I think those relationships that form under long-distance can be quite a hassle, even very gruesome and distressing at times for the indivuals involved. I've witnessed it all too well with a close friend of mine, and subhanallah, it nearly drove her insane. All the ifs, buts, and uncertainty involved can literally drain one's energy out and turn out to be quite unhealthy for you. But your case is different in that you've spent time together to get to know each other, to fall in love and make a commitment, so Insha'Allah be steadfast and do everything in your capacity to try and bring her. Then Marry her ASAP! I pray that Allah makes it easy for you.

Heartless woman! Perhaps she was traumatized as a child.

^Bisinka, walaayey, ileen xididkii naxriista waa lagaa saarey. Why torture them like that, you could've at least pretended to have been touched by the fake tears. Masaakiin dheh, kakanoos baa heshay LoL@Imika waan kaa helaa. Saa ugama taalo ragga ee bal wax u reeb. Faarax: adu saqajaanimada kolnaba lagaama waayo haye

Originally posted by Faarax-Brawn: Haneefah, Now i assume the two of you will sob in unison hadaba? What an ugly sight!,please dont invite me to your wedding . LoL. Who said anything about sobbing dee? Besides, those moments are not meant to be shared with others, xaashaa! On a serious note, not everyone is blessed with a softer qalb; it's a mercy from Allah to be able to show tears out of emotional state. And the most beautiful of tears are those shed for the love of Allah, Subxanahu watacala.

Alxamdulilah, another year is approaching us. May we make the best of it InshaAllah.

I agree, there's something particularly sweet about seeing a man tear up. I don't know why though.

Assalamu Calaykum everyone, It's funny as this thread (khalaf's inquiry) reminded me of a recent human rights conference I've attended in MN, regarding this very region. It was one attended by different ethnicities and the panelists were also comprised of diverse ethnic backgrounds including Oromos and other marginalized minorities in Ethiopia. Anyways, when it came to the Q/A period, this young Somali brother stood up and after he stated he wasn't from this region he continued by saying "I have a problem with the name of the region...", and that was his sole comment after listening to hours of the atrocities the people endure on a daily bases. Subxanallah. Many jaws dropped including mine, but I kept thinking about the significance politics has gained in our lives as Somalis, to the extend where our senses have dried up and our logic has become clouded. If the concept of brotherhood has lost meaning to us (if it ever had one), what about that of humanity I wondered. Very sad walee! Khalaf, walalo, I've started reading your posts with readiness to understand your stance and give you the benefit of the doubt, however, the more you wrote the harder it became for me to maintain that view. It became quite clear to me that you have somewhat distorted version of history, and that you're lacking adequate understanding about Somalia's political/social history which is causing you much of the evident confusion and naivete. I hope that you don't take this personally, but one has to possess particular akhlaaq and knowledge when they want to discuss and debate a certain subject. In this case, you started discussing a subject (the struggle of the Ogadden) about which you obviously know very little, and when other's who are better informed attempted to give you the facts or correct your perspective, you managed to go on the defensive and personalize the issue whilst responding quite rude to some. Do you see anything wrong with the picture here? Do you honestly see this as the best approach to have a productive debate or knowledge exchange? At the same token, I don't condone the ways some nomads have resorted to in engaging you either! We have to grow some patience and be much gentler to one another if we want to really benefit others and have our message be heard. The issues of the Horn are much deeper and too complex for you or the average western raised Somali who usually doesn't have credible first-hand information at their disposal. It's only with thorough studying, understanding and analysis of true historical facts that one can begin to critically assess the issues, discuss what went wrong and form their opinion for a solution. And for that to occur, we must first be open-minded and rid ourselves off the irrational and barbaric qabil based mentalities that impede any potential for collective and individual progress. Furthermore, if I may, I sincerely want to warn you about the destructive influence of the SOL political circle, though I unfortunately see some of that impact on you already. See, I remember your newbie days and your sheer innocence then only to now find you an expert on puntland and fulaan land or adeer AY and Indhacade, this could only be attributed to the obvious . Too much qabiil and hate based rhetoric, which is quite rampant here, is not conducive to your mental growth and definitely not your imaan bro; it undoubtedly corrupts your mind and qalb unless you possess the right immunity which very few here have. May Allah swt guide us all. Last but not least, if you seriously want to learn about the Ogadden's struggle for independence, here's an interesting book that was recently published which addresses some of the questions you had and gives a detailed explanation. InshaAllah, it will help you see things in a different light. PS. MMA, walal while I understand and respect your eagerness to uphold the site rules, it's disappointing to see you go on a deletion spree knowing very well no one was referring to qabiil but rather a region. It is what it is and it's on the world map you yourself posted regardless of who named it; this is how the world recognizes the region for now whether some of us agree or not, thus it should be tolerated Insh'Allah.

Subxanallah, truly tragic event. It's quite strange how the huge bridge crumbled like that. Alxamdulilah family and friends are fine though it was difficult to get through their phones...I have yet to get a hold of some friends. Insha'Allah, I'm hoping for the best. Xiin and Jimcaale, I'm glad to hear you're both safe and sound. Bi'idnillah, inta kalena kheyr baan u rajeynayaa.

^lol. Sir dumar marka horeba yaa ku yiri isku dey inaad fahanto. Wah! Waaba heystaayee ee rajadda aad sheegeysid xee ahayd? Oo kaalay, good newska in la iska qariyo la iskuma ogeynee waa sidee? Misa heysashadu waxay ka dhigantahay wali faraha ma soo galin inkastooy wax jiraan. Originally posted by xiinfaniin: Waxaa la yiri nin cad naagtaada uga baq, nin madoobana naftaada ! Here Bishaaro & Abraar waxay ku leeyihiin niman quraysh u ekeyn lalama hadlo! War illeen ibtilo, hadday tooda ahaan lahayd aniga iyo raggaan ku jiro lalama kalaameen oo godkoodaa kuttaan ku cunni lahayd . Laakiin Allah baan leenahay. . And here we thought Xaaji Xiin was one of the very few aanan ragga aad sheegtay lagu tirineynin, in kastoo Quraysh uunan gaareynin, LOL. Lakiin no worries, I'm certain tii hore sidaad ku so xerogalisay umbaad ta labaadna (misa ta 3aad bey ahayd horta?) ku keeni.

^I resent to see our beautiful Canada be spoken of like that...lakiin, to come to think of it, wey istaahishaa But it's true about the celebration...Somalis have to just intend that all of it is for them, even the great fireworks show (was it in ontario place they held it horta?)

Mabrook walalo. Ilaahay mid kheyr qaba ha kaaga dhigo. I second the big salute to the mothers of SOL, who actually seem to be increasing in number these days. MashaAllah. :cool:

I was actually hoping to see it, but was only able to catch the last bit of it. I'm sure masakiinta are confronted with many unforeseen obstacles and difficulties during their resettlement period - Perhaps more so than other refugee groups. I highly doubt that mainstream Somali communities reach out to them and give them the much needed support; quite unfortunate and shameful really. Ilaahey ha u gargaaro.

^Lol@days of operation. Bal horta inadeerey the extended shahrul casal ha kuu dhamaado, then dadka waad arki MMA, I guess I forgot to add: With the exception of few nooc minal MMA ah. Koley ilama aha in maanta loo fiirsado suniyo madmadow iyo cududo buurbuuran iwm.

Mabruuk Sis! May Allah bless your union and fill your lives with prosperity and joyous times.

Originally posted by Nephthys: Karti & caqli kasto ha la haado wax foolxuno ku hor fadhiya ilaah baa na lehe ma dha-dhamaayo. Hadduuse beeso qabo ma'oshi . Hello lady Bishaaro, how are ya? Maxaad tiri, beesa aa...you know very well walaa beeso walaa aduuyada oo idil oo lagu soo hordhigo, haduunan kol indhaha u rooneyn meeshiisa inuu ku hadhayo Bal hadda eeg MMA-yow, you made me comment on the khalq of Allah, astaghfurullah Interesting list though...badanaa nimanka Somaliyeed ee hore wey ku raaci lahayeen baan umalayn.

^but?

Originally posted by Kreepy Kid: no, the death was being in Saskatchewan Do you mind elaborating on your experience walalo, it sounds a little scary. Especially when I'm supposed to be relocating there the end of this summer, it will be my new home for the next two years InshaAllah . I am of the impression, however, that no Somalis are to be found in that little prairie province.

Haneefah How are you xabiibty? Parenting is scary because children are so delicate but I guess if you give it your utmost best, Allah will take care of inta kale. You should get your sister in law a copy of Mohammed Shareef's Driving your Childs's future. It's in e-book form and masha Allah. It's so good that I ended up writing him a 10k 'thank you' email. He does in that book what he does best, make Implementing Islamic teachings on the subject as simple as 1, 2, 3. :cool: I highly recommend it. I'm good darling, hoping all is with you too . Thank you for bringing my attention to this book. I should probably get it for not only this sister-in-law, but my other four as well...seems very beneficial and I'm sure they'd like shaikh Muhammad's style :cool:

Shame on you folks.... Kashafa, Walal, let me first thank you for posting such a incredible and noteworthy article, not because of the disheartening stories it narrates, but because of the opportunity it creates for the world to see first-hand the cries of the people of this forgotten land. People, as you already might know, who have been deprived of basic human rights, tortured, massacred, and most of all, hidden from world to observe for decades and decades. Now, for the first time ever and despite all the obstacles and hurdles imposed on them to deter their mission, these courageous and determined journalists risked their own lives to visit the Ogadden in order to report on the plight of these people. Personally, I could barely get through the article because of the emotional toll it took on me, nonetheless, it did put a smile on my face. This issue particularly concerns me as it hits very close home. As we speak, some extended family members, and both close and distant relatives of mine (including women and youngsters) are sitting inside small, smelly, pitch dark cells in Ethiopian jails. All horrified and not knowing if they will live to see tomorrow; some beaten to death and tortured, perhaps because of the name they carry, or simply because they belong to this land. Unfortunately, for some us, this is the harsh reality we continuously face and have to learn to deal with! Having said that, I seem to be missing the point of why you felt like this thread of all the abundant other threads had to be the one to confront certain members whose political viewpoints you obviously consider abominable. Clearly, I don't have any insight as to how you folks discuss politics here or why extreme amount of tension and personal grudges exist between you all. However, I completely and sincerely fail to see what this piece of reporting-which mind you has significant value to those it concerns- has to do with the likes of Duke or for that matter, the ICU and TFG. Am I the only one missing the link here, or you people have become so desensitized to the point where you can't even take a moment to acknowledge the message being presented in the article? Some have the audacity to even call the thread pointless :rolleyes: Subxanallah. I'm not pleading for anyone's sympathy or pity here, however, all I am saying is that this article deserves to be discussed on it own merit and anything beyond that (as we've seen so far by the members) is simply undermining the the issue at hand. To borrow the words of the journalist when speaking about the freedom fighters in the video: "Their dreadlocks symbolize their struggle..." May Allah alleviate their pain, assist them in their struggle and let freedom reign in this part of the world, and the rest of Somali lands for that matter. Ameen.

^Didn't he sound like a complete retard? And they call him an ambassador. Originally posted by xiinfaniin: Allow u sahal eheladdiisa asagana u fududee. Ameen Ya Rabb, isaga iyo intii la dhibaateysanba. Inshallah, not only will he come back but stronger and more determined then ever. Insha'Allah! The truth however is that af-libaax buu galey. And sometimes it's that very name that can get you in trouble. But qadarallah, may He (swt) protect us from our enemies.

I think plastic surgery in general has become an increasingly popular phenomenon in all of the middle east (more prevalence in some countries of course). The scary part is that even males are in line now modeling after your usual Amr Diab's. You guys should've seen the Lebanese version of Extreme Makeover I once watched on MBC...yaqyaqsi fooqal yaqyaqsi walee.

Indeed, It's an uphill battle! I can't begin to describe how utterly disappointed I am with this government about this case. It's truly shameful.

90210 and Melrose Place

^That's exactly what scares me most about parenthood, though I am looking very much forward to becoming a mother some day Insha'Allah (hopefully not too far). Coincidently, I was having a conversation with my sister-in-law about motherhood earlier today, and she was telling me how terrible she feels at times after her patience runs out with the twin boys and a newborn baby boy. This is a mother who has stopped her great career to raise her kids and does everything in her best capacity to make sure they get an amazing upbringing. I have seen-over the past couple of days they were with us-what an incredible mother she is, but still, I was startled to discover that she somehow felt she was falling short in some way or another. I thought to myself, if stay-at-home mothers can feel guilty and over-burdened at times, what about mothers who try to juggle both parenting and careers? How distressful and excruciatingly overwhelming must it be for them? It really worries me... Walahi, It takes an enormous amount of energy and dedication to be a mother as is, thus society must cut them some slack and give them all the support and encouragement possible.

Allah yarxamhum. This looks terrible, Ilaahey ha u gargaaro those impacted by the storm. We've had an intense storm here in southern Ontario as well, no reported deaths luckily, but lots of property damage and power loss. However, some of the US states have been hit really hard. We should probably expect to see more of such severe climate changes as a result of global warming. If greenhouse gas emissions continue at the rate it currently is, the projected outcome is going to be staggering. Wallahu yaclam.