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  1. Assalaamu Alaykum All I gotta say is: Waaat??!!! Istaahil: Aight, maybe the sheikh afore mentioned didn't not explain correctly or maybe u didn't understand correctly, Allah knows best, but Ima gonna clear this up right quick inshaa Allaah. It is not, nor has it ever been Islamically allowed for a man to check out a woman or for woman to check out a man. Proof: Allaah,swt, tells us in the quran for believing men to lower their gaze and for believing woman to lower their gaze. Muslims should follow the commands of the Qur'an (24:30-31) to "lower their gaze and guard their modesty...." Islam recognizes that we are human and are given to human weakness, so this rule provides safeguards for our own sake. The ONLY case this is allowed is if he's going to marry her and even in this case there are guidelines. Which are as follows: The man is allowed to look at the woman but only her hands and her face. He can't stare but there isn't a limit to the amount of times he looks at her. The woman is also allowed to do the same. Allaah, by His Wisdom, knows the attraction is important in a marriage. The reason for allowing us to look at the other sex, with the intention for marriage, is so that u can see whether or nor u actually want the person. Here is an article by Yusuf al-Qaradawi: It is permissible for a Muslim man to see the woman to whom he intends to propose marriage before taking further steps so that he can enter into the marriage knowing what is ahead for him. Otherwise, if he has not seen her before marriage, he may not find her looks to his liking and may have regrets after he is married to her. The eye is the messenger of the heart; when the eyes meet, the hearts and the souls of man and woman may meet as well. Muslim reported Abu Hurairah as saying that a man came to the Prophet (peace be on him) and told him that he had contracted to marry a woman of the Ansar. "Did you look at her?" the Prophet (peace be on him) asked. "No," he said, 'Then go and look at her,' said the Prophet (peace be on him), 'for there is something in the eyes of the Ansar,' meaning that some of them have a defect of their eyes Al-Mughira ibn Shu'bah said, I asked for a woman in marriage and Allah's Messenger (peace be on him) asked me whether I had looked at her. When I replied that I had not, he said 'Then look at her, for it may produce love between you.' I went to her parents and informed them of the Prophet's advice. They seemed to disapprove of the idea. Their daughter heard the conversation from her room and said, 'If the Prophet (peace be on him) has told you to look at me, then look.' I looked at her, and subsequently I married her. (Reported by Ahmad, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah, Ibn Hibban, and Darimi.) The Prophet (peace be on him) did not specify either to Mughirah or to the other man how much of the woman they were permitted to see. Some scholars are of the opinion that looking is limited to seeing the face and hands. However, it is permissible for anyone to see the face and hands as long as no desire is involved; therefore, if asking for woman in marriage is an exemption, obviously the man making the proposal should be able to see much more of the woman than that. The Prophet (peace be on him) said, "When one of you asks for woman in marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so." (Reported by Abu Daoud.) Some scholars have gone to one extreme or another in relation to this permission, but the best course seems to be the middle one. One researcher considers it quite appropriate in our time that the man who is proposing be allowed to see the woman as she normally appears before her father, brother, and other muharramah. He says: In the context of the above hadith, he may even accompany her, together with her father or some other mahrem as chaperone, on her usual visits to relatives or to public places, while clad in full hijab. (Hijab denotes the proper Islamic dress. (Trans.)) In this way he will have the opportunity to get an insight into her reasoning, behavior, and personality. This is a part of the meaning of the hadith, "...to look at what will induce him to marry her." (Al-Bahee al-Khooly, Al-Mar'ah Bain al-bayn al-bait wal-Mujtamah'.) If the man's intention of marriage is sincere, he is permitted to see the woman with or without her and her family's knowledge. Jarir ibn 'Abdullah said concerning his wife, "(Before marriage) I used to hide under a tree to see her." Istaahil: This is the hadith that I assume that the sheikh mentioned From the hadith concerning al-Mughira we understand that the father of a girl cannot, out of deference to custom and tradition, prevent a suitor who is in earnest from seeing her, for customs and traditions must be governed by the Shari'ah. How is it possible that the Divine Law should subjected to the whims of human beings? On the other hand, however, neither the father, the suitor, or the fiancee can stretch this permission to such an extent that the young man and woman, under the pretext of betrothal or engagement, go to movie theaters, clubs, and shopping places together without being accompanied by a mahrem of hers, a practice which has become common today among Muslims who are fond of imitating Western civilization and its customs. --------------------- So there u have it ppl. Inshaa Allaah things are a bit more clear. I apologize for the lengthy article. If I have said anything wrong it is from myself and the shaytaan. If I have said anything correct it is only from Allaah,swt. Oh Allaah accept this from me. Dear reader plz say amen.
  2. Assalaamu Alaykum... I chose my avatar cuz I think the universe is beautiful. It makes me think or wonder about how Beautiful my Lord is cuz He's the one who created such beauty. He is Beauty and the source of all beauty.
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    Assalaamu Alaykum I think only Ottawa U got pharmaceutical sciences. But I'm not really sure. I have a friend who's majoring in that. She's says it's hard but not too hard. I can ask her if u want. Carleton U is a good university. The atmosphere is great. Tons of muslims and a wonderful MSA mashaa Allaah. It's right near the Rideau river and Vincent Massey Park. U can chill on the riverbank and watch the water rush quickly over the rapids. It's only about 10 mintues from Downtown on the bus. If u live in the south u can take the light rail train. Ottawa has a better rep than Carleton. It's right downtown. SO if u into shopping u got tons of boutiques and of course Rideau Shopping Centre. If u love shawarmas like I do, there are tons of shawarma joints near and/or on the campus. The MSA is good there too, mashaa Allaah. Great transportation. Hope I helped.
  4. Virgin: everytime i come to Va Somalis rarely say salaam. Shakuur: Alhamdulillah I dont deal with that much up here in Canada. My friends always say salaam. I think most of the time it's a "I'm cooler(or whateva) and therefore must not say hi until u do". It's called an ego trip. The Prophet (pbuh) said something to the effect of, spread salaam b/c it'll spread love amongst u.
  5. Salaam My word would be "super-cali-fragilistic-expi-ala-docius". I hardly doubt I spelt that correctly but I think yall get the point.
  6. Salaam Nafisa... if u can beleive I saw the movie Kuch Kuch Hota Hai before and I know that sang. I dont really listen to music no more so I can only offer old songs. A song that describes my life? There r a couple. Right here waiting 4 u-Richard Marx----i'm studying away from home and really missin my family n friends. Momma--Boyz2Men---again missin the one i luv the most. Oh there is this song by Savage Garden. I forgot the name but the guy is singing really fast and ur not sure what he's saying. Something about "a chicky cherry cola". That's how i feel my life is, a crazy mad rush without any breaks. i'm out
  7. Salaam Breasts sure get attention... Ok babygurl.. I highly suggest u breathe in till ur lungs are full and slowly release the air out of ur lungs. Listen to the air as it leaves ur body. Then think carefully...what if that was ur last breathe? I'm sure there would be other things on ur mind then ur bust size. Say alhamdulillah and focus on what really matters..ya feel me?
  8. Assalaamu Alaykum Wow.. excuse me for a moment while i pick up my jaw off the floor. Subhan Allaah. So here are my two cents: I assume that u already know that girlfriend/boyfriend relationships are a big Islamic no no. I agree with Bashi. Forgive those who wrong u and ask forgiveness from those who u wrong. Admitting a mistake is a big deal. It takes guts bro n 4 that I commend u. Remember ultimately that we r goin to meet our Creator. For sure dunya aint worth aakhira. i'm out
  9. Jazak Allaahu Khair Buubto
  10. Jazakum Allaahu Khairan Buubto and Petite
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  13. Bismillah Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahiim All praises are due to Allaah, we praise Him, we seek His help and His forgivenss. Mashaa Allaah, Rahiima thanks for providing the info. Hey lulla, to answer your second q: are married couples only to have sex when they want a kid? I would like to say, alhamdulillah, no. Marriage is a means to protect your private parts ie. no pre-marital activities. Humans have needs. Allaah designed us that way. We have natural desires and marriage is a means to fulfill such desires. In other words, if ur married to each other yall can do whateva u want, wheneva u want. Mind that sodomy is haram and most Islamic jurists consider oral sex makru (disliked). Having intimate relations wit one's spouse is a form sadaqa(charity). Allaahu Akbar. If I have said anything wrong it is from myself and the shaytan. If I have stated anything correct, it is only from Allaah, the Most High. O Allaah, accept this from me. Dear reader plz say amin.