underdog;950315 wrote: Therein lies the problem Reeyo. Gender roles have been blurred. Just because women CAN lead doesn't mean they SHOULD lead. I understand the reverse may be true and each case should be viewed on its own merits. If Women who can do everything men can do seem to have lost their femininity and they have a mistaken theory as to why men are not attracted to them. The most common delusion is "he can't handle a strong independent woman". It may come as no surprise that men like doe-eyed women who need us to open jars and slay dragons. U sheeg dee. lol.

Men and women are not equal ee sidaa ula soco.

Alpha Blondy;950285 wrote: there's a crises of sorts facing the somali man since the 'troubles' - 1977-present its quiet pitiful to see a 40+ year old Somali man who faces the following problems: 1. unemployed and whose role as the head of the household is replaced by welfare and hand-outs. 2. whose inability to provide for his children beyond the basic....... has earnt him their wrath and utter contempt 3. whose nagging wife.....with her constant threats to make him homeless makes him feel like nothing 4. whose lack of skills, initiative and will power....has apparently closed every opportunity to him i don't know but this, for me, is the image of the somali man. i know things are changing but this will always be my understanding of the 'somali man. this is what i ran away from. of course, there are all sorts of factors at play......but its futile to solely lay the blame on the somali man. there are wider underpinnings and we ought to make considerations for these. +1

Reeyo;950284 wrote: I think the leadership quality has been trialed by women and it has shown itself to be a unisex quality and in fact in modern times women seem to embody the concept much better with results of quality standards higher for the family. So Underdog do add your two pence. Just because Somali men have abdicated their role as leaders as a result of the social upheavals of the last two decades doesn't mean woman are better at leading than men. Somali men are currently at their worst state in their history, so ofcourse our hardworking and brave Somali women wiill outshine us.

Reeyo;950273 wrote: Wadani aint you brave lol. All the above can easily be applied to a woman. Blasphemy

A 'Somali Man' should be courageous, stoic, ambitious, generous, just, confident, and a leader for his family and his clan/community.

Haatu;950224 wrote: What do I know about poetry? And what has this question to do with what I've said? My work here is done.

Haatu;950218 wrote: The devil is in the detail people. Name one well-known sujuu poet.

Haatu;950188 wrote: One advice, they use a lot of non-somali everyday vocab there . Be aware. But I'm disappointed you overlooked the soft-spoken sujus. You know you can't get a more Southern accent than ours. Even the reer Waamo have a thick tongue compared to us. Adeer, yaan la is xaasidin. Reer waqooyi cid ka af-soomaali fiicani majirto.

So does this mean there will be a war if one of them doesn't accept defeat? I hope saner heads prevail.

Tallaabo;950108 wrote: I hope you have not broken the time-honoured custom of your great clan by marrying a non duriyada girl because of the silly Khaatumo thing It's funny that u bring that up, because I was wondering if the heavy inter-marriage between Khaatumites and Durriyadda has seen a decline ever since things started getting out of hand a couple of years back.

SomaliPhilosopher;949982 wrote: Looool Wadani you were not suppose to mention that until after and than you guys could have sympathized together loool how evil.

I told him my ayeeyo was from there too and even disclosed her subclan to him, but he's still holding out on me. I feel cheated lool.

SomaliPhilosopher;949977 wrote: In due time Wadani. In due time... lool, ok. But whatever u r, it won't change how I feel about u. Even if u were from dadka la yaso.

SomaliPhilosopher;949974 wrote: I can be a sand dweller for all we know eh ? lool, no I know ur one of the clans from Mudug. Just not sure which one.

SomaliPhilosopher;949955 wrote: And wadani how will they take to my paternal lineage? U still haven't disclosed ur qabiil. But reer miyigu waa dad gob ah, so don't worry about it.

Live among the swand-dwellers. They have done a good job of preserving the pristine reer miyi culture and lifestyle. But then again, I am biased.

SomaliPhilosopher;949914 wrote: In have decided to go for a woqooyi accent. Any advice and thoughts? Excellent choice.

Che -Guevara;948442 wrote: I am trying to conduct therapy here Safferz Sug bal:p Wadani. Anyone that you believe wronged you, True crimes were committed, surely that affected your outlook on some folks. No it hasn't. I see every Somali as an indiviual first and not part of a clan collective. I would only dislike someone if they dismissed what happened in the notth in the late 80's, or any of the other suffering that took place in Somalia durig the civil war.

Aaliyyah;948452 wrote: Ranting are we? did I touch a nerve Ohh the mantra that is continuously repeated. Golden words that just seem so far fetched. Alas be comforted with the fact that the sun will still rise tmw, in the face of reality, with the blue flag waving throughout North Somalia. Siyaasaddan reeraysan maad iskaga dhex baxdid wax aan naxli iyo cuqdad ahayn ka dhaxli mayside. Kuwaad maanta sidaa u fogaynayso laga yaabe inaad bari u dhaxdo. Adduunku waa laba galin ee dhiigga ha isku karin. Waa iga talo. Lol.

Safferz;948445 wrote: Wadani is my inabti, I will not stand here and watch this inquisition from the sidelines dee Che Allah inaabtiday geesisanaa oo fariidsanaa!

Aaliyyah;948429 wrote: Treaty to keep the Horn peaceful from what??? That period of time was called the 'Scramble for Africa' because many European countries systemically divided Africa among themselves with the help of sheep-like clans. Did your ill-informed clansmen actually believe Britain's scare tactic. Were they comforted by Britain's pretentious assurances that they will be protected from the "monstrous" France and Italy (note the sarcasm). Falling for the strategies of colonialism is not 'playing smart', it's being weak. After all that crawling behind Britain your kin have nothing to show for it. No independence, just a continuous degradation of character. But all the coastal clans of the north signed treaties with the British, including the USP clans except for the khaatumites due to their being far off in the hinterlands. Che, Saalax is right, Somaliland was never a colony but rather a protectorate.

Che -Guevara;948430 wrote: Harmony:D Wadani. There's gotta be some people you don't care for even a little bit:D Lol like who Che?

Aaliyyah;948434 wrote: Don't worry you will join the July 1st bandwagon soon enough. No need for cheap shots. It's like me saying ur people will join the may 18th bandwagon soon enough. We both know that no group of Somalis can be forced to support a cause they don't believe in. In the end we Somalis will either reconcile our differences and share a nation, or we will continue to sow the seeds of rancor and mistrust causing us to go our seperate ways unfortunately.

Che -Guevara;948425 wrote: Wadani. So, do you hate? No, I honestly love all Somalis equally. I just hate when Somalis, even those from my own clan, lie about facts or distort history to suit their parochial clan agendas.