Originally posted by jamaal7777: I am looking to do research and i would be greatful if anyone pointed out to me any good sites where i can access the Qur'aan and the Ahadiis in a maner that enables easy look up for words and concepts or commands. quran n adadiis in english n arabic

Hayam, How does one gain access to those jourals? And does anyone have any suggestions on how one can improve on their written skills.

Listen for only listening does a society cohesively exists. Stop this madness Bella and forget about this Somalian cement. if you like, I’ll be more than happy to equate you with a great foreigner who will treasure you and validate your existence

To K00ycat, I will defiantly consider my loving sister’s thought about this, but can my loving sister consider my thoughts and wishes and stop writing on this thread. Thx. To the kind contributors of this thread, Because my story is viewed as cock-and-bull story by some (screw you Che -Guevara, Check ur pm on how) I will stop here and wish you all well and I thank you for your generous support. And to the unattached Somali girls, Just say NO to Somali Men. Thx

I very much enjoyed it, until this morning, the whole riveting speech got over shadowed by the assassination story, a Republican’s poor attempt to destroy democrats momentum. Nevertheless the woman got power!

stuff and nonsense or is it stuff of nonsense.

Originally posted by cynical lady: Let he who is without a sin caste the first stone. Do u think that will hold our somali men’s comments. Freaking things have NO conscious. :mad:

Originally posted by Ashkiro: Brilliant. I found this from a blog. As a Muslim man: 1. I can set foot in any masjid I like. No one will stop me at the door and tell me that I am not allowed in the masjid. 2. When I attend Jumah prayer I know that I will have full access to the main prayer hall. I can enter through the front door and I am not required to sit behind a partition, one-way mirror or placed in a separate room. Also, I can see and hear the Imam when he is giving the kutbah (sermon). I do not have to worry about a speaker or closed-circuit system malfunctioning thereby preventing me from hearing the kutbah or seeing the Imam. 3. My voice is not interpreted as being a part of my awrah (parts of the body that are not meant to be exposed in public.) I can stand up and speak freely in an Islamic gathering. I can ask questions or challenge statements made by the imam or visiting speaker without worrying that my actions will be viewed as inappropriate. I am not told that I must write any questions I have onto a piece of paper. 4. I can use my position as a sheikh, scholar or imam to perpetuate my own sexist, misogynistic beliefs as long as I incorporate those beliefs into my interpretation of the Quran and the Sunnah. When others challenge me about my beliefs I can use my Islamic education, command of the Arabic language and position in the community to effectively silence them. If the dissenters are women, I can always make them seem crazy, emotional or neurotic. I can also accuse them of being influenced by the West, Western secularism, Feminism or “the Kufaar.” 5. If I do not dress in accordance with Islamic guidelines, for the most part, I am left alone by Muslims of both genders. Few people will approach me and inquire about the way in which I am dressed. I will not be written off as a “bad Muslim” nor will my dress code be used as an excuse to prevent me from attending the masjid or other Islamic functions. 6. Interpretations of Quran and Ahadith, fatwas, kutbahs, and Islamic books are often biased in favor of my gender. The body of scholarship produced by members of my gender is available and accessible to all. Their texts, legal opinions and names have not been ignored or virtually erased from Islamic history. 7. When I read a book about marriage, my rights and responsibilities or gender dynamics in Islam, the author is almost always the same gender as me. It is the same when I wish to contact a scholar in regards to any questions I might have. 8. If I have problems in my marriage I can go to an Imam for counseling services and I don’t have to be concerned about sexism or his “traditional” views of women. 9. If I become visibly upset during a marriage counseling session, I am not told that I am too emotional and therefore incapable of thinking logically or making major decisions about my marriage. On the contrary, any decisions I make are presumed to be well thought-out. 10. If I wish to end my marriage, my decision is not scrutinized by an imam or other members of the Muslim community. It is respected as the final one. I am not denied a divorce or told to make tremendous personal sacrifices in order to remain in the marriage. 11. When I convert to Islam, if I have the means (or the financial support of others), I can travel aboard to predominately Muslim countries in order to seek Islamic knowledge. I can be sure that my gender will not be a hindrance any way. At the same time, no one will ever tell me that I must wait until I am married in order to begin my travels. 12. I can stand up for the rights Allah has given me or challenge interpretations of those rights without people associating me with secularist Muslim movements. 13. If I cannot have children or suffer from a condition that interferes with my ability to have sexual intercourse I do not have to worry about my wife taking a second husband. Even if/when she decides to divorce me I can be sure that an imam or other community members will ask her to reconsider her decision. 14. If I am struggling with the temptation to fornicate, I know that I can discuss my predicament with an Imam or other Muslim men without fear that they will think I’m lewd or promiscuous. 15. I am not a visible representative of Islam. When I interact with non-Muslim colleagues, co-workers and members of the general public they may not necessarily know that I am a Muslim. Unless I make my religion/ethnicity known, I am not subjected to a barrage of questions about Islam, Muslims and my gender’s status in the religion. (The exception here would be Muslim men who don a thobe, turban, and wear a lengthy beard. Also, brothers who clearly appear to be Indian/Pakistani or Arab in the eyes of the public). 16. When a visiting scholar/imam comes to the masjid, by virtue of the seating arrangements (men in the front, no partition between the speaker and the men), I am able to speak with him face-to-face. I do not have to worry about crossing into “the women’s space” in order to ask a question or to make a comment. Powerful list, One would think after stating or making up such list, one would be a willing activist and in the mist of changing some the thing on this list but instead the lady is situated in her air-conditioned space and crying/typing it away. Words hold power when it’s backed with action, She is really not doing any justice to subject.

Originally posted by Bella*Princesa: beats eating boorash and hilib(together)anyday :rolleyes: but then again you are reer konfuur... I once obliged and tasted the freaking thing. What a disgusting combination, it really tastes as nastiest it sounds.

^^ u must be a psychic Originally posted by Cara: quote:Originally posted by Cabdiyo Cabdi: ^LOL@miirato...bad image comes to mind Her name is starting to make sense! CARA u r too freaking intelligent. i wish to be like you when I come to my senses. More update (wait wait before you gag) Yesterday I told my best friend to disregard my request as I’m not ready to involve more people to my predicament. He Then shocked me in asking me to marry him and become his 3rd wife (yes that’s news to me too; apparently he stashed a wife in dubai ). I don’t know why he told me this, I guess he needed to reduce his burden. Wow, Just when I thought I knew what sort of man I was dealing with (a well educated, great conversationalist, community activist, and hard working man)but in the end he turned out to be a classic Somali man, nothing but full of lies. so to the unmarried girls, i advise you to stay single and cease the existence of these Somali men. thx ps. i still hate you koopycat and you are banned from this thread

Today i want to slap someone, preferable Sol user

Koopycat, Did Gandhi deprive his child from having a father? Someone else already stated what u r trying to utter here. For future reference, please read others comments before you get all gregarious on us. A little update, my best friend is generous enough to donate however he is asking me to break the news to his wife and I just don’t know how to, any ideas? I’m in dreadful bind here so I can’t think clearly therefore any help will help, so please be generous with your ideas. thx

It’s incredible to see (in action) when both sides missing the point

^lol@good lord. all minor details compare to the current situation

lol@qosolkan badan iska daa caafimaadka uma fiicne Wow so much misconstrued assumption here. All this negativity it’s really not good for me, especially at a time like this, so please easy on the rudeness. Now lets us move from all these negativity and discuss the possibility of me seeking the help of someone I know for Artificial insemination , of course he’ll be the ideal candidate for the process. And for those who are grossed out or see the process as commenting a Zina, I would encourage you to view the procedure as a Bone Marrow Transplant. Both procedures entail the usage of someone’s donation, so how can one be viewed as a form of Zina and not the other one? I’m sure its seems like I’m oversimplifying things and making justification for my case however that’s not the case at all, I just want to examine all the options.

Some nomads misunderstood my question; my idea was to seek a feasible Options to have kids without getting married...not how to obtain a faraax Also I would like to point out that I’ve used the term “unsuited” subjectively.. Hoping that such word would derail any bad connotation in regards faraaxs but yet some fail to notice and interpreted wrongfully.. hmmmmm. So the options that were advised so far are either to adopt or get married for the sake of having kids. I can’t adopt because I would like to have my own kids. So that leaves me the option of marrying someone for the wrong reason.. ..Call me Mother Teresa; but I simply can not use someone else for my own gain. Now, some pointed out that seeking the unconventional method of having kids such as Artificial insemination is like committing a Zina …. I’m curious to know how so?

why???? why??

Hi and welcome aaaa...Judging from the over abundant unsuited men out there its safe to say that I will remain single. Coming terms with such idea was hard to accept however what I can not accept is the idea of not experience the most beautiful process a woman can experience in her life; the joy of having kids I absolutely love kids and believe to my core that I can be a great mother someday…. Inshallah The dilemma is what a girl to do who doesn’t want to get married however is ready to have kids in a permissible according to Islamic law way? Please advise... thanks

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Thanks u r 2 kind do not wish 2 disclose that yet. im sure in good time u'll mend ur own conclusion about me.

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