Bismilah Asalamalaykum Jamaal, I have my own computer at home, I don't use public computers. It's also worth to know that I am the only one who uses my computer. Jezekelah khayr for your input brothers and sisters, I pray that Allah guides that person. How do I pm the admin? Can the admins also find out who that person is? Allah knows FeeAmanaAllah

Asalamalaykum Hasna, Alhamdulilah I've been married for 3 months now, but not to the person I was intending at the time I started this thread which was last year, and Yes incase your wondering whether its a revert to islam May Allah grant you all pious spouses ameen. FeeAmanaAllah

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Bismilah Asalamalaikum InshaAllah I hope that this reaches you all in good Imaan. Someone has put a very shameful website in my profile on sol, where it says "your homepage. I feel very offended and upset about this. I don't know how anyone could have gotten access into my account and placed that website there. InshaAllah I hope that the person who did this will stop and fear Allah. It's obviously someone who wants to ruin my reputation here. Is it possible for the moderators to help me? I am more then happy to quit coming to this forum if this injustice against me should continue. FEAR ALLAH, while you are busy bringing me shame that I do not possess. To be honest, I don't feel comfortable posting on this forum , after I've learned that someone is getting access in my account and putting a webpage there that I have never put there. Please let me know if you can stop this, or else like I said I am more then happy to leave this site. Asamalaykum FeeAmanaAllah

Asalamalaykum Nur May Allah bless you Brother. You truly are a light in the darkness. I just saw this thread for the first time, don't even know how old it is. This is me Lateafah I've been away for quite a while, lurking around every now and then but not posting. But I thought to say salam to you Nur and everyone else. FeeAmanaAllah, and Congrats on earning the title "moderator" I think you deserve it . May Allah continue to guide you and all muslims ameen. I'm glad you left that place you reffered as "somalinet".

Asalamalaykum InshaAllah Sister don't call her a witch, she's already earning enough bad deeds by making your difficult as you "claim". Don't join her and become like her. Sometimes when things go wrong it's best not go with the wrong. Be Patient, Allah is with those who have patience. This might as well just be a test from Allah testing your Imaan and sabr. Honour her as you would honour your own mother. Be kind to her and humble Who knows this might soften her heart, and you two might become friends. Remember also that she'll be the grandmother of your dear child one day inshaAllah. I'm sorry if I just keep rambling but sometimes harshness and meaness are best defeated with mery and not competecy. ps: check your pm Your Sister in Islam FeeAmanaAllah

Asalamalaykum blowing yourself up is completely and utterly different to going into an army on your own fighting.. in one situation, you die at your own hands.. in the other you die at the hands of the enemy, whilst fighting them. Allah(swt) clearly lays out the conditions of fighting "those who fight you"..and I have not read anywhere in the Quran or Sunnah that killing yourself i.e DYING AT YOUR OWN HANDS.. is permissible if the even if the intention is to kill "the enemy". So far all the half-heated attempts at justification on this thread I have read have been really disappointing and tiresome. Yet the Quran.. speaks for itself... as clear as day.. and lets not pretend half of the person's intention isn't to kill himself.. he wants to die as much as he wants to kill "the enemy".. because he thinks thats matyrdom and wants his cosy place in Jannah right? but he dies at HIS OWN HANDS.. Tell me how that ISN'T destruction at your own hands.. and I want to see Quran or Sunnah or nothing please. Because these flimsy excuses don't stand up, I'm afraid. And slay them wherever ye catch them, and turn them out from where they have Turned you out; for tumult and oppression are worse than slaughter; but fight them not at the Sacred Mosque, unless they (first) fight you there; but if they fight you, slay them. Such is the reward of those who suppress faith. But if they cease, Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful. And fight them on until there is no more Tumult or oppression, and there prevail justice and faith in Allah; but if they cease, Let there be no hostility except to those who practise oppression. The prohibited month for the prohibited month,- and so for all things prohibited,- there is the law of equality. If then any one transgresses the prohibition against you, Transgress ye likewise against him. But fear Allah, and know that Allah is with those who restrain themselves. And spend of your substance in the cause of Allah, and make not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction; but do good; for Allah loveth those who do good. (Quran 2:190-195) if you read the first verse, you will see the mention of "fighting in the cause of Allah" ..and then this is echoed in the last verse quoted above,(to emphasize the "subject" of these verses.. i.e fighting jihaad).. where Allah(swt) says spend of your wealth in the "cause of Allah" and then "make not your own hands contribute to your destruction!" but instead do GOOD, for Allah(swt) loves those who do good. Think about this people.. it is SO CLEAR.. Allah(swt) is saying spend of your wealth in His way.. for jihaad.. but do not cast yourselves to destruction.. it doesn't take a genius to apply this to the modern day situation.. yes the Muslims are poor in Palestine etc.. but Allah(swt) is telling us to invest in jihaad, invest.. spend our wealth in the cause.. i.e don't resort to that which is wrong (suicide) but instead work on building up resources, building armies, building weapons... invest your wealth in that.. but do not cast yourselves to destruction! SO CLEAR. why are there any differences of opinion on this..? the Quran deals with the issue in these 6 verses.

Asalamalaykum Don't worry guys, she'll join the lurker crew, which I am a leader of on a more serious note just would like to say to Tamina, that I'll miss her InshaALlah. May Allahs protection be with you ameen. FeeAmanaAllah ps: hurry back the islam section will miss you

Salam Bambina As far as your second question is concerned, Islam does not allow what we have come to call “dating”. Islam values chastity for both men as well as women. Islam acknowledges the fact that a young man and a young woman can naturally feel attracted towards each other. It also acknowledges the fact that if this attraction is allowed to be gratified without setting any limits, it can easily destroy the whole social structure that Islam wants to promote. Islam does not approve of intimate mixing of the sexes, and forbids premarital or extramarital sex. Islam encourages marriage as a shield to such temptations and as a means of having mutual love, mercy and peace. Keeping the above explanation in perspective, it should be quite clear that Islam does not allow what we, in the present day have come to call “dating”. “Dating”, therefore, seems to be against the very essence of the teachings of Islam. There is nothing wrong with getting to know each-other but thats by guarding ur chastity,lowering you gaze, and considering your modesty, and if possible having a mahram, is a way you could go about it InshaAllah. Ma'Salama

Salam Modesty well said sis Muslim women's dress (Hijab) as stipulated by the Shari'ah (Divine Law) of Islam. The term Hijab, includes not only dress and covering the body, but methods of behavior before members of the same and/or opposite sex, promoting privacy for females and prohibiting loose intermingling between males and females, and thereby encouraging modesty, decency, chastity and above all, respect and worship of Allah. Allah Ta'ala says: "And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts from sin and not show of their adornment except only that which is apparent, and draw their headcovers over their necks and bosoms and not reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women (i.e., their sisters in Islam), or their female slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants free of physical desires, or small children who have no sense of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah altogether, O you Believers, in order that you may attain success.[An-Nur, 24:31] O Prophet, Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their outer garments about themselves (when they go out). That is better so that they may be recognised and not molested. And Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. [Al-Ahzaab, 33:59] Those above paragraph are the Quraan and the Islamic law. If you dislike it then it's between you and your ALLAH but don't say that Hijab is not wajib because it really is. FiamanaAllah

Rudy thanks.

AsalamaALaykum Ina-lillahio-wa-ina-ilahai-raja-uun May Allah forgive his sins and save his soul from the hell-fire Ameen. May Allah subhanAllah wa'ta'ala grant your family and you sabr and Imaan to over come this Loss. Death Is Haq. We'll all go through that stage when our soul will be taken out of us, May we work for what awaits us in the hereafter ameen. FiamanaAllah

AsalamaAlaykum Nur Brother MashaAllah Jezekelah kheeran for the Amazing poem. Your messages are greatfully and appreciatively recieved. May this find you well and safe. That Poem has touched me in various ways that I cannot explain in thousand words. May ALLAH subhana'wa'ta'ala bestow his favors and blessings upon you. May ALLAH reward you for all of your efforts that you do for his sake and from your heart Incl Showing me the right way, they are truly appreciated Alhamdulilah. Ameenah You are the one that made think Sister. Thanks for the email,Jezekelah kheeran My dear sista in islam. You are the one that caused me to change my mind. you guys are the reasons i'm not going anywhere anymore. Tamina, Flying Still and Nunne, Thank's It's good to be back. FiamanaAllah, I'll see you all around InshaAllah Ma'Salama Allah hafiz

4get-me-not Salam Ya Ukthee The feeling is mutual My sista. What can I say Things like that happen. People are unequally born and different. The first thing, we all should learn is the capacity to tolerate our differences. I don't see that happening any day soon just through experiences. SubhanaAllah. I don't think that somalis will ever accept me as one of their own. Thats why I don't have any intentions of going back there or in the future raising my children there ( Thats If ALLAH ever gives me any) .