Cute Lil Girl, Tell your friend she has nothing to worry about. In fact, she has it easy and I'll tell you why. Most girls (on the skinnier side) don't get told by the guys that they are fat (even thou some of these guys might have potential to), and they might be happy and dandy.......until the day she gets thicker!! Now, she finds out what a jerkoff her man is. She has be duped, bamboozeled! However, why would your friend, who is thicker, care what these sexist men really think? she should be counting her lucky stars that they are showing their evil side first, so that she won't have to waste any time on them. Besides, in many cultures, being thicker is beautiful and there are plenty of men who dig that. Tell your friend that she should stop worrying about guys who don't even take care of their own damn bodies...with skinny a$$ legz..who look like their dying of malnutrition!

Jumawhatever, That was not funny. You were not funny. And that's all that came to my head! :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

This thread scares me. Really though, is it necessary cute_li_girl?

Every vote counts. If muslims formed a voting bloc......that could sway the election either way. I don't know what some muslims can't understand about that.

What can I say? I was born that way :confused:

Thats what I consider the 2,3,4 wife, too!!

No, but I did think about having 2, 3, 4 husbands

^ Happy b-lated birthday sue!

Originally posted by Shabella: U find that shocking Ngonge? Well, there is a somali girl in my college who wears: 1. Very long, loose skirts that touch the floor 2. Long, thick shirts and jackets 3. Then wears the hijab like a masar. I wanted to go up to her and tell her what was the point What was the point? That she has her entire body covered except a few strands of hair. I think you are missing the point.

Ngonge, You've gone to bury your head in the sand? This is a discussion brother, and at that, a topic you started. You state your opinion about how girls wear their hijabs nowadays, but in the same breath say that you are in no way criticizing them....go figure. If I got it twisted, then I apologize.

Originally posted by Baashi: From this it follows that women’s financial security must be assured. That is why they are entitled to receive marital gifts and to keep their income/property for their own security. The responsibility to provide is on the shoulders of the husbands/fathers not on wives/mothers. What is the reason behind having healthy man stay home, attend house chores, and have instead the wife go out to earn income for the family. Or you just want to deviate from the Divine directives. A. While it does state that a woman's money is hers, it does not state where and how she can receive it. In the present times, its usually through work and not from inherentance and such. Yes taking care of the children is a must, for both parents , except for the child-rearing where breast-feeding and such is involved, there is no reason the father, who took part in the making of this child, should not have part of those responsibilies. Therefore, it is essential for the man as well. You state there is no reason that a healthy male should stay at home, what makes you think there is a reason that a healthy female can! Find me a directive (Koran being the primary source) that says explicitly that women stay in the house. The point that both can go out and have nanny do the mother’s role is okay I guess as long as the need is there. Maids and nannies can be employed out of necessity but no one and I repeat no can take the mother’s place “as the educator of an upright, complex-free, and carefully reared child”. I just don’t see why one would want to go out and work for somebody else if there is no pressing financial necessity - for instance if the husband has the financial means to cover all the basis. Actually, the woman is not the only educator in the house. Why we solely have that burden, only God knows, but again, if you can find that directive that explicitly says that that is our sole purpose as a wife in a marriage, gladly correct me. Hon, I don't like foreign objects driven into my head, thank you

^Ngonge, Well, I don't mean to be harsh to you since you are one of my favorite posters on here, but I find something wrong with people critizing others by what they wear. What she has on her head is not a bandana, but she is fulfulling a part of her hijab (covering the hair). Most of the Hijab is invisible, since its internal and we place so much emphasizes on what girls wear or should wear, it's pathetic.

I am such a heretic, I know, but it must be said. Where does it say its haraam to role swap? The woman goes out to work and the man stays home? or Both go out to work and they get a nanny to do the housework? Or both take turns doing the housework? I didn't know that Islam strictly ordered the woment to take care of everything in the household. Although this article was meant for us to benefit from, I think it is still reinforcing some old sexist views! Sorry, I stand firm in my beliefs.

I ask the question not because I didn't understand what the HIJAB is, but was suggesting that your knowledge of the female hijab is rather limited ngonge. And I mean that in the most nicest way

Qac Qaac, In your case, there's always a need for repitition.

Originally posted by Aeryn Sun: That is black, rectangular, smooth, 1/2-yards long, 3-inches thick material. Thats the recommended hijaab. The proper one, you understand. This is the first time I've heard that description. Let me refer back to my ayaats and hadiith for a quick minute. And while we're on the subject, why black? and why smooth, if I really want to wear---wool. Rahiima, yes that is my current understanding of it. but it doesn't explain exactly what STYLE of hijaab is the correct way. which is the point I am trying to make to Ngonge. It's very VAGUE, and subject to INTERPRETATION by different cultures, ethinicities and races. and yes, People who reside in the west have a different culture, even if they happen to be muslims.

Why are so many Somali men cab drivers? What about other professions?

Qac Qac, I have. So tell me, what color, shape, texture, size, thickness of material is the proper form? And what current culture is doing it the right way? Can you answer that SIMPLE questions since we are all so focused on the clothing of women? Ngonge, It's a very simple question.

Originally posted by Qac Qaac: Under the sharia a women that cheats gets stoned too. just to clarify things. Under the Sharia, anyone who commits adultary gets stoned. just to clarify things. Thai women must be doing something right!

Originally posted by NGONGE: Try to wear a proper form of Xijaab or none at all. This halfway thing makes the women look bald! What exactly is the proper form of Hijaab? What does it look like? and exactly which culture has the proper form of hijab?

Gediid, Qac Qac and Mansoor. and I'm more of a defense lawyer than a District Attorney

Another common misconception: All girls grind on men when they club. I have heard girls say time and again they have to protect their backsides from some losers who think dancing is about grinding. That's why they prefer techno clubs to hiphop/reggae. Gediid, when you did go clubbing, did you go there to get some sex?

I thought suicide was haraam? Sorry!

Og, *gasp* Not...Not..Jamaal Wine-bar! Do you think he will accept the kid?

Ngonge, You got entirely too much Islan Somali in you. Have you heard that Sucaad reportedly got scratched up by Ibrahin's cadaan girlfriend, because she too is pregnant with his child. The drama **this gossip is true. Really. **