Its true what has been mentioned: we should not generalise. Nevertheless, from my experience, Somali Men have been known to be dominant in the past, and still are now if you go back home. However, since coming to a more gender-equalised country, they have lost this "right" to dominate. This then results in frustration, which in turn may result in insecurity. I believe its due to the collectivist culture of our ancestors. But its not only race which can make people insecure. A new job, relationship, a new move...generally a new environment or a lack of control leads to insecurity/lack of self esteem. This plagues both Men and Women, because its not only Women who experience this; Men either hide it better or we just dont look for it. Simply because Men are egocentric and their place in society is supposedly the "strong one", thus they are not supposed to show any emotion. This is evident in both the individualistic culture and the collectivist culture. So it aint just Somali Men...its ALL Men... (The above comments are not just "hoity-toity" from the backstreets...they are based on psychological and sociological empirical evidence) ~harmonyangel~ PS: Sweet_Muna... LOOOLZ, I admire your gall, girl, commenting on tha man's picture like that!!! You rock!

Instinct-Poet, thanks for the compliment, much obliged...I do try To get to tha brains, don't u have to be attracted to the beauty first? ..just a question.. Afrikan.Theory, this is a good question, but does this statement mean that you will dismiss anyone who is not in your preferred "type"? Of course, I'm also just asking a question... ~harmonyangel~

This is a good question, actually. To be truly honest, and side stepping the ethically right thing to say; the hard truth is that most (and I mean a big majority) judge people based on looks. There is no such thing as “Love at first sight” simply because what you feel at that moment is pure lust and sexual chemistry. “Love” comes much later—if at all—when both parties have gotten to know each other sufficiently enough to express their emotions in this way. But to get back to the topic at hand, lets look at a common scenario; you are out having fun, letting your hair (or weave ) down,” in da club” getting your groove on, when suddenly a certain individual catches your attention. Now, this individual does not meet your usual physical requirements, but because he/she is so persistent you’re finally persuaded in giving your number out. Then after this individual has left, you see another that most certainly does meet your requirements. Now be honest, how long will it take you to smile, flash some abs, flutter your eyelashes, give out your number and whatnot? Not as long as before, right? The truth is, when you meet someone who is not very good-looking (in your book) the comment that will most like slip out is “he/she is not my type” or “We’re just good friends.” Later on, you might start liking that person in a more-than-friends way, but at first that is not on the cards. Why? Because you judged them by looks. Now I am not saying that this is everyone. In fact, personally, no matter how cute I find a gentleman, I still dont like him, until I get to know him. Consequently, the ones I like have always been friends anyway. But then again, what is beauty anyway? It varies for everyone, and each person has his or her own personal tastes. But here I am talking about the Classic Model look, that Hollywood Beauty. “Beauty” only matters for as long as you dont know a certain person very well. Lately, it seems that the more beautiful people are, the less nice they seem to be. It seems as if being beautiful is a Licence for Bytchy-ness that can also double as a Licence for Survival, as being beautiful seems to be more and important. The phrase “only the strong survive” has turned into “only the beautiful survive”. So is beauty seen as more important? Yes, I think it is. And this affects women much more than men. You only have to look at the employment prospects of both sexes. The girl with that long, blond hair and long legs is much more likely to get a job than the short, slightly overweight girl, even though the latter has a PHD and whatnot. Whereas for men, looks do not matter as much. Then again, dont get me wrong, I am by no means saying that smart people are ugly, or dumb people always beautiful. To finally answer your question, for me it’ll always be brains. I would much rather have a decent, deep conversation than positive reinforcement and social acceptance. To hell with those who do not “accept”…its my life. Then again…there are those that like the barking of dogs… ~harmonyangel~

lol..."A" miyaa? ...maybe you should go for another appointment soon, then... just jokin! ~harmonyangel~

hhhm, wedding *looks hard* damn, I cant even see that on the horizon! But yeah, y'all are right. I'm not into Somali weddings, simply because when you've seen one, you've seen them all. Personally, I've never been to one, but the video tapes were more than enough :eek: Well, I havent really thought about my wedding, but for one thing, my sis Nafisa is right, I do NOT want it at night. The ceremony itself should be during the day. I love nature, so it would have to be somewhere outside, preferably in a park, near a lake...or you could travel abroad...and do it in style...say Africa...maybe near a waterfall..I would like a live band, to play somali music as well as western...also a bit of jazz to slow dance to...horse carriages are beautiful, and the dressing would most certainly be formal...its not about turing up in tracks/trainers/caps, like what seems to be happening a lot...from what I've gathered from the video tapes, the faraxs turn up and finish all the bariis that was meant for the bride and groom and the xaliimoos are there to gossip and see if the next xaliimoo looks better than her...such going-ons change the whole purpose of the occasion; its about LOVE, people! And Shyhem, money aint an issue. If you wanna show the world your love, and you got the cash, then why not do it with the biggest bang and splash that cash?? But I do see your point, where those involved dont have a furnished porperty to sleep in and yet are spending money they dont have. Anyway, the ideas are endless...its just depends on where your tastes run. ~harmonyangel~

LOOOOOOOOOL, shyhem, u a trip! *laughs hard* I can see this is a Curriculum Vitae for our Somali bro's applying for a date with a sista I'm sure it'll be much obliged... Just one question: Are all YOUR boxes ticked? ~*~harmonyangel~*~

If I could fly away into another world, it would be..one where everyday would be a wonder, and it would be a pleasure just to exist. My phrase: If I could choose to up and leave my life now, I would go....and do.... ~*~harmonyangel~*~

To all those who think that a platonic relationship between males and females does not exist: Step up, step up, it is the 21st century!! The notion of fancying all your opposite-sex friends is so out-dated. There are girls who prefer to be friends with guys simply because some girls are known to be *****y and therefore they're trying to avoid conflict. Some guys like being friends with girls because it offers them a mental balance, so that they can see both views (this also counts for the girls) Personally, I do agree that males & females can be just friends, because my best friend is male, and we have been best friends for 5 years. And there is NO WAY in hell we fancy each other, because there is just FRIENDSHIP love between us. We have a close, mutual connection, which has nothing to do with sexual desires. the Q that makes me laugh is what the hell am i gonna talk about with you? me and my friends we constantly talk about girls, sex and more girls so what's your answer gonna be if i ask you wich positions do you prefer? coz i know you are Somali and you gonna reply .. I DON'T KNOW... I NEVER HAD SEX AND I'M A VIRGIN.. so me and a girl we can be lovers and friends but only a friendship ain't gonna work..LOL CLOWN, I must say that is a rather fitting name for you ( ). Just a question, are those topics all you talk about? Because, as the smart man that I'm sure you are, you must have better topics to discuss amongst your friends. And did you ever think that a female friend can benefit you? Maybe she could give you an insight into the way females think. And then perhaps, you wouldn't sound adverse to UNISEX relationships. Lastly, maasha allah its great you've met some girls who actually have morals and refused to jump in the sack. But these are just my opinions, and it is a free world... harmonyangel ~harmony by heart, angel within~

shaah----> xawaash lol, funny game Just a question, u seem to be the Games Master, is that all u do in ur lectures???lol ~harmonyangel~

Ali G is the bomb!!!!! funniest shiidh I have ssen for a while. But did you guys forget SMACK THE PONY and GOODNESS GRACIOUS ME? That shit had me lauging so hard my gogoraad fell off...lol... Tha Ali G movie was the best tho, went to tha cinema to c that and all I saw was white poeple dressed up as lookalikes...lol...and tha movie was so funny, I think I was the loudest person laughing... especially when he took off his hat and the afro came out from no where

I just started a site onblackplnet.com bout a week ago and I aint had much time to fix it up proper so it is still VERY VERY VERY much under construction, but dont worry, you'll hear from me soon, cos I'm planning to make it da bomb! Nuff Said ~harmonyangel~ ~an angel by heart~harmony within~

I just started a site onblackplnet.com bout a week ago and I aint had much time to fix it up proper so it is still VERY VERY VERY much under construction, but dont worry, you'll hear from me soon, cos I'm planning to make it da bomb! Nuff Said ~harmonyangel~ ~an angel by heart~harmony within~

I just started a site onblackplnet.com bout a week ago and I aint had much time to fix it up proper so it is still VERY VERY VERY much under construction, but dont worry, you'll hear from me soon, cos I'm planning to make it da bomb! Nuff Said ~harmonyangel~ ~an angel by heart~harmony within~

I just started a site onblackplnet.com bout a week ago and I aint had much time to fix it up proper so it is still VERY VERY VERY much under construction, but dont worry, you'll hear from me soon, cos I'm planning to make it da bomb! Nuff Said ~harmonyangel~ ~an angel by heart~harmony within~

Hey, just found out about this...come oooon girls!!! Lets beat the faraxs!!! harmonyangel ~an angel by heart~harmony within~

Hey wassup y'all?? I'm new here, just joined and just thought I should introduce myself. So far I'm having a good time reading the posts and stuff. Just looking for some like-minded somalians to have a lil fun with. I'm always up for a chat so feel free to message me and talk about normal stuff. Peace y'all harmonyangel

Hey wassup y'all?? I'm new here, just joined and just thought I should introduce myself. So far I'm having a good time reading the posts and stuff. Just looking for some like-minded somalians to have a lil fun with. I'm always up for a chat so feel free to message me and talk about normal stuff. Peace y'all harmonyangel

Hey wassup y'all?? I'm new here, just joined and just thought I should introduce myself. So far I'm having a good time reading the posts and stuff. Just looking for some like-minded somalians to have a lil fun with. I'm always up for a chat so feel free to message me and talk about normal stuff. Peace y'all harmonyangel

Hey wassup y'all?? I'm new here, just joined and just thought I should introduce myself. So far I'm having a good time reading the posts and stuff. Just looking for some like-minded somalians to have a lil fun with. I'm always up for a chat so feel free to message me and talk about normal stuff. Peace y'all harmonyangel