To the person who inquired-- in the last year I have been to only one mixed wedding in T.O. And I was pissed there were dudes there rubbernecking. I only started attending them recently but my older cousins tell me they're rare. PS. lol@the dudes who act like they would rah rah like a dudgeon dragon.

I don't get it? Why do Somali guys care? Would you have really offered to marry her/married her to save her from ajanbi. Probs not. You just like talking reckless and hating.

Wow, congrats to the happy couple! My peoples making me proud.

Aaliyyah;791332 wrote: LOL@ PUBLIC HOUSING..to be honest I have heard stories that when even if the guys have jobs, the wives pretend they are single moms and abuse the system. Although I still dont get that cuz nin rag ah would take the responsibility of his house instead and wouldnt let his wife deal with welfare and haraam money.... Overall I think many men and women are corrupted so its not just the men. As for polygamous marriage I actually dont know any family where a guy has more than one wife. I can think of one old man in here. But, his kids are grown up and take care of themselves. salaam Mess. To qualify these women tell the government their children are illegitimate!!!! For a dollar and some change they label themselves fornicators and their children b******s.

This is the year Somali girls are going to blow up! Proud of these girls!!! <3

lol. Are some of you guys new to the internet?! This girl posted this picture on the internet she meant for it to be for public consumption. I'll only take it down if she pms me and asks me to do so.

Rumaysah;789707 wrote: Real men marry more than one wife and deal with them justly...... lol! Justly? And how many Somali men in polygamous marriages do that? Stop acting like you got that Arab money. Most Somalis live in public housing and a good number of Somali women perpetrate welfare fraud to care for their seven children 'cause their men can't be bothered to hold down a job.

omg@this pic on tubmlr

has to wear expensive wedding dress( rented in 400KD= 1383.56 $) for only one night. Who is renting their wedding dress warya? Not me. First red flag, frugality is not cute.

What about a girl who is not religious but is willing and happy to learn about the deen if you teach her? I'm not religious but am trying to change for the better. Obviously I tell any of my prospective suitors this because I'm a honest person and believing partners ought to be able to share everything. Someone needs to give me a male Somali perspective on this! PS. Does she have to be a hijabi or adopt it after you marry? Oh and how long does the Somali courting process last (my mum says half a year to a year?) I'd like to have that wrapped up before I start my masters. Please and thanks in advance.

lol my mum is the boss of all bosses! I'll pass on your suggestions. The last one was plain weird on closer inspection I was like, "Mommy I don't like him anymore, make him go away!" She was like I can't I already I invited him to stay for dinner. I told her to tell him the stove was broken but she refused on account of that being rude. It was awkward.

lol when/if you decide to marry you should enlist your mum! Mine is the best I just say, "That one mummy I want to meet that one!" *Poof* A couple of weeks later he's sitting in my living room ( lured there under false pretenses). She's the best, she always delivers. Too bad, I haven't liked any of them on closer inspection.

So I was googling Somali forums/websites and I came across one called somalinet where they seem to be vigorously discussing interracial marriage "This issue of certain thugs who become muslim, start wearing thobes and then marry women without their guardians consent. The main victims of these criminals are Revert sisters and Somali girls. Im sure you guys have heard about these horror stories, laakin nowadays it has become well known even to other muslim communities just the other day a pakistani brother came to me and said ' Akhi, why would a somali girl marry a jamaican guy who has been muslim for 3 months'..Yacnee everyone can see this is doomed to end in failure. Khair you could argue that one or two cases work out laakin the majority when they have fullfilled their desires they dash them back at us. We as Somalis have to pick up the pieces, and imagine the impact on these little girls who cut of their family ties to be with thes losers. The majority of these thugs just happen to be 'Salafi' and i use that term only because this is what they are known as. In reality they are far removed from the methodology of the prophet (sallahu caleyhi wasalam). And they also mostly happen to be black ex-criminals who bring their gang lifestyle into Islaam, they treat sisters basically like their '*****es'. And we as Somalis shouldnt accomodate these thugs, nor should we be bullied into allowing them to marry our daughters. We need to raise awareness about these issues, and all of you men need to take responsibility. And dont be intimidated by accusations of racism, etc.. Its reached a stage where by they have devalued the Somali woman, ive seen guys give one girl a book or a watch as a mehr. We need to protect our sisters inshallah." Um, is this even semi-factual or just hyperbolic xenophobia? I don't even know what a Salafi is lol.

cynical lady;38334 wrote: Don’t forget- Johanna Lindsey, Amanda Quick, Julia Quinn omg i should stop ohh the shame. And don’t even start me on Julia Garwood that woman ruined me, seriously i now have un-attainable expectation, i curse the day i found her, but i can’t survive winter without her. She had me at Gentle Warrior you see and since then i never looked back. I’m now a proud owner of all her books and a veteran at the historical romance corner; it’s my very own pervasive guilty pleasure. . Mills and Boon, are a girls right of passage if you ask me. I remember back when when, due to the half naked men and over hanging bosoms, i was forced to invest in book covers; and i remember one incidence in particular my dad asked me to see what i was reading....i nearly shiyted on myself, after pulling the cover he marched to my hoyo and you all know Somali mothers......ahh the yesteryears. p.s Barbra Cartland book covers classic! The only historical author worth reading is Lisa Kleypas. She puts the rest to shame, she will ruin the genre for you for forever, as she did me. lol. My mum sees the covers of my romance books all the time and doesn't say anything. She's actually borrowed some. But I have a e-reader now so I can read them on the bus without anyone knowing.

My favorite romance authors. lol. I recommend them, every day, all day, with no shame. They tend to be on the more *ahem* explicit side of things. If you'd like any suggestions on reading order or other authors feel free to pm me! Attached files

lolirl.

Thanks guys for being so sweet and welcoming! I'm going to check this place out some now, find out where everyone hangs out.

Wow, you don't say! lol. Where can I get me one?! Do Somali young adults have mixers/cultural events where guys and girls can meet?. A lot of my Persian/South asian girlfriends met their fellows at things like that.

Bluelicious;771832 wrote: Welcome to SOL make yourself feel at home As for the avatars they are predestined by SOL so you can't upload your own images. You can instead only choose a avatar of your choice through their collection. lol it's that the sharia of the land? I guess I'll keep the personal avatar I wanted as my profile pic.

PS. Does anyone know how I can upload my own icon?

Hi, I'm new. lol. Hope to make some friends and learn some more about my culture.