alla, i had only moved away from the screen to fetch some bariis and come back to see 12 replies already!...Me thinking wow!...thats even fast for SOL...Oh how i would be dissapointed!...Shattered my topic to pieces, didn't take the time for it...if i was weak and derranged i would take it to heart, but i'm not, so instead i'll curse all of you, and put a hitman on ur tails! ...oh except NGONGE who took at least the time to write a reply that took at least 10 seconds thought! Waana hablahi waxa saas ii galaayo...where's OG MOTI!!!

Most hatted man In SOL: qac'qac (2nd year who hates him?...he is quite loveable really, i'm starting to get attached to the fella (oh and plz don't blow this out of porportion u mad lot!) craziest person in SOL: Me GARAB TUUJIYE you cannot nominate yourself!...where's the fun in that dee

I sneaked out just like the fellow who dropped this atomic bomb. LOOOOL...dayummm talk about qarxis

A Possible Case Scenario Okay, so you've been married for 10 years to your husband. You have three beautiful children, and you live in a nice house in the nicer part of the town. Everything seems hunkydory on the surface, but things are boiling underneath. In the course of those 10 years of marriage, you and your husband have been slowly drifting apart. At first, the passion between the two of you was very much alive, even after the birth of your first child. It was ofcourse the first couple of years when everything is blissful and you are still in that state of exploration. However, after the arrival of the second and then third child, things get a bit more complicated. You no longer have the energy to pay all four equal attention. So you focus all your attention on the children because you think they are more needy than your husband (or are they?). You and your husband continue to drift apart, till the only communication between you and him is when discussing the grocery list. He focuses only on his work, seeing as he is no longer really needed at home. You do all the housework, you pick up the children from school, you put them to bed, do the cooking, basically you're the perfect housewife. So what happens is, he starts spending more and more time at the office, most of the time he comes home late, ofcourse calling you beforehand to let you know. Your sex life is also affected by this. The last time you two made love is 2 months ago, and you can sense that he is fed up with the way things are. You want to change this too, but because of years of non-communication, you feel that it's hard for you to touch the subject, especially as you don't know where to begin. You'r self-esteem is getting lower, you don't pay attention the way you look anymore because there simply isn't time for that. You feel unappreciated by your husband and you think that he thinks you are worthless. One day however, you find a poison pen letter in the letterbox. It's addrssed to you and surprise surprise it says that your husband is having an affair! For one month already. Your horrified, you feel like the ground has been moved from beneath you and feel disgusted to the bone. That night you confront him with it, and he doesnt deny it. You have a full-blown row and he blames you for what he did (however he didn't go the whole way as in he didnt have sex with the other woman). He says that you have driven him into the arms of another woman, because you didn't pay him enough attention and your constant rejection of his advances. He felt you no longer loved him. You say that you have been so busy with the kids, that you simply don't have the energy for anything else. Things are very bad and the two of you are at ends. You have a long arguement slash conversartion about his infidelity. Ofcourse you are furious, but you still love your husband. Part of you feels guilty other part is hurt. So he comes with two options, you can either work at the marriage, or you can ask him for a divorce, bear in mind he doesnt want to divorce you though,he still loves you and that's the main reason that he didn't go all the way, but he feels that he can no longer go on with the way things are at the moment. BUT, the woman who had the affair with him, is not willing to let him go easliy, in fact it was her who send you the letter, you find out later. She wants you to divorce him, so she can have him all to herself. _________________________________________________ Okay, my questions now is, do you think that this scenario is acceptable? WHat would you do if that was you? Would you find it in your heart to forgive your husband and work out your marriage? Would you fight for your husband or would you give up 10 years of marriage? If you do want the marriage to work, do you think that things are entirely your fault or does it take two to tango? And most importantly how would you go about this whole thing? This question is for the guys: What would you do if you were in the shoes of this man? This thread applies to the girls as well as the guys, so please say what you think.

lool, i get letters like these on a regular basis...talk about abusing my mailbox, it should be classified as terrorism. Why are they always from African people, and second of all, are there any people who actually do whatever these letters say?

0!....how is that possible...what a corrupted thing!...not fair...i want a retrial! * leaves sulkily *

Most guys started establishing contacts abroad before they where doing their last year in school and same times travel abroad before they start their first jobs. I asked why to a friend of mine who opted for this oversees approach, he said to me sxb “my wife is a partner, not a competitor in this hassling and wheeling World, and that is what I neededâ€. So, most of these Bachelors trade potential ladies with their level of education and understanding, to ladies with different backgrounds then they are. Trust me I know there is plenty of qualified and capable ladies here in N-America. But, with this new trend could the fundamental reasoning be that qualified “marwo’s†are few or could it be they are not happy with the potential life partner here?. so where exactley is it that they start establishing their contacts? in another country, perhaps...if so, which one for example? I wonder where this "place abroad" is that women are waiting for men from N-America to come and marry them, because they are especially "PIOUS" :rolleyes: What are you trying to say with this, that women should not get an education or try to work for a living, to help support their families or be a contributing factor to provide food on the table? Why should the husband feel that he is in competition with his wife in the first place? I think he should be damn grateful in fact to know that his wife will be contributing to the rent or what not, because society's demands nowadays are too much for the man alone to meet (even though he should). Besides, what do YOU understand under a"Pious" woman anyway?

^^ trust u to come up with a murder plot soon after ur exposed u don't fool me with ur macho psycho talk sugar, i know deep down ur a kitten

^^ :rolleyes: ...ur joking with me right yaaba waxaas tabar uu haayo

lol@ checkmate. me personally don't like repeating myself, but u can try and repeat it for him as s l o w l y as possible to rudy, since when was respect a big deal in the joke section :confused: :rolleyes:

thanx for that...seriously u don't know how hard i laughed looooooool that website is definitly in favorites

A husband was trying to prove to his wife that women talk more than men. He showed her a study that reported that men use an average of 15,000 words a day, but women use 30,000 words a day. The wife promply told him that women use twice as many words because they have to repeat everything they say to men. Looking stunned, the husband said, "What?" "Women use twice as many words because they have to repeat everything they say to men!"

Lool GlassyEyeGirl..true said about somali women and soap opera's. Alla maxaa Bold and the Beautiful iyo As The World Turns laga fiirsaday gurigeyga...oona la habaartamay

Like :eek: @ GiunaVere That's a nice selection of Pets...besides so lovely the way u introduced urself Welcome to SOL...hope u enjoy ur stay List of people to avoid : FemmeFatale (resident psychopath of SOL) Qac Qaac (name speaks for itself) Garab Tuujiye (grumpy old man) Nuune (lost in his own world) Wiilo (Acclaimed Tom Boy) Jacaylbaro (thinks he is ultimate loverboy and then some :rolleyes: ) Will add some more on request

loooooooool Jalaqsan, sweety nobody ever understands what ol' rudy mumbles he's one of them people that type whenever something doesn't go their way....and then he loses the plot (just kidding, don't attack!) but seriously...i understand what you're trying to say rudy, SOL and its quality seems somehow to be detoriating. I think it's largely due to the fact most topics are discussed already and people don't come up with new stuff, so they have to ramble like a herd of mad cows But is still think that nothing beats a good ol' SOL chitchat over a nice hot cup of cocoa

Checkmate nice picture I have got one picture, i look like a right spoiled kid...with a calool cambuulo la soo fuurtay to prove it too not too keen on sharing that one...what will it do to my reputation

subxaan allah! a lot of people passed away this ramadaan, ilahey ha u naxariisto ee haa u danbi dhaafo. Underdog, walaalo, i hope your hurt doesn't last long, ilahey hooyada naxariis haa tusiyo. Totti, i hope the same for your grandmother. Sheh, hope you recover soon, keep hanging in there walaalo! To all the other nomads, hope your health and strenght will stay with you for many years to come insha allah...amiin

kurtigood jeans maxirtaan caqalkeeyga dhexdiis anigo guntiinadeyda, baatigeyga iyo diraceyga qabo waan ku dhex meyreysadaa, laakin obviously banaanka maanan uga bixin laheyn...i would die of hypothermia :eek:

Qac Qaac iyo Og Moti, labadiina waxaa tihiin odayo oo ilkaha kasoo daadan rabaan, yaa ka qarineysiin ... can't blame the guy for saying the truth. he is probably finding a shelter to escape ushiina as we speak

gripping, gripping....lemme refill my shaah before u continue

looool...that was a nice intro, can't wait for the 2nd part now...hurry along dee, my lunch break doesnt last long

i wonder when this topic is gonna be moved to the 'af soomaali' forum

this man defines condition & its critical revolving my heart, i try to see this man kind but Bush is Satan trying to destroy mankind. damn...that was a nice poem keep them coming

^^ lool...naa heedhe wiilka haa ka jajabinin dee...he is trying to express how he loofis the somali dress nooh