I said he/she, it could be both ways. Did they give the visa Ibti? Ever been hit by fits of giggles in the middle of taking a serious call & unable to recover yourself?

Well then Che, it would be his/her fault for marrying a witless/unimaginative person to begin with. EDIT: Hello Ibti!

Che, no they are not when you think of STDs/HIV & AIDS/Emotional Baggage/Expectations and so on. There is nothing that two young, healthy, imaginative people cannot make up for in a short space of time that couldn’t beat years of whoring. CL, I think to each his own but it’s definitely nothing worth gossiping about. If God can forgive I don’t see why humans can’t.

Che, some more than others. Cl, plenty of ladies who have been around manage to wipe the slate clean once the *****ing dies down.

Juxa, if she is willing to have a former male-whore, isnt it up to her? CL Hello Che

loool@faraha ka so gubtey. CL, like one of those skiing ads guys?

Somalis live everywhere in London. They all moved from other European countries thinking this is the promised land.

You ARE paranoid.

Good morning people. Today I wished I lived somewhere hot where I can feel the warmth of the sun on my skin, wear a summer dress & sandals. Juxa & CH, maybe she meant it in a positive way but came out wrong? Perhaps she was highlighting how gorgeous her friend looked in front of the guy, not everyone posse’s tact. I think its best to air it and get past it, if they are real friends it sounds like a trivial matter to get into a huff about.

lol, go and ask if one of the temples in the far east will take you in or a nun's convent!

I blame the mother for failing to protect her children. May Allah forgive her sins & grant her janna. As for the guy, the law will deal with him.

you sound like you need a break! get away from it all.

Where in London can I get gorgeous material? Southall? Edgware Road?

^^One of the advantages of living in West London. 3 spoons? How much do you have woman!

Pursuing an unavailable woman will definitely get you into the ‘creeps’ category. It’s very patronizing to her to assume you still have a chance.

^^Oh get over it already! Good Evening folks.

LOL@premature baby. Ok. A lot of things are done on the d-low, but the fact that they are shows that it's not the norm.

CL, regardless of how it sounds, it's still 'not the done thing' and I will stick to that. Juxa, are you done studying?

I will take Cara's version.

What hypocricy are you referring to?

CL, my bad, I should have said the ‘vast majority of God-fearing’ ones. Certainly not watching TV together & getting cosy on the sofa. If you want to get argumentative about specific details be my guest. JonnyB, back home in a family setting it’s usually lack of space and good manners. Today it’s most likely to be another room. Why hang on the guest’s every word? If they are people of no interest to you why sit there?

JB, I was talking about women in general who do such things. The VAST majority of Somali ladies would not be visiting a guy at his house before marriage. And if they do so after marriage, it just means they feel at home, since cooking & eating are part of life. So your theory of women rushing to the kitchen wanting to get married doesn’t make sense for Somali women.

^ Yes that seems to be the case, wondering what she is doing in a guy's house to begin with. But even if she doesn’t believe in marriage doing someone’s house and washing up for them does look like you’re quiet happy to be co-habiting with them. Same thing, Somalis like to get to the point.

You would NEVER do any kitchen for any man you weren't married to but you could go on and on about why she did it. The difference is a non-Somali wouldnt think of marriage and all that until several years into a relationship while Somalis like to get to the point.

^^Erm, maybe she is trying to tell you something by appearing "at home" in your household.