Originally posted by Farancab: quote:Originally posted by Sayid*Somal: Xaraan! Disappointed in Ngonge - i expected Farancab to post this kind of stories rather than distinguished gentleman like yourself. Wara Sayid*Sanqaroor maraxaad tahay la gubye magaca noo dhig. Hanaga shaashaynin. Farancab falad xumoow - ogoow inaan Sayidkaaga ahay - maraka iga xishood - haddii adan rabiin inaan ku 'expose'gareeyo.

Paragon - kuwaas wey ku waasheen! unilke the professional ones in the first video. LOL@Tuujiye & his cat and pigeon - Wareer Bandanaa!

^^LOL. tell her i won't seat next to her again -

my design for the competition for both S/P Lands - or as i like to call it - Shankaroon

^Horta kalay - adigu maxaa ahayd? maxaase ka hadlaysa?

i could have sworn i practicily lived there.

^^what about me? Can i come to your pm

LOOOOOL@al_zeylaci thanks for the laugh. as for the topic - they only asked to be called their full name - nothing dictatorial about that. if NW and NE can call themselves after silly names that have no resemblances to anything somali. these lads can call themselves after arabic names as they like. names should be the least of our worries. rather the deeds of these groups and its effects on the somali penunsila.

^^^think or eeg?

LOL - malika. i hope your students give as good answer as you have. However, i disagree on practicility of noticing breathing differences and constipation relief (most likely to blame it on the prunes they had the night before) I would say i would notice by hearing an advert for investment on somalia on the radio. actually i dreamed of this last night. As for who will report it first - Xiin is the last person to report that for it to be noticed that a change happened.

JB - waa benlow Ngonge - there is no 'other side' to look at. faheema - there is not moral of the story - just pure cantarabaash.

^the myth of return!!. become something in where you are before you think about returning to anywhere.

OK - Suppose a mirracle from Allah (SWT) happens overnight tonight whilst every somali is a sleep (including the Jaat Chewers) on Friday morning we all wake up. The miracle happens and all the problems that that Somalia/Somalis have; are solved just like that. But since the miracle happened over night nobody knew that the miracle happened. When we wake up the next morning, how are we going to start discovering that the miracle happened? Give it go...... Who will report it on SOL First? Duke or JB and i wonder how each one will report it?

UK Somalians wareer badanaa!!

LOL - i guess none of you with the exception of Paragon understood the subject. Nuune - af soomaali ku hadal ninyahow - haddii kale turjubaan soo ka xayso JB - the topic is not about the man - rather the subject he is singing about and its effects.

Xaraan! Disappointed in Ngonge - i expected Farancab to post this kind of stories rather than distinguished gentleman like yourself.

Hadalka madaxweyne Shariif ayaa sii cusleeyey wararki maalmahan la isla dhax marayey ee ahaa in faraglin lagu sameeyo xaalada ka sii dareysa ee Soomaliya , waxaan hadalkisa dad badan ku micneeyen in uu ogolaaday in la fara galiyo Soomaliya. so somali is being molested with finger :mad:

Thanks Bilaal - good suggestion and i intend to but that book - hope it is availabe in Blackwells - i have £25 voucher for that place. Right continue with my lesson: Problem Free Talk Problem free talk is often over looked as a technique. In Solution focused therapy it is thought to be a useful technique for eliciting resources. Many people do leisure activities that relax them, or have experiences of being assertive, and many other useful resources that can help within the therapy. Solution focused therapists will talk about seemingly irrelevant life experiences; like leisure activities, meeting with friends, relaxing and managing conflict. The therapist can also gather information on the clients values and beliefs and their strengths. From this discussion during the therapy session the therapist can use these strengths and resources to move the therapy forward. For example; if a client wants to be more assertive it may turn out that under certain life situations they are assertive. This strength from one part of their life can then be transferred to the area with the current problem. Or if a client is struggling with their child because the child gets aggressive and calls the parent names and the parent continually retaliates and also gets angry, then perhaps they have an area of their life where they remain calm even under pressure; or maybe they have trained a dog successfully that now behaves and can identify that it was the way they spoke to the dog that made the difference and if they put boundaries in place using the same firm tonality the child might listen.

Mr Frequent name changer. i agree Tigre's have commited henious crimes against the somalis in that region. and they are probably worst than any other regimes to have passed. but i felt reading that revisionist little history of yours - that you somewhat sugar coated the evils perpuptated by the regimes of the derg and the imperiliest - from uprooted whole sections of the area and settled with highlanders from the north - to actually enslaving the somali the communities. we agree on none is better than the other - or more importantly nothing less the total freedom of our people.

^^LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL - that is shared joke. just list them under bibliography

Prof Paragon - i am your student - not the other way round give us a lesson on your ontology or was it ethnology? or some other ology. any ways what do you think of the perpectives of learning do you think somalis have what it takes to learn a new trick?

Not too long ago, a large seminar was held for ministers and reverends in training. Among the facilitators were many well-known motivational speakers. One such speaker boldly approached the pulpit and, gathering the entire crowd's attention, said, "The best years of my life were spent in the arms of a woman who wasn't my wife!" The crowd was shocked! He followed up by saying, "That woman was my mother!" The crowd burst into laughter and he gave his speech, which was well received. About a week later, one of the ministers who had attended the seminar decided to use that joke in his sermon. As he shyly approached the pulpit one sunny Sunday, he tried to rehearse the joke in his head. It was a bit foggy to him. Getting to the microphone he said loudly, "The greatest years of my life were spent in the arms of a woman who was not my wife!" His congregation sat shocked, murmuring. After standing there for almost 10 seconds trying to recall the second half of the joke, the pastor finally blurted out "...and I can't remember who she was!" Moral of the story: Don't copy if you can't paste

Coping Questions Coping questions are designed to elicit information about client resources that will have gone unnoticed by them. Even the most hopeless story has within it examples of coping that can be drawn out: "I can see that things have been really difficult for you, yet I am struck by the fact that, even so, you manage to get up each morning and do everything necessary to get the kids off to school. How do you do that?" Genuine curiosity and admiration can help to highlight strengths without appearing to contradict the clients view of reality. The initial summary "I can see that things have been really difficult for you" is for them true and validates their story. The second part "you manage to get up each morning etc.", is also a truism, but one that counters the problem focused narrative. Undeniably, they cope and coping questions start to gently and supportively challenge the problem-focused narrative.

Exception Seeking Questions Proponents of SFBT insist that there are always times when the problem is less severe or absent for the client. The counselor seeks to encourage the client to describe what different circumstances exist in that case, or what the client did differently. The goal is for the client to repeat what has worked in the past, and to help them gain confidence in making improvements for the future.

Scaling Questions Scaling questions are tools that are used to identify useful differences for the client and may help to establish goals as well. The poles of a scale can be defined in a bespoke way each time the question is asked, but typically range from "the worst the problem has ever been" (zero or one) to "the best things could ever possibly be" (ten). The client is asked to rate their current position on the scale, and questions are then used to help the client identify resources (e.g. "what's stopping you from slipping one point lower down the scale?"), exceptions (e.g. "on a day when you are one point higher on the scale, what would tell you that it was a 'one point higher' day?") and to describe a preferred future (e.g. "where on the scale would be good enough? What would a day at that point on the scale look like?")