Originally posted by S.O.S: 1) Heeran = Gabdhaha u kaco dhul kale haday deegaankooda rag ka waayaan, dhaqankuna wuxuu caadadiisu ahaa in reerka/degaanka ay soo martiyaan gabdhahaa u guuriyaan; ceeb bay ahaan jirtay in gabdhahaa loo guurinwaayo kadibna degaan ama reer kale u sii gudbaan. Yaa? Ma kaa dhab baa huuno, weligey ma maqal dhaqankan. I was under the impression in dhaqankeeni hore eynan gabdhuhu hadlan karin, yacni 'nin' afkooda maba eynan soo marin jirin xishood dartii macdalaa iney meel kale u haajiraan nin doodoonid darteed? perhaps this was only common in certain regions? Somali men need to change and redress the wounds, respect the wife, instill confidence and self- Sufficiency, provide to the family, bring decency, hardworking and honesty to the house. True! I think both parties are equally responsible for performing their roles and knowing their own rights and that of their partner, as well trying their best not to cross the boundaries. It all boils down to knowing one's own religion and principles well and implementing them. Islam provides clearcut solutions to all of these social problems we seem to be struggling with, however, most ppl are unfortunately not too familiar with the basic Islamic teachings (or have abandoned their religious duties) let alone understand thoroughly how our diin prepares us for every stage of our lives and how to solve any potential difficulties in all walks of life as we're only human beings who are very well prone to err. Here's a lecture on A WIFE by Shaikh Abdullah Adhami (an amazing shaikh): By getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend. She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do all she can for you; when you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you: when you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be hers; during the day, she will be with you, if for some time she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world. The best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Qur'anic verse which says: "They are your garments and you are their garments." (Surah Al Baqarah 2:187). Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaskan journey. The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquillity that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human feelings is that: it is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, "And Allah has made for you Mates (and Companions of your own nature ..." (Surah Al Nahl 16:72) Only our Almighty Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala in His Infinite Power, Boundless Mercy, and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and blessed feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is reminding those who search for His signs in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence as He says in the Qur'an, "And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Surah Al Rum 30:21) But Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala knows that the human heart is not a static entity, it is sometimes weak and at times dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time. Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant giving from both sides. For the tree of marital love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained, maintained, watered and nurtured. Remember that our Prophet Muhammad Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam had found the time to go out to the desert and race with his wife Aisha. She outran him but later after she had gained some weight, he outran her. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam took his wife to watch the young Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances. The show of emotions is necessary to keep the marital bond away from rusting and disintegrating. Remember that you will be rewarded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for any emotions you show to your wife as the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said "One would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife" Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth, opening the car door for her, etc. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride the camel. Try to always find some time for both of you to pray together. Strengthening the bond between you and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is the best guarantee that your own marital bond would always remain strong. Having peace with Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will always result in having more peace at home. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam gave glad tidings for those couples who wake up at night to pray together. The Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam even urged the spouse who rises up first to wake the other spouse up, even by splashing cold water on his/her face. Always try your best to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and always remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said, "The best of you are those who are best to their wives" Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honor their spouses until death do them part. I do believe that this vow is good or even great, but not enough! It is not enough that you love your wife. You have to love what she loves as well. Her family, her loved ones must also become your loved ones. Don't be like my colleague who was unhappy about his wife's parents coming to visit for few weeks. He candidly said to her "I don't like your parents." Naturally she angrily looked at him straight in the eye and said, "I don't like yours either." Also, it is not enough that you love her until death do you part. Love should never end and we do believe there is life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses (Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70) and offsprings. The best example in this regard is the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam whose love for Khadija, his wife of 25 years, extended to include all those she loved; this love of his continued even after her death. It was many years after her death and he never forgot her and whenever a goat was slaughtered in his house he would send portions of it to Khadija's family and friends and whenever he felt that the visitor at the door might be Khadija's sister Hala, he would pray saying, "O Allah let it be Hala."

Way to go! Masha'Allah.

Baashoow, you'd be surprised to know how Torontonians are becoming dormant by the day. Most often, dadkayaga reer tuuloyinka ah ayaa intey utagaan barakiciya oo yidhaa war heedhahaya sida isu dhaama Originally posted by Baashi: Politicians are watching how we react. Large numbers of potential voters can tip the ballance of power at the local level. Indeed. We really need to think ahead, think smart, and avoid acting on an impulse by all means. Also, I strongly believe we, the Canadian Muslims, have a great chance of entering the political realm of this country and aiming for higher positions through which our positive efforts would not only be manifested nationally for the Muslim ummah, but also have the potential of influencing Muslims internationally. Thus, visionary individuals with elevated spirituality and superb interpersonal and strategic thinking skills is what the ummah is in need of now...and Insha'Allah we shall see more of them emerge in the near future. Generally, Canadians have been taking a very balanced position on this issue and they are supporting the Muslims in expressing their discontent. The following are recent statements by the Foreign Affairs Minister, Peter MacKay, regarding the issue. “The publication of cartoons of the Prophet Mohammed has caused offence to Muslims and non-Muslims around the world and in Canada. “Freedom of expression is a legally enshrined principle in Canada, but it must be exercised responsibly. We commend those Canadians who have acted appropriately. “However, we condemn the violent protests that have occurred in some parts of the world, and find the attacks on foreign diplomatic missions particularly deplorable. “This sensitive issue highlights the need for a better understanding of Islam and of Muslim communities. Respect for cultural diversity and freedom of religion is a fundamental principle in Canada. The Government of Canada will continue to promote a better understanding of Islam internationally, in partnership with Muslim communities.â€

^Salams darling, kheyr baa la hayaa kow dhe, lakiin adaaba lagu waayey maalmahane sidey wax ujuraan huuno ...waxaan islahaa, aggah..waa maxey shib shib tani, ma sidanaa 'nafis corner-kii' udambeysay...anoo usoo socda reer baro inaan ku idhaa war bal dhinac nooga beedha dabadeedna baafin aan galo ayaadba soo gashey. Listen....dhagta iigu sheeg, qof aan ogahay maa walac ah? ...quick, aan alalaas inoogu dhuftee Tolow akhyaartii kalena aawaye? Bishaarooy, adna ku mee gabareey?

Salam, I was just forwarded this news and thought I should share with you folks. I urge those of you in the GTA (or even from farther away, if you have the means) to attend this peaceful demonstration Insha'Allah and show your support for the Prophet (saw). AGAINST OFFENSIVE DANISH CARTOONS RECENTLY PUBLISHED IN THE EUROPEAN NEWS PAPERS HELD AT: QUEEENS PARK FEBRUARY 19TH at 2:00PM “The Prophet is closer to the believers than their ownselves†(Holy Quran 33: 6) "None of you has perfect faith until I am more beloved to him than his parents, his children and all the people"(Riydhus Saliheen) DO YOU LOVE THE PROPHET (PBUH)? DO YOU WISH TO DEFEND HIS HONOUR? THEN COME OUT WITH YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS ON FEBRUARY 19th AT THIS PEACEFUL PROTEST! “The publication of the caricatures is clearly an insensitivity towards the perception and beliefs of a religious group†(The Toronto Star) ORGANIZED BY: UNITED FRONT CANADA (Supported by more than seventy five interfaith organizations) For update on location and further details Visit: www.unitedfrontcanada.com We are also looking for volunteers to help organize the rally, please contact us: volunteers@unitedfrontcanada.com 1. Abdul Qayyum Mufti:(416) 908-5600 2. Syed Naqvi:(416) 414-4620 3. Asghar Imam:(647) 866-5917 Special Instructions for participants: Bring placards of universal message of Islam “peace & love for all humanityâ€; Bring books & material of Prophet’s teaching for Dawah; Make sure it’s a peaceful protest; No offensive slogans/placards against anyone; No burning of flags etc.; No damage to property or any kind; Every action should be within the lawful limits; Violators would be responsible themselves for their actions.; Organizers / helpers are not responsible for participants’ actions

I honestly don't see a reason why you should have to quote real personal ads in order to convey your message of high divorce rates, and then have the nerve to claim you were 'put off' by certain ones...waaku sidee walal? This is a social ill that is obviously becoming increasingly prevalent in our community, and whilst I agree with you that it should be discussed amongst ourselves, we should do so in a positive manner and without having to address a particular gender. Salam

Salaam, Nurow, I am in a desperate need for such product, can't really wait for its release :cool: See, I was under the impression that I had been completely cured of the 'handshake' weakness for quite some time, only to discover yestereday that it's not entirely true. I had an interview yesterday for this great gov't position for which I had been waiting for the longest time and to which I was prepared to ace. As I walked into the interview room, there was the chief of hiring committee (male) and a lady who's part of the mgmt team waiting for me; he gets up first (I'm thinking Allah yahdiik, iska fadhi), walks across the room with a big grin and extends his hand...what am I to do? A bit confused and nervous, I smiled and hesitantly shook his hand... :mad: ...subhanallah, I didn't know what came over me, I felt awful and very disappointed with myself during the whole interview (I kept thinking, you just committed a sin you were very well conscious of)...May Allah forgive me for that instance and increase me in strength to avoid similar situations in the future. This can get tough at times, esp when you're not expecting to give a lesson on Islamic etiquittes.

I agree with Ducaqabe (I'm relieved to see that you've edited your response ). I'm simply baffled by how some Muslims are blowing this incident out of proportion. This is not to say that I am undermining the severity of the offence (God forbid) for we have all been tremendously offended and hurt as a result of these thoughtless actions ( and rightfully so), but is resorting to senseless violence and terrorising innocent people the answer? What good will this possibly achieve? Is this really protecting our beloved prophet (saw)'s honour or is it tarnishing the image of the very message he struggled to convey. I am all for Muslims uniting and taking a firm stance against this whole incident (from gov't level to the individual level), however, it should be done through appropiate means that coincide with Islamic teachings and the sunnah of our Rasul (saw). Violence and rage will hardly resolve anything except propagate more hatred,intolerance and chaos. We should take this as an opportunity to teach others why the prophet (saw) is so beloved to us, how his message was universal and mercy to all of mankind. We should ourselves learn more about his eminent characteristics-among many- of kindness, patience, tolerance and perseverance while striving to emulate him in the best of our capacity. These are indeed trying times for all Muslims but as Allah (swt) states in His book, "Verily, with every hardship comes ease", and the believers will always have the upper hand. Therefore, we should put our utmost trust in Allah (swt) and submit to His will wholeheartedly, pray for His forgiveness and mercy for the ummah of Muhammad sallalahu calayhi wa calaa aalihi wa saxbixii wasalam. Allah is All-Knowing and All-seeing, and He will protect His deen and His chosen one. "Iyaaka Nacbudu Wa Iyaaka Nastaciin"

Originally posted by xiinfaniin: ^^We now know your preferences; checkmate should have no problem finding a match Horta who said this sister was looking, laakin even if I were, meeshaad ka odhan lahayd awoowe anigaa personally kuu soo xulaya the sleekest most charming wadad on the block baad Checkmate oo bohol iga ridaya ii direysaa...xaraam Originally posted by ibtisam: so funny i always though Abraar was a brother sorry. Ugh, what is it with SOLers and my name :mad: pretty soon qof baan ku qara bixi doonaa. Bishaaro, get it right lady, this is not a sinlges registry, it's a questionnaire! Nur, anytime bro.

Originally posted by Baashi: Abraar, you see every time I wanna address some SOL character with A initials your name comes out and before I know it I'm penning cyber posts addressing you . Don't know why?... Ma zaaz baa, caadios weeye...must be the Icelandic weather eh Abraar sounds more masculine name. Ina abti, how do you like these names: Qalanjo, Suuban, Saxarla, Samawado, Saaqa or Siman hadii kale sida Soomalida galbeedka degta waxaad qaadataa laba magac…. Saaqaluula, AaminaCadar or FalxadoQuman Xaasha, hortaa jire ayaa iga daaley. I fail to see the masculinity in the name though, ppl are just not too familiar with it, that's all. (I might just consider one of the last three one of these days :cool: )

Waaxey ganacsigaad sheegeyso inaabti, fyi i'm not qaduucad, so shaxeey kadhaceyso iyo sweets aanaban la maqal anaad iga taqaan, lakiin you have to deliver! Ta kale, we have one too many nomads who could use immediate SSL lessons, marka sheekadan waa yara advanced ee waxa muhiimka ah bal soo ban dhig. Let the first nomad you enrol be our dear brother Stoic, inanku i caawiyaay bu ku qeelinayaa, and then after that Mr. Atheer and many more can be enrolled as we see fit I've a deadline (somali?) to meet in like one hr soo waan soo noqon Insha'Allah. PS: baxarzaaf waxaan u aqaanaa anu geed sida geed hindigii xamar u baxa oo laga helo Ethiopia (at least that's where I've seen it)...waa la isku huuriyaa caleemahiisa during the colder seasons, it has a very soothing/therapeutic effect.

^ask awoowe Xiin, he's the who started it all and insists to be referred to as 'good' xiin...I think inuu wax ku hoos qarinayo Urban: That's one gorgeous baby :eek:

Ok, normally I wouldn't be caught anywhere near relationship questionnaires for I just don't have the time nor interest in contemplating such issues...but I shall try to do it for e-Nuri's sake Insha'Allah. 1. First Category: Character Issues a. Please share three most undesirable character traits you will never consider. --> Ignorance, conceit, selfishness. b. Please share three best character traits you are looking in a future hubby or a wifey. --> Piety, humility, rationality c. Please share character traits that you can tolerate. --> can't really think of any particular ones rigt now. Second Category: Religious Issues a. Where does a spouse fit in your spiritual life ? choose one below: 1. Most important, desirable, not an issue. --> Most Important (hope I'm getting the q right) Third Category : Social background: a. Does tribal or ethnic background matter in a spouse? --> Not necessarily (I'd prefer Somali though). b. Does social status, Head of Tribe, job ( shoemaker/metalworker/leatherweaver/computer technician or a cab driver, a Warlord, or does wealth and social prestige matter to you in a mate? --> Prestige and wealth: NO --> Job as you put it: Yes--Warlordnimo and any clan affiliated line of work is a big NO NO! (wal ciyadu billah) c. If all is equal, who do you prefer, western raised spouse, a Somalia-Somaliland-Puntiland-Jubbaland- Kismayoland- Kurtunwarreyland raisaed spouse ? --> Location of upbringing doesn't matter per se, so long as he's proficient in his mother tongue and he's well in touch with his roots (Somalinimo that is, not any of the 'Landish' stuff). Fourth Category: Age: Choose one below: True, False, sometimes true, sometimes false: a. Maturity comes with age --> True/False b. A young woman/man is not stable to consider --> False c. Men are like Cheese, the older they get the better --> False d. Younger men can be trained to be a better husband --> False e. Age parity (equivalence) is very important in marriage --> False f. Older women are more satisfying in a relationship --> I wouldn't know d. What is the maximum age difference you can tolerate Hint: (Middle Eastern Joke: Very old man marries very young girl, in their wedding night, they were both crying, why? he forgot all about it, and she is too young to figure it out) --> what a joke! , I could probably tolerate 5-10 yr difference (in fact it's a preference), that is him being older. I wouldn't tolerate a younger husband. 5th Category ommitted! Sixth. Security Issue Please list three most important issues that you need in a marriage to feel secure: ( Fisrt Hint: e-Nuri Polygamy Insurance Service To be released soon) --> compatibility, Spirituality, financial stability (on my part specifically), you said 3 but I can't leave out love Seventh, Education Background: Women: a. All other factors being equal, Would you consider marrying a lesser educated man or a more educated man or an equally educated man? --> Yes to all. b. How mush does intellectual maturity in a man weigh against other romantic attributes for your consideration? --> Extremely high c. If education is important to you, and you find just the right guy, but without education, would you accept marrying him if he promises to further his education after the wedding/before the wedding as a condition? --> Prefer before the wedding, I don't even mind if it's during the engagement period. Phew! that was rather lengthy. ps: did you leave out the significance of physical attributes deliberately or you just forgot to include it? Surely, you must know that it's an issue that weighs in for many folks.

Originally posted by Baashi: Abraar FYI Hakarl is a fermented shark. Now imagine that! It’s very weird food I can tell ya that! Waaban shakiyeyee, is there another Abraar here? *gazes around* *Waves at Baashe, Salaam*

Bishaaro: sorry dear but I just think xamaraawi songs waa filthy (oops), seriously, waxay gurayaan uun ku qabo iyo ka kac iyo bakac bakac iyo waxaan loo joogin... Ok ok, so I've given up on music a while back (alhamdulilah) lakiin for some odd reason shaitan has been getting the best of me these days and I'm seeing myself humming to the tune of Liilalow around the house (mom yaab baa ka soo harey)...would someone quickly quench my thirst for the lyrics please! :rolleyes: @myself. Ya Rabbi ii naxriiso!

^He's only telling the truth...this was all about you remember? Checkmate: I cannot believe inaad wadaadii hadalkaas u quudhey :eek: :eek: Waligeeyba reer Baro kheyr kama sugeyn saa kolgii geel loo heeso ayeey goronya uheesaane...I wouldn't give up my day job if I were u Mr. Matchmaker! Bes bes ya jaamaca...hadeeyba sheekadu sidan gaadhey, Madiidona ku darsantey...baxay anu habeen wanaagsan!

Ji'ta sharrafta al-Madinah marhaban ya khayra da... RasuulAllah, habiibAllah, NabiiyALlah Shafii'Allah Blessed year to all the Muslims worldwide Insha'Allah.

^ ka nooqo! Xiin: Biyo kaa badan iyo dad kaa badanba weey ku hafiyaan ma maqli jirtey...Indhahaa la'ii furey dee Lakiin, no worries, I'm still a humanitarian. Castro: no territory is dangerous enough for qoomul abraar ya'akhi, "BismillAllah" is their slogan. But I was just feeling sorry for the bachelor brothers of SOL dee which is why I think some immediate action needs to be taken against this gang, waa la idiin soo fikiri doonaa

MMA: Saa iga dheh inaabti, I knew I would learn something from you. Laakin, pls open another 'af-somali' thread will ya, I don't particularly enjoy participating any further in a 'urinal stalk' thread. And meesha uu kasoo jeedo ereyga "qaldaan," inaa siriq ii dhigtaa rabtaa, waa kuu jeedaa. Habeenkii xaleey tagay, mahaan seeflaboodka diyaar eh inay igu dhacdo, Eebbe hakuu sahlo, walax kale noo keen. Bummer! That 'maskiin' title baa ii beensheegey mala..waad iga reeysey walee Ducaqabe: you're close

Originally posted by Castro: May be old Castro should join this geriatric stampede for young Lady Solers and find him a min-yar (or two). Ahem, why are you acting like you weren't at the forefront of the stampede ...adu iyo Xiin wixiinu waa iska obvious lakiin hadda it seems like oday Ducaqabe wants to join as well...arji ma qoran karaa kuye, kix kix kix. Rahima: *wonders who will be your next target*

" hadad dhimneyso dharerka waa leska duwaa" That's exactly the aphorism that comes to mind here. Besides, is the poor Kenyan any less dignified than the proud nomad walal :confused: Subhanallah, It's quite inhumane and serves nothing but humiliation. Despite these ppl's disheartening plight, they're still human beings and deserve to be treated as such! If they really wanted to give 'aid' they could've done so by giving them real food (which would probably cost them less than pet food). Castro: walal, I would think it's the fault of those warmongering monstrous creatures called dictators rather the average poor and vulnerable African's fault.

Rahima..Care to share darling? Still, I refuse to let my girl Bishaaro settle for the 'min-yare' position...we can't let that happen Farax...yur, it means ha iska nafisaan without bunch of nosy ppl getting in their business

Rahima, Awoowe doesn't bother good Xiin anymore, he's accepted the age factor with grace long ago...ask CW Waryaadhehe, akhyaarta ka hadha ha idin ka raaxeystane

^I figured since I can't sleep I might as well keep others awake Ok, khalas, I'll call it a night....tisbax calaa khair!

^Lol@you two. Originally posted by Castro: Markaa dagaalka hoolman inuu MMA ku naf seego weeyan xaalkaagu. Mida kale, yaa dagaalka qaadayood ka baqanaysa? I'm extremely curious now. Atheer, it was just a joke on my part, don't read too much into it