^^^ I must say, You look good with your cimaamad on Originally posted by flying-still: does she have store in the somali mall of st.paul? Caakifah...No , you can actually find her at the Huda masjid on central street I believe..she brings her stuff there on fri nights and other times I think she runs her business at home...her name is Amani...most ppl will know her...I just heard she brought great selection for eid, go check em out Gosh, that so sounds like an advertisement..oh well, I get the sawab :cool:

Originally posted by Tamina: I honestly think the jilbaab is a little too much to work with. It's huge and i'm sorry to say some women wear it too long that you're doing service for the city by sweeping the streets!!!! Tell me about it!! And also, wuts up with the bright, shiny, rainbow colors they wear...doesn't that go against the purpose of hijaab? Personally, I'm really into the arabic jilbabs with their complimentary hijaabs. My sister-in-law got me few sets when I was in Mn and I wear them to the masjid or Islamic gatherings...I honestly think I look better in them than the normal hijab. All the girls in my family plus my aunts wear them and they're pushing me. They come in different types, from normal informal ones to really sophisticated ones that you can wear to formal settings. They just give you a beautiful figure and the same time, cover you very well. Insha'Allah, I'll start wearing them for good one day (hopefully soon) Flying...let me know if you're interested in these types of jilbabs...There's a jordanian woman that sells gorgeous ones in your area...I can get you her info.

^^^Can't wait till xmas break either, I'm counting the days already...boy do I have so many exciting plans for moi...# 1 being lots of sleep ilaa inteey dhinacyada iga xanuunayaan, lol. How did I celebrate my eid...hmm..do you really wanna know? ok I started with the Eid prayers which was actually the best part of the day for me as I met up with ppl I have not seen for the longest time...and the amazing thing was, this was the first eid in my entire stay in this country where all Muslims in our community celebrated on the same day and prayed at the same place (pakis and arabs praying together :eek: ). Then we came home, mom cooked the usual eid day breakfast, canjeero iyo beer...ate that (reminds me of xamar)...Then I sadly watched everyone get all dressed and head to toronto to celebrate at my aunt's with the rest of the family and leave me all alone in this huge house So I basically spent the rest of the day stuck in my room, ignoring all phone calls and celebrating with my books as I prepared for a final that I had yesterday....waxasaa ciid lagaa yiraa...quite memorable I must say!! But I sincerely hope that the rest of you enjoyed yours

Ciid Mubaarak everyone...hope you all enjoy it!

Mecca!

Who would sleep with a bra? Some of us don't even like to wear it during the normal daylight let alone at night...that thing bugs the heck outa me walahi. Originally posted by miz-unique: i had to go to a doctor once cuz i thought i had a lumb it turned it was just my imagination..lol....( i did it cuz some of my family member died of cancer and it freaked me out, ) I thouhgt I was the only crazy one, I had a similar episode. I was just feeling so tender and a little pain, I saw my doctor and she's like...oh but you're so young, she still checks and she's like..oh that's just your milk ducts, not to worry I think it had to do with this Oprah show I had once watched where this 22 yr old got breast cancer....that freaked me out because most ppl think that it's more likely to come only after menopause. A Lot of caffeine tends to make breasts more tender too, and cause some stabbing pain. This could also happen right before monthly cycles as breasts get a little inflammated. So not to be confused with breast cancer (Allahu Manajina) but it still doesn't hurt to check yourself out if your suspicious. Flying....that's cuz the Y chromosome doesn't carry any information..well except the sex-determining gene. Haven't you heard your genetics profs making fun of how the Y chromo is a "genetic wasteland" lol....that means if males get a mutation on a gene in their X cromo...they don't have a homologous gene to compensate for it but guess what...we women do (from the other X)!! init amazing :cool: Lucky...thanks for the reminder dear.

Originally posted by JIDAAWY: the tape is called Al Asaf and you can listen to more Nasheeds of that album by visitng this this site.. http://www.enshad.net/htm/mixes/mixes1/Al-Aseef/ Thank You!

Agga, oo isagaaba caadi isu fashilayee

Originally posted by Nur: I think, WALLAAL to be the safest and business way to address a brother or a sister for that matter in order not to confuse people who are already confused. I totally agree. I've also realized that it's the most appropriate word for older men since some tend to get offended nowadays if you refer to them by adeer out of respect. I'm reer xamar, yet in my honest opinion, using aboowe with ragga waaweyn can definitely confuse them...and them calling me abaayo would be a bit weird too. Bro Nur you're leaving us? Oh we'll really miss you Huuno (very innocent one here!).

^^^loool...you should've went the Steve Urcle way.."Ooops, did I do that"

Originally posted by flying-still: King450---is it just me or does xaliimo up there appear when ever you do? Looool, qarxis hooyadiis. I think many of us wondered about that too...hmm, what could this mean?

Horn...Allah ha u naxriisto those you've lost iyo wixii Muslim ah oo idil. It's so devastating to see that we're still at the very same spot we started!

Jidaawy...what a lovely nasheeds (or Dhikr), very touchy Masha'Allah (it gave me goosebumps)...where would I be able to get it walal? As for the question...Definitely! We only dream about meeting such person.

Subxanallah...what a tragedy! My mom was beside me as I was reading this, and next thing I know, she was tearing up saying I can't imagine the pain their parents must be going through...may Allah (swt) give them sabar and imaan. It's one of those moments where you realise, when was life ever granted to us? I think about that all the time, quite a scary thought actually, the fear of standing Infront Allah without having worked enough for your Akhira while in Dunya

Originally posted by Nur: the Islamic Sharia does not make a woman a house maid, Allah made women our partners, not maids, House hood duties should be shared, that way a man can enjoy the company of his wife by releiving her of half of the hardships. How can a woman be intimate with her husband if she is burdened with too much work with no ahelp from her hubby? Now, THAT is something that needs to be stressed more often in our community !!!...The sooner some of our "dhaqan blinded" brothers comprehend this rather simple concept, the brighter the future of our marriage institution. Thank you for sharing that with us bro Nur.

wlc back dear! I think it's a great idea, it's an interesting way of reaching out to our youth at the same time involving our elders. GO FOR IT About the name, I think i'll leave that for our artistic nomads.

Bro Nur, I honestly hope that you did not misunderstand me. Those were sincere questions I asked in hopes of undertanding what type of feedback you wanted for this issue. I was by no means questioning your motives or devaluing your contributions. You seem like a very honourable and knowledgeable brother who wants to share his wisdom with his bro's/sis's in Islam, may ALLah(swt) reward you for that. You continue to enlighten us here on SOL in the Islamic section, and make ppl like me all the more interested to participate because your topics are trully beneficial...I've learned so much from your posts, they tend to make me think very deeply about certain Islamic issues that I would not have stopped to think about. So, keep up the good job and consider me one of your good students. Again walalo, Jazaka Allah Khayr for all your hard work. Insha'Allah, I will give my thoughts about this thread another time now that I know you're only looking for our general views on marriage. It's very true that this is a complex recurring issue that comes up in many Islamic discussions and Insha'ALlah, with the guidance of Allah, we can come to common grounds and discover a proper approach to our concerns about this delicate subject. Mizz...hope you got my pm

Mizz Unique....you forgot to mention how the light can go out if money runs out...thank God it never happened while I was there on a vacation, cagahaan wax ka dayi lahaa walee, Somalia miyaa meesha And daylight robberies :eek:

Originally posted by Libaax-Sankataabte: TV license? Bee, how does that work? Police go to door to door searching for the perpetrators? I mean anyone watching tv with no license? Loooool...bisinka, reer UK maalinba wax cusub baa laga maqli...maybe they have to carry their cable receipts with them just in case

Originally posted by Kaafi: BUT, there's still the religion aspect that you guys are abondoning and forgetting about. Come back to reality... Oh pahlease!! The deen has been so misused by many Muslim men when it comes to this topic. It irritates me when men who have the slightest clue about the Qur'an and the Sunnah pick and choose things and use it to their advantage. Northener, walal, it will never end until our men begin to make some serious life-style and behavioural changes! I'd agree with Ameenah on this...many women in the west put themselves in this predicament. For instance, I have seen here many women who send their husbands to the States hoping to increase their family income..."walalo orodoo inoo soo shaqee lacag aan save gareeysano"....yeah right!...wuxu waa nin, he can only practice self-control for so long. Also, you have to remember, only the smart Allah-fearing ones will get married but the rest might commit a sin they would not have normally committed had their wives not forced them out of their perfectly halal homes. Who's responsible for that sin, obviously the wife, and she sure will be punished for it. So the solution is simple , as some mentioned, women need to be with their husbands everywhere, to save themselves and their husbands from going astray, or in this case from getting married to another woman.

Originally posted by rudy: Happiness comes through doors you didn't even know you left open. True!

Originally posted by Nur: there is no better medium available than the internet Actually, there is. There are many formal gatherings organized by Muslims solely for the purpose of finding a potential husband/wife. For instance, there's an annual event at U of T for those who are looking, there's lectures, dinner and a period where ppl get to know each other (those who have been eying each other i guess,lol). I know many other Muslim organzations also have similar events that you can attend. However, the sad thing is, I've been told you won't find many somalis there...many associate events like that with "desperateness"...at the same time, there is that increasing pool of young somalis who are "ready" but just don't know how to approach this :confused: Maybe we should form North American Islamic Somali social gatherings. Who knows, it might be of great help to many who are confused about this matter. To the poster, yes, it is highly recommended in Islam to have a third party present when conversating with someone whom you're "considering" (more appropriate than "dating"). This is mainly for the reason that the probability of shaydaan joining that conversation is very high when you're alone together (including any form of internet chatting as well as the phone) as opposed to when you're in public or in the presence of a 3rd party. For example, my best friend has an older sister who always got her little brother to listen to conversations when men who wanted to propose to her called. Masha'Allah, she has great Imaan, her sister and I always asked her how she was capable of doing this because it's just very impractical for many of us...esp for those of us who don't want our brothers or male family members to even know that we're talking with "strangers". However, we still have to do our best to avoid the possibility of a sin. Hope that helped

Salam, We recently had a great sheikh by the name of Muhammad Zahid visit our school and give a lecture on gender relations. I thought it was a very useful lecture especially during ramadan. He talked about the social aspects of gender relations and Islamic perspectives. He adressed some very important issues about this subject many of which we may already be aware of but, sadly enough, we take for granted in our everyday encounters with the opposite sex. It's available online, and it's an hour long...please watch it if you have the time. Hope you guys enjoy it! http://www.lightuponlight.com/stream/modules.php?name=Downloads&d_op=getit&lid=25 May Allah increase our knowledge and make us prosper! Ameen

Originally posted by Nur: It is said that men marry a woman hoping that she will not change, and she does ( physical appeal) and women marry a man hoping that he will change, but he never does ( Character ). So sad yet so true! And about your "husband market" example, I don't think it's exclusive to women and when choosing a mate only...I think it's more of a universal/instictive characteristic that we humans possess in hopes of acheiving the best and getting closer to "perfectness". That little voice that tells us just "what if I take that one further step" is turned on at one point or another in all of us...so in a sense, we can all be impossible to please in many aspects of life. As far as this particular subject of choosing a husband, I'm not really sure if I understand your research proposal...yacni, what exactly are you trying to find the solution to? Or better yet, what's your hypothesis? By observing how the sisters reply to this scenerio, and by seeing if they're willing to compromise something as significant as the deen when it comes to choosing their potential husbands, are you hoping to deduce something about where most of the sisters lie on the spiritual spectrum? Anyways bro Nur, it's an interesting topic and I'm looking forward to seeing your conclusions

^^^oh you got that signature back...it always cracks me up Lakkad that is. DrRomance...it's ramadan walal, a blessed month where we Muslims should do our best to exercise self-discipline and abstain from fitnah, and work on increasing our Imaan and getting closer to Allah (swt)...RAMADAN KARIIM!!!