Dahia Perhaps, it is time for ajnabi brothers to bring in the mix. Jiidjiid lagama bixi karee.

Ngonge Guys who took their time to mature doesnt scream out the creme de la creme of mature single individuals. I am sure there those who are accomplished professionally, having worked long and hard to achieve his goals. In addition, there must be those who are financially secure, and they take their leisure time seriously, enjoying extensive travel and a vast array of hobbies and pastimes...i.e. Great catch Charming, intelligent and interesting single men over 30 to 40 (iska dheh!) are rare in our community. Unless the men know something we dont know.

lool Dahia Walaaley..isnt it difficult to deal with any baggage he may have? I mean..if one wants hassle-free life. There are also different kinds of baggages. One with the ex-wife is the worst. Are you saying that it is too much to ask for handsome professional over 30, never been married, sweeping off your feet and show you the stars? Nomadique..So am I. I am truly baffled as to the rarity of this kind of species

The Point You have a point there But I am sure with a country as vast as the US, there are destinations that could rival the best Europe has to offer. General question to the SOL men In this day and age, are there eligible bachelors of over 30, with no baggage?

If i was to go on short break, I would go to Granada, Spain. I have seen stunning pictures and it has beautiful history. The Alhambra is beautiful from far away. Detailed history and accounts my friend wrote about his visit: The native Spanish Muslims bought the land in the early 80s. Then for nearly 10 years the local Catholic bishops fiercely opposed their own kind from building a mosque, motion after motion, bill after Bill, court case after the court case. In the end of course they failed in their unreasonable behaviour to the Muslims and the courts ruled they were being unfair. It then took another 10 years to get the funding. The mosque Alhamdullilah first opened in 2002. http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=888619487&size=l The Courtyard of the Mosque is truly breathtaking. You walk out and see this: http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=889696156&size=l To the right is this view: http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=888763305&size=l The Mosque is designed beautifully and has symmetrical Womens chambers in some places. So there is a huge Womens section. Prayer area. Library. Womens eating area. Reception etc… and then also they have the Mens side equivalent. It just shows what you can achieve if you put your head together. Certainly one of the things most striking was the Womens activity in the Mosque. As the mosque is in a tourist area there are a lot of tourists. We went to the Alhambra but I wont forget what the Imam of the Mosque of Granada said “The Alhambra remember is a relic. It is a sign of civilisation in decay (the moors) and usually when people build extravagant buildings and monuments it means society is finishing there. What matters is People. The people you meet here. The experiences. Take that back with you to your family and friends. That’s what is important. Not some stone building 500 years old”. Such wisdom. For this reason we only went to the Al Hambra on the 2nd to last day. Don’t get me wrong it is beautifull (a fine example of Muslim Intellectual Artistic Talent) however I miss the experience and people of Alhambra 99% and the Palace 1%. There was the simple worker in the café , native Spanish Muslim who never said “No” to your request. His free food. Mint Teas. The Dhikr (recitation) of Quran from the rooftops. The people invite Non Muslims to their Mosque every Saturday (or Sunday I think) 7:00pm. They make food for non Muslims and tell them about Islam and the Mosque and what it does. Talk about transparent. Compare this to our UK mosques??? On our first night I awoke by some recitation at 2am on the rootop. I found out later that a local Spanish woman had converted to Islam. The next day at Jummah, a Spanish Male converted. Allah has blessed that place and I can see why. They put Non Muslims first and then Muslims 2nd. We eventually did manage to get to the Al Hambra. It is Huge (massive in size, half as a castle/ramparts and half as a beautifull garden: A English couple from somerset once asked me what the following says in Arabic. here is what is said all around the Palace and It means “There is no Victor Except Allah” (pls ignore my dodgy spelling!) http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=888619531&size=l Here is the Al Cazaba inside and is huge http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=888619589&size=l Here is the view from the gardens looking to the West side http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=888619757&size=l Such beauty is amazing, especially when you consider it nearly a thousand years old. Here is a view from the rooftops looking at the city around you. Note the stone wall in the distance on the mountains. This was built as a defense against encroaching Armies. http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=888619655&size=l Here is the Nasrid Palace, where the Muslim Kings would walk and do business: http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=888619839&size=l Here is a view of the Interior Madinah from the ramparts. Can you see the remains of the city below, a bustling Madinah, protected by the fortress of Alhambra. No wonder that when Spain fell to the Catholic Christian Kings and Queens the Muslim Moors had this as a defence for two hundred years (1492). http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=858448433&size=l Ancient Prayer Area now a tourist shop. Note the same inscription at the top of the chamber that is all around the Alhambra http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=858448393&size=l Here is the interior views of some of the gardens. Again they are so vast and so beautifull, it amazes you they are so old. http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=858448497&size=l I love this photo, an orange tree in the Alhambra and my mate grabbed one from the floor and we ate It was quite bitter but very nice! http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=858448417&size=l Here is the Souk in Granads, grab a bargain and don’t forget to haggle! http://www.flickr.com/photo_zoom.gne?id=858448549&size=l learnt a lot from Granada. I miss the people. I miss the environment, the 30C, the clear fountains of cold water. The Alhambra a bit and of course the interaction between Muslims and non Muslims which was the best I had ever seen. It made me realise how important people and interaction is. Needless to say, I am dying to go there now

Wa aleykum salaam brother Bob. I am well now Alhamdulilaah. Xalwada ayaan iska badiyey..according to my hubby. One can never have too much xalwo. I am glad you enjoyed eid in your gladrags. And congrats for winning the Ramadan cup.

Wa aleykum salaam brother Bob. I am well now Alhamdulilaah. Xalwada ayaan iska badiyey..according to my hubby. One can never have too much xalwo. I am glad you enjoyed eid in your gladrags. And congrats for winning the Ramadan cup.

This is not daandaansi my dear. It is fuduulis.

This is not daandaansi my dear. It is fuduulis.

I wasnt feeling too great. I didnt even go to pray. I stayed home all day. Inshallah next Eid. I am hoping to celebrate in a muslim country.

SL may joojiyaan dhulbalaarsiga. Havent we learned anything? You cant force anyone into submission.

Lily You going on holiday?

Unless he is a hot babe Italians..shaxaariyaal badnaa!

I can think few of SOLERS who would be great for this kinda job. They already are cry-babies..they might as well get paid for it! You can tell Ramadaan is over

Originally posted by Socod_badne: What do you get when you put Hijab on camel-toe showing thingy? KITSCH! Listen ladies, any judgement of what you wear is between you and your maker is to state the obvious. It's your prerogative to dress as pleases you and no one has a right to sass you about it. However, dismissing those who question the appropriateness of wearing the Hijab while at the sametime sporting body-hugging clothes that'll make Britny Spears envious, is specious. It's not an arguement, it's mere handwringing. Further, you know full well there are valid reasons people heckle you for wearing the Hijab while displaying your belly-button ring. The Hijab is sacrosanct garment and you're defiling it, desecrating it, devaluing it for selfish ends. Either wear the Hijab with it's dignity unviolated or don't wear it all. What does all this mount to? If you wanna work in the kitchen you better be able to handle the heat. You and only you brought all this unwanted attention unto yourselves. Either put up with it or shut up. A shocker! An alien must have been possesing SOLErs at that time.

Me telling mom about the muxaadarrooyin on paltalk. Her asking me 'switch on the muxaadarro'. Me downloading Paltalk. Her enjoying the muxaadarro. Sister deleting Paltalk as it slows down her connection. Mommy dearest once again asking me to switch on the muxaadarro. Me doing this all over again. Sister doing her best to clean up her laptop! A nightmare!

lool Lily. He would finally become immune to their wailing. So whateva happens to the sincere crying sister who is looking for sympathy from Skipper? Crying is a useful tool however it is an impromptu Performance.

Crying is good for us as Shakespeare wrote: "To weep is to make less the depth of grief." Tears appear to reduce tensions, remove toxins, and increase the body's ability to heal itself. It is concluded that people who are able to cry may enjoy better physical and emotional health. http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/biology/b103/f03/web3/n1kaim.html

The Crying Game: Why Women Cry More Than Men Theresa VosillaStaff Reporter Issue date: 11/3/05 Section: Features PrintEmail Article Tools Page 1 of 1 AP Photo/Sunday Alamba Why do women cry more then men? Many studies have been done on this topic. A common belief among people is that women are cry babies. If this belief is true, then why is it so? Girls and boys cry about the same amount of times until they reach the age of twelve, by the time they are eighteen women cry on average four times more than men. That is about 5.3 cries a month compared to a man's 1.4 times per month according to research by Dr. William Frey who studies tears. So the old belief is true, women do cry more than men. But scientists still do not know exactly why this is true. One theory is that women cry more than men mostly because of social conditioning. As males are growing up they are urged to excel and become powerful, to never show their emotions, to be tough, independent, demanding, aggressive and good problem-solvers. Males in our culture often hear things like, don't be a sissy, don't whine like a little girl, be self-sufficient, powerful and dominate others. In comparison to females who are taught to be a lady, express their emotions and value their looks and charm. Although these ideals and values of society are changing they still do exist. Another thought is that women cry more than men due to the physical and hormonal difference between them. The hormone prolactin is present in the mammary glands and induces lactation but it is also found in the blood and tear glands. Boys and girls have the same level of this hormone until they are twelve years old. The girl's amount then gradually rises and by the time they are eighteen they have sixty percent more than boys do. The tear glands in men and women are also anatomically different, as are their tears. According to Frey's research, when men cry 73 percent of the time, tears do not fall down their cheeks. Men may get misty-eyed, but teardrops don't give way. When women cry almost every crying episode involves runaway tears down their cheeks. Many different things cause women to cry such as, frustration, stress, personal problems and hormonal changes caused by pregnancy, menstruation or menopause. All these things can lead to tears that are sometimes unavoidable. 85 percent of women and 73 percent of men said that they felt better after crying, which shows that tears may help remove chemicals that build up after stress according to Frey. Also scientists and sociologists both say that women are more inclined than men to feel the urge to cry when they are frustrated. This may lead to problems for women in certain situations at work. Researchers at Pennsylvania State University found that men's tears are viewed more positively than women's. This is because men are found crying less frequently. Crying could be a bad career-marring mistake. Both men and women often view crying as a sign of weakness or irrationality. "Women in business don't cry, my dear," said Martha Stewart on her Apprentice television show to a female contestant who started to cry. The web page, Advice on The Society for Women Engineers (SWE.org) gives suggestions on how to hold back your tears for those of us who are tear prone.

Hire the cryer The tradition of hiring crying women at funerals they say goes back to a time when some families didn’t have any mourners. For them, a good crying woman made up the numbers, and also made up for the lack of tears at a death in the family. But, as the crying women became better, entire castes in entire villages took up the job. Saturday, June 23, 2007 LBE Certain parts of Negombo are known for a different kind of performer at funerals: the ladies who cry for the buckshee. Women were formerly supposed to express their grief by crying at funerals. Some criers could be hired in some places. They were called crying women, who cried according to the order and paid in remuneration. They cried at the coffin, in the procession, and at the grave. The manner of crying as well as the words they were supposed to say while crying were more or less set patterns. The tradition of hiring crying women at funerals they say goes back to a time when some families didn’t have any mourners. For them, a good crying woman made up the numbers, and also made up for the lack of tears at a death in the family. But, as the crying women became better, entire castes in entire villages took up the job. Emalin has cried at hundreds of funerals where she says she had no idea what kind of person the corpse had been in life: big, strong, fat, ugly or obnoxious. But above all she says, she is a professional. She gets paid for a good cry, and it not easy. She has to get into the mood. That’ why she charges by the hour. “It must be a tough job to keep on crying,’’ I say, but her answer is that most families want the crying to be turned up at certain specific times. For example, a good breast beating cry may be necessary when an important man such as a Minister of a Mayor drops in at the funeral house. At such times, the chief mourner usually signals to her colleagues to ratchet up the wailing, and they start tearing up - - then wail shriek and howl to a crescendo. The visitor is usually so unhinged by too much of this reality, that he ends up offering some charity. “I will erect a marble statue of your father close to the Town Hall,’’ the Mayor might say. As a Mayor he might not know it. But sometimes, it does pay to turn the tap on.

If the prophet (saw) was alive today, he obviously would have sighted the moon wherever he was. Would the muslims in the UK have waited to see the moon themselves or would they have followed the prophet (saw)? I know he (saw) isnt alive therefore it is a moot point, but living in the west, sometimes moonsighting proves to be difficult cos of the weather.

Here in the U, We have xalwa in abundance. The price you pay for living in baadiyo

I am taking my socialphobic self to bed. Cant be asked to be nice to everyone and pay the kids!

Tallpoppy If they are praying taraweeh tonight, then it is not eid tomorrow.

There are very few eloquent orators that are chosen to represent Islam in the media. Sometimes I feel that it is deliberate ploy to misrepresent us.