Barwaaqo I know its funny as hell, am trying to explain to her she should not have posted that, she still doesn't get it, She said she was exercising her freedom of speech. Ya allah help the girl cause whenever i tell her she should not have done that she was exercising her freedom. And am getting really annoyed.

Wa alaikum salam bro, very thoughtfull post.

Asalamu alaikum W.W. First I have to apoligize anyone who was offended by the post. I usually dont sign out and I hardly post any topics on the thread I just enjoy reading. I mostly use PM. Anyways my little hyped up, wacked cousin is mad about her only brother getting married and moving away, and decided to post it here in very hateful way. I was shocked to see this post here under my name, and I had to apoligize. And you know what I still can't figure out, why she posted this topic when she is reer xamar herself. Anyways am sorry, I also learned my lesson-- always to logout.

It was just a simple question sis, no need to get rude, and what does my signuatre have to do with anything.

My brother is getting married to this reer xamar girl, I know is none of my bizinez who he marries but she is so fake. How can I tell my brother about her fakeness. [ August 26, 2003, 03:04 PM: Message edited by: BARWAAQO ]

Nin-yaban why does eveything you post has to be about the somali dhaqan and insulting somali women, dude maybe you and your dhaqan freak screwed up brain shouldn't be discusing about dhaqan when its not called for.

OMG I cant beleive that 37% of the ppl who voted don't remember the last time they prayed, subhanalah may allah guide us all. I hope you guys know, those who don't pray are worse of than kafirs. This is making me sad :confused:

Haniif I hope you meant WITHOUT being harsh towrds them, right?

Mashallah Proudsista you have some guts. There is nothing wrong with asking a guy to marry you. If you know what you want, I say go after it, but I personally wouldn't have the courage to ask a guy to marry me.

I WONDER If Prophet Muhammad visited you Just for a day or two, If he came unexpectedly, I wonder what you'd do. Oh, I know you'd give your nicest room To such an honored guest, And all the food you'd serve him, Would be the very best, And you would keep assuring him, You're glad to have him there, That serving him in your home, Is joy beyond compare. But ... when you saw him coming, Would you meet him at the door? With arms outstretched in welcome To your visitor? Or ... would you have to change your clothes Before you let him in? Or hide some magazines and put The Qur'an where they had been? Would you still watch the same movies? On your TV set? Or would you switch it off Before he gets upset? Would you turn off the radio? And hope he hadn't heard? And wish you hadn't uttered that last hasty word? Would you hide your worldly music? And instead take Hadith books out? Could you let him walk right in? Or would you have to rush about? And, I wonder ... if the Prophet spent A day or two with you, Would you go right on doing the things you always do? And would you find it hard each meal To say a table grace? Would you keep up each and every prayer? Without putting on a frown? And would you always jump up early For prayer at dawn? And let him know the things on which Your mind and spirit feed? Would you take the Prophet with you? Everywhere you plan to go? Or, would you maybe change your plans Just for a day or so? Would you be glad to have him meet? You're very closest friends? Or, would you hope they stay away Until his visit ends? Would you be glad to have him stay? Forever, on and on? It might be interesting to know The things that you would do, If Prophet Muhammad, in person, came To spend some time with you.

Hoda sister, we are not scared to have sex becuase we fear parents or elders, its becuase we fear allah SWT. Sis pls set your self straight, or you will regret it, and just to point out any sort of relationship is XARAM like the boyfriend you were talkimg about. May allah guide you sis.

Hoda sister, we are not scared to have sex becuase we fear parents or elders, its becuase we fear allah SWT. Sis pls set your self straight, or you will regret it, and just to point out any sort of relationship is XARAM like the boyfriend you were talkimg about. May allah guide you sis.

Hoda sister, we are not scared to have sex becuase we fear parents or elders, its becuase we fear allah SWT. Sis pls set your self straight, or you will regret it, and just to point out any sort of relationship is XARAM like the boyfriend you were talkimg about. May allah guide you sis.

Dear Brothers, A word of advice from your sister in Islam .... You wanna make your wife (wives :rolleyes: happy??? Here is the formula 1. Dress up well for your wife Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. Brothers when was the last you looked good to please your wives??? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Prophet Mohammad salla Allahu ^alayhe wa salam would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells. 2. Use nick names for your wife Use the cutest names for your wife. Prophet Mohammad salla Allahu ^alayhe wa salam had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. For example, he called ^Aa'esha {radeya Allahu ^anha} ^Uwaysh. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt her feelings. 3. Recognize the good & focus on that Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that. 4. Be silent on the wrongs If you see wrong from your wife (as long as it is not a sin ), try being silent and do not comment! 5. Smile at your wife Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often^Aa'esha ( ^Uwaysh). Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life constantly smiling for eachother. 6. Thank her Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her! 7. Make her happy Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life. 8. Comfort her Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. 9. Be humorous Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Prophet Mohammad salla Allahu ^alayhe wa salam would race his wife Aisha {radi Allahu ^anha} in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that 10. Try to be your best and improve on yourself Prophet Mohammad salla Allahu ^alayhi wa salam said what means: "The best of you are those who treat their wives the best, and I am the best to my wives." Keep the wise words of the best of all creation in the back of your mind. So for the brothers who are married get working, and for the bachelors...keep this in mind . Never forget to make supplications (du^a') to Allah subhanahu wa ta^ala to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta^ala knows best !!

The author of this article "Observations on Hijab" is unknown. It is however, thought to be written by a brother. Funny as it is, there are a number of lessons to be learnt... It has been my personal observation that some Muslim girls and women do not realise the significance of hijab. Hijab is Arabic for protection and cover. Some people put a lot of effort into their hijab, yet it serves no purpose. I am referring to the pointless hijab that some girls wear. The first pointless hijab is referred to as the headband hijab. It is a band of fabric approximately 4 inches wide. It covers the back of the head and allows all the hair to be exposed. It doesn't serve much in terms of modesty, but at least it comes in handy in case of an unexpected tennis match! The second pointless hijab is the dupatta , also known as the Saran wrap hijab. It covers all the hair, but it is totally transparent. Again it doesn't serve much in terms of modesty, but it keeps the hair nice and fresh! The third type of hijab is known as the Micky Mouse Hijab . It is when a girl wears a black scarf and tucks it behind her ear, so that her ears stick out! We now move on to my favourites - the yo-yo hijabs: The first yo-yo hijab is the scarf that keeps falling down and needs to be constantly pulled back up.... up, down, up, down, just like a yo-yo! The second yo-yo hijab is also referred to as the convertible hijab This type of hijab is predominant at any type of social event, i.e. an Aqeeqah, Bismillah party, Ameen party, wedding, etc. This is when an Imam or Qari comes up to the microphone and starts to recite Qur'an. At this point, all the convertible hijabs come up... until he says "SadaqAllahu Atheem." I'm not sure, but apparently in some cultures that translates to "OK sisters, you may take off your scarves." I'm sure this may seem odd, but what's even funnier is when people do not anticipate the recitation of Qur'an at a social event, and are forced to be creative and use accessories such as a purse to cover one's hair. I was surprized to see a woman hold her purse over her head as "hijab"... as if the multitudes of men surrounding her are not a good enough reason to wear hijab, but some guy reciting du'a compels her to hold a purse over her head. Her friends were more creative... one friend used her dinner napkin. I was also laughing when i saw the communal hijab- two or more girls dropped under one dinner napkin during the recitation of Qur'an. Her other friend was still more creative. She used her coffee saucer on the back of her head. I wasn't sure of it was hijab or Yamaka. I didn't know if she was a Muslim or a Jew. I felt like going up to her and saying "Shalom alaikum, sister." And, people should remember that hijab is not just a protection from guys, but from a girls' nafs (ego) as well. It should prevent girls from having to spend hours in front of the mirror doing her hair. But, unfortunately, you see girls in front of the mirror for hours doing their hijab as they would do their hair, with all sorts of elaborate braids and the like. I wanted to go up to a sister and say "Is your hijab naturally curly?" I also felt compelled to go up to another girl and say "Pardon me, but is your hijab naturally that colour, or did you dye it"? Well the point is that some people make an effort to wear hijab, but it is futile, because it is not fulfilling its purpose. It's like using an umbrella with holes in it. Hijab is used for protection from guys as well as from the girl herself, and should not be used as an accessory or for beautifying one's self. Any way, that's it. If any one disagrees with me or is offended, then you are disagreeing with the teachings of Allah Subhaanuhu wa Ta'ala.