^^^ Thank you, flying-still, and yes, I can confidently say I will stick to my own path (IF ALLAH DICTATES AND IF I EVER HAVE ANY KIDS). Otherwise, I will d@mn well try!! There's too many preaching what they can't practice, and I would like to make a difference. In my own life at least.

Ah, philosophy! This is so interesting! I dont think we can think about nothing. I think: at the moment when we think we are thinking about nothing, we are only actually thinking about thinking about nothing. Get it? I'm not sure I do :confused: Seriously though, I think the human mind thinks about way too many things at the same time. That is why we are complicated beings. When someone says "What are you thinking?" And whoever intended answers "Nothing." I think they mean they weren't thinking about one general thing, but rather a whole myriad of things. With your exercise, the moment when all three bubbles are burst is miniscule, too small to actually recall what you were thinking. Almost immediately, I bet you thought "Hey, I'm thinking about nothing!" therefore ruining the nothingness you were thinking about. Another thing, what is nothing? Is it a black space? But isn't that something? Then is it clear air? But that is something too, isn't it? See, this is far too complex. Humans have labelled EVERYTHING, effectively ruining "the nothing" by already labelling it. Was that confusing? I think I'm confused myself My two-pence...

Salaam all, Interesting topic, flying-still, thanks for that. Many interesting replies too. However, I am not sure I agree with certain things: flying-still: Do you see yourself raising your kids the same way you were raised? I can honestly say NO. My mom is a great lady, very nice, but we are completely different. I dont think nor act the way she does, and we have different dimensions on life. These are mostly brought by the differences in our lives. I have mainly grown up in Europe whereas she is from the "old school" back home. Even though she has give me the values of religion, morals, etc, I still wouldn't choose her method of bringing up children. And yet, I still love her As for my dad :rolleyes: (Nuff said) I believe children will always carve out their own path in life. For instance, children that grow up with alcaholic parents usually end up not drinking a drop of it in their lives. If your parents bring you up unpleasantly, it will be the most logical answer (and the most easiest) that you would mirror their behaviour. This theory stems from the Social Learning Theory of psychology, which states that you observe, imitate and model someone important to you, in this case : the parents. However, this is not neccessarily the case. Many children (as stated above) will go completely the opposite way of their parents behaviour. These children will want to give THEIR kids the chances they themselves never had. Malikah: but it definite has a major impact on who they become, or don't become. I agree. That is where Individual Differences come in. A bad experience can result in a good outcome. Flying-still: Where are our nomad brothers...don't they have something to say about this? That proves their credibility then... Just kidding, guys. Let's hear your views.

exactly that is what i'm really in to cuz i compare everything to him!!! which is really bad but i can't helped. that is what i can call a true love. Somebody got it bad, huh? Sis Ameenah, I agree with you. It is truly an illusion. True love is nothing more than a set of feelings confused for something profound when in reality they’re nothing more than vague affection and sexual chemistry . Fate and all was invented to make some people feel better for choosing losers. Damn, I sound cynical. I beg thou forgiveness... ~harmonyangel~

^^^ why do have to remind be the bahal being who slapped me You are accusing me of being hateful, and yet you call those ladies bahal? Am I the only one who sees something wrong with this? We have a saying over here: Practice what you preach!!! Also, thank you very much for giving me a last chance (*end sarcasm*), but no thank you. I stand by my statement.

^^^ I agree with Oppionated, there are many different controversies to this, and everyone seems to have a different opinion. And everyone seems to be convinced that their opinion is the RIGHT one :rolleyes: . Quote from Mangoona-girl: YOu become so rovolved around the passion that you have for music and your favorrite singer/group that you forget God. I'm not sure I agree with this. I love music, it's certainly a passion for me, but I can honestly say I would never ever forget my God for something as earthly as music. If someone is of a certain mindstate that makes them so susceptible to outside influences, and so weak that they cannot listen to music and still have Allah in their heart, then that has nothing to do with music (as an example of a certain outside influence). This has to do with that person's weak character. This, I find, is a mistake many people make, to assume that most people are too easily influenced. So yeah, music does have a place in my heart, but Allah owns the whole of my heart.

Qoute from Moti: Harmoneyangel, .. i strongly reject that and ask to reconsider ur position and post another reply saying the girls was wrong doing what she did cause she lost a great friend... Oooh, I am so sorry, I was wrong. Yes, the girl is wrong and you are right... :rolleyes: NOT!!! I believe the girl was right. She was only trying to do her job as a decent human being by educating a lost brother...too bad the lesson didn't go down too well, as you disowned her (typical male). such hate coming from ur skin and u say u are an angel Hate is such a harsh word...try dislike. harmonyangel

LOL @ stpaulchick, first time I saw it it was in the middle of the night and it freaked me out so badly, I nearly knocked the computer down Try this for humour: Funny And this is neat: Funky

Silent-sista, LOL, it wasn't meant to be a shock, it was meant to be a laugh Zakariye, EWWW...UF UF, that was just NASTY!! Well, I know all you Nomads were crazy but are you all scaredy cats? Check the link below. BEWARE: Highly shocking (freaked the h*ll outta me!) Freaky Stuff

Well are you? How insane are you?

I would hereby like to applaud your lady friend *claps loudly* It seems we need more women who have opened their eyes and did the relevant research into the grave miscomings of men!!

Wow, Nefertiti, HEAVY RHYMES, gurl, well done. Love tha poem!! Let me spin some off: From the day you were born, eyes Wide, mouth open in gentle surprise I held you, cooed over you Loved you even when you cried, yes its true! And now, you're older, and not any wiser I still clean your wounds, and hold you when you cry And smack you when you lie, teach you how to deal with a goodbye Through all the sweat and tears, I brought you up This is how you repay me, by locking me up "You're too old, mum," you told me Before they came and carted off with me And as the doors shut - a loney clang That cries of desperation, in my heart a bang I realise, my son, you're not who I brought you to be But who'll listen? I'm hidden away in the dark, waiting for death to claim me... harmonyangel

Nin Yabaan, before you go beating Dhaqan into anyone, maybe you should take a dosage of respect-beating for your fellow Muslims, may those be male or female. If you have a problem with the female population, then I suggest you read the Qoran. Properly this time, please. For the sake of Allah!! And my sanity!! :rolleyes: :rolleyes: PS: You didn't like the picture?? D*mn, I really thought I could help you out there *shakes head* Too bad, too sad. And its HARMONYANGEL

Dhaqan has some bad aspects, and some good. Unfortunately, it is the bad aspects that the older generation loves to cling to. And it seems to me, people are always confusion tradition with religion. The two are not the same. If tradition comes in the way of religion, then OUT THE WINDOW it goes. At least for me. Nin Yabaan, horta maxaad layaabtay???? :confused: :confused: It seems to me you love discussing the short-comings of Somali Women *shakes head* shame on you! You should love the Somali Queens. ESBECIALLY your Queen: NAAG YABAAN. I saw the Missing Person's picture; she was looking for you. Here's her picture, maybe you can have a tender reconciliation?

Harmony angel, lol..thanx sistah! You're welcome, Oppionated, sis! And while you're at gouging his eyes out, I'll break both his legs (for telling me a faaarx can beat me :rolleyes: ) and severely damage his chances of carrying on his bloodline (if you know what I mean). Then he will have to crawl on his hands. Patchy-eyed-no-legs-sorry-excuse-of-a-man. Serves you right, Nin WALAAN...oops (I keep doing this) Yabaan. ~harmonyangel~

Dont be mistaken, Nin Yabaan. You havent met all women, no matter how experienced you claim to be. And you know some women will kick any attackers a$$ ( *points at herself*). No question asked. ~harmonyangel~

Originally by Nin Yabaan: lets say you are walking all alone in a park, and i suddenly attack you. What would u honeslty do? Walahi, i am serious. Would you YELL, or try to defend yourself, or FLEE. Or you would just let me assault you. You mean to say you walk around in parks after dark, preying on young defenceless women????????? :eek: :eek: :eek: Man what the h*ll is wrong with you??? And you better watch it you know, I think many more of us ladies are getting like Oppinionated these days. We can stab pretty well. Batuloo, thank you so much for that. I have not laughed that hard for a long while. Nin Walaan (I mean Yabaan) check it out, it wil help. Nin Yabaan, here's a lil something to discourage you from you apparant nightly roams. Opinionated taking care of Nin Yabaan: ~harmonyangel~

Originally by Nin Yabaan : Polygamy, schluygomy. That’s what my old dad would’ve said if he heard that non-sense. The yanks will be told its our culture, and to not intervene with it. Are you going to tell them that as they lead you to the squad car? Or after they sling you in jail? It is our religion, but they wont see it as such. In Christianity (and especially in the USA) there is something called the Mormon Church, who also participates in the practice of having more than one wives. This, a christian church, is absolutely not accepted by the American Authority. So do you think that as a Muslim man (and with the current American view of Islam) they will listen to anything you have to say? Or even give a d*mn that it's your culture? And since you live in that Christian culture, I think you should care. For your own sake. Otherwise you might leave your lovely multiple wives all alone without their husband. And you wouldn't want that. Would you? harmonyangel

Four Wives???? So if one denies you, you can go downstairs to Number Two and so on and so forth?? Like the good Nomad, Jam Master Jay said, how about FOUR HUSBANDS?? One to clean One to cook bariis One for shopping One to pay my lease Would you like that? Truly though, all I can say, NIN YABAAN, (an apt name) is be very careful how you go about obtaining FOUR wives (or even more than one) in the Western Countries (including USA) because you'll be had before the Courts on grounds of Polygamy, which is ILLEGAL. And anyway, you should watch out for the dacas-wielding wife rather than the courts...NIN YABAAN. harmonyangel

Mz-alpha, thank you, gurl, for the lovely words, you got a sweet way with them! MzWord, love your poetry, gurl. Dont ever stop. ~harmonyangel~

Hayaaaay, qoxootimammi, whats with the big qarxis??? :eek: Dont let me tell them about your steak fetish? Huh? I wouldn't want to mention the steak-eating contests?? Just joking, gurl. Thank you for the poem. Mz-alpha...you cooking now??? You gotta come back and cook some (bariis) for me!! Big-mom and Batuulo, excellent poetry skills, ladies. Keep it coming! harmonyangel

BARWAAQO, girl, fetish??? LOL LOL LOL, that cracked me up. ~_^ Nayaa or waryaa or heblayoo or balayoo or yareey or waraa or any damn thing other than the name my own sweet dear mother gave to me is a strict no-no. If my own mother can call me by my name, then I'm sure everyone else can too. To me Nayaa is rather degrading. I'm sure once upon a time it was rather normal, but lately it seems to be used for the sole purpose of angering us ladies. :mad: Nin Yabaan, sexually arousing?? What do you do, look in the mirror and whisper "Nayaa" to yourself? :rolleyes: :eek: :rolleyes: harmonyangel

ahahahahaha @ Che, that guillotine sh is good! *puts hand on guillotine handle* how much do you like your head, Darman??? I hereby bail out Opinionated, because I fit the description required, of a cross-eyed Girl who happens to be a left handed. Reason: I like your opinions, opinionated. Plus, I wouldn't submit anyone being stuck in jail with both Cown AND Darman! :eek: :eek: :eek: ~harmonyangel~

LMFAO, mad scientist that was sooo funny. YES to everything, except the pint thing since I dont drink, but the rest is sooo true. LOL, keep it up. But you forgot: 10.If in another city, it takes you less than half a day to get somewhere, you think its a village 11. If the house-prices dont include a leg and an arm, you think the estate agent has been at the local pub for his morning brew...and didn't come out before lunchtime 12.You use "bloody" more than you say "mum" (sometimes you use the two together ) ~harmonyangel~

*shakes head* all of y'all are reading Harry P? :eek: I must admit, I read books 3 and four, but I aint in no hurry to read book five. Plus, I already knew that Sirius was gonna die. And JK aint that good a writer, anyway. But Good Luck y'all PS: Can anyone put to rest the rumour that a printing mistake of a 170-pages-missing was discovered? Is it true or false? ~harmonyangel~