I'm a newbie myself too but welcome Knight of Wisdom to SOL. It's a cool place I like it so far it's so peaceful unlike on some other forums

You guys have to do something first with the thing that the person above you throwed at you then after that you can throw something yourself to the next person. Eats the grapes. *throws a phone*

One person throws something, then the next person to post responds to that, and then throws something themself at the next person. I'll start. It's a simple game wanna play? *Throws a muffin*

Curiosity lead him to injure his eye lool.

Looool I have never laughed this way at any commercial i'm so gonna download the app on my Iphone. Now these HOT men will get the attention of women to check their breasts regularly and make many men jealous I need me a Somali Anthony

^^ Fair enough your entitled to your own opinion. When that politicus said those words he was totally right and you can even see it in practice. I think we all are afraid of the unknown and that's why we push it away and be cautious. We tend to not accept things out of our comfort zone. “When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly” - Patrick Overton

Set alarms for random times. Ask people what gender they are. Begin all your sentences with “Ohh la la!” Go to a poetry recital and ask why each poem doesn’t rhyme. Leave the copy machine set to reduce 200%, extra dark, 17 inch paper, 99 copies.

Aaliyyah - If your in the situation it's different then when your viewing it from outside of the circle. Som@li - So with you it would be forgive forget and accept if it was a minor thing? Oz - I take that as a no.

Femme - Accepting such men in your life is a serious thing and it's not harsh if you do what's best for yourself and your own safety you don't know how this person is gonna turn out to be in the future. We were talking about all women in general of all ages no one mentioned a particular age or about only women reaching their 30s. No one should lower their standards because of age after all age is just a number. Malika - Indeed women in their 30s and older have seen life and experienced enough to judge a situation very well. They know very well what to do and what to avoid and usually think with their head instead of the heart. When it comes to a revert and a ex convict the only thing they have in common is they can one day choose to go back to their old lifes and you never know when that is gonna happen or if it will happen no matter how well you know them. Aaliyyah - It will always be a great risk when choosing such men and like you said the only favor your doing for your kids is the day you choose your future husband you don't want him to be a bad example for your future kids and have a bad record history that wouldn't set the example. Better safe then sorry.

^^ You cleared up some misunderstandings about the issue. People sometimes tend to forget they are making a life long decision because they are looking at a situation from right now and not ahead in the future to see what may possibly come around. It's always gonna stay a vicious circle of doomness until they do something about the system which I doubt they will ever do.

Jacpher;752374 wrote: ^Stay away from any drug dealing convict at any cost not matter how much they persuade they changed. They can change all they want but the consequences of their crimes [committed or not] is a lifelong struggle. You want to be nice, loving and choose to struggle with them for the rest of your life? That's for you to decide but what you need to know is that the system is not set up to rehabilitate them so they get out, knowing it ain't that bad, free food and shelter in the big house. Some choose not to handle challenges life throws at them, so they return in a short time. Sugarcoat it how much you want but the reality is these people don't get much of a help in there except house them. Prepare yourself correcting/dealing the choice or call it mistakes they made before you met or known them. Plenty of men/women out there than being stuck with someone and paying for their mistake for the rest of your life. Be a little selfish and ask yourself, what is in it for me? It's ok to ask tough questions. Your interest comes before that of another. We make choices everyday, some good, some bad and some make really horrible ones and we all have to pay for them one way or another. Wow congrats that was a powerful statement and yet so true. So far your the only one who said how it is in reality without sugar coating it and that really makes one think and look at it from another perspective. That explains alot and why they fall back into their old ways It makes sense. Why would you pay for someone elses fault and struggle with them for the rest of your life when you already have freedom and can live a trouble free life.

Chocolate and Honey - Everything they have done between let's say today and their childhood. Love conquers all but also blinds you from reality. Are you saying you would test them with time and patience to see whether they would crack or not? nuune - I agree of course all humans need some love tender and care regardless of their gender and what they have done in life. But the truth is you would always have doubts about their motives and intention because of what they did. You gotta choose if they are worthwile suffering for. Ibtisam - That's the tricky part how do they handle themselfs do they look for opportunities or do they make their own opportunities. Would they look for what's available out their for them or would they feel sorry for themselfs give up on the system and do nothing. All those can determine whether that person is gonna be succesful in life or not. Compared to murder drug dealing is a minor thing there are alot of worser things out there that someone could be evicted for Femme - There are people who are more of a bad person then someone who went to prison and maybe done the same things but the difference is they never got caught in their action. It's unfair if that uncaught criminal would get away with it and not punished but hey what can we do about it life is unfair. Hence why you should judge a person on their characteristics instead of only their past and background only then will you get a clear view of that person.

STOIC;752299 wrote: First this is your choice and it is something you alone can assay.No one can know what type of a character this ex-convict exudes.If it is my choice though, having lived in a big city with many ex-convict converts, I wouldn't advice anyone to tie the knot with any ex-convict (be he a Somali/non Somali )especially jailhouse converts.If you live in the US you know well that this system is not so forgiving for any jail bird. Now for all the years i have prayed at the same mosque with jailhouse converts i have only seen one guy that completely changed and this was because he was tired of the system after having a wrap-sheet back in the 80's.He completely turn his life around and got his college degree and got a job with the city Parks and recreation.He has been holding this job for years and will retire from the city with a good pension.Now talking to him and understanding the AA cycle of run-in with LAWS i came to the conclusion that it is a battle to climb out of the system once you are in it.... If i could drove fast into the heart of any Somali brethren i'd have advised him/her to stay away from convicts.It takes as you can see awhile for any convitc in America to find bearing in life-after jailhouse. This isn't about me. I agree that most of them aren''t fully changed and some relapse in their old ways. We can only judge them by their characteristics then alone you will find out whether the intentions of this person is good or bad. The government and the system aren't so forgiving against these type of men. Their past wil always keep haunting them and prevent them from grabbing opportunities like jobs and society and people will always have no trust in them and be cautious. Life is a continue struggle for them and it's hard for them to find good women to marry because of their backgrounds and the inlaws not accepting it.

princesshafsa - True many seem to retire from their old lifes after they have seen the light and are determinate to stay on the right path and can outwin the so called good guy on the long haul. Juxa - They do deserve second chance and if they are good people now who are we to judge them only on their past and be oblivious about the present. I'm not going through this situation this isn't about me I steer clear from men with a bad record. Nemo - I'm all for decent good men I would'nt go for a bad boy who did some time in prison. The reason I raised that question is I have seen some whites blacks and even 1 somali who all married ex convicts and wondered what people see in them why people would make such risky life changing decision. Che-Guevara - The world is getting cruel by each day. People are getting cold blooded and don't care about what happens around their surroundings. People get killed and no one even looks at them and they keep walking. NGONGE - I didn't get proposed nor am I dating a ex prisoner. It's a curious genuine question. LOL because she doesn't know about his past and doesn't care he is her ticket to the west. Desperate times calls for desperate measures. Xaaji Xunjuf - People can change but some people relapse back into their old ways. True love sometimes doesn't save you from making such risky dangerous situation it blinds you for seeing the real problems that maybe are there.

Subhanallah what has this world turned into that's so cruel and heartless.

Would you ever marry an ex-convict assuming they were honest and straightforward about it. If they haven't been convicted for murder, rape but for minor convictions things like drug dealing etc. and they seem to turned their lifes around now and are decent men holding good jobs. If they are sincere a genuine person, honest, loving and is everything you always wanted in a man and they repented would you overlook their past. We are living in the 21st century and alot of men have criminal records or been to jail in the past.

Posted in wrong section see womens forum.

Does this theory also work outside of America?

Jacaylbaro;750302 wrote: You hate him coz he is called Mo ..... and you're called Sugar ??? LOL. Mo is a great athlete whether he is playing for United Kingdom or his own country. At the end of the day everyone including himself knows where he came from.

Female bosses rock and in terms of handling the work there is no differences in their approach. Have had both male and female bosses in the past and i've never encountered any problems with them. Though the male bosses seem to be more laid back then their female bosses who are a bit stricter.

Rest in peace whoever she may be.