lol Siren, Sorry I didn't realize you would have responded so fast, I was writing slowly cause I am watching this Jockey show. Okay that make sense, I was like no way those titles, would be printed let alone but on shelf. Well I haven't read those authors, the ones I do read are Nora Roberts, Sandra Brown, Jude Devereaux, Judith McNaught, Julie Garwood, and Stephanie Laurens. Ps. glad to have you here, you and I, will get along very well...Now I wouldn't be the only female SOler who writes about desire, sex, and sexuality

lol Ibtisam, She definitely thinks like me or is it me who think like her My apprentice is here and it is going to get interesting And to all those unmarried ladies, the shelf, is not a place to fear but a place to celebrate...Don't pay attention to the rumor

First of all, let me welcome you to SOL Siren, It seems you hit the ground running. I am fellow Romance reader, have read them for years, my pop rolls his eyes when he sees my books But in all the years I have read them, I have never seen titles like these, are they for real!!!! If you ever want to upgrade let me know bee bye

Awww Pucca, I can't honestly say I get what you going through because I am asymptomatic when it comes to menstruation. But it is most likely it's hormonal issue and if your case becomes more severe or regular then you can consider hormone replacement therapy...Of course on a milder side, but again Birth control does provide relieve because it would keep your hormone levels balanced. As warrior of light side, be informed patient, and read up on the different bills available and choose the one that has the least side effect and see if it works. Good luck and hope it gets better for you. Bee bye

قلب يحن: تتمنى ان تلمس حنانه ورقته وخوفه عليك وان تعيش في حنانه للابد. This is it

Innaa Lillaahi Wa Inna Illahi Raajicuun.

I read this column and someone sent in this letter: Q "my boyfriend of five years has severe anger and money issues. I constantly helped him out financially, professionally, and personally. If I refused there'd be a fight. Still, I love him dearly because he's a good guy. He's always said I'm "the one"; that every other woman has left him, but he wanted to grew old with me. Two months ago, he left me, but came back a week later, teary, saying we'd go to therapy. The therapist said he had attention deficit disorder, and once he got on medication many of our problems would be resolved. A week later, things were great until he said he didn't love me and left again. He's flying to Peru to see a girl he dated 15 years ago, and hoping to propose. He called her his true love, and hurt me more by saying he'd "wasted" five years with me. But, I know this fling won't last. I still truly love him, and I hate seeing our relationship going down the drain like this!"

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lol C&H has the misunderstanding been cleared out! Speaking of Misunderstanding, There is this show called "Say yes to the dress" and these brides to be bring their friends and relatives, to help them find the right dress...And this one commercial, this bride walks out in her gown and one of her friend says "oh it's simple and plain, just like you" :eek: :eek: Now try to explain that bee bye S_S

C&H, No I didn't try it but I finally found a product for my hair...I began using Mizani and it's amazing for my hair...Now there is no going back for me

Malika, I have to disagree with you on your point that C&H has something to do with the underling issue...This is the gentleman's issue and no one else, most of insecurities, steam not from outside factors but your own perception of things...If I am not mistaken, this gentleman himself, had women chasing him and throwing themselves at him and he told C&H there was nothing going on and she believed him...Now he is not being fair. Regardless of the stories he might have heard, he should have faith in his woman, and if there was a problem with it before he should have addressed instead of seeing a man approaching her and her trying to go back to the office and him saying the straightest line between those two points is that she is hiding a work related relationship :eek: C&H, Don't mind LazieG, it is always like this, when she comes out of hibernation . As to the length of Engagement it really depends on the couple...Personally, if individual follow the guidelines set (as in them not being alone together), it shouldn't be longer than is necessary for the couples to prepare themselves...If it is wedding cost, or Maher, or finishing school or whatever the reason is marriage should be delayed, engagement shouldn't exceed past the completion of those objective. Bee bye SS

I finally realized I have road rage :mad: :mad:

You are right it's going from really bad to awful, personally C&H, I think God is giving you signs and you should pay attention...Obviously this guy an issue, whether he is projecting on you what he himself could be guilty of, or that he's lack of distinguishing a misunderstanding from a complete personality change. Often these behaviors he is exhibiting lead to abusive tendencies. You need to really re-assess and figure it out you need to do for you and your happiness...Best of Luck bee bye SS

C&H, You seem you can't stay out of trouble woman ...I wonder if the situation has settled with your fiancee but I guess I am contributing my 1 and 1/2 cent Alright let see, First of all, I actually have an image of your running around in the living room trying to distract your sister from the tv monitor...Okay back to the issue, I don't know this young man of yours, and it is possible as someone said him thinking you could have possibly been watching porn is upsetting to his ego...He might feel insecure and unsettled by that idea, even though he might deep down know you are not watching, but I guess you hiding it first and not straight away explaining to him the situation didn't help. Having said that his reaction seems to the extreme, calling every hour on the hour, and there can be a deeper issue there and the best way is for you to talk to him straight forward rather than avoid and do the silent treatment...This not one of those times to avoid talking about something...Get together with him be firm but gentle meaning you need to explain to him his action and behavior were not appropriate to the situation but you would like him to tell you why he reacted as he did...You have to reaffirm this relationship is built on trust on both sides and his distrust of what you said is upsetting...Maybe guys think that women really don't like porn, it is engaging to woman, so if they find out they might watch a guy might react differently to it than you would expect. This is a good chance for you and him to work out a way of resolving your issues in the future, it's essential in a marriage that you can communicate well and effectively, to get you through the hurdles like these. Don't ever admit to something you didn't do, it's totally not worth, and that probably didn't help the matter...Just explain to him why it happened, that the pressure was too much and it just seemed like easier to do than fight with him, do apologize for lying. In nutshell, you need a face-to-face time with him, have a good discussion about the situation be open minded but again be sure to say how the whole situation made you feel and work it out Going back to exercise motivation, I am going skydiving this summer, and I don't want to be denied because I am too fat so I am hitting the gym for now

lol when I read protective gear I thought of completely something different You went paint balling, that's cool, where are the pictures woman!!!!!You have to make it up to us for standing us up on the sky diving deal Ibti I meant to ask you do you work in a mental health related field?

lool you ladies are wired up, I just left for 20 minutes it seems, and there is a whole new page. Ibti, eh playing with words again hmm let's just say that being hot and bothered sweetness the climactic conclusion Ms DD, well thank god, you and some other ladies got me I thought I went off the deep end...I thought I had one of those days

Good morning Ladies, seems like everyone is chipper today Ibti, lol after all these pages we still have no answers eh, it's weird, we are both reading the same posts but perceiving it differently this one of those replies where you feel like you have something to say but can't find the words to write to express those thoughts...But I guess what struck me the most is that you saw the negative extreme end of things...Like a woman looking at her own body (ogling as you called it) leads to body issues that ends in eating disorder...Or fantasies developing into psychological disorders, or leading to other paths or actually causing someone to act on it in a sinful way...Is there no medium in things! Of course no hard feelings and I do get your drift I guess we just have philosophical difference

Hello Ladies, Gee a girl goes away for two days and miss all the excitement…Sorry for the delayed response, yesterday was a hectic day from gym to shopping to dinner and a movie, which btw reminds me Ibti don’t waste your time on “He is just not that into you” total let down and disappointing. lol C&H, sorry to make your shah and caano get cold, but hope I don’t disappoint in Erotic 101 lecture To Ibti, I had to read your previous post here and I think there are two parts for me to answer, I am sure you would let me know if I miss anything *smile* Oh yeah I don’t know about the Somali style of understanding, but oh well Part 1: Refers to your comment “How to make this tool work?” going back to how to make the mind work for you when it comes to desire and sexual arousal…There are couple of activities you can do and again these are not professional opinions just merely my personal suggestion. Activity 1: Self Assessment 1. First thing you need to have your mind figure out is what you want sexually 2. You have to make sexual thoughts a priority, the more your mind things about it; the more you make it work for you in turning you on. 3. Nude exercise, where you stand in front of a mirror you guess it totally nude, and visually look at each part of your body…Sort of like caressing without physically touching…Again the point is to stimulate your mind to think sexual thoughts when it comes to your body. Activity 2: Body Zone 1. Find a picture of a human body, front and back, and on that poster or whatever you mark the areas you would like to be touched on. 2. Then do the same thing again but this time on the male body. Point of this exercise to get you to think about your own body again sexually and in addition to visualizing. Activity 3: Creative Writing 1. You said before you didn’t know what I termed “erotic scene” to be, so this exercise, which again there is no expectation of sharing it here totally you private piece, is to write a scene with strong sexual desire theme. 2. Location of the scene is up to you, the only thing I would tell you, is to have the male in the story be someone you find attractive or appealing (can be a movie star or a real life person) it’s up to you. 3. So again the story is a sexual story therefore you have to write in such style, from beginning to end. Once it is completed leave the story alone for few days and then re-read again and see if you visualize the scene and note your reaction. 4. Evaluate your reaction(physical or mental or emotional) and be honest with yourself Part2: Refers to your comment “Can you give me examples of the many forms and ways of sexual arousal?” First let me address the “dominatrix” comment, it does not mean you have wear leather and carry a wipe, and have a man on a dog collar being abused by you…Dominatrix when I used it for you was to mean a woman who is dominate person in a sexual relationship or in bed. Okay here go the examples of forms and ways: just to say quickly not every woman is the same, I am merely speaking of my own knowledge, just a heads up Examples of forms: 1. Shallow breathing 2. heightened sensitivity particularly in skin, lips, and nipple area (but only those women who have sensitive breast) 3. Intense sensation (pleasant but yet sweetly painful) in the abdomen area 4. Engorged outer lips around the vagina area 5. Relaxation of the vaginal muscles 6. And of course Lubrication And again this does not speak for everyone out there and each woman have to notice her own signs and learn. Examples of Ways: I was referring here to ways a woman can arousal herself, because you mentioned something about arousal and emotion, and this was my way of saying not every woman is aroused the same way or in the same manner. 1. Some are aroused via visual images, aka fantasies 2. Some are aroused via sounds, like moaning or particular pitch 3. Some are aroused via emotion, for example women in love, her emotions are extremely heightened, and over a period of time it translates into sexual desire for the other individual. These are just hormonal triggers. 4. Some are aroused via words; particular words are trigger for them, these words in a sexual context act as again a way for arousal. Association between these different ways and your own arousal comes from your own awareness to your sexual response and checking if there is a pattern between the two. Alright I think that covers what I can come up with at this time, hopefully Ibti and I were on the same page, and I just did not waste 45 minutes writing this up Bee bye SS

lol Ibti I love how you play with words...I don't think you are as bad as you think you are...Ah control issues you say eh well you know you can be the dominatrix totally would suit you. You just have to channel your strength into the sexual arena...Sexual arousal can come in many forms and ways, you just have to recognize it and maybe Ibti that's the part you aren't at yet ps. Ibti, just so I don't feel too bad for corrupting a minor's mind, how old are you? As for movies, I am going to check that new one out, "he is just not that into you" I have read the book a while back. Bee bye SS

You are crazy you know that right

lol KK I was trying to wait until it was officially his birthday, but you beat me to the drum. JB have a wonderful terrific birthday Bee bye

I find this offensive :mad: :mad:

KK I have been caabaading everyday here in SOL although I only stay localized in the Women's section First time I heard in the Car, I began immediately repeating the words, and I was like wait "did i just say I kissed a girl and I liked it :eek: " So every time it comes on I switch or run away

loool Ibtisam put the ball back in my corner eh ...Well let's just say the mind is the most powerful sex organ and whatever I lack in normal imagination I more than make it up in that department lol Cynical Lady, if I am not mistaken, I believe the director of the movie is Kate's husband. bee bye SS