Lol@mobb...why don't you just say I'm willing to volunteer Raxmah, I can understand dear. With me, it's not the age but rather the circumstance. This yr has been the marriage year for my family, brother after brother getting married, and so I'm the only one left at home...I so happen to be graduating soon too...so NOW, everyone is on my back. They always go, " You'll be done school soon, so what are you waiting for?". Or with a big grin, they'll say...your brothers are gone, so you'll be next right? It's just my relatives that pressure me though...it's like my whole friggin' tribe can't wait to see me go....toloow maxaan ka bi'iyey :rolleyes: They'll be calling mom and asking her...gabadha maxaad guriga ugu heysataa... :mad: ...and mom is so sweet, she just tells them, my daughter is on a different journey, guur uma jeedo! Jac kuleel ka dheh, lol. Just the other day, my adeero was telling me...you wanna become like your eedoyin and wait around til your in ur 30's to get married while your workin on PhD baas soomaha? and I'm like, Yes adeer...ishaad ka toogatay. My immediate family though...alhamdulilah...they never bother me...they're actually too attached. Seriouly, my brothers can't stand guys... I can't wait to see the reactions on their faces the day some guy comes and asks for their lil sis' hand My mom, Ilaahay kheyr ha siiyo, she is so encouraging and understands my priorities although these days, she slips a lil and goes..."honey, I would luv to see my only daughter's lil toddlers running around calling me ayeeyo"...qalbigeey iga xanuujisaa Raxmah sis...it'll all work out for you Insha'Allah...for the time being, just smile and ignore

Originally posted by Nur: Ghaflah, therefore is the characteristic of someone who took all advice as not serious, and suddenly found that her calculation were all wrong, so in the case of death, when you die, it is like sleeping, but Mowtul ghaflah, is like heart attack, when you die without expecting to die, so in that sense you were caught off guard. Got it...makes sense, jazakallah kheyr bro. About the two types of sins, a sin is a sin, and I guess you'll get punished no matter what if you don't repent...but isn't the former one more significant than the later? For instance, don't you get punished more for the dhamb you commit knowingly?...is there a difference in the accaptance of the istighfaar for the two types. And also, what if a person commits the former one, and it becomes habitual and they're very well aware of its severity but they just can't get themselves to stop? I'm just having such difficulty with this personally....as hard as it is to admit, there are certain things I do such using perfumes for instance, which I have a passion for, and I know it's Xaraam but I still do it. And when I start to repent, I just get this little voice in my head, I don't don't know whether it's my guilty conscience or shaydaan, but it says that 'your istighfaar is useless because you keep doing it over again knowingly'. I just don't know Now, that was some trip! init? A very horrifying one too. May Allah forgive our sins and make that road short for us and let us escape from the punishment of the grave and that of the akhira. Amin!

It was nice chatting with some of you although I was doing my finals and didn't have much time...but I'm finally done...yeeeey! I have an idea. Since many of us do have the time to spare, maybe we should use it for a wonderful cause and invite bro Nur to do an Islamic lecture for us. I didn't discuss this with him, but as always, I'm sure he's quite willing to spread the words of Allah (swt) and share his knowledge with us in his very articulate way. Maybe sometime in the weekend when you guys can all make it. Let me know what you guys think...yes/maybe/no? Then I'll talk to him and see what he has to say insha'Allah. salaam

What I wanna know is how you ladies find the TIME....seriously. Gosh, can't even remember the last time I attended a gym. I've been so lazy since I've started uni wallah...couldn't even get myself to pay a lil visit to the on campus gym And not to mention...all the unhealthy diet. But alhamdulilah, our MSA has managed to get the school swimming pool on the weekends just for the Muslim sisters...so I do go swimming sometimes which I enjoy very much (raxmah, ur right is..it rocks)...at least I get some form of exercise eh. Also, I'm graduating this summer, so I should find the time to start a rigorous workout routine Insha'Allah...no more excuses! D.A...I have to agree with you on the elliptical machine, I remember few yrs ago when I was a member of a women's gym, It used to be my favourite cardio workout...works wonders, esp for those of us who are blessed with slightly heavier lower bodies....it does burn away those inches quickly. I found the step classes to be quite helpful as well.

this reminds me of Niagara Falls in the summer....they're so annoying, everywhere camera la taagan yihiin :rolleyes:

lol...I doubt she married him for monetary reasons. I guess this is just a 'love is blind' case. But she's very pretty Masha'Allah.

Salaam, Sis, Jazakallah khair for the wonderful reminder. Some people take this whole issue of speaking and interacting with non-mahrim men/women very easy, be it though phone, cyber or in real life. Chatting is one of the easiest ways in which Shaydaan can enter one's life without them being fully aware, because most people don't believe they're committing a sin if their intentions are innocent. However, as the answer clarifies, provoking the other person's thoughts inadvertently is where the sin comes in. Ya Allah, some of us do tend to slip some times .... may Allah forgive us and give us a strong Iman to avoid the path that leads us astray.

Happy birthday!

Sophist, war go'aan ahayn maruun single-nimada ma ka baxday :cool: Hambaliyo walaalkiis, guur wacan oo wanaagsan. I wish you both long and prosperous life together Insha'Allah. Gabadh iyo caano

Masha'Allah, I'm happy that our bro's and sis's in this region are doing well and developing the area :cool:

Hey Tam...always spreading good news...I'm proud of you gal Originally posted by Tamina: Wish they would tour here Me too! I have to say tho, the brother (Sami Yusuf) has a breathtaking voice..MASHALLAH...I first heard of him at the Islamic Conference and my cousins and I ran to get the CD, only it was sold out the first day :eek: ...so I had to order it. Reer Uk...y'all should really go!

^^^chill dear, I think Ameenah was just teasing! Originally posted by Shenomad13: Laakiin, Nafisa, see camal yaqee adiga...u tartiibi maskiinka, si xun aad ugu daadisee. Naa heedhe, inaad wiilka igu dirtaad donaysaa soomaha...well, I think he's too smart for that. He knows I was just doing him favour unlike you oo xagna uga qoslaya xagna sarbeeb kudilaya

Originally posted by *-DaReDeViL-*: LoL PearL how about you and I got out for a cup of coffe eh?Then maybe we couLd exchange information...spiLL the beans GaL...I think i set the mood,no? Lucky, war jeceyl mee waxaas kaa tahay, bisinka lol....ok, I'll buy the coffee, how about that?

Xaraaaaam My heart just pours out to those little kids. Subhanalaah! As believers, we're told that we would face hardships in this dunya, and all this injustice and torment our brothers and sisters are facing around the world is a test for all of us. We need to have strong faith in Allah (swt) and believe that in the end, Muslims will attain victory! In the meantime, the best thing we can do for them is to send our prayers.

^^^iyaa, dadka saas miyaa loggu dhiibaa. Maskiinka mid sujui oo saqiir suujis lagu hayo ayuuba ku hadlaayee Misa anaa fahmay, niyadaad u dhiseysaa? As for me, kolba kaan doono umbaan ku hadlaa. I'm quite indifferent about which one the nomads use.

Originally posted by garab tuujiye: marax aa tahay nooh.. Lol. You know what, waxaa la yidhi, naag baa wax xun ku kici jirtay, kolkaasaa odayaal iney waaniyaan ugu tageen. Iyagii oo waanidii u wada eyeey waxa la yiri, waxey tiri "haye, madhameeseen hadalka, banaanka ayaa la'ii tagaan yahayee" Marka, ka wad meeshaada.

Originally posted by rudy: huh! Nafisa! plz say u dont believe crab below plz (Well, what I found disturbing is that men liking somali women for their "fine features" close to caucasian, and admiring their light skin, hair..etc... ) Nafisa!... only brothas i have r called faaraaxs. or farodhadeerah! aigt!! rest r some ther species Come again :confused: Sometimes, hadaladaada caadi bey iigu gooyaan, sorry.

^^^ naga daa dee, you still live in the olden days where gabdhaha la doonan jiray iyagoon lala hadlin...cuz guys just never had the guts to go up to her but instead, they'd run to their mommies and say....hooyo, dee gabadh baan soo arkoodayoo in la ii doono ayaan doonayaa Flirting? I say some Faraaxs could really use 101's...let's just say, some shan iyo toban kushubkuu wax ugu dhaacaa. That's all I have to say about it, lol.

lol...Hajaay...ragoow idinkoo indha waaweyn meesha la soo taagan baa dumarkinii mid mid loo dafayaa...ha idin ka saarto (j/k) laftirkayga mid yaroo jalaqsan oo iska dhal ah hadaan helo waan ku qaban lahaa, ee hooyo yaa iga fujinaaya hee ...she'll be like, waxaad socotoba ma 'xabash' baad u fakfakaneysaa...that's even if I mention African Americans...and she's the kindest most religious person ever, go figure (I always get into an argument with her about this). Unfortunately, so many Somalis suffer from this type of perception similarly. It really is about time we dropped this attitude we have towards our other African brothers and sisters and started accepting ppl!

Rejection aa? waa halkii Qacqac ee rejection-ku waa maxay? Waligay ma maqal,lol. Originally posted by Northerner: my advice is to totally ignore the ones u like, seeing that u aint interested in them will arrouse their curiosity, when this occurs yr there already, just play yr cards right, never failed, from a past ciyaartoy,,,, Lol. How odd, that's exactly the same advice I was giving my brother the other night. Doesn't work for just any Faarax though...you gotta be quite the charmer and possess some cherishable qualities to begin with...and also, you have to be careful that the girl herself doesn't use the same tactic

Originally posted by Mobb_Deep: I see Nafisa chickened out, hehehe. hahaha, adeer, waxaad dirdirto ilaahay ha kuu sahlo. My time is simply too precious for baseless discussions that never seem to go beyond vicious cycle of insults and hostility towards one another. Most of the people who frequent this section spend half of their time bashing their somali brothers and sisters because of their regional background, and the other half on promoting a region their great grandfathers were supposedly born in...I wouldn't be surprised if their attitudes here are reflective of their real lives...how PATHETIC :rolleyes: And the ironic thing is, these very individuals whose lives are filled with hatred and vindictiveness, whose low mentalities defy the basic notions of humanity, and whose illmindedness bias their perceptions of their brothers and siters, actually claim to know something about Islam; a religion whose basic tenets are based on love and acceptance for your brothers and sisters. Oh how very sorry I feel for those Somalis whose lives are defined by QABYAALAD. They are nothing but a disgrace to the somali nation and more importantly, to the Islamic Ummah. It's an illness only Allah can cure from their hearts...ALLAH YAHDIIKUM!!!

^^^ War ileen yaa wax arkay. Kaalay, waxaan ku idhi ina garab tuujiyoow...can you not go through one simple discussion without referring to others as Qashiin, duli, marax and etc.?? You might see it as beezaani nimo and such, but walalo respect bey dadku kaa mudan yihiin!...take it easy with the insults (even hadaad kaftan ka wadid)

Originally posted by Athena: its da 21th century, about time men got with the program. True dat! I personally come from a family full of guys who really do spend much time on their looks and who always wear dressy clothes and shoes ...some of my cousins even go as far as using hair treatments to keep their hair from looking dry or expensive skin care Wether it's metro-sexuality or pretty boyish, doesn't really matter. A man with a clean cut look and a good sense of style is always more appealing than the rough looking guy. So what if he spends a lil more time than the usual guy on his appearance and shapes/shines his nails or gels his hair or what not....Look good and feel good...who cares what people think! SO Winger, keep doing your thang! Just don't go to the salon though

Ameenah..lol, U know u wanna talk about it and let it all out, c'mon girl...I would just go as far the horrible mood swings Besides, why baad ragga ugu nixi awal beyba iska fiig fiigsanayeene,lol. Originally posted by Nomad: Nasifa,or Nafisa ; You Spoke like an old Granny. As for the 17/18 yr olds analogy.Abt the 'Sake of Allah',line..i may wanna start using that! Lol. Hade soo ma ihi islaan weyn, ma shaki baa taa kaaga jiray? Waa inaad iga yara xishooto eedo macaan, yaa, ducaan kugu ogahay

hsppy b'day sis...I know it's kinda late though. Lucky...that was sweet.