITY TO BE IN THE WESTERN WORLD. I ONLY COME DOWN HARD ON YOU JUST BECAUSE OF MY EXPECTION.....BUT SINCE WE'RE BEING SO OPEN MINDED AND WHAT NOT. WHY IS THAT BROTHA'S LOOK FOR A SISTAH THAT IS EVERYTHING THEIR NOT WHEN THEY FINISH PLAYING AROUND, BEEN WITH EVERY GIRL ON THE BLOCK ETC...?.WHY WOULD A SISTAH TAKE YOU AS HER HUSBAND?...JUST LIKE IT TAKES YOU GUYS TO GROW UP AND REALIZE HOW YOU SHOULD BE ACTING , WE DO AS WELL. NOTHING HAPPENS OVER NITE, BUT IN FACT GRADUALLY...SO DONT THINK POOOOOF EVERYTHING BECOMES MAGICAL...RELATIONSHIP IS LIKE A JOB, YOU EITHER WORK AT IT OR YOU SIMPLY GET FIRED IN OTHER WORDS DIVORCED. SO YOU ASK US SISTAH WHY WE DONT WEAR HAJIB'S...I ASK YOU' HOW MANY GIRLS ARE YOU PLAYIN DAY IN AND OUT...AND SOMEONE ELSE MENTION THE FACT THAT A GIRL AND GUY ARE IN DIFFERENT AND SHOULD BE JUGDED DIFFERNTLY...BUT TO WHAT EXTEND? *1 XXX

I've contemplated this few times to myself to reason why somalian brotha's say their not intimadated by a female but when in fact they are and yet have the courage to admit it? Secondly this goes out to the brotha's-- do you expect a female to change after you get married?--let me specify change; as in if she was wearing jeans when you met her and now that you married you want her to wear skirts only; her hair being covered but when in fact it wasnt when you first met her and deciced to propose? I cant seem to understand walaahi. I had a guy friend which i litearlly blew up on just the other day just because he had his views of "females being respectable and what not"...he goes into details as to he wants a girl that is confident, relgion and culture orientted? so tell me what that has to do with wearing a skirt?...Yes it did be approapiate but he she doesnt does that totally make her something she isnt.? So then if that is the case; take me for instance, ( just for the record, i care less what opioions you already generated from)...but getting back to what i was saying...i'm very cultural and relgioious orientated, care my self with pride and dignity knowing my roots and as well as have the menatlity of a western>? So what in fact makes me in diff from what he said?...i' mean he is not your regular shiek himselve but yet he demands his wife to have that plus more?...make sense to you ?...how i see it is simply if you're not all that you want in the other, dont bother to bring it up.---oh what i fail to say earlier was the fact that he wants a girl to wear a skirt simply because she doesnt come off as a "distrubted" not for relgious reason or any sort cuz if had he brought that up, i did have nothing to argue but just fact that he failed to say that; it extremely got me pist.--- ---====-so i guess after all what am asking you is, do you think someone should have the intension of changing the person their with or go with the flow even though it doesnt meet your critia>?....=====--- & if you love someone should something like that break you. I believe people change, and when it comes to marriage i lead towards positive. In fact, both the men and women will change for certain after their first child... I believe you have enuff thoughts and comments to reflect back so do that and stay positive *1

Sup nomads, isnt it obvious that PAKI is in need of attention and for you guys to keep bringing his name here and there will only seem like you're inquiring more of who this "person" is. -- If you want to ignore PAKI's views and comments then i suggest you simply IGNORE what he says; or unless you guys are wanting to supply the attention.---and so or later, he'll disappaer like ghost. *1 xxx P.s PAKI just for further referrence, i wont reply to anything you may say, so dont take the effort to jot a word or two .........

Your name of UNKNOWN TO YOU ALL (LOL) makes you easy-going and refined, but detracts from your physical vitality. You desire all the finer things in life--lovely clothes, home, furniture, and environment What can i say, never was a big fan of these ridicous tests but damn it even surpised me how much it was on the nail.... what can i say "i'm easy-going and refined"...... like the finder things in life"...Pretty much summed me up in few words.

WHAT WOULD I CHANGE FROM MY LIFE....ABOUSTELY NOTHING.LOL. NAAH BUT THERE ARE FEW ASPECTS OF MY LIFE I'M NOT TO HAPPY WITH BUT FOR SOME REASON IF IT WERENT FOR THOSE THINGS I WISHED DAY N NITE TO CHANGE THEN I WOULD OF SIMPLY LOST THE TRUE ME. SO I BELIEVE THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON...HAVING A HUGE FOREHEAD FOR EXAMPLE; MEANS MORE CAPACITY IQ YOU'RE CAPABLE OF ETC...

Fail to report you (Naziha & Pricness-lady) but protesting does for infact make a difference in which my nomads have emphasised. Both of you said " whats is the point of protesting while the war has started and is still continue"-- 1st Sencro'- just say we refuse to protest and regard anything we may hear from freedom fighter and news are implying.--what happens next?. Simple; war goes to go on undoubtly and even prohaps start a new convention of array.--when lead to one war to another. 2nd Sencro'- Say we choose to fight, protest aganst the war. Yes our words wont be heard immediately, who knows it may take from a week to a year but trust if we all UNION it will be heard.--time is vital but the actions in the aftermath will surely recover the lost souls. SO NOW YOU ALL HAVE A CHOICE TO PROTEST ( TAKE A CHANCE IN MAKING A DIFFERENCE; CHANCE BEING THE KEY TERM) OR SIMPLY IGNORE ALL ASPECTS OF THE NEWS AND PRO PROTESTERS?...BUT I BELIEVE AS MUSLIMS, WE'RE AGAINST KILLING OF ANY KIND AND IF WE CAN DO ANYTHING IN TRYING TO STOP OR PROHIBIT IT FROM HAPPENING AGAIN THEN WE SHOULD TAKE SOME SORT OF ACTION FOR OUR BELIEVES.--WONT CHA WANT TO BELIEVE THERE ARE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD LOOKING OUT FOR YOU IF YOU WERE EVER TO BE PLACED IN IRAQ...HOPE IS WHAT GETS UP AND LEADS US; LETS NOT TRY AND KILL THAT FOR SUFFERING PEOPLE OUT THERE. *1 XXX Naziha,princess-lady

Underdog.... what can i say'...we're one of a kind spieces. Cant hate us cuz you know deep down you dont want a Fag and cant love us with our rules---THEN DANG, WHAT ON EARTH DO YA'LL WANT.? ---UMMMM COULD IT BE CONTROL; YEAH GOTCHA THERE. BUT SADLY, IT CANT WORK..SO WHATCHA WANNA DO BOUT IT THEN>...WE'RE EVERYTHING OUR EARLIER GENERATION NEVER THOUGHT. SO WITH FEW WORDS EITHER LOVE THE RULES OR BOUNCE !! LOVE THE MIX MESSEGES CUZ IT MAKES ALL THE FUN WHEN YOU'RE TRYNA SOLVE IT OR DONT PLAY IT AT ALL. I'M MAN HATING TODAY' DONT MIND ME LOOOL *1 XXX

mashallah...amiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiin *1 xxx

Marriage- Walaahi i often find myself acting like a brotha (running away of the thought) commitment, spend rest of your life with one person. Then again i'm like yeah it wont too bad, someone you can call on your own, someone to love and loves you back. Even thought i mingle with the thought of getting married one day, sad to say its not in my agenda anytime soon. I've no set days to when i should get married but general idea. I believe my education is important and undoubtly allah willing i'm finish my masters -hey maybe my Ph.D- -- and am true believer that if someone loves you now..no reason why they cant love you when you're together. ---So for all you brothers and sisters there, dont think of life as your born, you explore life and than get married....there's just so much out there that we're not open to n i KNOW education will get us there with lil bit of patience and determination. like my quote says.......whomever said love strikes once is bs'in...explore and yu just might find the identical one to your taste *1 xxx

Najmo - where did you get this article exactly lool...i must say it was entertaining reading it thou-. i picked up on some of the things said which in contrast my friends often say... and by the way- haven tha been your first post...WELCOME TO THE NOMAD LAND- WHERE WE NEVER STOP POSTING... *1 xxx

The definition of terriost could mean either or all;someone who has different enthcity in comparision to the place which they attack. Someone who is indifferent of how social,economy and political laws are being prejudged. & simply having the intension to corrupt a state, country, terrory for whatever the reasonings might be. But being a muslim isnt being a terriost nor does it mean one individual doing all the acts which our relgion by far restricks as from. So haven been knowlelged nomads, we should be at the stage to recognize as well as fix what we see as "bad". *1 xxx

Millenium; thanks for informing your nomads- much appreciated from everyone here on somaliaonline. -Interesting, how a tiny thing can have a huge effect on our lives----like my girl india arie says "all the little things"........ *1 xxx

kool_kat lazyiegrl Kool-kat, before i go on{ gotta say, i agree with your reasonings} and secondly lazyiegirl, dont be superfacil like tha. Not everything is shown physically and if you were any different than your typical halimo you did notice the difference.-- anywho let me repeat it for all you that think beauty is in the inside only or outside....but contrary its both'---cant have one without the other. Depends on your personality for people to get a sense of the beauty tha is inside you and looks to attract that personality before it goes any depper. Just hope you all get the bist of the pieces of what defines beauty...cuz truely all those lil traits will add up to be something meaningful than if say, you look at someone just because "wow their hot"...wont go far and we knoe it, lets just start reasoning with our heads before it goes down to something else. ----------hollaaaaa

Ladies, am glad to see our personal hygeiene is under cover but lets start working on our brothers before it becomes late for them---what do you all say lol ?. Honestly though, why is that i'm seeing sistah's coming up with bigger and better perfume products tryna beat the other sistah's list than our brothers.? ----anywho' here's my list, which i have yet seen anyone mention------ ENVY By Gucci ETERNITY By Calvin Klein, OBSESSION By Calvin Klein,

Che-Guevara quiet honestly i dont think there is an vivid explanation for your question but all the reasons why we should be appreicating our language and culture. & nasra hon, - lets be realistic for a second shall we...would you be willing to teach your children (god hoping you get it) the western tradition even haven liven there as well.? _-least you can do is have some sort of culture engraved in their heads.---i did like to stay in touch but i gotta run off....but keep me posted.

Eh what's gawning ya'll.. Phazes do ya thang brotha's. Gotta say i was mad suprise when i heard it, ya'll got potentials but make sure to not forget ya roots while you doing it. And i believe my fellow nomad's have emphasised and summed it up on "how there always remain hater while you still in the game" but it's how you get up that measures your strength, so with that said, hope all is well and all that comes with ....oh bef4 i forget, Kashflow, whateva happen to what ya promised...i hope putting ya on the spot changes sumthing ...lol one xxxxx

poetress well said girl; i too ,can't emphasis on the importance of union and education. Without repeating what you all have said'- just don't forget your heritage and relgion. One xxx

well said my nomad's ! But we must remember partying becomes haram when for instance' a sistah is getting her groove on the floor and the brotha's are doing nothing but starring & thinking of god knows what and vise versa...it doesn't necessary mean that having a good time is haram...cuz we all know life would be tad bit doll na'mean- just lil informative for my nomads...few more days of ramadan' keep hanging there..... one xxxx

I personally think it's time investment. If he/she commits to marriage eitha for, money,looks,family background, etc without really knowing the real person inside than of course divorce will be the lead to it all. But on the other hand, if time is well invested ' say bout 2yrs if not more than i would those couple would have more understanding level, and comfort wise than someone one else in need or rush to get married eitha their getting too old n can't 'flip it' or simply beacuse of a urge.' But good topic thou, even thou i don't live in the minnesota area's i have seen my shares of divorced nomads because of language difficulties as well. Take this for instance, well educated brotha is need to get married and by all means looks back home as a way of fishing out one, and when she is brought face to face n dilma's occur because the mentality level is distant.. so for you single peeps, make sure you plan on getting married once and take your time rather than rushing to something that doesn't exist...what was tha quote again ... " what comes in fast , goes out fast" Enough said one xxxxxx

soul lady' no doubt in otha words' Education' is the best weapon against ignorance...so use up the opporiunity tha aren't given to many children out there one xxxx

hon' as it has been said'- the only, ONLY reason man were given that prilvage back in the day was because the populations of MUSLIMS were down and allah wanted US to have atleast a fighting chance in comparsion to the christains and jewis's but as i can see' our population as muslim is good as it stands now (top 2) and if any men thinks he can handle junglin two or more females is dead wrong' cuz than it's his hormones which are takin ova not his true essence - love for one ... but allah has neva said anythin bout a sistah accepting the fact of our husbands marryin otha wife's- we are in the 21centurny n there something tha change' and this being the first one xxxxxx

appreciate all of your inputs and outs lol..guess it's been awhile since i last checked my topic i suppose' but like you all said' its us who make rich..but my real question was- would you wanna scramble your life hoping to catch a producers eye or learning towards your masters and eventually get a well respected job? and many of us would rather take the short cut but at the end' is it all worth it...? once again; thanx for the feedbacks and ramadan wanagasan everyone one xxxx

gentle-hather; does that really exist...a man expressing their true feelings as you stated above...i think not'...he's eitha a gay or out of this world... good luck one xxxxxx

Baydan, unquestionably hijab by far has create us an identity in which we some take for granted,; but i believe you missed my theory of this topic...like i said earlier' hijab+ how one carries his/herselve has a greater massage than simply wearing a hijab without digity. Baashi' in reference to what you said- i believe that not only has faith motivated our true soul but hereafter it'selve...the challenge of reaching jahna. one xxxxx