Fahiye, it seems brain cells are reserved for the male gender in your reasoning. All the same, very odd of the Raaxo Raggeedi character to go for married men.

Fahiye, people read it because it was mainstream, amusing and sometimes funny. Had it been about text book economics I doubt it would have been a bestseller. Abdilla, just because a woman is happy to spend her own money on herself & she appears well put together does not mean she is ready to spend yours. Seems there is a lot of Goldigger- phobia floating about. Unless you are insinuating that are a lot of shallow Xalimos out there?

^^I'm more concerned he is taking the piss out of that book, it was a good read.

Men, thinking the sun shines out of their nether region, this is not about a man. A feeling I got about a certain issue made me curious about this phenomenal of instincts and whether we should trust them & to what extend. Also why at times our personal desire/will is at odds with our instinct. Nephy, you’re lovely too my dear :cool: .

^^^ I thought you were a married father of 3?

Originally posted by Willamina: Lily There is no such thing as just knowing, yes some people might be more sensitive to signs than others, but to say you just ‘know’ and base everything on pure instinct is just foolish. The only evidence is that your subconscious is able to process and warns you about things to come that your conscious self can't see, but that shouldn’t be enough to come to a conclusion, esp. if it is a decision that can have a lasting effect. I doubt many of us base 'everything' on pure instinct, nor do we wake up with a million instincts to guide our daily decision making, and any sane person would do well to consider the facts. Having said that, we do sometimes and occasionally have an instinct that may appear to be a 'baseless' option (e.g. no reason or fact to support it) and if it is foolish, why would you have a compelling feeling urging you to at least consider it as an alternative decision? p.s. sharmarke my instinct tells me you will quit trolling .

Language evolves

See this is why no one will ever learn, with pompous individuals like Nuune, Williamina , FB and Legend. Be kind you %*~#$! FB, that is indeed what I meant.

^ we use Fadlan, even if it's Arabic. friendly=bashbash? continuous

No wonder you're depressed, war stop listening to that calacal, and if you must take Dahia's advice at least make sure it's something upbeat like this , or at least listen to something that reminds you of good times. Cheer up mate! It wil be rainy& cold till at least May

Williamina, that is precisely the point, what if you had an overwhelmingly strong feeling something was not as it should be, despite the facts and logic? How can you differentiate between irrationality/paranoia and instinct? Or if there was a situation where there was no evidence, proof, but you just 'know'.

J11 get a grip man, rain is a blessing. How else do you think such a small country is so rich? It's quiet cosy here in my office, be grateful you don't work on a roadside. I on the other hand, am in high spirits, some pool splashing to do on my way home in about 2 hours!

I agree with Ghanima, Nomad & the rest of you but what if you are wrong? Why would you dismiss someone right out just because you have a 'feeling' you will not like them? I understand this very well but why is this? People aside, couldn’t this negative feeling towards something be just disguised fear? What of the opposite, when people you hardly know give you the feeling that you can trust them and 'all will be well' in their presence? This is equally dangerous I think, even if you do eventually find out you were right about them. IF these instincts are as strong and guiding as we all claim then can we safely claim we have 6 senses, albeit the 6th being a little tricky and can only be utilised by some people? Pujah I totally agree with you on the regretting part, but what if your instinct is totally split on something? And you start to doubt your instinct and this whole gut feeling business? Oh and do we follow the instincts that are less risky? p.s. Ngonge, did you have an instinct I would?

Do you think there is such a thing as an instinct or a 6th sense? That can vaguely be described as a strong feeling about something that has no explanation behind it but causes you to pause and think hmmmm? On what grounds would you follow this feeling? Or is it just silly? How would you differentiate between which instinct is an advisable/good one or which is misleading?

^^Says the man who lives in the land of sweaty, bad body odours. This crap doesn't apply to Muslims.

LoL@how many times, now that's going too far XP. That's only because we think about such stuff when we consider our clothes. Whilst it's a plus, dress sense is the easiest thing to change if he is a decent Farax. It's just clothes for God's sake, it's what's underneath that matters (metaphorically you perverts).

Ameen, are you saying Allah only reserves His mercy for the righteous? The way I understand it He is merciful to all who seek his mercy & repent, regardless. XP,life wouldn't be life without painful decisions, dissapointments and failures, if you want to truly live you can't avoid bumping into those. I see enough broken people who are opressed by their past or are hiding from the present to truly let go and live, and it's sad because they are wasting the best years of their life. We are far more ressiliant than we think. If a relationship doesn't work out it, regardless of how tragic, it just means the right person you were meant to be with is still out there, whether its self-comfort or wishful thinking, that's what I believe. As for the friends talk, I was just thinking about this a lot lately, I have a few friends whose behaviours is making me uneasy. I don't like poison people who taint your good nature. Something to think about.

Nomad & FB, if I'm ever faced with such talk, I shall be kind to you two and listen to my Ipod instead then

It's too easy to blame parents, although I admit they play a central role i n the lives of their children. I think using left-over parenting skills from Somalia is what causes a lot of clashes between children and parents. No child goes wild all of a sudden, there must have been signs. I also feel that boys in particular have been given free reign to do as they please whilst parents are more overprotective of girls. A police officer years ago said at a community meeting that if only Somali parents watched over their boys as they do their girls there would be less of them getting into trouble. It takes more than just abo iyo hoyo to raise a child, negative friends from bad homes, bad housing, bad neighbourhoods, under achieving schools are all part of the problem. If there was an easy solution everyone would jump on it, may our youth be protected from harm & Ilahey ha garab galo all the parents, that’s all I can say.

I for one find it quiet sweet when ppl speak in broken English, at least they are trying, and it makes me chuckle. KK, instead of giving yourself high blood pressure, you can kindly correct them . What’s a lot worse is mixing English and Somali words, not sentences, as we’re all guilty of that. For example, call-garey, watch-garey, find-out-garey etc. Really, I fantasize about ina wajiga ka slap-gareyo. p.s these Waberi kids sound pretty violent! Let me find out if my neighbourhood too was a gangster-heaven for Kids.

why are ppl giving advice 5 years later? LoL, she probably got it on with some other dude and forgot there once was a place called SOL.

LoL Willamina , for your information, I look up first, then steadily work downwards, so shoes are naturally the last thing, but not the least . Legend, of course a really nice pair of shoes are ones that have all the above mentioned qualities, compliment the trousers and the whole outfit, and show a Farax took interest in what he wears, and as such, will most likely be immaculately dressed for any given future occasion, one hopes.

^ LoL, is it just me or are men's shoes becoming pervatised? Next thing you know you won't be able to compliment a man on his shoes! What if they're really a nice pair?

First Lady, one thing I know for sure is the weight drops off when you stop obsessing over it. I totally agree with Layzie but don't become one of those freaks who are so controlled by what they eat it controls their life, those are annoying ppl to be around. I also found that eating until you are satisfied is so much better than until you are full, which is the Islamic way to go about it anyway. My advice is to take home lunch. It will only take few minutes before you leave or even the night before. The stuff we buy from outside is so calories laden and rich and unhealthy. So called ‘organic’ or ‘healthier’ options are on the expensive side of the food chain. You can control what you eat and improve your health, and put the money you save towards a shopping fund for the new hotter you. There are 100s of healthy eating combinations for your lunch box, look around. If you must eat chocolate , and we all must, buy real or organic chocolate, it tends to have less sugar than Mars/Kit Kat etc. and more Coco. I know you said you don’t have time for exercise but without it will take you so much longer to loose the weight. Good luck. p.s. Rudy that's the funniest crap I've ever heard.

Nephy, join the club. AfricaOwn, it's very easy to be aware of your surroundings. She may look bored or relaxed or deep into a conversation, but a million other things are being absorbed by the brain. Watch yourself I say! Also, whilst women are naturally more observant, observation is selective, if someone remembers everything you've ever done or said or the exact moment & how, chances are they like you... or they may just have a good memory, either way, quit complaining . Originally posted by Legend of Zu: ^^^ What the fella didn't know is women check the shoes one wears, also scents are filed in the archives, and words are deposited in the memory banks. I would say that's very observant. Body language adds so much more to what is said.