Asalaamu'Calaykum folks! In about a week I'm to set off on my long earned holiday to the land of "opportunity". I’m writing here in order to have an opportunity to get to know people where I’m going. So sisters I’m looking for some reer mareekin hospitaity. Key things I would like to know is whats the weather like up there, can I bring my open shoes? And how cold is "fall" (is that American for autum?) what do you guys do for fun? What do you guys do for eid? I'll going to Somalivile aka Minneapolis, form there I hope to visit a few states and Canada (so I need some Canadian help too). I only know a few ppl like family, not much are really in my age group so I’m using my SOL members card lol. Thanx in advance... Aussie sista

PureBlood... Ever heard of light humor? No need to be so insulting in your statements. Idiotic? I’d say the same for you. “Nigger like mentality� What mentality may that be? :rolleyes: I don’t like confrontations so don’t confront me kiddo :mad:

Salaamz sista, I know all about hair loss. My hair falls out every time I put a brush through it and I have to avoid using other peoples brushes out of sheer embarrassment. I have pretty soft hair so I’m for ever complaining of lack of volume. But now a days I’m doing some little things to try and improve my big problems. Instead of using oil in my hair I use leave in conditioners, I find them lighter on my hair and doesn’t leave it oily its very refreshing. A good shampoo is important, I’m a Garnier Fructis girl and I love it. I’m pretty lazy as well so I’m not one to go out of my way so I use nafaqo whilst in the shower. I massage it in, tie it in a bun and continue with my shower. At the end I just rinse it out. Since then my hairdresser loves my hair. She says its full of volume and most importantly its healthy. I use Schwarzkopf hair products for stuff like leave in conditioner and quick nafaqo fixes. These are what helps me. But everyones different, I have a friend who has amazing hair and she uses the Panteen range which works wonders for her. Anyway that’s my 2cents worth. Oh and one more thing a great thing is if you guys have ladies swimming sessions where you live, go in the steamroom with some nafaqo in your hair, sometimes they don't let you but you can always sneak it in or if you have time put some nafaqo in your hair and wrap it up with glade wrap then blow dry for a while. Hope this is of some help. Good luck sweety, may you never lose your hair again lol. p.s. normal to shed about 100 hair strands a day, so don't stress out too much. Wasalaam.

Ok then white superiority perpetrated by yellow people :rolleyes:

White superiority again. Down with Sony. I personally think its inappropriate.

Mate you sound like your having an affair…fear of â€our dealings to pass on to the work and workers†And this fish business…why the deep ocean anyway how did an office romance turn so complicated. You have an over active imagination and a confused sex drive. No insults intended this is just the feeling you’ve left me after reading your post.

As for Australian summers...Well we get use to them. Actually i take that back we don't. But hey just wear cotton and hang out at the beach! Water fights are a great pass time down here, isn't that right Rahimah

I don't even own one. Actually we have one in the house. One of them red and yellow ones. I've only ever worn one at a friends wedding where I was a bridesmaid, hence not really having a choice. Lakiin I haven't really thought about it ever since. Maybe i should invest in at least one. Although i dont know if i have the so called "body shape for it. As for diric's man I have a pretty big collection going. I love the bac weyne ones i think there great. I wore one the other night and i have a few friends lining up to borrow it already and i mean the real bac waynes up to your wrist, and no garbasaar. I think its hot! Viva la Diric

:eek: Inalilahi Waina ilahyrajicun subxan'allah!

Dear diary, Thinking about life and how far I’ve come seems to have upset me. I think about the time and efforts I have put into making my dreams come true and realized I’ve been pretty lazy. Nothing seems to go to plan and it’s frustrating. Seeing a close family member trying to come to grips with being diagnosed with cancer, life doesn’t seem all that long anymore. Things change within a blink of an eye and I realize that as much as I would like to live forever, I’m going to die one day and I wont have anything except the white cloth they wrap me in and my deeds. It’s a frightening thought. I’ve decided I should rediscover my inner self and start making some changes. Hmm I also think I should go to the gym since they are taking so much money of me. That and I feel flabs Wednesday July 5, 2006 on this day changes need to be made… I feel like chocolate. Maybe I’ll start my new life tomorrow?

Na heedhe I wasn't trying to be xaasid just stating the facts. I'm all for "fixing" things, I personally don't understand why Operah troubles herself with her ever so public weight battle. With her money and no diin to stop her heck why not. It obviously bothers her.

I don’t know about breast implants, but I do know of a woman who had her arms done. Apparently she just went through a divorce, had lost some weight and needed to get rid of some trouble area I guess. I thought the whole idea was quite hilarious because it was something caadi. I mean everyone knew and when she had it done she received all the special treatments visits that come with being “sickâ€. I see this lady at Sunday swimming and I honestly don’t see any difference, they are still pretty big. Each to there own I guess. If its bothering someone that much why not. I’d rather stick to my gym regime. Never had an operation and I wont start with something as silly as that.

Somalis in Cardiff Monday January 23, 2006 The Guardian Estimated population 4,000-10,000 First arrived 1880s Settled 1950s Centre Butetown, Grangetown, Riverside 'So, you're here to meet the elders?" asks a young man. There is no time to reply before he swings open a door to reveal a room containing 16 elderly Somali men. Some wear suits and ties, some hats, robes and hennaed beards; some gesticulate with camel sticks, some quietly read the Daily Mirror. Television news and conversation stir the air, which is split intermittently by the scrape of dominos. One of the younger men, aged about 50, stands to make a long announcement in Somali. All the elders listen, and with important faces, turn to look at me. "Do we have a community in Cardiff?" asks a small man, Ibrahim Deria, as if the suggestion was news to him. "No! We have the people, but no community." Some immediately disagree, others go further. "Our kids are running round the streets like hunting dogs!" Deria continues. This is Red Sea House, a scheme in Cardiff Bay for retired Somali seamen, but it could be any retirement home in the country. "We have been here 56 years," adds Haji Musa, white-bearded, shrugging off all interruptions, "half of us died at sea. And we did not come here as immigrants! We were brought to work on ships because your men can't lift coal properly!" The elders laugh; at least everyone can agree on this. In the late 19th century, men such as Deria and Musa were a common sight in the docks of Cardiff, Liverpool, Bristol and London. They were adventurous young men from the British protectorate of Somaliland, who had left their homes to work in often atrocious conditions on the old coal-fired steam ships that used to tour the empire. Many of them served and died in the Royal Navy in conflicts up to and including the Falklands war. Somali refugees, who have arrived in numbers in the past 20 years and now make up the majority of the community both in Cardiff and nationwide, often feel lost in modern Britain. But the Cardiff seamen, who established the largest British-born Somali community in the UK, feel quite at home. As Abdi Sugulle, the manager of Red Sea House, puts it: "There is a sense of belonging where the docks is concerned." Nevertheless, this is not a rich community, and Butetown, though it was tastefully redeveloped in 1988, is not a rich area. Most of the refugees, having received little education in Somalia, subsist on low-skilled and low-paid work, while many of those who were born here suffer from low expectations. Apart from Rageh Omar, Britain's Somali community of perhaps hundreds of thousands has produced few prominent successes so far. Given that most of them arrived less than 20 years ago, often penniless, traumatised and unable to speak English, this is hardly a surprise. And yet there is real hope that the next generation can change everything. "There are Somalis who are trainee solicitors in Cardiff," says Abdi Adhan of the Somali Advice Centre as we await our lunch in Grangetown's Haraf restaurant. "There are Somalis who work in the local authority, managers in private companies ... " he is greeted by two acquaintances " ... civil engineers ... " another man steps in to shake his hand ... "doctors, although the number is not high ... " he sticks resolutely to his task, picking real examples from memory despite the buffeting ... "opticians ... " Our food arrives. "Mmm ... Welsh lamb," murmurs a friend of Adhan's appreciatively over our plates of spiced rice, meat and salad. The meal is fabulous, and I ask what I should call it. The answer is a long string of acrobatic Somali. What would that be in English? There is a brief discussion: "Rice and meat." After lunch, as if to illustrate his point about the new Somali professionals, Adhan takes me to meet Yusuf Hassan, a young man with three careers. "I'm a dentist, a microbiologist, and I run a shop as well," he explains, leaning against the counter of his grocers in Butetown. When he's not scraping teeth or counting change, Hassan is a research associate at Cardiff University, developing a bacteria-detection system based on the scattering of light. "It's really exciting," he enthuses. "Everything is something new. To be a dentist is more rewarding in terms of money, but you have to work for something that excites you." Next, Abdi takes me across town, to where another Somali is getting his excitement in a different way. This is Yusuf Ali Hassan (Somali men take their father's first name as their second, which means they often sound very similar). So far as anyone knows, he is the first Somali lollipop-man in Britain. He is clearly loving it. "It is very good, I like it," he says, leaning jovially on a wall in his blinding yellow uniform. Considering that he has been working for 12 hours, after getting up at 3.40am to begin his other job, Ali Hassan is in a remarkably sunny mood. And does he find the children a handful? "Sometimes," he concedes, "but mostly they are quite all right." This is no surprise. Whatever their financial circumstances, Somali children are usually well brought up. On a visit to a Somali youth centre the day before, several of the boys even went, unasked, to get me a chair. Red Sea House's denouncer of Somali youth, Ibrahim Deria, had agreed to take me to his home, and I mustn't be late. With evident pleasure, Ali Hassan parts the traffic to help me on my way. Deria is outside the mosque, as arranged. After his complaints of the previous day, he is more sanguine about modern Cardiff. "It's very friendly," he explains in the car. "I've never had a problem, never. My children have never had a problem. I don't see any racists, or whatever they call them." He talks as if "racism" was just a softie's word for robust opinions - but then he has some of his own. "Bangladeshis, too much," he tuts, as we enter the Riverside area where he lives, across the water from the Millennium Stadium. "One comes first and the other one follows." There's irritation, but no hatred in his voice. What about the people who say there are too many Somalis in Cardiff? "Yeah, I know," he hums. Like many Somalis, Deria has a large family - a wife and seven children. (His brother has eight.) In the front room he introduces two of his sons, aged 20 and 16. "Welsh boys," he smiles proudly. "You can tell." While Deria's Welsh accent hangs only on certain words, like "work" and "lovely", the boys, who are polite and articulate, sound Cardiff through and through. "The area's got a reputation for being tough," explains the older boy, "but it's never taken too seriously because the elders in both communities [somali and Bangladeshi] come together and stop it before it gets too serious. Nothing big, like, nothing big." Downstairs, Deria's wife and some of the other children are watching TV. After joining her husband in Cardiff in 1984, Kinsi Deria had much adjusting to do. Still unsure of her English, she explains through her daughter that she is happy in Cardiff and has many friends, most of whom also came over from Somalia. "Everything is easier than the language," she says. "I find learning English quite hard." How about English TV, does she enjoy it? "I understand English but I can't speak it myself, so yes. I like Location, Location, Location and Property Ladder." One of the children reminds her of something and she smiles. "Oh, and Changing Rooms. I want them to come to my house". http://www.guardian.co.uk/britain/article/...rticle_continue

I am starting to regret posting this. I see where the other sister's are coming from, lakiin some times its nice not to read so deep in to things. Mr Malaysia: "staying at home adds a value into muslim women's living-style or dignity .." :eek: Your kidding right? Mate your diging your self a big whole with that line.

A Debate Mufti sat next to a Reverend on a flight. The Rev asked the Mufti, What is your occupation? Mufti: I'm into big business Rev: But what business exactly? Mufti: I deal with God Rev: Ah, so you're a Muslim religious leader. I have one problem with you Muslims: you oppress your women. Mufti: How do we oppress women? Rev: You make your women cover up completely and you keep them in the homes. Mufti: Ah. I have a problem with you people: you oppress MONEY. Rev: What? How can one oppress money? Mufti: You keep your money hidden away, in wallets, banks and safes.. You keep it covered up. Why don't you display it in public if it's a beautiful thing? Rev: It will get stolen, obviously. Mufti: You keep your money hidden because it is so valuable. We value the true worth of women far, far more. Therefore, these precious jewels are not on display to one and all. They are kept in honour and dignity....

Caption #2 Never miss a good chance to shut up!

Asalaamu'Calaykum folks, Man its been awhile since I stepped foot in this joint! I doubt I'm that well known to be missed, however, I am grateful to be back amongst my intellectually stimulating beebal . Marriage my friend’s is a tricky business, and with all business come contracts. Very in-depth contracts for the reason that just like a business, all parties involved must know what they are getting them selves in to. As for the issue of second wives, the sheikhs have spoken and it the girls right to add this in to her contract. But keep in mind the issue at hand, by the woman putting this in to the contract she is not saying I am “against†polygamy because that would go against the diin as Khayr mentioned 'YOU CAN'T MAKE SOMETHING THAT IS HARAM to be HALAL and something that is HALAL to be HARAM'. The issue is that this woman knows her self and feels that she can not handle being put in such a situation, i.e. she may be the jealous type there for causing it to be a fitna for her, lakiin at the end of the day she wants the choice to say hey if you make that decision kuma deedayo the 2nd woman, but I have the right to back out, just like she can put in her contract that her husband can not take her anywhere out of her will, ie move to Timbuktu or something. Diinian wise you got to listen to your man, but if you had an agreement before hand, you’re covered. Wasalaam.

You big sap! Shame on you. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Zephyrine, leave it to me to knock some sense into her -it’s that Farah -he has her mesmerized. Hee whats the big fuss sheeesh! Zephyrine why not have a lil romance? Hell I find the thought of living with some farax for the rest of mylife a little hard to swallow, its the only thing to keep me sane. Lakiin I dont like the smuthering sisy types. He still gotta do it without jeperdising his manliness As for you Rahiima come come now, you know aabaar ban kujira in that department, its you who is "mesmerized" my dear friend Its ok let your love shine

Have you folks seen the movie "A walk to remember" with Mandy Moore? Now that’s what I call romantic. I don’t mean to plagiarize, lakiin you have to admit, and the thought that your man goes through the effort to make your dreams and wishes come true has to take the cake. I'm in to the smaller things he does just to make you smile at the most strangest moments. Out of the blue he surprises you. You stay up all night talking about things that interest the both of you, and laugh all day about silly things we do. Have water fights whilst washing the car, or play practical jokes on each other. I guess my main idea of romance is keeping it alive and fun throughout all the years we plan to stay together. I mean I still want it to be interesting after 10yrs. Oh and a single red rose he brings home for no reason but to say that "yo I still wanna sweep you off your feet" Aaah...Now to find such a man

Asalaamu'Calaykum, Absolutly beautiful. Insha'allah ima go back home soon. Hey did u take these pictures yourself. I know one of the guys in the pictures, lol. He's reer Melbourne and I know him very well. I was like is dat :eek: He does alot of work with this organisation that I've helped out with called Children First foundation which involves bring kids who need life saving surgery from war torn countries. wasalaam

Galadriel Possessing a rare combination of wisdom and humility, while serenely dominating your environment you selflessly use your powers to care for others. Even the smallest person can change the course of the future.

-S- You are secretive, self-contained, and shy. You are very sexy, sensual, and passionate, but you do not let on to this.Only in intimate privacy will this part of your nature reveal itself. When it gets down to the nitty-gritty, you are an expert. You know all the little tricks of the trade, can play any role or any game, and take your love life very seriously. You don't fool around. You have the patience to wait for the right person to come along. looooool. i dont know what to think

This is not right...There must be some kind of mistake; Score: 10 Analysis: You are meek and misunderstood. Nobody really knows what goes on inside your head, except for the kind folks who implanted that chip in your brain. Sanity Assessment: Your sanity is slightly below normal.

Asalaamu'Calaykum, Interesting discussion folks. Its great to finally see some one use some dalil (proof/hadith) to state their point. I’m a strong believe in prevention is better then cure, they shouldn’t have been involved in such activities. But being only human we are prone to mistakes. Even the Muslims in the time of the prophet fell victim to this sin. However we should take responsibility for our own actions. A perfect example of this is the story of the young woman who came to the Prophet (saw) after committing adultery and falling pregnant, seeking punishment for her sins. The prophet told her to go off and have her baby and then come back. When she came back the prophet told her to nurse her child for two years and then come back, she did just that and came back after nursing her child. At this point she was stoned to death. One of the companions of the Prophet who was there got some of this woman’s blood splattered on him, he was disgusted and so he cursed her. The Prophet (saw) told him not to do so for this woman has more Iman then most of us can imagine having and was guaranteed Jannatul Firdos. Abortion in some case are permissible, nonetheless there are strict rules according to when and if you are allowed in individual cases. But that does not mean that every uncontrollable act of adultery can be or should be acceptable to have an abortion to fix their problem. What you are killing is an innocent child who came to life because of the mistake you made. ALLAH is all seeing and all hearing so this cover up is still known and you will be held accountable for your actions. But ALLAH is also ARAHMAAN and ARAHEEM, most merciful and most forgiving. We need to understand that yes we make mistakes lakiin don’t make it worse then it is by adding another sin to the list. Hmm I think I dwelled off the topic here, oops. Wasalaamz

Another Nursing student :cool: