Of course Suufism is on the right path. Don't ask me why; Alshabaab uun fiiri.

@ Aaliyah I saw your posts and I was like walee 6 meynan kicin. I woke up too late for a group project and had to take a taxi to school. Aaniga walaal i kiciso iima joogto meshan ee nasiibkaaga qarso. New year resolutions like waking up at 6? Aniga 2009 kuwii ahaa baana sameynin. Just try and make a new start everyday waxba ha sugin sanad cusub ee; new day resolutions camal LOL. @ NinNc inshalah we will raise the next leaders of Somalia or should I say Canada. Imagine my daughter, from NDP by the way, taking over from Stephan Harper willkiisa ! LOL PS; Fowda waa shoobaro waxad dhahdid adiga ileen ree Xamar bee tahay ee. Aniga I am a combination of many things including ree Xamar so I know both words

I told you it is called self actualization.Your wife is a separate human being with abilities and dreams of her own not some one made to complement you where you fail. Surprised? I know weey kugu cusbtahay but welcome to 2010 there are more women in universities than men plus women under 30 are earning more than men in many parts of the world. Gone are the days when all you needed to be a hero was to be the bread winner, now you need hard work, discipline, love and so much more to prove your manhood to us.

Originally posted by Kamaavi: Lucky Dube - 'I Want to Know What Love Is' What about this?: and the best (and original) version, I think

Originally posted by NinaNC: ^Saas ma i dhedid hee, haddaan ku fahmey after 4 pages. Aniga ma ku dhihin nolosha lama qabsan karaan, nimankooda ayaa raba iney guriga ka bixin (eh! get it now) oo ay ilmo u saar saaraan the assembly line (warshada ilmaha ka wadaa) annually. Waxaana ka hadlaayey wa the mentality nimanka qurbo joogta oo adiga kula wadaaga fikirkaada kuna dhaqma. LOL. (kaftan) Nimanka maba rabaan iney irida ka dagto xaaskooda (wey halaabee hadii kale yada yada). Ayadana ilmo dhaloow lee ku jirtaa oo waaba tacbaan iney caqligeeda istimaasho. LOOOOL@afartooda ciyaal...ilaahow na cafi. p.s. wadan qabow badan hadaad joogto oo 4 caruur jiideyso, you definitely need baabuur n 2 two drivers. @ NinaNC adiga ilaahey baaba kuu so diray The Zack... waan fahansantayay where all this is coming from... Africa aad kali maha it is a whole ideology. Horta gabdhaha Africa ka yimid waa run kuligood ma aha illiterate (I came from Africa two years ago ). Lakiin like you said mentalitiga halkan lagala tagayo ayaa waxeey tahay naag i garab ordeysa oo waxbaan bartay leh ma rabo so in search of a naive human being to take advantage of they get mid eey ogyhiin in eey caabudeyso oon indho kale lahey and yes the don't want in eey wax kala barato 'hadii kale weey halaabi'. Waa shooting your self in the foot kind of strategy; goormaad horumar gaadhi when you have to be your wife's ears and eyes. Sheekada ninka shaqad looga yeedhay walahi dad beey i soo xasuusisay oo waanba qoslay....I didnt know in aan saa u xaasidsanahay lakiin I can't wait to see dadka qarkood to realize that there is more to marriage then ' I am the man'. Finally @ the Zack naagta shaqadeeda kuma xidhina in aad qado meeska soo saari kartid cunto iyo inkale. She can choose to work even if you can afford everything. It is called self actualization hadaadan maqlin :rolleyes: .

OO kalaay Ma Ferguson baa ruuxa Kamaavi isu bixyay?

@ Cawaale I know how your story is relevant to the thread. Mida kale 'khalad' waxaan ka waday qofkii reproductive health issue qabo lama ogi but people always assume in eey naagta tahay. It is just an evidence of how misogynist our culture is; heblo waa mandhaleys, habelo waa gabdhooleey e.t.c. Anyways ilmo ilaahey baa bixiya and he can ensure you don't have any hadaad kala tagtaan qofka xataa.

OG'nia meey idinka keeneen SOL intii la idin yidhi car qabiil sheega. Ilaahey ha ka qabto umada cadowga aarsi iyo oohin ma kala dooran kara hadee. By the way I kinda of know Bulaale and his blog.

OG'nia meey idinka keeneen SOL intii la idin yidhi car qabiil sheega. Ilaahey ha ka qabto umada cadowga aarsi iyo oohin ma kala dooran kara hadee. By the way I kinda of know Bulaale and his blog.

Originally posted by Elegantly: [QB] quote:Originally posted by Ismalura: [QB] @ Elegantly sorry abaayo, this things happen. Most men (Somali or not) have gotten away with mistreatment of women for so long. You may not have see one but trust me there are many great Somali men even though the 'bad' ones out number them. You don;t have sorry to me. I feel sorry for them because i have seen all my life the negative side of the somali men. Now I cannot even or try to fall in love with a somali guy of a fear. Huuno I was being sorry that you haven't see your dad all you life. Isn't that something to be say sorry for? About finding or deciding to be with a Somali guy that is ultimately our choice and if you choose not to I don't feel sorry for you. Still it may be worth to give our men more chance; I promise you there are good ones.

@ Elegantly sorry abaayo, these things happen. Most men (Somali or not) have gotten away with mistreatment of women for so long. You may not have see one but trust me there are many great Somali men even though the 'bad' ones out number them. @ Cawaale good story but who says its the women's fault hadii ilmo la dahli waayo...I wonder why people have this assumption all the time. May be isgaa dhib qabay odayga lakiin if she was the one oon dhali karin than that is a wonderful man.

@ Elegantly sorry abaayo, this things happen. Most men (Somali or not) have gotten away with mistreatment of women for so long. You may not have see one but trust me there are many great Somali men even though the 'bad' ones out number them. @ Cawaale good story but who says its the women's fault hadii ilmo la dahli waayo...I wonder why people have this assumption all the time. May be isgaa dhib qabay odayga lakiin if she was the one oon dhali karin than that is a wonderful man.

Originally posted by NinaNC: ^How dare you say that Zack? Zack, what you saying doesn't make 5 sambusi for afur. lol Gabar local ah oo ay is fahmaayaan hadduu $10, 000 kaas ku spend gareyo soo kama fiicna? safar lacagtiisa ma xisaabisey? markuu keeno mida Somaliya, soo inuu afkii baro ma ahan, baabuur sida loo wado baro, suuqa iyo doktoorka inuu la aado soo ma sugeyso? Is he ready for that? yaana dhib yar labada choice? Shukaansi love works, folks are getting smarter, been aan la maqlin majirto. Kii wax haystana ma booteyn karo, waa la is ogyahay salary wise qofwalba tabartiisa. Adiga waxaad tahay old school, 30 sanno ayaa ka soo wareegtey fikirkaad jeebka ku wadatid oo ku bilbileysid igaarkaas guurdoonka ah. Walaalow, mideeda kale, haddii aad ogtahay ma ogi but 30 is the new 15 now. Women are having children at age 40 n up so eat a cellphone techie-yahow. p.s. Zack, sheekadaan waa ku fashilmatey, maxaase igu diideysa inaan ka qayb galo dooda? LOL @xaasidnimada Zack @ Nina wadaadka wuuba calaacaly markuu ku arakay LOL. Meeshanuu la taganayahy wuu la weynaaniyo naag baa iga halaabeysa. I told him khasaaraha gadaal ka imanayaa ka badan but he obviouly doesn't want to listen....Somali the easy chaap way out baa ka carartay. @ The zack my value is not going to decline over the years because aniga waxba igama dhacayo....I hate the analogy but things deprecite when they are being used @ The oz maxaad ka khaldan adiand what Eid are you talking aprt. Ma aduun kalaad joogtaa yahuu ee :rolleyes:

Originally posted by The Zack: Ismalura, The older you get, the less expensive. That might not be the nicest thing to say but its the truth. Hadhow mid bidaar leh iyo nin garoob ah umbaa kusoo raadsan LOL. Wakhtiga ka faa'ideyso walal. Juxa gabadha ha lugooyn inaar, runta u sheeg . The less expansive kuye...that is a risk I can afford to take after all I will have my own money. Hadaan 100 dheeri ah helana alxamdulilah hadii kalan waan ka maarmaa camal. How :cool: is that? @ Ninanc thanks for giving TheZack some reality check. Imagine a man so cheap that he goes to Africa to get a wife and so Xaasid that he keeps her there. Ha I soo marin dheh adoo marti ah !

Originally posted by Ismalura: quote:Originally posted by maxamad: I have no idea.. guess coz dating was at minimal in somali.. plus most of our somali is polite and "geeley" type?.. i have no clue tho Shukaanis was minimal laguye. Shukaansi was always there but it had nothing to do with 'abaayo waad carfooeysaa'. Waaba wax laga xanaaqo waxaasoo kale. Afsomali laan shukaansi qaab maba laha. Sorry I don't mean to offend people who can't speak Somali but seriously . I love you in Afsomali is the most wonderful sound in the world.

Originally posted by maxamad: I have no idea.. guess coz dating was at minimal in somali.. plus most of our somali is polite and "geeley" type?.. i have no clue tho Shukaanis was minimal laguye. Shukaansi was always there but it had nothing to do with 'abaayo waad carfooeysaa'. Waaba wax laga xanaaqo. Afsomali laan shukaansi qaab maba laha. Sorry I don't mean to offend people who can't speak Somali but seriously . I love you in Afsomali is the most wonderful sound in the world.

Thanks Juxa abaayo. When I am 30 I can buy my self 100 iyo ka badanba and I am still worth as much. 30 ceebuuba mooday the Zack.

Aaliyah there was a psychologist who was a huge advocate for the environment side of the debate. I forgot his name but he argued, very strongly, that If he is given a child from any backgroung he could turn him/her into a thief, a doctor or a magician. Marka kii baadba i soo xasuusisay markaad tidhi "take a child and isolate him..." LOL Anyway, I always thought that it is 50-50 but thinking about the world today may be environmentigaaba ka sidata. I am guessing in aadan 6 kicin saaka saad xaley kolba post u soo qoreysay

Originally posted by The Zack: ^Caawa ma anaa waalan mise idinkaa cirka wada marayo waan yaabaye. LOL@boqol geel ah, riyadaas gabdho badan baa ku daalee ka kac meesha before your number hits the big 30 LOL. 30 hadaan gaadho maxaa iga khaldan? Actually 30 waaba da fiican because when I am 30 I would; a) Have made some good money b) Hava accomplished most of my career gaols c) Be able to have 10 kids d) Still worth 100 halaad and more . Anyways, aniga boqalka aan sugaya riyo ma aha 50 baa diyaar ah and 50ga kala will be ready in a couple of years

Ibtisaam good looking guys baadba sheegeysaa ee may be I should move to your city . Honestly waxa aan good looking ku tilmaamo ma arako intbadan. Mida kale adiga wadaadkaaga armuu kaa maseyraa. Isn't there a 'not intrested' look that you can put on? But than your dealing with Farahs; wiilasheena are not good at taking such hints.

Facebook waxuu rabuu sameeya lakiin I still think hadaad private ka dhigato in aan la arkeynin. Both ways sawirkeyga facebook hadii lagu arkaba ha la misusgreeyo. @ Kool kat dhaktarka haduu SOL ku jiro chance fiican beyba kuu tahay coz wuu ku ogaan that you are a big fan

SO you were giving the guy advice that you don't follow yourself? Aaliyah maxaad kula yaabi if someone gives an advice to another it is safe to assume that that is what they do/did ee. Adiga iyo ninka ila taliyaba war laan baa idin heysa. Ninkii aabhey boqol halaad (oo baarqab ah) u geyn lahaa baa xoogaa soo jira inadeer

Originally posted by Kool_Kat: Regardless of how you set your privacy settings, unless your friends set their privacy so that others don't receive notifications of what they comment on, be it your photo/wall/status, their freinds receive a notification of their activities! As for the doctor, what you mean "looks alright"? He's a doctor!!! Any flaws he might have, he's making it up with is Taqtarnimo whatchutalkinbout? Privacy on Facebook is better these days so your friends page lagama arki karo your picture. But still haduu kuu yahay profile picture meeshaasaa copy laga dhihi karaa. Anyways, MMA sawir uu qof ka soo qaaday pagekiisa ma aheyn; it was the kind of weird picture that is on a lot of people's profiles usually for people to say yahuu waxan waa maxay if you know what I mean. @ KK hot iyo dhakhtarnimo kala saar dee adiga. I agree that a doctor is great no matter how he looks but that guy is not really hot

@ The Zack I have heard many of my friends who give up on everything else and just want kids out of their marriage. I personally can't imagine spending the rest of my life with someone I am not in love with. Qofba wixii u shaqeeyo ha sameeyo lakiin to me marriage is so much more than having kids. @ Aliyah ninbaa maalin hore ila taliyay aniga; wuxuu yidhi guurkii meshan waa la af garan layahay ee Africa 'nin ka soo gado' LOL. Unless one has left someone that they love and are committed why take the trouble of going all the way?

Originally posted by The Zack: Ismalura, how is that a bad idea bal? Aint marriage all about having children? War yaa nakala bixiyo gabadhan.. Maya huuno marriage is not just about having children. It is about love; wanting to be together as much as possible, taking risks on each other, having common interests and values (Like Aaliyah said) and most importantly caring about the other person. The whole idea of going to Africa is based on taking advantage off dadaka xaga jooga dibad jaceylkoda. The girls and their families have nothing say as long as it is a Farah coming from abroad. You don't know or love the person before you marry them because its all about the easy way out. Moreover it may be the easier thing in the short run but dad badan baa ka shalaayay gadaal; both the men here and mostly the women back home.