Originally posted by GEEL-JIRE: "Qawm (dad) Allah ma duleeyo illaa ay iyagu is duleeyaan" - Quran. "Lax walbaa meeshay is dhagtaa lagu qalaa" - Odhaah soomaaliyed. Unukaa meesha is dhignay. But it is damn sad! ^^^Sadly, many of us love to do nothing but blame others.(makhnuud carabs, why do you insult a whole race??) So in somalia rapes dont happen because its there where the Glorified Noble humans live! cheers Why should you mention a muslim country...It happens everywhere and it is sad..

Somali men need to change and redress the wounds, respect the wife, instill confidence and self- Sufficiency, provide to the family, bring decency, hardworking and honesty to the house. True! By getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend. She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do all she can for you; when you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you: when you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be hers; during the day, she will be with you, if for some time she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant giving from both sides. For the tree of marital love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained, maintained, watered and nurtured. Remember that our Prophet Muhammad Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam had found the time to go out to the desert and race with his wife Aisha. She outran him but later after she had gained some weight, he outran her. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam took his wife to watch the young Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances. The show of emotions is necessary to keep the marital bond away from rusting and disintegrating. Remember that you will be rewarded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for any emotions you show to your wife as the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said "One would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife" Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth, opening the car door for her, etc. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride the camel. Try to always find some time for both of you to pray together. Strengthening the bond between you and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is the best guarantee that your own marital bond would always remain strong. Having peace with Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will always result in having more peace at home. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam gave glad tidings for those couples who wake up at night to pray together. The Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam even urged the spouse who rises up first to wake the other spouse up, even by splashing cold water on his/her face. Always try your best to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and always remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said, "The best of you are those who are best to their wives" Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honor their spouses until death do them part. I do believe that this vow is good or even great, but not enough! It is not enough that you love your wife. You have to love what she loves as well. Her family, her loved ones must also become your loved ones. Don't be like my colleague who was unhappy about his wife's parents coming to visit for few weeks. He candidly said to her "I don't like your parents." Naturally she angrily looked at him straight in the eye and said, "I don't like yours either." Also, it is not enough that you love her until death do you part. Love should never end and we do believe there is life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses (Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70) and offsprings. The best example in this regard is the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam whose love for Khadija, his wife of 25 years, extended to include all those she loved; this love of his continued even after her death. [/QB] One of the best Lecture so far on SOL..Thank you Abraar.I am sure many Nomads are following the main issues in the lecture. Abraar: Jazaakallah!!

Originally posted by ALexus.: >>>We should take a oath and swear to stick beside one another. Starting with this forum. Instead of siding with the guys, we should be siding with one another in the fight against all males. It's possible when I have no calling on me tonight..

Originally posted by ALexus.: Islam allows men to marry up to four woman. However women are not forced to accept that ruling. Marry him and don't forget he will marry another. Soon you will know how it feels to become the second/third wife. Because he will re-marry. People misuse ISLAM for their selfish ends and I hate that.When someone can't do it with HIS wife..he finds another WIFE on the pretext "He is allowed to marry Ten".Is that an excuse of "Divorce to follow"?? Can I marry you and take that TITLE? "MY ONLY and EVER WIFE" :rolleyes: :rolleyes

Nin yaaban can sometime Talk sense!!! Well, for one thing, its in our tradition that we dominate over our wifes. And in domination i mean, we guide them - not DOMINATION as in superior to them. Thanks for elaboration..It is Guidance not Bullying.I tend to find Women are Princess.

Maxaad kawadaaaaa? Sikufahamu besteee

^The guy had the "best" at the "house"all that time I guess.. That is serious..

Originally posted by WaTerLily: Muslims need to be reformed not Islam. Of course weaker minds think invention in religion is clearly justified to deal with current 'difficulties'. Nobody said it was going to be easy. That was a good quote.Muslims and not ISLAM need Reform.Conformity is required. Allah said This is the verse from Quran "There is no compulsion in religion Verily, the Right Path has become distinct from the wrong path Whoever disbelieves in Tâghût and believes in Allâh, then he has grasped the most trustworthy handhold that will never break And Allâh is All-Hearer, All-Knower"

TEN: Female, 24, 5ft-5in, 165 cm, Divorced Religion: Muslim (sunni) Culture: Other Occupation: Other Location: United Kingdom (birmingham) salaam im a very bubbly person,g8 sense of humour,caring,got a lot of love 2 give to mr rite,i love to travel love saudi im lookin 4 sum1 who can love me 4 me and knows how 2 look after a woman islamically to!i married the wrong guy after 3 yrs nikkah i have a child 16 months need sum1 who can take me to makkah and love me a lot plz do not be put of im g8 in every way allah knows best kismet ki baat hai! if interested, please contact me on the email address given below I was particularly put off by this lady.I felt that we need to strive more to reduce tensions between our families.One issue that is normally forgotten is that Marriages and Love are "Nurtured" right from day one.Then there is "Sabar"(Patience).You must permit yourself to persevere a lot for "your loved one".. Do u think so?

Originally posted by The Rendezvous...: quote:Originally posted by AYOUB_SHEIKH: Hamza speech described 'six enemies' of Muslims 1. Tyrants and apostates of our leaders Because many of our muslim rulers work on non-muslim policies.for example US ordering us to do this and that.Yacni puppet Governments.They have to TELL US..But why? ask yourself... 2. Jews They have been our enemies eversince we took JESUS and all the prophets to our side. 3. Christians Coz we found 50,000 errors in their bible and took away their JESUS and also rubbished their TRINITY. 4. Evil scholars of Muslims Although this is not a main concern but they confuse the muslim Ummah from time to time. 5. Hypocrites Work for Israelis and Americans in the name of ISLAM. 6. Ignorance of our umma [the Muslim community] THIS IS OUR BIGGEST PROBLEM..We have to make sure all our children..boys and girls, men/women are educated.We should know ISLAM itself.Spread ISLAM with our actions and deeds.Respect and know Our Women rights and so on. The HOLY QURAAN said "kuntum khaira umatin ukhrijat lilnaas, ta'muruuna bilmacruuf wa tanhawna cani almunkar" Meaning "You are among the best Ummah from the whole world..u who call each other for the good deeds and criticise yourselves when doing Bad" Why are Muslims behind Now...??????

Originally posted by The Rendezvous...: The publication of cartoons depicting the Prophet Muhammad has caused deep divisions across the world. For some, they are a transient form of entertainment, for others, an attack on Islam.The cartoons furore goes to the heart of How Muslims are supposed to live and where is ISLAM today... While everyone is pretending to keep quite..know that there is a very BIG war against ISLAM going on and you should clearly know this:You are either with THEM or with us as Bush used to say..So the war is on..and STOP PRETENDING... BBC link "Cartoon row highlights deep divisions"..

Originally posted by Socod_badne: And the cleanest dog has the back! Lol! Maxaa tiri?

I am saddened to note that The same paper Jelle"They had refused to publish another Cartoon meant for Christians Three years ago" Disgusting...

Originally posted by Bishaaro: Ninkan Rendeshebel, inuu gabdho Somali ah ka daba shaqeeyo maahee, hawl kale ma leh miyaa? :rolleyes: Bishaaro That was funny walaahi sis.did u call me Rendeshebel..abaayo I am online most of the day..It is infact part of my work which involves a lot to do with IT..I just feel BAD to see those kind of matrimonial ads from Somali sisters who are practically not in good relationships.Even going ahead and posting for outside marriages while ourselves can do better.Walahi it ain't good knowing we somalis have great problem.As youngsters and learned Somali young people, we need to do our best for the community as Che quevara did say.While our boys are doing their best, you guyz also try your side.We will then be able to find nice young somali couples happy with nice breed of children..Aqlaaq leh oo diin wanaagsan leh. Every Society whether be Somalis or Non-Somalis are plagued by the same problems.Looking for someone else outside your culture to solve these issues is not bright idea as that someone is not immune to the very problems that you are running away from. If these women are looking for love for the right reasons.....We wish them luck and success, but if they believe men from cultures are diffirent than Faaraxs, then they might be in rude surpise. Either way, I hope they find Happiness. And as for the divorce problem among maryooley, I think Somalis jump in too quickly into everything. One must know what he or she is looking in a patner before actually commiting to marriage. Most Somalis don't take the time or make the effort to know each other's needs. You gotta figure out your own needs first and that of your patner, and then see if both of you are looking the same thing. N to do this, one must be honest!!!!!!.. nice Che...

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Originally posted by ibtisam: yes it is^^ at 21 i have been divorced 2ice. your point is???? :rolleyes: :rolleyes: Matrimonial and Somali Diaspora & divorce I am sorry for what happened to you Ib..But Please give us your suggestions on the above link.It seems You have some experience in Divorce and it has really affected your way of life.What do u think is the problem and how we can slow or reduce it.What Somali families need to do and Islamic details. I wish you were not divorced at all.

Asalam aleykum, While we accept there is a great problem in our Somali societies living in and out of Somalia, I was astonished to find an exciting flow of courage Our Somali women are gaining to list themselves on Muslim matrimonials which albeit charge exhorbitantly high fees to contact and correspondences. Here Below you will find samples of listed Somali women matrimonials looking for greener pastures.I am worried at the rate each is complaining she was divorced. I think this is One BIG issue we have to address through SOL in a Somali and Islamic way.. ONE Female, 23, 5ft-6in, 168 cm, Divorced Religion: Sunni Culture: Somalia Occupation: Administrative Location: Canada (Ontario) Assalamu alaikum. I am looking for my better half to grow with me in Islam and teach me what I dont know. I prefer someone in Canada or United States. He must be a practising Muslim(no bad habits). No one is perfect but I am looking for someone who has love, respect, patience, sometimes open to humour and knows how to treat a wife. What I have to offer is a lot of my love, compassion, happiness and more. TWO: Female, 26, 5ft-11in, 180 cm, Divorced Religion: Muslim (sunni) Culture: Somalia (ISLAM) Occupation: Educator (social worker) Location: Canada (toronto) asalamualey kum wr wb iam down to earth sister tall atractive walahmdulllah iam 5.11 i weigh 120 pounds i have carmel skin color curly hair iam educated in the deen and looking to learn more and iam educated in the duniya as well INSHALLAH IAM looking for african amrican brother or cacuasian who live in canada or in america educated down to earth religous maSHALLAH tall as iam and patient from the ages of 27-35 INSHALLAH you will not be dissapointed jazazakalahuheiran salam THREE: Female, 34, 5ft-8in, 173 cm, Divorced Religion: Muslim Culture: Somalia Occupation: Other Location: Denmark Asalaam, my name is Amina, originally from Somalia, have one child who is living with me, iam looking for a single Europe Muslim man, age between 34 - 40, who is honest, kind and love children, non - smoker and non - drinker. Please respond only if you are seriouse. Thank you. FOUR: Female, 34, 5ft-7in, 170 cm, Divorced Religion: Muslim Culture: Somalia Occupation: Computer/IT Location: America US Hello to all the "MR WONDERFUL" out there!!! I am looking for that special someone that I could call my best friend. In this case it starts with a keystroke and hopefully leads to a phone call and as they say the rest is history. I am educated, outgoing, kind and looking for a man who is the same if you fit the bill hit me back. I am looking forward to hearing from you. FIVE: Female, 28, 5ft-8in, 173 cm, Divorced Religion: Sunni Culture: Somalia Occupation: Other Location: America US (minneapolis, MN) I'm a 28 year old female from somalia. I'm just looking for someone to talk to have some laughs with. I am in college for Early Childhood Education, to become a kindergarten teacher or even first grade. I was born in Islam, Alhamdu lilaah but,i'm also looking for someone to help me understand Islam a little better and to come for advice, and possibly more, such as marriage in the future. SIX: Female, 30, 5ft-0in, 152 cm, Never Married Religion: Muslim (sunni) Culture: Somalia Occupation: Administrative Location: America US Salaam! to my muslim brothers, My name is faahiima, iam a young educated woman who fears allah very much. Iam very honest,kind and somewhat romantic woman. would like to have a family based on islamic way of life. If you think that iam your other half, contact me. May allah be with us all and help us to find our patners in life. (aamiin) SEVEN: Female, 34, 5ft-5in, 165 cm, Divorced Religion: Muslim Culture: Somalia Occupation: Administrative Location: Canada Asalaamu Alaikum I am a divorced Somali sister with two children living in Canada. I perform my daily prayers and strive to become a better Muslim on a daily basis. I would be interested in a Somali brother who is looking for committment, honesty, dedication and can also be a good role model for my children. In return, I would be, insha Allah, "raaliye" meaning a good wife. Peace EIGHT: Female, 19, 5ft-8in, 173 cm, Never Married Religion: Muslim (SUNNI) Culture: Somalia Occupation: Other (SALES/MARKETING) Location: United Kingdom (LONDON) ASSALAMO ALAYKOM...MY NAME IS FATIMA... I AM 19 YEARS OLD... I AM AN HONEST AND CARING PERSON.. I LIVE IN LONDON AND I WORK AS A SALES ADVISOR. I AM LOOKING FOR SOMEONE WHO IS FAITHFUL,HONEST,KIND AND WHO FEARS ALLAH. NINE: Female, 21, 5ft-4in, 163 cm, Never Married Religion: Muslim Culture: Somalia Occupation: Computer/IT Location: United Kingdom I am a confident, educated muslim living in the UK. I practice my religion by praying, fasting and abstaining from anything haram although I do not always wear hijab. I am supportive, open-minded, ambitious with a good sense of humour and a positive outlook on life. I am looking for an educated 24-30year old, to communicate with electronically with view to marriage. I am interested in a well-educated, confident, open-minded, God-fearing muslim with whom I can enjoy life. I enjoy reading, travelling, movies, theatre and meeting new people. If your view of marriage is a partnership and are looking to share life with a loving, caring person then do not hesitate to contact me. May God help you all in finding your ideal partners and thank you for taking the time to read this ad. TEN: Female, 24, 5ft-5in, 165 cm, Divorced Religion: Muslim (sunni) Culture: Other Occupation: Other Location: United Kingdom (birmingham) salaam im a very bubbly person,g8 sense of humour,caring,got a lot of love 2 give to mr rite,i love to travel love saudi im lookin 4 sum1 who can love me 4 me and knows how 2 look after a woman islamically to!i married the wrong guy after 3 yrs nikkah i have a child 16 months need sum1 who can take me to makkah and love me a lot plz do not be put of im g8 in every way allah knows best kismet ki baat hai! if interested, please contact me on the email address given below ELEVEN: Female, 18, 5ft-9in, 175 cm, Never Married Religion: Sunni Culture: Somalia Occupation: Other Location: America US Assalaamu Caleykum My name is Munibah.i'm living in Minneapolis and looking to meet american brothers insha allaah...if there are any American orgin brothers looking hit me back insha allaaah..might allaaah be with ya alll.....salaaaaaaaam,, There are millions of somali women who are on loose and have just kept quite.What are the causes of the divorce and how can we plan to stop or slow it.We must find a solution to this menace NOW...causes and suggestions? Be fair and frank.. While this is for discussion purposes, I am sorry if it is causing you any inconveniences.. Wasalam

Originally posted by Johnny: Brother Nur, Once you start pointing a finger , it better be the right finger, unless you can proof who might conspire against Islam , your finger pointing runs the risk of beeing percieved as a loony reason for a hidden agression. and that no more nor less is what brother Caano geel has pointed at. JB this is totally a fitna front you are trying to cause..Neither did Caano Geel say anything "BAD" against the "Conspiracy against ISLAM" nor did Bro Nur taunt him in any way.Bro Nur was taking it easy..talking literally about different issues, advising him about life and so on..Caano Geel even said the problem to conspire against ISLAM comes from our "Within"..and we agree..So I tend to ask.. Why are you spreading "Fitna".. In wikipedia..You find the word Fitna is: Fitna (Ùتنة) is an Arabic word, generally regarded as very difficult to translate. It is often used to refer to civil war, disagreement and division within Islam and specifically alludes to a time involving trials of faith, misquoting and so on JB brother..you are alone in SOL..Think before you leap..

Thanks Ibtisaam for the research on the news item. PROVOKING ISLAM reducing the level of "Freedom of Expression". It is worrying to show the double standard the western world is showing to the Cartoon's Issue.They refused drawing the cartoons of "JESUS" which also happens to be against ISLAM ...three years ago. Freedom of Expression Drawing the cartoons of Prophet Mohamed was also execising the Freedom of expression..This must be paid in full. They should also prints news and drawings of The Holocast..

REAL KENYA: how do you know if your in kenya? when you put your hand out of the window of a matatu and when you bring it back in, your watch is gone...

A SCENE: KENYA AIRWAYS "What is all the fuss about?" Weseka Sambu asked a hastily convened news conference at Jomo Kenyatta International Airport. "A technical hitch like this could have happened anywhere in the world. You people are not patriots.You just want to cause trouble". Sambu, a spokesman for Kenya Airways, was speaking after the cancellation of a through flight from Kisumu, via Jomo Kenyatta, to Berlin: "The forty-two passengers had boarded the plane ready for take-off, when the pilot noticed one of the tyres was flat. Kenya Airways did not possess a spare tyre, and unfortunately the airport nitrogen canister was empty. A passenger suggested taking the tyre to a petrol station for inflation, but unluckily the jack had gone missing so we couldn´t get the wheel off. Our engineers tried heroically to re-inflate the tyre with a bicycle pump, but had no luck, and the pilot even blew into the valve with his mouth, but he passed out. "When I announced that the flight had to be abandoned, one of the passengers, Mr Mutu, suddenly struck me about the face with a life-jacketwhistle and said we were a national disgrace. I told him he was being ridiculous, and that there was to be another flight in a fortnight. And, in the meantime, he would be able to enjoy the scenery around Kisumu, albeit at his own expense."

IN INGKHO HOTELS PEST MENU Tonut na maantasi 5.00 /= Homelet Plain 4.50/= Jai na zgonji 5.00/= Tenku na ukali 6.00/= Jabati Pantika 6.40/= jabati na karanka 15.00/= Gugu ya ingo 50.00/= Gugu ya genjik 25.00/= Mgade Poflo 6.50/= mapawa ya ingokho(chumusha)10.00 pop mapawa ya ingokho( choma) 15.00 pop IZdrungi kafu 1.50/= Matonto na Mihoko 30.00/= Zamagi ntoko 23.00/= Enchoy your meals bay at te counder

Originally posted by ibtisam: ........... have a think, maybe draw up a contract that he can't have half if you divorce cheers Why divorce in the first place..am sure DIVORCE is a 'Hobby' for you..

^^^^^ In the meantime, you're very unwelcome to SOL. Why is SOL yours? Ignore him, I say state your Chinese Province? He is a SHE... But SOL nomads atleast be welcoming.This member stated that she is a new muslims and she liked Somalis..I don't know why..But she says she will personally feel comfortable with somalis once she knows about our culture and ways of life..She is even going ahead to propose to get a somali man..What are your other problems anyway.. Or better still, Introduce Inter-racial marriages now..

Lords consider Muslim jilbab ruling The case of the Muslim schoolgirl who won the right to wear a head-to-toe dress in class returns to the legal spotlight as part of a test case appeal in the House of Lords. In March last year, the Court of Appeal ruled that Shabina Begum was unlawfully excluded from Denbigh High School in Luton, Beds, when she was sent home to change out of her traditional jilbab into acceptable school uniform. Now, five Law Lords are being asked to review the human rights implications of Shabina's case, along with a dispute over whether another teenager, Abdul Hakim Ali, is entitled to damages for being excluded from Lord Grey School in Bletchley, Bucks, after he was suspected of involvement in a classroom fire. Shabina, 17 - represented by Cherie Booth QC - took her school's headteacher and governors to court for denying her the "right to education and to manifest her religious beliefs" under the Human Rights Act. She had worn the shalwar kameez (trousers and tunic) from the time she entered the school at the age of 12 until September 2002, when she and her brother, Shuweb Rahman, informed assistant head teacher Stuart Moore that she would wear it no longer because it was against the tenets of her religion. She adopted the jilbab instead. Appeal judge Lord Justice Brooke said children at Denbigh school spoke 40 different languages and were from 21 different ethnic groups. The award-winning school became successful under the headship of Yasmin Bevan, who was born into a Bengali Muslim family and grew up in India, Pakistan and Bangladesh before coming to Britain. Ms Bevan wanted her school to provide an environment in which the children could learn and live together in harmony and believed that a school uniform promoted a sense of community identity. Girls could wear a skirt, trousers or a shalwar kameez and were permitted to wear headscarves which complied with school uniform requirements. But Miss Begum believed that, for a Muslim woman who has started to menstruate, the kameez did not comply with the strict requirements of her religion. The judge ruled that "her freedom to manifest her religion or belief in public was being limited, and as a matter of Convention (the European Convention on Human Rights) law it would be for the school, as an emanation of the state, to justify the limitation on her freedom created by the school's uniform code and by the way in which it was enforced".