I am married for almost five years now, and I never expected him to help out around the house because I was more than happy to take all the responsibilities around the house and take care of our three little ones. I have seen him making the most delicious soups when I get sick without asking him or expect him to do it for me. and whenever I need to go for walks (my favorite and relaxing thing to do) he never said he can't watch the kids while I am gone. of course I know him and his schedules the best and when he is able to stay him. it's all about asking him the right time with kindness.
and in terms of working and being a month and wife is the hardest thing to do. I am living it this year. and working outside will not change your role in the house. it's easier said than done, but my advice for you as I adviced it myself
1. work outside as little as you can and as less days as you can ( if it's not possible for any reason my heart goes for you, and may Allah make it easier for you amiin.)
2. don't expect him to do anything for you around the house ( not because he doesn't care, but because it's not in his nature to do house chores)
3. be as happy as you can be because you are taking care of your house and no man can fill your shoes when it comes taking care of your home and family.
when you are happy with what you are doing for your family you won't see it as chores around the house.
and when you are generally not expecting anything in return and more than happy with your role, life is simpler and easier.
and be as kind and as genuine as you can be with your family, because hard work is never gone unnoticed. you will touch those hearts around you, or the least you will get rewards from Allah ( and that's the best award we should always expect.) Expect from Allah and not anyone else in this world.
