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@Khayr
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That is because we are a value centered people with a focus on the family and maturity.
We don't need old kids aged 30+ living with their mothers.
On another note, what is FML?
Is that estrogen lingu?
Oh yeah, welcome to the site.
Khayr, I don't live with my mother, not even with any of my family members. And I think it's time that we, Somalis, learn to forget that collective, groupie mentality and that what's good for the goose isn't necessarily good for the gander.
And thanks for the welcome.
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@DoctorKenney
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Bro, there's no reason for a Somali man at the age of 30 who can afford to be married, being single. It makes no sense at all. You're not a child. You're a man
We have different values when compared to the bachelor-types all over the United States who do nothing but attend strip clubs, date multiple girls and live a free life with no responsibilities.
Your family generally wants the best for you. So if you're 20 and you're still not enrolled in school or working, then your relatives will wonder why. And if you're 30 and you're still not married even though you can afford it, then they'll wonder why.
Kenney, I see where you're coming from but it aint that simple, mate. Back in the days when we were back home things were different. And as you mentioned (the West), one can't simply jump on the wagon & settle down because that's how society & and the family/relatives expect us to do. Responsibilities, financial & emotional readiness as well as many other factors need to be fulfilled before one decides to make a family.
I would rather be 50 and miserable by myself than bring some poor kids that I am not ready for into this world "because that's the norm".