This is a great way to learn from each other. I would like to share this hadith, It shows the allah the all almighty mercy for us. Narrated by Ibn Abbas (Radhiallaho anho): The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam)narrating about his Lord and, "Allah ordered (the appointed angels over you) that the good and the bad deeds be written, and He then showed (the way) how (to write). If somebody intends to do a good deed and he does not do it, then Allah will write for him a full good deed (in his account with Him); and if he intends to do a good deed and actually did it, then Allah will write for him (in his account) with Him (its reward equal) from ten to seven hundred times to many more times: and if somebody intende to do a bad deed and he does not do it, then Allah will write a full good deed (in his account) with Him, and if he intended to do it (a bad deed) and actually did it, then Allah will write one bad deed (in his account)."

A small boy is sent to bed by his father. Five minutes later.... "Da-ad...." "What? "I'm thirsty. Can you bring drink of water?" "No. You had your chance. Lights out." Five minutes later: "Da-aaaad....." "WHAT?" "I'm THIRSTY. Can I have a drink of water??" "I told you NO!" If you ask again, I'll have to spank you!!" Five minutes later...... "Daaaa-aaaad....." "WHAT!" "When you come in to spank me, can you bring a drink of water?" -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- An exasperated mother, whose son was always getting into mischief, finally asked him, "How do you expect to get into Heaven?" The boy thought it over and said, "Well, I'll run in and out and in and out and keep slamming the door until St. Peter says, 'For Heaven's sake, Dylan, come in or stay out!'" -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- One summer evening during a violent thunderstorm a mother was tucking her son into bed. She was about to turn off the light when he asked with a tremor in his voice, "Mommy,will you sleep with me tonight?" The mother smiled and gave him a reassuring hug. "I can't dear,"she said. "I have to sleep in Daddy's room." A long silence was broken at last by his shaky little voice: "The big sissy." -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- It was that time, during the Sunday morning service, for ! the children's sermon. All the children were invited to come forward. One little girl was wearing a particularly pretty dress and, as she sat down, the pastor leaned over and said, "That is a very pretty dress. Is it your Easter Dress?" The little girl replied, directly into the pastor's clip-on microphone, "Yes,and my Mom says it's a ***** to iron." -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- When I was six months pregnant with my third child, my three year old came into the room when I was just getting ready to get into the shower. She said,"Mommy, you are getting fat!" I replied, "Yes, honey, remember Mommy has a baby growing in her tummy" "I know," she replied, but what's growing in your butt?" -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A little boy was doing his math homework. He said to himself, "Twoplus five,that son of a ***** is seven. Three plus six, that son of a ***** is nine...." His mother heard what he was saying and gasped, "What are you doing?" The little boy answered, "I'm doing my math homework, Mom." "And this is how your teacher taught you to do it?" the mother asked. "Yes," he answered. Infuriated, the mother asked the teacher the next day, "What are you teaching my son in math?" The teacher replied, "Right now, we are learning addition." The mother asked, "And are you teaching them to say two plus two, that son of a ***** is four?" After the teacher stopped laughing, she answered, "What I taught them was, two plus two, THE SUM OF WHICH, is four." -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- One day the first grade teacher was reading the story of Chicken Little to her class. She came to the part of the story where Chicken Little tried to warn the farmer. She read, ".... and so Chicken Little went up to the farmer and said, "The sky is falling, the sky is falling!" The teacher paused then asked the class. "And what do you think that farmer said?" One little girl raised her hand and said, "I think he said: 'Holy Shit! A talking chicken!'" The teacher was unable to teach for the next 10 minutes

Asalamu alaikum Rashida sis you are in difficlt sitaution, I have been in it before. My dad arranged my marriage when I was 16, Even though my dad is the most important person in my life, and would never utter a word of disrespect to him, he had to know I had a life ahead of me. I wasn't willing to get married to someone I didn't know. He understood, and I told him am going to call the guy and tell him I wasn't interested, and that wasn't the end of it. Since then when ever someone asks my dad my hand in marriage he tells them to talk to me in Islamic setting. Sis talking to your dad will be the only way to get out of this situation, inshallah he will understan. Good luck.

I went to cedar point few weeks ago, it was great. Kaafi the millenium ride aint that bad, you sissy Jk you get bit dizzy but thts about it. I like it though.

Imagine your grave through night and through day Wishing that you did not do as they say Wishing that you had got up and had prayed. Imagine, my friends, the day that you died Imagine all of the tears that they cried Remember how it felt when your body was tied Remember how it felt in the grave which you lied. Imagine the day you'll be called to account Imagine the sum to which your life will ammount Think for a moment of the deeds that you mount Think for a moment how much they will count. What will they say of you when you are dead? What will they say, what will be said? Will they speak of all the poor who you fed? Will they remember all the Qur`an that you read? Think not of them, but of Allah, Lord of mankind and jinn Think of Allah when tempted to sin Think of the paradise which you will dwell in Don't wait till later to think what might have been. DID YOU PREPARE: ARE YOU PREPARING: ARE YOU READY?! TOMMORROW COULD BE OUR DAY--LETS NOT FORGET THERE IS ANOTHER LIFE-- A LIFE IN JANNAH OR JAHANNAM.

This was already posted in the jokes section.

Tony Blair :mad:

Asalamu alaikum Mix xabadsoodo with malab and take it everyday for couple of months, it worked wonders for me.

Asalamu alaikum Bachelor thanks bro, may allah shower his mercy on all the muslims. They are great tips we can use on somali youth, we are losing so many of our somali brother and sisters to this useless western lifestyle, I think is about we started helping each other out. Wa salam

Asalamu Alaikum It's only up to the person to lose their culture and deen at Universities. As for me it only made me a better muslim. Joining the MSA had a great impact in my life. It gave us muslims a chance to teach non muslims about the religion. We pray outside, and ppl stand there to look at us and they become curios as to what we are doing a chance for as to explain about Islam. Universities is a place that makes you or breaks you, if you decide to hang out in the wrong crowd, most likely yuo will be lost. Its all about making the right choices, and if you are willing to discover who are as Muslim and Somali. All I have to say ppl wont change, unless you let them.

Asalamu alaikum YACQUUB you posted a great topic. For the past 5 years I have been here, I have seen somalis turn from being muxajabas to tight jeans and no hijab. my heart really goes out for those who had been brainwashed by the western lifestyle. Only if they know those imitate nonmuslims becomes one of them. I pray for them to be guided, inshallah one day this ummah will realize the mistake they are making and repent.

LoL You guys are sick in da head. The only ppl that understand me when I talk in Somali is my family, when am talking to other somalis, They think am sick in da head becuase everything I say interperts into something nasty in their head.

Asalamu alaikum HS years was a wonderfull experience, was tough but I learned a lot in those 4 years. Graduated as a valedacterion in 2002, and I will be getting my B.S. from U of M in 2005 Inshallah.

Asalamu alaikum HS years was a wonderfull experience, was tough but I learned a lot in those 4 years. Graduated as a valedacterion in 2002, and I will be getting my B.S. from U of M in 2005 Inshallah.

12 Tips for Muslim Youth Why should you, a young Muslim, be helping to bring your friends closer to Allah? After all, you've got your own struggles to deal with: trying to explain why you pray to hostile teachers, Hijab discrimination, standing up in class when the professor attacks Islam, dealing with parents who think you've gone nuts because you're growing a beard/wearing full hijaab, or all the other difficulties faced by a number of practicing Muslim youth? Islam was never meant to be an individualistic faith, reserved for the "chosen few". Muslims have a duty to spread the Deen, and practicing Muslim youth, whether beginners, activists or leaders have a crucial role to play. "Allah has put them in a position that perhaps no one else is in," notes Sheema Khan, former Muslim Youth of North America (MYNA) advisor for eastern Canada. "They have the means to communicate with their peers, they have an understanding of what they're going through plus they have the guidance of Islam." Who is your childhood friend, who would rather spend Fridays at Movies than the Masjid, or your classmate who is Muslim in name and only knows that "Muslims don't eat pork" going to listen to: the nice Imaam of the Masjid who would freak out if he saw the way they were dressed and talked or you who may have grown up with them, joked with them, or see them everyday in school? The answer is obvious: you. Don't panic. Here are some tips and advice which can help other Muslims, many of whom have been there and done that: Tip #1: Make your intention sincere All work we do should ideally be for the sake of Allah. That includes the task of bringing someone closer to Allah. That of course means this should not be connected to arrogance, thinking you're the teacher and everyone else should be lucky you've embarked on a crusade to save them. Guidance is from Allah. Make Du`aa and make sincere efforts and remember Allah can also misguide you if He wills (we seek refuge in Allah from that). Tip #2: Practice what you Preach Not practicing what you preach is wrong and you will lose the confidence of anyone, young or old, once they figure you out. Don't do it. Tip #3: Use the Quran and Seerah (biography of the Prophet {P.B.U.H}) as Da`wah guides Read and understand those chapters of the Quran which talk about how the Prophets presented the message of Islam to their people. Read the Seerah (for some good Seerah books)to see especially how the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) brought Islam to so many different people, including young people. As well, talk to Da'wah workers, and check out manuals they may have written, like Yahiya Emerick's How to Tell Others About Islam. Tip #4: Talk to people as if you really don't know them Don't assume you know someone just by looking at them. You don't know that the Muslim girl in your homeroom who walks through the school's hallways as if they were fashion show catwalks (see Ambe Rehman's perspective on this) is not someone you can talk to about Allah because she looks like a snob. Or that the Muslim guy who you've never seen at Jum`ah at your university is a "bad Muslim". Maybe he was never really taught Islam and has no idea what importance Friday prayers have in Islam, especially for Muslim men. Tip #5: Smile Did you know the Prophet {P.B.U.H} was big on smiling? But many "practicing" Muslims seem to have "their faces on upside down" as one speaker once said-frowning and serious. Smiling, being polite and kind are all part of the manners of the Prophet{P.B.U.H}, which we must exercise in our daily lives. If we want to approach others with Islam, we have to make ourselves approachable. Smiling is key to this. But note that being approachable does not mean being flirtatious with the other gender. There are Islamic rules for how men and women should deal with each other which have to be respected. Da`wah is no excuse to have long and private conversations and meetings with the other sex, for example. Set up a system where someone expressing an interest in Islam is referred to someone of the same sex. Tip #6: Take the initiative and hang out with them Take the first step and invite someone you may have spoken to a couple of times to sit at lunch together, to check out a hockey game or invite them over for Iftar in Ramadan. Also, share difficulties, sorrows and frustrations. Help with homework, be a shoulder to cry on when depression hits, or just plain listen when your friend is upset, discuss common problems and KEEP THEIR SECRETS. There are few things as annoying as a snitch and backstabber. But an important note: if the problem is of a serious nature,(i.e. your friend is thinking of committing suicide or is taking drugs), notify and consult an adult immediately. Tip #7: Show them Islam is relevant today, right here, right now Young people may think Islam is too "old fashioned" and not in tune with the modern age. Prove this wrong. Show how Islam is really about relating to Allah, which any human being can do, anywhere, anytime. Allah is always closer to you than your jugular vein and He hears and knows everything. Encourage friends to ask Allah's help during tests, exams, and in dealing with problems at home with parents and siblings. Also point out how Islam relates to teenagers: Islam gives you focus and an understanding of who you are and where you are going, which most of "teen culture" does not. Tip #8: Get them involved in volunteer work with U If you are already involved in the community, get your friend to help out. Ask them to make a flyer for one of your youth group's events or brainstorm for ideas about activities to hold this school year. This involvement makes them feel part of the Muslim community and deepens your friendship, since you are now working together on something beneficial for both of you. Make sure you thank them for their contribution. Tip #9: Ask them 4 fundamental questions As your friendship develops, you will notice the topics you discuss may become more serious. You may be discussing, for instance, future goals and plans. Khan recommends four questions to ask that can steer the topic to Allah and Islam: a. Where am I going in life and what would make me really happy deep down inside? b. What do I believe? c. Who should I be grateful to? d. Did I get to where I am today without the help of anyone? Tip #10: Emphasize praying five times a day before any other aspect of Islam A person's main connection with Allah, on a daily basis, is through the prayer five times a day. Don't emphasize any other aspect of Islam until your friend starts making a real effort to pray five times a day. Emphasize the direct connection one has with Allah in prayer. If they are facing a problem, tell them to pray, and to ask Allah for help in Salaah and outside this time. When possible, make it a point to pray together during your "hang out time". If your friend begins to pray, that is the first step to other aspects of Islam like giving up swearing, treating parents with respect or dressing Islamically. Tip# 11: Help instill confidence in adults Adults, like Bart Simpson's dad Homer, are considered bumbling idiots in the eyes of "teen culture". Your job as a young Muslim is to help turn the tables on this false and unIslamic belief. All you have to do is this: when a Muslim adult does something good (i.e. saving someone's life, donating money to a worthy cause, the Imaam gives a good speech, taking good care of his/her family) bring it up in the course of your conversations with your friend and praise the adult in question. Doing this regularly may not only change your friend's perspective, but could lead to them seeing their own parents in a more respectful way. Tip #12: Support them even when they become more practicing Remember, just because a person starts practicing Islam more regularly, this does not mean everything will be okay from this point onwards. There will still be hard times, difficulties. There may be times when your friend may have doubts about his or her newfound practice of Islam. Be there to reassure them.

Nin-Yaban what's up with the obsession with somalian culture, we know culture is important, and No you dont lose your identity when you lose your culture, you lose your identity becuase you want to. Somalian culture is important, but religion comes first, and many somalis culture isn't that important becuase parts of our culture goes against our religion, and sometimes for that simple fact I really despise it when someone tells me, culture this culture that. Why dont they tell me about religion. For your info. is not only females being changed by the media, that applies to males too. The media doesn't tell us we are special, we are special becuase we know we are. Is about time you started posting topics as to why many Somali guys dont act the way they should, Islamically and Your favorite culturally.

Asalamu alaikum Sis, talk to your friend, assuming that religion isn't important to her. Let her know, she has committed a big sin, tell her to repent, and never to make the same mistake again. AS for the people, they will always judge her even if they act worse than that, tell her she should fear god, not about the ppl, and the most you can do is be her friend, even though yuo might not trust her as well as you did before, she needs someones help, and am assuming you want to help.

Wlc Zakariye Hope you enjoy your stay at SOL.

Asalamu alaikum Br. Nur thanks for sharing your knowledge with us. Very helpful info.

I would like to get married b4 am 25, but after I finish school inshallah but is just hopes, but obviously is all predestined--2 different guys asked my dad if they could marry me in the last 2 years, of course I couldn't say yes bc I had no clue who they were, and why they even asked my dad before they talked to, and I wasn't even 20 but hopefully I will find Mr. Right soon Inshallah.

Salaams well, here is a thread worth responding to. well my exercise is simple, after I pray fajr on the morning I ran 45 mins to an hour on the treadmil, am relaxed all through out the day,gives me energy and best part is it wakes up everybody for fajr, with the noise it makes everybody wakes up and for that hour no body can stand me. Its fun to see the look on my sisters faces.

Bad boys II is of da hook, definitely da best movie of da summer.

I-poet thanx for the reminder bro, I went back to Somalia 2 summers ago with Islamic Missionary and it broke my heart to see those helpless children in pain and suffering, the sight of those children made me cry. I promised my self never to waste food and water again, everytime I find my self wasting anything am reminded of those helpless children, and I never throw anything away.

LadyFatima--couldn't have described them better

Nin yaban is not our culture that give men to marry 4 wives but RELIGION, anyways I might sound like a hater but am not but guys lets be honest here, you guys have hard time fulfilling yuor duties for one women, so yuo might as well forget about four.