I always defined myself as being “Somali”. Whenever someone asked me where I was from, I always responded with “I’m Somali”. Yes, I am very proud to be Somali and that for sure give me something to hold onto as an identity in where I live. So if I wasn't Somali, I would like to be Somali.

Chimera;783075 wrote: Samjamaa, what is happening in Somalia has absolutely nothing to do with ''sins'', otherwise Europe and America - where slaves were kept for centuries, and from where armies dispatched to destroy entire civilizations and obliterate entire races of people would be feeling Allah's most severe wrath for those gigantic sins, but instead they are the wealthiest and most flourishing places in the world, its therefore insulting to even postulate that our current misery has some sort of divine connection, when its a simple situation of humans - Somalis in this case - trusting their own lives and the lives of their children in the hands of useless clan-chieftains dubbed presidents, and as a result they reap what they sow when these same clan-presidents start skirmishes, cause displacement or invite foreign mercenaries. You right and wrong in same time how? You right in point the Europe and America are most flourishing and wealthiest countries but in their life time but Allah surely will punish them in the day of Judgment (al akhira) in their sins, you wrong because what is happening in Somalia it is related Somalis ‘‘sin’’ in following racist clan-chieftains and not following Allah way so you said (they reap what they sow). Somalis believe in tribal law than Allah law, and Allah will never change their situation till they change them self.

No, Allah loves humans but hates their sins, so if a Somalis choose to hate, kill and attack each other because of clan, then, of course Allah will hate their sins and they would be punished for their wrong deeds such as killing a self which is prohibited by Allah. and for those innocent people starving of hunger had managed to survive 20 years of civil war Allah is testing them and us who are living comfortably life and have the means and capability to help them and others in hardship. Instead of asking; "Does Allah hate us?" we need to ask ourself: "Do Somalis hate Somalis?" And look back at everything that´s happened in Somalia for the past 20+ years and see the role Somalis have played in it.

somalee;782236 wrote: Sorry to hear about your father. May Allah have mercy on his soul. Why is it useless to find someone out of your area? I do not think degrees scare men, that is a myth and please do perish those thoughts. If you're hell-bent on only marrying men from your 'local area' then you may have problems, or if you are looking for men with x number of degrees. The more you trim on your expectations the more you increase your chances of finding a man and getting married. Good luck. thanks walaalo. Why is it useless to find someone out of your area?! it is hard to commencat , and i about the degrees it is ture because they will think i hard to reach some one told me. sorry i disagree with you there is no reason to lower expectations becuase intellectual compatibility in marriage is essential or what you think?!!

guys, all what you said it is true and i appreciate you advices but i just want to clarify some points. 1) I am racism becaues my target are only to marry Somali man with all my respect for other nationalities. 2) search husband in online or local masjid is not solution. 3) I am not worrying at all because i believe that allah knows what is good for me. However, I’ve realized the most important thing is to first work on myrself. As Ms.Blue said When we work on ourselves, we attract what we look for. Maybe not all the time! However, if something is meant to be, it will happen inshaa allah. and who knows i may invite you all to my wedding party soon. Salaam

somalee;781671 wrote: You can't tell us that you couldn't find a good Somali man anywhere. In your case you may find your parents' intervention useful. Just to let you know that there's a certain age when a Somali woman reaches she's more likely to be hit by a meteor than to get married. If you get there my friend, the number of degrees you may have in your possession will have no use in attracting men. no i did not find in my local area, and is useless to find someone out side my local area, first my father died 10yrs ago and this issues need man to intervention, by the way my degrees scare them not attract them.

*Blessed;781655 wrote: Xabiibti!! I was just teasing you in the other thread, I honestly wasn't expecting a reply. I don't agree with that there is a rise in Somali singles, there are several weddings every weekend here in London. As for those who choose to be single, I'm of the opinion that everyone has their own valid reason for not being married. Our society needs to stop putting pressure on people to get married. I completely understand the cultural differences that you've mentioned, it's definitely an issue for our people these days. Inshaallah, Allah will reward you for your obedience to him. Xx LOL Che. Perhaps, it's because you're not a ... special person.. ehem, thanks dear

Che -Guevara;781613 wrote: Never understood what 'special perspn' mean? Good luck Sam. In Islam if Allah has meant marriage for you, there will be someone( yours special person) for you. i hope now you understand the meaning. thanks walaalo

Why am not married? That’s a question I get asked a lot. All my friends were convinced that I am too picky and looking for that perfection because I am considered to be beautiful, educated with two degrees and Alhamdulillah came from religious family. After finished pharmacy collage people have often told me I have the complete package, but being a Somali female, who grew up in Arab culture, make some confusion between two cultures (Somali & Arab). Most of educated “Somali men” whose I met want to start the relation first with friend ship and dating (which taken from west/Somali culture)for while then we may end it with marriage or as strangers which is not acceptable to my moral ( I am religious) I loved to marry Somali man and my family has instilled in me that feeling, but in same time I like to make my relationships “halaal” or Islamically approved. When I meet a guy, I will not be afraid to tell him what I want, and ask him if he wants the same. If he doesn’t, there is no need for me to waste my precious time. At the end I have come to the conclusion that perhaps I am not attracting the right person into my life right now or perhaps I have closed mind as a friend once told me. I believed that I will meet that special person, it’s just a matter of time. Dear Blessed I hope I satisfied you curiosity of Why am not married?

somalee;781297 wrote: Good Lord! All this time I thought you're a dude. Something manly about your typing... no comment

*Blessed;781007 wrote: LOL. Dadka ha igu dirin. I'm just trying to help the poor soul to demystify the issue on her own. Laakin waxaan umaleeynayaa in the usual educated xaliimo vs dhagax faarax sheeko ka macaantahay? The prophet said "Marriage is half of your faith", and there is someone for everyone if Allah has meant it for you, but you have to believe that Marriage maybe isn´t for everyone, not all of us are destined to be married. Blessed hunn, I know marriage is a big deal to many ladies and that is true but in other hand I believed as Muslim in qadar. But if you want my opinion about the topic, I have notice here in arab countries that somalis women work hard to get a great job to support their families , while most men keep complaining about how tough life is here and instead of doing something sit coffee places and say it's not their fault!!!

Faarax-Brawn;780887 wrote: Where did u read it from? Proof it. http://www.somaliatoday.net/port/2010-01-04-18-10-58/944-2010-03-15-15-43-56.html i hope you can read arabic language.

I always hear from Somali guys that Somali girls have some serious Kibir, and stone made heart. So attract her attention is just dream, a lot of individuals feel nervous about approaching Somali girls especially if they are educated. Guys, A Somali girl have strong person by birth, so a guy with strong personality attracts her most, it really is bit accurate that Somali girls are difficult to understand sometimes but as long as you approach is straightforward and try to express your strong character in gentle way sure you will convince her.

Tawakul Karman (is one of three winners of last year Nobel Peace Prize) was asked about how her Hijab doesn't match her level of intellect, she replied: 'Man in the early times was almost naked, and as his intellect evolved he started wearing clothes. What I am today and what I’m wearing represents the highest level of thought and civilization that man has achieved, and is not regressive. It’s the removal of clothes again that is regressive back to ancient times' Masha'Allah nice answer!!!

*Blessed;780490 wrote: Are YOU an educated gonner? yes alhamdulillah

*Blessed;780498 wrote: Why not? calaf

Aaliyyah;780517 wrote: Haha @is xadiri ku qadimayside. ..I have to agree with you niman way buxan but its a matter of men of quality Sax:)

NGONGE;779458 wrote: سلامتج خالتي قولي عني عنصري لو حبيتي, بس ما دام كتبتي بالعربي فأنتي تستهلاين كل احترام من اليوم و رايح.. المهم..خلينا نكمل بأبو ماضي..يقولون (والعهده علي القائل) انه الجو ما كان عاجبه يوم قال: قال السماء كئيبة وتجهما....... الغريبه ان انا احترم الكل من غير سبب وانت منهم حتي اذا انتقذوا كتاباتي و بنسبه لشاعرا أبو ماضي اشتهر بالتفاؤل وحب الحياة والإيمان بجمالها،اكيد يوم ما كتب هذي القصيدة كان موده مو شي ما راح امريكا وما وجد الناس الطيبين الموجودي بس بالدول العربية

Alpha Blondy;779953 wrote: i use to think that, but lets face it this community of 'ours' is useless and its futile trying to change them. cousin, why always feel that looking in empty part of glass? pls try to be more optimistic.

Macallinka;779941 wrote: Gabdhoow guursada before its too late, come to Africa we are(good men that is ) plenty in here and we will not discriminate we'll welcome anyone. good men looking any way to scape from poor Africa, isn't it? we perfer going to nearest local Mosque

once educated somalis get a better job and succeed in their life, they selling out somalis communities. Is this kind of socialization process when someone acquires some extra capital, feel like they would rather change the surroundings then contribute to their old "ends." As Somalis we are almost living her 3 generation (in arab-gulf). I find that very unfortunate in our educated ppl who did that. For those people i like to say( life is more about opportunity then anything), we should never consider ourself morally superior to someone else because you were designated a pricey piece of paper,and you might have a degree or two, but you do not have real life skills which the uneducated and poor ppl have it.

Valenteenah.;779764 wrote: Oh yeah? And what statistics are you basing this 'rise' on? Unfortunately, there are not any statistics but if you like to read more you can find more inf from the below link. http://www.somaliatoday.net/port/2010-01-04-18-10-58/944-2010-03-15-15-43-56.html it is in arabic i hope you can read it.

*Blessed;779662 wrote: Are you married? no, I am not married.

Nin-Yaaban;779563 wrote: With bad economy, people being fearful of losing their jobs, kids growing up to be DOQOMIIN, who could blame anyone for not wanting to get married? It's damn shame. i am 100% agree with, because its not hard to find a Somali man to marry, the problem is whether he is educated or economically stable, although I think the most important thing is the deen. aaliyya: yes, it is better to marry from same race. but still we can't blame who prefer to marry outside our race and we have to respect their choose.

Maaddeey;779447 wrote: ^What event?, Is she (also) talking about the London meeting? no, i am talking about whole situation!