woooooooooooooooooooow...... ouch,,,i felt the pain in this room...and the small hope given by DeadlyVision.. i know i been hatin on men, takin the feminist view , but i guess this is where i be true to my feelings and let it all out... let my emotions take over and explode.

flying still.....soo diib kaa haysiid, damn....why u gotta be soo slefish...aslong as he is loyal and single and does the above... im down with it!

shaka,,,,,lol,,,,, i will advice u never to go on a blind date, i mean, from what ppl that have been tell me, hmmmm, when talking to the person on the phone,,u build this great picture in your mind, (sometimes the other half lies) and when they tell the truth - im ugly- u think they tryna be modest, and dont beleive them,,, i believe,,,,with blind-dates...the person is always ugly, wether they say they ugly or cute, i mean...if they was soo great...why couldnt they get the girl next door? why do they have to hide behind a blind-date? and clown,,,,hope that ansawers your query!

jamaal....when i first joined SOL, i heard alot about your peotry and i hadnt seen one my self, ,,,,well so many months later...this is my first ...and indeed it is impressive. MashaAllah

flyin-still...anytime sis u welcome. LP....LOL, well we both warned them, if their good dreams dont come true, and they see their nightmares in real life, we can luagh at them, and say we warned ya asses. if they are all just faking their dreams...hmmm, whats the point of the thread, why wasnt it called...what are your fantasies and fears?

E) attention seeking-i really belive a guy starts off by dissing you so he could appologies and become close! F)LOWSELF-ESTEEM (put others down to make u feel better) G)lack of knowledge of the opposite gender-alot of people belive the stereotypes they hear and dont take time out to find out. H)Experience- if hurt real bad by other gender, u genralise to protect your ass. I)Fear- that if u start off lovey dovey, u will be called easy(girls) or sac sac (guys) J)excitement - ruf and tuf, argue now kiss and make up later n'amean.

hey....no1 is willing to pay $20 for King, so lower the bid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mizz-HurriCane MashaAllah....thanx sis....i didnt know how to back it up with that many Ahadith, sister, if u have the hadith that says the punishments for those that listen to music, i will appreciate it,,,,i mean i heard but never seen evidence, (that those who do, will have melted metal poured down their ears)????.

flying -still lol, he is wlcome to try out. paltalk,,,,, a guy might meet the above requirements, but alot is still left for me to view, judge and see in action....so to be honest ,,,im not that easy to please,,, im not materialistic, so i guess that increases the candidates, i 4got.....AGE: 23-26

nuune....u spoilt it for me...while i was waiting for the downlaod....i started reading your replies...and that mad me laugh. laakiin....when i heard the briim braaam shiiit,, i nearlly had a heart attack coss i turned my speakers on high, then i shoook my head and thought how rediculous is this.

guys,,,,,,did u not hear the hadith that says, bad dreams are from the shaydhaan and should not be told.....and if you have a good dream tell it to some1 you love and trust , and InshaAllah it might come true? i hardly ever remember my dreams....and when i do ,,i follow the hadith (by the way, i didnt have the hadith on me and just said what i remember of it- so if its needed and anyone has it, please post it!)

O_G .....LOL...waryaa...u seem to be doing alot of crying these days,,first it was the chicken and now this.. i think u should take the girls advice an go see counceller. the poem it self was MashaAllah beautiful , thanx for sharing it with us sis.... (for the record, i didnt cry, but it sent shivers down my spine, i think im swapping places with O_G , coss i used to cry at everything)

kooolkat....u said it all... but i think the fact that they have 2balls and a dick....gets to me! i hate perverting men. (and most are perverts) i would castrate them all like arawello!!!!

shyhem.....u one funky joker... hmmm....well...L'ordinateur, IS MASCULINE...so i see that the women won.... the women always win...even if there aint a battle,,,we are winning... thats just life,,,,but i have to say,,,,,the man put up a good fight this time round.

i used to get called ARAWELLO....lol..it was coss i was really bossy, talk-ative(damn i think i swollowed a radio), and i was hyper, i used to play alot of jokes on people, i think i was a menace. that was the past....im now silent,,,lol well,,,,i thought arawello ws a joke.....thanx for enlightening me... oooh...and i guess im more like arawello now then ever....coss, im still bossy,,and i detest men.

well,,,,,im not going to disagree with her liyrics,,i understand where she is coming from. however, if you ladies were looking for empowerement, some-one that stuck up for women, and you want women to stand up for them-selves, raise their self-esteem... i think you should have looked into Islam. you could have just placed up a thread, about how women are put down, in this world, the punishments for spreading rumours about innocent girls, how guys and girls get the same punishement for adultory yet most cultures applaud the guys and shame the girls... i think you get my drift,,,maybe i sound harsh or insensitive,,,but i dont mean to be.

lol, well, some one that understands what im feeling, can empathies with me, just cuddle me, and when he winks,,,he sends shivers down my spine,, i guess, romance is not about where he takes you, or what special things he does to prove he cares, but the fact that he cares, is there, and HE as a person is what turns you on.and when he is away, damn, u still remembering the kiss he blew you (that kiss was romantic coss it came from him and no1 else) another guy could take you out, spend all his money, try be romantic,,,but if the feeling is not there, romance cannot be baught! (maybe im talking about love, but if you dont love the guy ,you dont see his romance--u just think ,,,PUPPY!)

man neeeded urgently-- a job has a arrisen for one lucky soldier to become silent sistah's future spouse- to turn her on, he must possess the following qualities. please read carefully and if u meet the criteria then apply A.S.AP. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE a beautiful smile, fully set of str8 teeth are required, tall, average built essential. (you will be be assesed at the interview) religion must show a clear understanding and practice of his religion (obviously must be muslim) personality we must be able 2 understand eachother, communicate and argue effectively,and be able to cope with with extreme clashes of personality and opinions. Occupation a regular in-come of his own that has been maintained for a while is extremly important (evedence may be required at a later date), students are welcome (so long as they are not mummies boys --still at home) special qualities the ability to cook!--not essential,but a great asset. dress/style you will recieve full training if u are accepted and do not already have the required knowledge. , , , , , , , if you think you have a chance and meet the above requirements, give yourself a pat on the back, smile and remember that if others put you down/if you had a applied, there was a chance that you may have got this post(lol)

paltalk....lol...if men where really like that (all of them) i would already be married, i would not have had my heart-broken, and i probably would not hate men. well, i know not alguys are bad,,,

YEAH WELL.....COMPARED TO U NARROW MINDED AMERICANS....I GUESS THE BRITS CAN HAVE A GOOD LAUGH,,,EVEN IF IT IS AT THE EXPENSE OF ANOTHER,,,,AND JOKES USUALLY ARE,,WE AINT STUCK UP LIKE U,WE CAN SEE THE FUNNY SIDE OF LIFE- NO MATTER WHAT IT THROWS AT US..WE AINT GONNA START A WAR WHEN WE ANGRY...WE LAUGH AT DRY JOKES! IM NOT SAYING THIS CUASE I LIKED THIS JOKE...BUT SIMPLY COSS 'DAWG' Y'ALL GOT NO RIGHT TO GENERLISE THE WHOLE BRIT NATION!

deadlyVsion .....yes im still your no1 fan....damn your good (MashaAllah) muslims sister....half that poem was about me....i thought when did i write this? i couldnt have written this,,and i had to scroll back and check the name.... well,,,,the first depressive bit was me, thanx for the next hopefull bit, i will look 4ward to re-couperating, only to be hurt again damn the tears!

My first advice to you is don't run away the same way your old sister did because you will end up a devastating and disaster life. You're too young and you could end up more worst than you expected! The second thing is: There's a way you can make both yourself, your father, and the dude happy and that is to inform both of them that no matter how long it takes you would like to know him better before marrying him. If you somehow start to like him, then it's up to you to make the final decision. If you don't like him whatso ever, then you have a real case and its reasonings to present to your father and him explaining why you don't him. I believe your father will accept your decision without feeling being liar or shameful! The third thing is: Since you're 15 years old, tell your father that you're not ready enough to become a wife and you need more time to grow up. If the dude is over 30, that's no no but if he's very young like you, he needs to grow up too and find a girl for himself. MashaAllah, this forum comes to life-- brothers and sisters pull 2gether to give the best advice possible ---im deffinately coming here with my problems! sis i see your dilema and i think the above quote from lefty best gives your options, talk to your father, dont run away, get to know the guy for his sake, but dont jump the gun! 15 is a young age, but it depends on how mature you are, it depends on your feelings and views, its not all about age, coss people have kids younger than 15 (illegitimate) and still survive. khayr walaalo, i aint no Islamic teacher or preacher. and the brother/sister that said a woman cannot be forced is correct, women have rights in Islam, and if the sister says no, the marriage is in valid. sister,,,,pray the prayer (2 rakaatstikhaara) and pray that Allah makes your desicions and life easier. may Allah help you sis--Amiiin

paying for a girls dinner makes him feel like a man,,,not my words ( qa'qa') well, i dont wanna step on his balls, so im happy with saving my pennies, however if he cant pay, i dont mind so long as he can cook,,, i prefer a guy that cooks for me than one that spends lots of money on take-out and presents.

scorpian sis.....i would have totally agreed with u but since my twin Asraa, answered, i rate my self *niiko -5/10, i seen a lot better and a lot worse *belly dance - 2/10 i can shake the legg but not the belly * reer woqooyi (move ur shoulders & around) 10/10 and i wont even bother going into US/UK music.

THE WORST OF SINNERS BECOME THE BEST MUSLIMS! sister...wlcm to the forum InshaAllah pray that Allah makes life easier for her, and since she still has a chance to repent, advice her to make changes- go to the mosque, cover up, ect sis, if this girl is not willing to change, dont corrupt yourself.......i mean u become what your friends are, (im not talking about how ppl will judge u) sooner or later, u will end up seeing what she did as 'normal', (if she carries on) and im not saying u will but Allah knows best. i pray that she finds Allah and His 4givness ===Amiin