are you just going to throw my questions back at me? no i have not seen a psychiatrist, but i think it is beneficial. question: do you have a diary?

nope... i had an uncle who i loved as a child but by the time he passed away the memories were distant. i learned that i dont know how to console people in most traumatic situations. i think im repressing something. question: have you ever been to a psychiatrist?

noooooooooooooooooooooooo!!! im scurred. im wondering if maybe its too late for me to acquire this skill. question: have you ever lost someone very closed to you?

im listening to alot of chris brown and r&b... i like living vicariously through people. im a bit of a coward. question: do you manage your time well?

*stares* just say hi, or smile. we tend to act wierder with strangers who we identify with than with the average stranger. if you dont know what i mean, here s a scenario. suppose there were an old italian lady staring at you while you were waiting for the bus, youd probably just smile or do something to diffuse the situation, which would most likely work. but because the person acting strange is someone we identify with, there is all this internal dialogue you go through, and general questionning of our customs which just makes the situation even more awkward. the other party probably feels just as awkward. *oh, there is ayeyo. i wonder if she saw me, shes just standing there. am i supposed to say hi, what if she wants to small talk, oh my god shes crossing the street, shes coming straight towards me, shes saying hi* "uh, 3leykum salaam ayeyo" *awkward smile and head nod* *dead silence* *tumble weeds roll*

i think somalis in general are *very* romantic, but the guys just have to feel comfortable to show it, cause they are very macho too. they are scared shi**less that they will be clowned. given the opportunity and the confidence they'd surprise you. i dont think there is another culture that celebrates love the way we do, we treat it like this clandestine thing that elders have to admonish openly but secretly revel and celebrate. other cultures may be known to be romantic, but really what they celebrate is the wooing part, how to "win" someone's heart, whereas somalis talk about being "struck", "attacked" or "consumed" by it... just my opinion. funny how somalis like to point out the random somaliyaad who went for a non somali, and yet the vast majority of somali/non somali relationships involve a dude, even though the ratio of somali men/ women is heavier with the female population. i think we are all aware of failed relationships where both parties were somalis... come on people, try harder.

i wasnt there for any of those events. damn, sol has been busy! im not going to say something jerky, because you know what im going to say... im not going to say it... although i reallly want to. i reallly really want to, but i wont. instead, i will say that i appreciate the reminder, and this post, as well as the poster... all is appreciated. i appreciate you. thank you. *exhales*

what got me interested in english literature? i dont know, i think a part of me just wants to be a pretentious jerk who can quote shakespeare at dinner parties... honestly i dont know, but i love it. i love well told stories, and i like being able to store them in my memory (which, like i mentionned earlier, is very limited). i kind of stumbled in the field. in college i was in the creative arts field, and mostly focused on theater. than i took a hiatus from school altogether and when i went back i initially wanted to do something practical like business but i didnt get in the program at uni, so i chose english literature. i dont care if its a useless degree, im loving it. btw, just to clarify, my question about ugly people finding love was considering people who are utterly unattractive, like someone who looked like the guy from tales of the crypt keeper, had no money, and about 5 yrs to live. because, as we all know, in storybooks love is for the young, healthy(add a "w" and your set) and beautiful, and those lacking in either of those fields have to compensate in other areas, but what do those who have nothing outwardly attractive do? maybe theyd be too busy with their other problems to be distracted by love? which brings me to my next question: is love an illusionary distraction?

i didnt listen to it completly just yet, but i disagree with something in the introduction. its very possible he is going to address it later on, but i want to discuss it now. is there really less crime, and less crimes of a sexual nature in stricter societies? i dont think stricter necessarily means healthier, look at saudi arabia, they re raping their maids. see, thats a very conservative society, but it leans towards an unhealthy (not to mention un-islamic) view on sex and women. what are your thoughts, and dont tell me to listen to the lecture, because i will insha allah, but i want to discuss this now.

so how long did this take? a year an a half, thats record time.

i didnt know that hadith, woow. my question: do you find your life fulfilling?

best book??? i dont know, i love most books ive read but after a month passes i suddenly forget major points in the plot... i like feel good/ happy ending/ sad love stories... is it just me or do tragic love stories make you feel good? i dont know, it both frightens and exilerates me; the idea that you can feel for someone so strongly that it consumes you, its beautiful and scary at the same time. some good books that come to mind: things fall apart, achebe, the odyssey (which i havent completed but im falling in love with these idolatrous greeks), and wuthering heights by one the bronte sisters. my question: do you find it ironic that living in a non muslim society accords us more justice than what we would get in any so called muslim country in the world today? do you think Allah is telling us something? shouldnt we do something? letting the oppressor continue to opress is a sin in and of itself, especially if the oppressor is muslim. looking at the world today, its often us who is unjust (saudi arabia, sudan, somalia). what can we do? i look at the situation in darfur, and people know about it now, awareness is not an issue anymore. so what can one do? im sorry if these are heavy questions, anybody can answer 'em.

my question now: is it possible to live without a purpose? have you ever seen such a thing? does Allah keep us alive purposeless (outside of our souls being tested of course)? p.s. the crack i am referring to is the white stuff sold in plastic bags, sometimes referred to as crystal meth and not the body part that plumbers are notorious for exposing.

my major is english literature and im a little disillusioned at the moment... i suffer from extreme low self esteem (self diagnosis), so im unsure whether i will pursue anything else. i have been studying part time for past 3 yrs, next yr insha allah will be my last and after that, if i have enough courage and work ethic i'd like to study or dabble in creative writing. i dont want to teach. i think id be a terrible teacher.

impressive and inspiring.

nope, never. i live vicariously through chris brown love songs. anyways, that wasnt a joke. its an earnest question, can the physically repulsive (and i dont mean something simple like bad skin or teeth, because in situatino like taht beauty is in the eye of the beholder), someone who is gruesome in appearance, can he she find love?)

its this thing that God gave us, its called free will. I mean if it wasnt a choice, than what would be the point? we d have to than categorize what we do as compulsion, which would relegate us to mindless drones, following tenets that were passed down generation to generation like a tradtion. there is a choice in everything in one does, and there is a level ihsan that we have to follow, meaning once we accept islam we have to excel in its tenets. some people excel naturally in certain aspects and fail at others, other people *choose* to focus on some parts and ignore others, and we will all be judged accordingly.

hey, youre missing the big picture. the dudes teeth must have been terrible, think of the social stigma people. BAD BREATH CLOSES DOORS!!!

cool

i sat on them for too long... a lesson for all you kids, LEAVE THAT CRACK ALOOOOOONE!!! *message* now my question: do ugly people fall in love? can people love ugly? is that possible? i think people will/can/do fall for the physically attractive and the spiritually (for lack of a better word) ugly rather than the other way around, do you agree or disagree?

somalis are xenophobes, big time. most muslims are sadly. we are what we accuse others (gallos) of being, some divine justice perhaps?

today i talked ot my pops, found out my sis is coming to visit, and wasted time on msn, and read a page of my greek mythology text book.

now who is your hero? (inspired by a diff thread)

its just how it happened. i have an official name, which my grandfather found unsuitable and changed it when i was wee li'l one. my family refers to me as such, people i meet in school or work call me by my official name and than i have friends who call me by a small variation of my two given names... what name someone calls me is an indication of how they know me, as well as how well. i also get the occasional name of "crazy".

its funny how much politics and national identity is involved in football. its like an alternate field nations can vicariously conquer other countries on.