Greetings: Walaal first of all pay no attention to all that have nothing good to say. Second listen to Allah. Allah is trying to to teach a lesson, and they do say that good things come to those that wait. Alahmdulilah you should embrace all that is good in your life. Allah gave you another day to make a difference. You should live your life to the fullest, husband or no husband. No need to be sad or sorry....Walaal I want you to know that everything in life, and I mean everything in life happens for a reason. Be positive, be active. Are you seeking a husband in mind? Meaning is it just a thought? What have you done physically to get that Husband? Have seeked anyone's help. The Masjid is a great place to seek advice or even a good loving patner....relatives, school, social activities that are worth the time. You just never know what your missing unless you put yourself out there, and announce to the world that you are actively seeking a husband. "Hope without object cann't live, and Object without hope is like a necter in a seive."

wow: so please let's save the generation coming up!!!

Like i said at the beginning honestly I've been gone for a minute: and just cann't imagine the things i am hearing? it's hard to comprehend: I guess i will see it with my own two eyes: tomorrow insha allah!! Until then i'll rest, and see what i can do: i am sure there is something: even just one thing!!

So why not hold our own meeting run by us for us? why the elders, and the police: if we put our foot down, and say this meeting is for us, and when i say for us i mean us..the educated, the "outside of the box thinkers" then what? are we not able to achieve victories? I think we can, we are just not united, and that's really the sad part. I swear everything could be worked out only, and if only there is was one goal in mind: Money: brother or sister: All i am saying is this by saying there is no solution we're basically giving up on our people: We shouldn't have that attitude: we can make this work, i know we can, we just need unity: it doesn't have to start with thousands of people, but if five people come together, and tutor these kids or have a day where we can just talk about their issues...i am sure we can save a life or two:---maybe i am just a bit too idealistic:--maybe just maybe: Just remember with every fight won, there was a battle at hand, and we've got our battle:

Yes indeed: I agree: but that' the case in every city? however that doesn't make it right? so what is the solution? We've created these problems for ourselves, and now we must solve them. All i know is that by stating a fact, and letting it be...isn't going solve any problem: Perhpas....we're just too defeated?

Hmm:It's hard to digest what is happening at my home away from home city: Living in Maimi Florida now: I feel so lost, and out of touch? what has taken place? I don't know......I feel so helpless: But no matter what we have got to come together and re-claim our city: This is none sense, and who ever it is that harboring these criminals should come forth, cause honestly it's only a matter of time before someone we all know and related to gets affected by this tragedy. I am just lost for words...perhaps, just perhaps if we go to cedar, and try to talk these kids? Perhaps if we have had better after school programs? Perhaps if we had business where the youths can go to kill time: Somali business owned and operated by somalis: We obviously have to talk these kids/grown people? It has got start some where:--So i am coming home for eid..would, and love for some suggestions for meet up and go from there..cause honestly i don't want to have dial home to see whose died next!!

I call this post muder-appolis for one simple reason: Minneapolis has became the killing ground for somali on somali crime? There has got to be a solution to the problem: Please let's open up this dialog:

hmmm interesting indeed. we are by nature social creatures, and if you think about it....the worst thing a society does to a criminal other than killing him/her is to isolate them?...imagine that....that's the worst thing you can do to someone is isolate them...so in all i do believe that being lonely will have some biological effect!!....just my thought

I'll tell you what I think you should just come clean..and tell us that the girl told you that "you were the whole package.." don't be shy it's okay....it's a positive thing. Only Allah knows what being the whole package means to her. Bottom line....you are the whole package...hahaha!!

sounds like a plan. been to the franklin park, as i work right on bexely....but will definatly check out the rest!!! thanks for the info!!

Kool_Kat I'll take up on that offer insha allah next time I decide to drift that way.

It's getting better in what sense? How is it getting better with same locations--and i know all of them trust thanks to you Naxar----Perhaps if I were a shisha smoker, like most people that hang--out there, I wouldn't probably mind. I would rather for change do something productive other then sitting, chatting, while I pollute my lungs. No thanks, have had enough. Oooh how I miss Minnesota.......

anyone who wants to explore the outdoors of Ohio....get at me!! I am just tired of the same old scenes shisha lounges...it's just retarded!!! No offense to anyone who enjoys those scenes...but i just miss the outdoors....aaah!!

somali weddings lack simplicity----just my understanding...

Why Tanag You:---I miss this place:!

It is taboo in our culture for a woman to live on her own. She either has to be the only here from her whole family even then it is encouraged for her to live with her relatives. If relatives are out of the picture then a living in a neighborhood populated by somalis is a must. Other wise rumours start flying...ooh "tolay maxay qarsanaysaa...maxay dadkeeda uga carartay. though they fell to realize that, even if she does live near them....they just want to talk about who comes to her house..."Guriga waxaay timaaadaa late...."haa kiiba uyimid, ala tiiba la joogta...so on and so forth:!! Beleive I speak of experience. Once upon a time I was that seventeen year old, that managed her money, lived on her own, and was attending full time school. So my dearest there is always an exception to all cases. You cann't paint the same brush with everyone. I must also add that, I had my most of my family members with me...and couldn't have done it, or became who i am today without the ongoing support of my family, especially my wonderful mother. Alhamdulilah I have turned out to be just fine. Did the whole college thing got my degrees...yes two matter of fact..and now hold a position as a financial consultant, and I know many people cann't say they love their job but,,,,however Walaahi I love my job!!! So don't under estimate young women, cause we more stronger, then people give us credit for...and it is not uncommon on this part of the world to see a young lady holding down her ground...whatever that might be!! Tata

A real man keeps his businness to himself? I doubt a Somali sister will just want to marry a guy she hardly knows...beleive me there are plenty of fish on the sea...and you ain't no exception, so get off the high horse!!! Gambar kufadhiiso walaal, hoos kaagaa kaa walay baan u malaynayaa?? Need translations = just ask??

Part 2 of the story: Belongs to you, the readers. You can make-up your own script, and see if it heads towards--> Destiny ave. I appreaciate everyone's input. Bisharo: "To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides." David Viscott

I was standing on the bus stop, at destiny Ave. and all of the sudden three figures appeared. When all of the sudden I had noticed coming my way was, the finest, flyest brother I have ever laid my two brown eyes on. I was fixated, couldn’t move, and couldn’t find words to utter my expression of, of…well. A voice interpreted from where I couldn’t see. He looked at me and said “how long were you standing here?†Deep breath….. I could have sworn that time took a lunch break. I had to collect my thoughts, and react fast. What to say? What say? Well I said “about five minutes or so, why do you ask?†Don’t all good dreams end abruptly??

I guess.....I am just trying to figure out what your whole point is here...cause your loosing the whole concept of why you thougt using tampons were such a bad thing. It was you dear that said something in lines of that..." I wonder will their husband notice it and wonder what she used get up to, we don’t know the effects it will have on their first sexual encounter with their husband should I say?. My point is: Tampons don't take your virginity away....and if that darn husbad of yours is going like you he will, not only because of your virginity, but of who you are in total!!! AAAAAAAAhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.......I need some fresh Air!!!

A women isn't only praised for her virginity, but for being a human. Whether a virgin or not is between her, and her creator the Allmighty Allah SWT. I thought we were moving forward, but with this type of mentality...I am really feeling the opposite is taking place. You should stay away from Intercourse til marriage, because Allah set forth a law againest sex before marriage...not because "your man", might find out if you are a virgin or not....this is so crazy................... I am out.....and out of words!!!! Gasping for Air!!! Ayaan

Well Mizz Lander: First off all better late than never is my moto. So if I contributed to this topic a bit too late, I won't beat myself up for it, for I was busy with life as usual. What's the thing about..Hibo can read, and write?? Who was questioning that? Can an old school mate defend her? Dang!! read it again...I said I can not speak for any woman? not Women? There is a difference!! And it's for sure I did not speak for you, and if sounded like I did...well my apology. Now London girls not sharing their bed time experiences...?? I wouldn't be too sure...dear. You might not, but some might, and maybe already have..so don't speak for all!! Please! thanks! tata....

Salaam: I see that some of you are just here pissing my former schoolmate. Hmm well let me have my say. Don't take this personal, cause this is the net/cyber world. whatever you might want to call it. Hibo vioced her oponion, you are in no position of judging her what so ever, therefore I suggest before you try to assinate her character, try to look at your flaws for once, and stop the hate. Hate doesn't do anything but spread like a cancer, and we all know what cancer cells do, they duplicate until they take over...thus please don't a cancer cell. She has her views, so do you all, but there is no need to put each others pointview down. Why can't we just embrace our differences? Mizz-Lander I really think you were a bit too harsh on Hibo, and you have the nerve to tell her..."no I didn't mean you"...so on so forth. Be gentle little one, life isn't easy for all of us. And yeah about that comment you made...London girls are more private...what are you indicating here? That we show the world what we got, or could have? I am not just not sure where you going with that comment. I won't speak for any woman, other myself, so I would appreciated if you didn't generalize us like that again. Tata for now!! PS----> There

OOh my: The movie was horrible. It had no story line, and I can't beleive I paid $10.00. Damn it. I left 20min into the movie....I mean what the hell where they thinking!!! I am so mad, that I can't even utter the words to describe my feelings!! Jaw for Now!!!

Hey, Hey: Just graduated Last saturday. I have a BA in Political Sceince(International Relations)Emphasis on International Norms and Behavior. I also have a BS in Ethnic Studies(International development and community service). School Minnesota State University, Mankato. So Add me on!! Ayaan