Barwaaqo I know its funny as hell, am trying to explain to her she should not have posted that, she still doesn't get it, She said she was exercising her freedom of speech. Ya allah help the girl cause whenever i tell her she should not have done that she was exercising her freedom. And am getting really annoyed.

Wa alaikum salam bro, very thoughtfull post.

Asalamu alaikum W.W. First I have to apoligize anyone who was offended by the post. I usually dont sign out and I hardly post any topics on the thread I just enjoy reading. I mostly use PM. Anyways my little hyped up, wacked cousin is mad about her only brother getting married and moving away, and decided to post it here in very hateful way. I was shocked to see this post here under my name, and I had to apoligize. And you know what I still can't figure out, why she posted this topic when she is reer xamar herself. Anyways am sorry, I also learned my lesson-- always to logout.

It was just a simple question sis, no need to get rude, and what does my signuatre have to do with anything.

My brother is getting married to this reer xamar girl, I know is none of my bizinez who he marries but she is so fake. How can I tell my brother about her fakeness. [ August 26, 2003, 03:04 PM: Message edited by: BARWAAQO ]

Nin-yaban why does eveything you post has to be about the somali dhaqan and insulting somali women, dude maybe you and your dhaqan freak screwed up brain shouldn't be discusing about dhaqan when its not called for.

OMG I cant beleive that 37% of the ppl who voted don't remember the last time they prayed, subhanalah may allah guide us all. I hope you guys know, those who don't pray are worse of than kafirs. This is making me sad :confused:

Haniif I hope you meant WITHOUT being harsh towrds them, right?

Mashallah Proudsista you have some guts. There is nothing wrong with asking a guy to marry you. If you know what you want, I say go after it, but I personally wouldn't have the courage to ask a guy to marry me.

I WONDER If Prophet Muhammad visited you Just for a day or two, If he came unexpectedly, I wonder what you'd do. Oh, I know you'd give your nicest room To such an honored guest, And all the food you'd serve him, Would be the very best, And you would keep assuring him, You're glad to have him there, That serving him in your home, Is joy beyond compare. But ... when you saw him coming, Would you meet him at the door? With arms outstretched in welcome To your visitor? Or ... would you have to change your clothes Before you let him in? Or hide some magazines and put The Qur'an where they had been? Would you still watch the same movies? On your TV set? Or would you switch it off Before he gets upset? Would you turn off the radio? And hope he hadn't heard? And wish you hadn't uttered that last hasty word? Would you hide your worldly music? And instead take Hadith books out? Could you let him walk right in? Or would you have to rush about? And, I wonder ... if the Prophet spent A day or two with you, Would you go right on doing the things you always do? And would you find it hard each meal To say a table grace? Would you keep up each and every prayer? Without putting on a frown? And would you always jump up early For prayer at dawn? And let him know the things on which Your mind and spirit feed? Would you take the Prophet with you? Everywhere you plan to go? Or, would you maybe change your plans Just for a day or so? Would you be glad to have him meet? You're very closest friends? Or, would you hope they stay away Until his visit ends? Would you be glad to have him stay? Forever, on and on? It might be interesting to know The things that you would do, If Prophet Muhammad, in person, came To spend some time with you.

Hoda sister, we are not scared to have sex becuase we fear parents or elders, its becuase we fear allah SWT. Sis pls set your self straight, or you will regret it, and just to point out any sort of relationship is XARAM like the boyfriend you were talkimg about. May allah guide you sis.

Hoda sister, we are not scared to have sex becuase we fear parents or elders, its becuase we fear allah SWT. Sis pls set your self straight, or you will regret it, and just to point out any sort of relationship is XARAM like the boyfriend you were talkimg about. May allah guide you sis.

Hoda sister, we are not scared to have sex becuase we fear parents or elders, its becuase we fear allah SWT. Sis pls set your self straight, or you will regret it, and just to point out any sort of relationship is XARAM like the boyfriend you were talkimg about. May allah guide you sis.

Dear Brothers, A word of advice from your sister in Islam .... You wanna make your wife (wives :rolleyes: happy??? Here is the formula 1. Dress up well for your wife Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. Brothers when was the last you looked good to please your wives??? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Prophet Mohammad salla Allahu ^alayhe wa salam would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells. 2. Use nick names for your wife Use the cutest names for your wife. Prophet Mohammad salla Allahu ^alayhe wa salam had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. For example, he called ^Aa'esha {radeya Allahu ^anha} ^Uwaysh. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt her feelings. 3. Recognize the good & focus on that Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that. 4. Be silent on the wrongs If you see wrong from your wife (as long as it is not a sin ), try being silent and do not comment! 5. Smile at your wife Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often^Aa'esha ( ^Uwaysh). Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life constantly smiling for eachother. 6. Thank her Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her! 7. Make her happy Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life. 8. Comfort her Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. 9. Be humorous Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Prophet Mohammad salla Allahu ^alayhe wa salam would race his wife Aisha {radi Allahu ^anha} in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that 10. Try to be your best and improve on yourself Prophet Mohammad salla Allahu ^alayhi wa salam said what means: "The best of you are those who treat their wives the best, and I am the best to my wives." Keep the wise words of the best of all creation in the back of your mind. So for the brothers who are married get working, and for the bachelors...keep this in mind . Never forget to make supplications (du^a') to Allah subhanahu wa ta^ala to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta^ala knows best !!

The author of this article "Observations on Hijab" is unknown. It is however, thought to be written by a brother. Funny as it is, there are a number of lessons to be learnt... It has been my personal observation that some Muslim girls and women do not realise the significance of hijab. Hijab is Arabic for protection and cover. Some people put a lot of effort into their hijab, yet it serves no purpose. I am referring to the pointless hijab that some girls wear. The first pointless hijab is referred to as the headband hijab. It is a band of fabric approximately 4 inches wide. It covers the back of the head and allows all the hair to be exposed. It doesn't serve much in terms of modesty, but at least it comes in handy in case of an unexpected tennis match! The second pointless hijab is the dupatta , also known as the Saran wrap hijab. It covers all the hair, but it is totally transparent. Again it doesn't serve much in terms of modesty, but it keeps the hair nice and fresh! The third type of hijab is known as the Micky Mouse Hijab . It is when a girl wears a black scarf and tucks it behind her ear, so that her ears stick out! We now move on to my favourites - the yo-yo hijabs: The first yo-yo hijab is the scarf that keeps falling down and needs to be constantly pulled back up.... up, down, up, down, just like a yo-yo! The second yo-yo hijab is also referred to as the convertible hijab This type of hijab is predominant at any type of social event, i.e. an Aqeeqah, Bismillah party, Ameen party, wedding, etc. This is when an Imam or Qari comes up to the microphone and starts to recite Qur'an. At this point, all the convertible hijabs come up... until he says "SadaqAllahu Atheem." I'm not sure, but apparently in some cultures that translates to "OK sisters, you may take off your scarves." I'm sure this may seem odd, but what's even funnier is when people do not anticipate the recitation of Qur'an at a social event, and are forced to be creative and use accessories such as a purse to cover one's hair. I was surprized to see a woman hold her purse over her head as "hijab"... as if the multitudes of men surrounding her are not a good enough reason to wear hijab, but some guy reciting du'a compels her to hold a purse over her head. Her friends were more creative... one friend used her dinner napkin. I was also laughing when i saw the communal hijab- two or more girls dropped under one dinner napkin during the recitation of Qur'an. Her other friend was still more creative. She used her coffee saucer on the back of her head. I wasn't sure of it was hijab or Yamaka. I didn't know if she was a Muslim or a Jew. I felt like going up to her and saying "Shalom alaikum, sister." And, people should remember that hijab is not just a protection from guys, but from a girls' nafs (ego) as well. It should prevent girls from having to spend hours in front of the mirror doing her hair. But, unfortunately, you see girls in front of the mirror for hours doing their hijab as they would do their hair, with all sorts of elaborate braids and the like. I wanted to go up to a sister and say "Is your hijab naturally curly?" I also felt compelled to go up to another girl and say "Pardon me, but is your hijab naturally that colour, or did you dye it"? Well the point is that some people make an effort to wear hijab, but it is futile, because it is not fulfilling its purpose. It's like using an umbrella with holes in it. Hijab is used for protection from guys as well as from the girl herself, and should not be used as an accessory or for beautifying one's self. Any way, that's it. If any one disagrees with me or is offended, then you are disagreeing with the teachings of Allah Subhaanuhu wa Ta'ala.

Asalamu alaikum wr wb, appoligies for this post being long... but this is what i've been suffering from for a long time now and i just cant settle in.... we all agree that we have way too many problems with today's youth then there was with other generations, in terms of the free world, the temptations, the west.. etc etc.. but we dont make as much effort towards issues that are less practical and come from within, that require hardship and attention... we dont make much effort towards controlling our speech and language that we use... and that is pretty sad... Personally i try to control my words and try to resist the slang coz as a Muslim, we are supposed to keep our language clean because we use the same tongue to recite the name of Allah and then we go about using it for swearing and cursing ppl and using bad language... words like "s***" "hell", "****" are ordinary words.... and we dont get offended when we hear ppl using it... please forgive me for demonstrating to u, but then again, these words have become part of our speech and we dont find it very offensive, but yes, coming from a "sister" - different thing.... why not set up a programme to help our youth control their lanuage? we might not realise but these ppl i.e. non-Muslims know more about duty of a muslim than we think.. a person came upto me and once "expressed" their feelings about how they felt when they heard a Muslim using those "simple" words that i have used to demonstrate...and it was very embarrasing for me coz that person had been at school with me for 5 years and i spent that time telling them about Muslims and what Islam is coz when i was at school, the hamilton community was very very tinny and we used to get teased and hassled by some people for wearing hijab etc etc.. It was hard for them to accept that there are ppl out there who are diffrent.. there are other religions besides hinduism and christiniaty...i used to tell off ppl whenever i could: please dont litter, plz dont waste food it is against my religion... they use to laugh, but do i care? then i would tell them plz dont swear.. ok this was a big ask from a non-Muslim but u know what? they have more respect for us than our own people.... there was this guy in my class who was very popular for his bad language, one day i got fed up, i got up and told him off- plz dont swear, everyone started staring at me.. and he replied smartly: what you gona do about it? and i didnt know what to say, but i just said "well it is against my religion, i find it offensive"... and i walked off... that day and today, been almost 7 years, whenever i'm around, havent heard him use bad language... I'm not trying to show off my greatness or anything, i did it because that was what i was taught, that's what my mum use to tell us: stand up for your beliefs.... i left my high school with respect and i got the honour from the teachers, teh principal and the fellow students that i dont think i wouldn't have got it anywhere else, not even if it was a Muslim school, and i'm thankful to Allah... by my 7th form year, the whole school knew: muslims donnot smoke, they dont use bad language, women have to cover themselves coz they are not for display, muslim women dont wear mini skirts (tell u, my friends stopped wearing mini skirts coz they felt shy as i never wore it), muslim dont eat pork or meat that is not prepared in special way (my friends stopped eating meat, especially pork when i was around, they would go away and eat it somewhere else), Muslims dont date, they dont party around, they dont paint the town red (coz there is a hadith that Allah detests the ppl in the market, meaning those who just go there for passing time, that's where the shatan lives), they dont spend nights out of home coz family is central to the religion (along with community), women deserve respect, places like school ball and social nights are no place for a Muslim, and cinema is shatan's home... so whenever my friends would go out for shopping, they didnt bother asking me after the first time i told them that i cant go shopping w/o my mum or my dad or my brother, or movies... they didnt ask me coz they were anoyyed or anything, they didnt ask me coz they understood... I never had a Muslim friend at high school, or all through my teens, until i entered uni and i always wanted muslim friends and i'm thankful to Allah that i got good circle of friends first time around.... but when i entered uni, i was shocked, i hadnt seen the world.. i spent 5 yrs of high school telling my friend about all the above, but this is not reality, in reality Muslims DO smoke, they do date, they do have girlfriends, they do use bad language.... i'm hurt and i still cant get over it, how wrong i was, and what wrongs i've been preaching to my friends and teachers and class mates, it's soo embarrasing.. when i see a Muslim guy surrounding gals, first thought comes to my mind "plz let there be no one from my school around"... and then a person coming upto me and telling me that i was wrong telling htem that muslim dont use bad language.... i felt like killing myself.... pracitcal stuff is very easy, easy to attend a lecture by a scholar who's come all the way from australia or america to tell the youth of how bad today's world is.. it is easy to set up rallies and all that, but how much are we doing about our character to fix our image? nothing much, coz that requires effort and hardship that we dont have to waste on ourselves or others.. and parents are to blame as well... if we dont use such words as '****' and 'piss off' we wont be the "modern youth" we wont fit in the circle...... You're hearing this from a Muslim, now try to imagine if you have any capacity left how non-muslims feel when they see a "muslim brother" sitting at a restaurant with another gal? or seeing Muslim "sisters" in hijab shopping with their friends? or in cinema???.. and tell me how wrong i've been for past 7 years tryin to make respect in the hearts of these non-Muslims.. dont bother with any compliments or appreciating comments, i dont need it and that is not at all my intention of puttin this post up... i'm just upset an perhaps something could be done... we blame the west and the media and these non-muslims for minipulating our image, why??? coz it's easy to point fingers? we are what we are coz of ourselves, no one is responsible.... and no i'm not perfect, surely, i do bad things...even i've changed, i wish i could still have the same strong faith i had during my high school when i didnt have a single Muslim friend.. i had no one to turn to.. it's quite ironic, today my friends are all Muslims, yet i'm not the same.. jazakAllah.. may Allah guide us' Ameen

I cant live with out ISLAM, with out it life would be senseless. ISLAM is the way of life.

Whatever allah blesses me with!

Asalamu alaikum Well said brother Mujahid. We are the best creation Allah has made, no need to complain. Most of us care about what ppl say, but let me tell yah, ppl will always have something negative to say about. So next time you wish you looked different, remember yuo are unique and beutiful in front of allah and thats all that matters. Beuty is not what its outside but whats inside. Alxamdulilah I have nothing to complain about!

Two business men seated on an airplane noticed a Muslim man sitting in front of them, one of the men says to the other with a wink, "I was going to go to Africa until I found out that half the country is Muslim so don't want to go there". The other man says, "We'll how about Saudi Arabia then?" The first man says "No way, Saudi Arabia is loaded with those Muslims too." The other man suggests a trip to the U.S. but his companion says "The Muslims have spread out over the whole country every time I turn around there I bump into one." The men are watching and can see that the Muslim man is fidgeting and getting kind of agitated about their conversation. The fellow who started the teasing decides to really get him mad and says " I really wanted to go to Pakistan but that place is crawling with Muslims" At this the Muslim man has had it and finally turns around in his seat and sweetly says to the men, "Why don't you both go to hell? I hear that there aren't any Muslims there!"

We are the honorable women of Islam! We don't sell our bodies for people to sell their products; You won't find us advertising for stuff like new trucks. We don't dress up on the streets as if were some sort of merchandise, Keep your dirty hands to yourself, or, with Allah, you will pay the price. We are the honorable women of Islam! Oh you men, keep your eyes to your self; we're not products on display, Throw your pickup lines away; we don't wanna hear what you have to say. We're not like other women; they sleep all around town, And to that despicable level, we will never come down. We are the honorable women of Islam! Yes, we wear the hijab; its our badge of honor from Al-rahman. We don't dress like other women; we are free from their immodest disease. We don't sell out and put our selves on billboards, We have dignity, and from Allah, we will have our rewards. We are the honorable women of Islam! You won't find us in parties, getting drunk and disgraced, What a shame! Women like that have had their honor erased. We don't dress like other women; we're not giving every man a cheap thrill, We don't dress like the prostitutes that are out just chasing the dollar bill. We are the honorable women of Islam! Don't come to us looking for some dirty one night stand! You better turn away from us, and get yourself a different plan. We aren't messing around; we're busy raising up our nation, That's right, were busy taking Islam to the next generation. We are the honorable women of Islam! We are the ones who raise the ummah and strive to make it great, If we didn't do our part, then for the ummah, what would be its fate? From babies to leaders, we are the ones who make them what they are. We are the honorable women of Islam, without us this ummah won't go far!

What do you call someone who explodes a bomb and killsinnocent people? - A terrorist. What do you call someone who drops a bomb from a plane and kills innocent people? - A brave American pilot. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call it when a Palestinian uses violence against the Jews who have illegally occupied his land? - A terrorist attack. What do you call it when an Israeli helicopter fires rockets at Palestinian youths armed with stones? - Self-defense. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call it when someone gives money to a government official in return for favors? - Bribery. What do you call it when a large corporation gives money to a government official in return for favors? - A campaign contribution. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call the form of government where a small elite exploits and intimidates the citizens? - A dictatorship. What do you call the form of government where a small elite exploits and intimidates the citizens, and the citizens can choose every few years which part of the elite should occupy the government buildings? - A democracy. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call it when a group of people take the law into their own hands and kill people without a fair trial? - A lynching. What do you call it when the US takes the law into its own hands and kills people without a fair trial? - Operation Enduring Freedom. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call someone who steals from the rich and gives to the poor? - Robin Hood. What do you call someone who steals from the poor and gives to the rich? - The US government. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call a weapon that can kill thousands of people? - A weapon of mass destruction. What do you call a weapon that has killed 1.5 million Iraqis, including more than 500,000 children? - Sanctions. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call an army that will fight for whoever pays the most money? - Mercenaries. What do you call an army in Afghanistan that will fight for whoever pays the most money? - The Northern Alliance (or United Front). -------------------------------------------------- What do you call an attack on the Pentagon, a command and control center in the US? - A cowardly attack on American freedom and democracy. What do you call the destruction of an Afghan village by US bombs? - An attack on a Taliban command and control center. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call it when just over 3 thousand people were killed in the September 11 attack on the US? - An atrocity. What do you call it when nearly 5 million people were killed in the Vietnam war? - A mistake. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call it when very rich people exploit poor people? - Greed and selfishness. What do you call it when very rich countries exploit poor countries? - Globalization. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call a foreign oppressor in the last century that controlled the economical and social life of a country? - A colonialist power. What do you call a foreign oppressor in this century that controls the economical and social life of a country? - The International Monetary Fund. -------------------------------------------------- Wha t do you call it when people are slaughtered? - A massacre. What do you call it when 100.000 to 200.000 Iraqi's are slaughtered by the US at a loss to American forces of 148 (46 of which were killed by friendly fire)? - The Gulf War. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call the extermination of a people? - Genocide. What do you call the exter! mination of native Americans in the US? - A glorious episode in American history. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call a US president who says, "Read my lips - no new taxes", and later breaks his promise? - George Bush. What do you call a US president who says, "No new taxes- over my dead body", and later ...? - George W. Bush. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call someone who stands up in front of a crowd and tells stories? - An entertainer. What do you call someone who stands up in front of a crowd at the Pentagon and tells stories? - Donald Rumsfeld. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call a television station that broadcasts only the government's views? - A propaganda station. What do you call the BBC when the World News consists solely of half an hour of a Pentagon briefing? - Fair and impartial. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call the 2002 presidential election in Zimbabwe where there are serious irregularities? - A flawed election. What do you call the 2000 presidential election in the US where there are serious irregularities? - A victory for democracy. -------------------------------------------------- What do you call it when American Whites advocate an exclusively White state and the expulsion of all non-Whites? - Racism. What do you call it when Isra eli Jews advocate an exclusively Jewish state and the expulsion of all non-Jews? - Zionism.

For allah to guide those misguided so peace can pervail inshallah.

Well I wont consider to be a nightmare for my family right now, but I sure was a nightmare in HS. My parents are very important to me with out them I wouldn't be who im. I would definitely be missed, and since am the main source of income in the family, my dad got shot in somalia and is unable to work, I feel like they need me around so I can pay the bills, anyways is not the money I bring in or all that materialistic stuff is about the deen I have to teach my younger siblings so we will all reunite one day inshallah.

Asalamu alaikum sis As long as he is a muslim, and lives by sharicah then there is nothing wrong with marrying him sis, God say in his quran, he made us into nations and tribes so we may know each other not judge or fight each other. As long as you think that marriage will work with allahs guidance then go for it. And allah knows best. Wa salam