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Salaam I am quite saddened and really angry at this. The Americans wonder why they are hated round the world. TFG has a funny way of endearing themselves to the Somalis in Muqdishu. The fact they are cheering for Ethiopia and US to bomb/kill Somalis will be thier downfall. We are not very far off now. May Allah forgive the sins of the dead somalis.

You know what man-in-malaysia..prudish men dont help the situation too. I know a lady who was so comfortable calling her hubby xabiibi, honey at every oppurtunity and she was touchy-feely person sideedaba, and he found this so uncomfortable at the begining as he wasnt very efectionate or touchy-feely person. She changed him after few years. Men arent always creative or adventurous. It takes two of them to come to compromise and make each other happy. To blame the women for the divorce rate is just concealing the part men take for the break-ups and it is mainly not taking responsibility. Why would a man divorce his wife cos she is prude or inexperienced? This is a new experience and learning process for most young muslim couples. They continue to learn as the years go by. Sis Aaliya..long time no see. How have you been girl? Hope studying is going well for you inshallah.

erm...erm Should we discuss this here? Not appropriate I'd say. But I would first suggest that you speak to your husband about this. Ask yourselves what you are comfortable with and then do it that. The brain is your most powerful sex organ. Brain needs exercise to function at its best. Avoid all stress and anxiety. If your mind isn’t in the right place, then you won’t enjoy it. Get in the mood by putting on nice sexy outfits, light scented candles or uunsi, dim the lights and just cuddle. The most improtant thing is to communicate with each other. You will find your man to be more willing to explore and spice up things. Increase the compliments and appreciations for your partner and communicate each other in a genuine and loving way. It can be something simple as bringing your partner cup of tea/cold drink or writing them a 'missing you' or 'thinking about you' note and leaving in their appointment diary. Don't take each for granted. Thank them and be specific saying: "Thanks - I really appreciated your help in making me the dinner or getting me the perfume etc." Hold hands & hugs slowly as loving touch is a basic human need. We need gentle loving touch and hugs that don't always lead to the bedroom. It is just a way to bring the 2 of you closer. Be creative and invite your partner out on a date. Think of someplace they would like to go. Write them a note or call them on the phone and ask them if they would like to go out on a date and are available. Keep it fun and easy going. Simply appreciate the opportunity to talk, listen, hold hands and enjoy being with each other. As you become more comfortable with your partner, pay attention to your body's signals of desire. Remember that if you can't talk about sex in your relationship, it probably is a sign you are not ready to do it - and that applies to a lot more topics than just sex. Some couples have unrealistic expectations about how often sex should occur and think everyone is having more of it that they are. It doesn't matter if its twice a week or twice a month, what matters more is that both partners are comfortable and content with the communication, quality, timing, frequency, emotion, connection, trust, emotional sensitivity and affection they are able so share with one another. Enjoy and be content with what works for the two of you and build on your successes from there. Remember the most powerful sex organ is the brain, and the largest is the human skin. Get reconnected there first, and a healthy sex life will follow. Oh..and FGM really doesnt stop you having a great relationship with your husband. Your brain and inhibition do. I hope i wasnt too explicit.

Doorknob is a complete ***** who doesn't have a clue about anything: 'Urban Dictionary'

Salaam aleykum This is very beneficial and i always wanted to memorise Asma-ul Husnaa. I have been told that it is easier to memorise them in a song form if you listen to it number of times. Here is a selection: http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=639939640744315150 http://www.lightuponlight.com/islam/modules.php?name=Stream2&file=index&lid=399 http://www.qarxis.com/node/212 http://www.lightuponlight.com/islam/modules.php?name=Stream2&file=index&lid=695

^^ "For good sake they member who are international list of terrorist all the way up to aweys." In that case, it must be true then. We shouldall take the words of Bush as gospel, shouldnt we?.

Salaam Aleykum I second that Aisha. I may not like it but i should very darn well accept it. The best example walked on earth (pbuh) did it, his companions did it, all the previous prophets (as) did it..who am i to think that i am better than all their wives? Life on earth is a test and it isnt all about smooth sailing. It has its ups and downs. Instead of looking of the negative sides, why dont we focus on the positive side? Let me remind you: Automatic childcare in a sexist society gives women more effective choice to have a career without devaluing the role of homemaker. Being able to marry men who are already married means that women can marry men who have already proved themselves, therefore minimising their risk. Having the possibility that a husband can remarry without divorce extends practical security to a woman. She needn't worry about losing her husband and income as she loses her looks, because if her husband is attracted by a younger woman, he doesn't even have to think about leaving his wife. Polygamy removes the pressure on a husband to commit adultery, and removes damaging deceit from a marriage. Polygamy provides a method where a woman can have a female friend for life as well as a husband. Polygamy therefore provides more people and a better chance of meeting diverse needs. Polygamy provides a potential for at least three adult incomes, reducing state dependence and the fear of unemployment. Controls Placed On Men If a man wants to have another sexual partner in a polygamous system then he has to meet his responsibilities - pay for any children produced from all his relationships without priority being given to those from a 'legal' relationship. Polygamy removes or reduces the seduction of innocent young women - If a man promises to marry her, he cannot use his existing marriage as an excuse for not fulfilling a promise. Polygamy reduces the number of women who are available. Currently, with more women than men, this 'cheapens' women. With less women available their 'value' goes up. In other words, polygamy makes men have to try harder and do better with women if they are to win them in competition with other men. (By Samuel Chapman) It should be remembered that polygamy is not a compulsory thing nor is it advocated. It is just a permission with certain limitation and conditions. And in some of the circumstances this permission proves extremely useful. For example: If the wife is chronically ill, or is barren, or for some other reasons it is not desirable for the couple to live as husband and wife. The remedy offered by certain societies is to divorce the wife and remarry. But is this justice? Is it kind or noble to turn out a woman in her old or middle age from her home, just because she remains sick or she happens to be barren? Islam discourages such cruelty by permitting polygamy. for more, please read: http://www.ezsoftech.com/omm/polygamy1.asp

Originally posted by ADNAAN: Read this article, it is written by a Somali journalist and it reflect his opinion on this issue, he is a cunning writer so make sure to follow the links he provided and see if you can find the Hadeeth he is hinting at. Let all my gifted farahs and haliimos free style on this. quote: “It must be said however that homosexuality in the Arab and Muslim world is as old as human existence. The holy Koran narrates the story of Lot and condemns his people's homosexual tendencies as transgression. Even companions of the Prophet who used to be away from their wives while fighting in battles sought his permission to use some of them as eunuchs, which the prophet rejected.” read here !! Salaam Aleykum and belated Eid mubaarak It is very interesting that Bashir Goth derives from the following hadiths that the some of the prophets companions asked the prophet (saw) his permission to use eunuchs as a temporary sexual partners! See and judge for yourself if these hadiths (from Goths' links) takes this position: Volume 7, Book 62, Number 9: Narrated Ibn Masud: We used to fight in the holy battles in the company of the Prophet and we had no wives with us. So we said, "O Allah's Apostle! Shall we get castrated?" The Prophet forbade us to do so. Here is another: Volume 7, Book 62, Number 11: Narrated Sad bin Abi Waqqas: Allah's Apostle forbade 'Uthman bin Maz'un to abstain from marrying (and other pleasures) and if he had allowed him, we would have gotten ourselves castrated.(1) Volume 7, Book 62, Number 13o: Narrated 'Abdullah: We used to participate in the holy battles led by Allah's Apostle and we had nothing (no wives) with us. So we said, "Shall we get ourselves castrated?" He forbade us that and then allowed us to marry women with a temporary contract (2) and recited to us: -- 'O you who believe ! Make not unlawful the good things which Allah has made lawful for you, but commit no transgression.' (5.87)

May Allah protect the mujaahideens.

Northerner Do i need jabs by the way? Darn it..I forgot to contact my GP.

Northener I am going to Boosaaso. You know a lot of people have told me about Xaafuun. I am dying to see what it looks like. I just dont want to stay in area though. I want to see as much as possible. I wish there was a guide . Now there is an idea for a business. Cynical, Change Africa to Somalia ad it will apply. You cant call Somalis in Somalia savages. Have you been there? They are already suffering as it is and to call them savages by people who have safety and security with roof over their heads and plenty of food is ludicurous.

Salaam Northern and Hayam My family actually did the same 2 weeks ago. Now i am taking 3 bags of clothes with me. I'd like go to Hargeisa and Mogadishu. But not sure about Mogadishu now as i dont want to be stuck there if war happens. This is one trip i am looking forward to very much. I left Somalia back in 1990. Everyone who has been back there comes back with plans and praises for the place.

Salaam aleykum CG Sorry walaalo to reply so late. I have had couple of busy weeks at work in preparation my holiday to Somalia. QUOTE]Originally posted by Caano Geel: The cilmi, is interesting, because you are are saying that you have been exposed to new knowledge which has led to change your mind in someway. My principal point is that everyone is exposed to new knowledge. For example, personally i reject the principle that i cant give my friends a hug or shake the hand of someone that i meet. The pious (by my and those around me's definition) people i've spoken to across a number of cultures also reject this. So are we all wrong? You see CG, I found the example you gave above very telling. The very basic teachings of Islam is clear cut and the ijma agreed upon it. Your example for instance there are clear hadiths outlining this very subject. Of course one has the right to reject and accept it. But this information is availabe for all to see if anyone is interested. Not sure if "So are we all wrong?" is a rethoric question, but I can safely say that that you are all wrong based on the authentic hadeeths. So if i was to present this 'new' knowledge, would you change your position? As far as i am concerned, I am not aware of any new knowledge that you would abrogate the authentic hadiths with regards to hugs and shaking someone's hands. If there are any, would you care to share? Originally posted by Caano Geel: About the heart, your saying it doesnt matter, its all in my heart its what i feel. In that case, its independent of the world around me. and furthemore, since people hold different things closer to their heart, then there are as many islams as hearts. Is that really so? You asked me earlier where untainted of Islam was. I said "in our hearts". I misunderstood you earlier. The untainted Islam is how the prophet (saw) and his companions (ra) ruled their society. It was powered and governed by discipline and order. It had a social and political structure. It had financial and economical accountability. It had a military response and a source of justice. We have the pefect example right there. There was this hadith that emphasised this point: Imam Nawawi's Forty Hadith 28 It was narrated on the authority of Abu Najih al-Irbad bin Sariyah, radiyallahu 'anhu, who said: The Messenger of Allah, sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam, delivered an admonition that made our hearts fearful and our eyes tearful. We said, "O Messenger of Allah, it is as if this were a farewell sermon, so advise us." He said, "I enjoin you to have Taqwa of Allah and that you listen and obey, even if a slave is made a ruler over you. He among you who lives long enough will see many differences. So for you is to observe my Sunnah and the Sunnah of the rightly-principled and rightly-guided successors, holding on to them with your molar teeth. Beware of newly-introduced matters, for every innovation (bid'ah) is an error." Islam, is both a system of life and a choice of life-style, it offers both the promise of a true success in life and answering the question of the purpose of life. Islam does not separate the religious aspect of the society from the social and the political aspect. On the contrary, in Islam, all aspects of the society are bound by the discipline, or the dynamic of Shareeah. Originally posted by Caano Geel: 1) in your view point what are the basic tenants/principles, ie the set in stone cant negotiate type? That is huge topic itself. But everything from the Quran and Sunnah cant be changed. I cant go into it now as i am pressed for time. Originally posted by Caano Geel: 2) it islam evolves, then is it ok to reject the proposition of going back to a basic principle. Since change or evolution signifies that there cant be any notions of basic, just what is right at that point. In Islam, there is good bid'ah (innovations) and bad one. Bid`ah is broken up in two divisions, Bid`ah `Amal ( in actions) and Bid`ah `Itiqaadi (in belief) and their sub-divisions. For more info on this, check: http://www.sunnah.org/events/srilanka/debate_details.htm Basic teachings of Islam can not evolve. For instance: No one can say 'alcohol is halaal now'. I will go into this bit more when i return inshallah.

Cynical lady, salaam sister When i read your post above, the speech Malcolm X made once came to mind: “They projected Africa always in a negative light: jungles, savages, cannibals, nothing civilized. Why then naturally it was so negative [that] it was negative to you and me, and you and I began to hate it. We didn’t want anybody telling us anything about Africa, much less calling us Africans. In hating Africa and in hating the Africans, we ended up hating ourselves, without even realizing it. Because you can’t hate the roots of a tree and not hate the tree. You can’t hate your origin and not end up hating yourself. You can’t hate Africa and not hate yourself. You show me one of these people over here who have been thoroughly brainwashed, who has a negative attitude toward Africa, and I’ll show you one that has a negative attitude toward himself. You can’t have a positive attitude toward yourself and a negative attitude toward Africa at the same time. To the same degree that your understanding of and attitude toward Africa becomes positive, you’ll find that your understanding of and your attitude toward yourself will also become positive. And this is what the white man knows. So they very skillfully made you and me hate our African identity, our African characteristics. You know yourself — and we have been a people who hated our African characteristics. We hated our hair, we hated the shape of our nose — we wanted one of those long, dog-like noses, you know. Yeah. We hated the color of our skin, hated the blood of Africa that was in our veins. And in hating our features and our skin and our blood, why, we had to end up hating ourselves.”

Salaam Aleykum Nice pictures. I am looking forward to see these areas for real next month.

Alle-ubaahne thanks, but no need to defend me. Besides you say much worse to the girls. So quit it ..with respect bro.

Uniformity is good right? but are u talking about the cimaamad or the rest of the attire?

You asking a girl about men in uniform Lt Xalane?

I think it is part of the uniform. Nothing wrong with that.

CG There is a big difference now. In the generations before us (like our moms and dads and their parents), they didnt have much knowledge of the deen. They just followed what their sheekh told them and after the death of their sheekh, they used to go off to his grave to lament. We are blessed with so much 'ilmi available to us 24 hrs a day. Many times i have heard the world media sprouting how easy-going somali muslims will be subjected to this puritan form of Islam now that the Courts are ruling. The untainted version of Islam exists in people's hearts. Nowhere in the world has adopted this as form of govt because they were never allowed to prosper by western countries. One thing for sure is: They can tolerate the dictators and despots but they can never tolerate where people are ruled by Islamic authority. So it was never given a chance and i really doubt that it will happen in the near future. I am all for importing Islam so long as it is derived from Quran and Sunnah. There are always grey areas in all matter and it is natural that it evolves but we should never lose sight of the basic principles of the Islamic teachings.

JB We Beleive it cos we are told in the Quran and ahaadeeths. To disbelieve the book fo Allah and his messenger would be grave error. Allah has created different types of Jinn. Among them are some that can take on different forms, such as humans, dogs and snakes; some who are like flying winds with wings; and some that can travel and rest. Abu Tha'labah al-Khushani said: "The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 'The Jinn are of three types: a type that has wings, they fly through the air; a type that looks like snakes and dogs; and a type that stops for a rest then resumes its journey." Saheeh (authentic). Allah has given the Jinn powers that he has not given to humans. Allah has told us about some of their powers, such as the ability to move and travel quickly. Allah has told us in His Book the essence from which the Jinn were created. He says (interpretation of the meaning): "And the Jinn, We created aforetime from the smokeless flame of fire." [Al-Hijr 15:27] We are also told what they eat, where they sleep etc. Jinn possess people where the possesed human gets very unhuman-like strength to overpower best of men. I saw this with my own very eyes. Some speak foreign language ( an aunt of mine spoke in Russian once). She had never been in contact with anything to do with Russia. Her voice was recorded and it was confirmed and verified by an NGO Russian. The world of the Jinn is an independent and separate world, with its own distinct nature and features that are hidden from the world of humans. Jinns and humans have some things in common, such as the possession of understanding and the choice between the way of good and the way of evil.

^^ The prophet Mohamed (saw) did.

Hello JP See..I had a tuhun, and this post above just confirmed it for me. You are neither Somali nor a Muslim...am i correct? Please forgive me if i got it wrong or if i am being too personal. Originally posted by J B: Sheikh Nur's hint of heavenly Islam and Mecca barely as a spot undermines the real identity of Islam to be imported in the first place, a Religion that in turn imported alot from Christianity and Judaism ,blended with the Arabic Badouin culture to tease a sneazing of a delicious theological Muffin in Arabic, targetting the arabic culture of 7th Century at first hand. If one puts it like that, then it would make Islam a whole seperate deen. There was ever one messege from God. I know that i dont need to explain this but all these Abrahamic religion had one source. One was the continuation of the one before in its purer form. So one can be forgiven in thinking that it was imported and fused with the Arab paganism. If i give you an example: Normally the orientalists point out that Hajj was a pre-islamic pagan ritual. Yes, Hajj pilgrimage was in existence prior to the appearance of Nabi Muhammad (on whom be peace). The Hajj worship came into existence among the Arabs during the time of Nabi lbraheem (on whom be peace). From this angle it will be correct to conclude that the Hajj of the present-day Muslims "is of an earlier pre-Islamic congregation". By "pre-Islamic" will mean the era prior to the advent of Muhammad (on whom be peace). While the actual worship of Hajj among the Arabs came into existence during the time of Nabi lbraheem (on whom be peace), the Arabs who later abandoned the true religion of lbraheem (on whom be peace) introduced many pagan and idolatrous rites into the Hajj pilgrimage. Sorry to digress but I had to connect the dots for you JB . Originally posted by J B: If we hold that as it is , then that Islam really is RE-imported will have a wider perspective, seen in that light that is. Islam was imported to Somalia. That is for sure. I also can not tell you in the form it was imported originally. Whether we had purer form or a one that already evolved. But now we have no excuse in identifying the true messege that God intended for us, shown to us by the best example of Mohamed (pbuh). Many Somalis back home need t be aware and study their deen in order to filter the cultural Islam from the Islam of the prophet (saw). Originally posted by J B: That the new Somali 'Wadads' claiming to have gone back to the real pure Islam, "reconstructing the original message" as Sheikh Nur puts it and Cambarro agrees with , is a missleading righteousness at best and a futile attempt at beeing a better Importer to be exact. To be honest, I am not talking about the waddaads per se. I am talking about those people who claim that Somalia isnt in need of an imported Islam. That what our forefathers have practised is sufficient. You dont have to look further from these boards to notice that the terms 'gardheer, surwaalgaab' are used in a derogatory manner. Havent they read the seerah of the Nabi (as) and his companions (ra)? This is not being a better importer than others but the quality of the Islam that imported based on the Quran and Sunnah.

Salaam aleykum InshaAllah, this post may be beneficial. In Islam, as I learned, there is a difference between sin and exposing of sin. If someone drinks alcohol in secret in his house without letting the public know about it, then although he commits a kabeera, major sin, cannot be punished for that because this sin is between God and the sinner. Maybe, the sinner repents or not. Maybe, Allah punishes him or forgives him. People are not allowed to make this sin public because spying is not allowed in Islam. If you sneak through the window or eardrop through the door then you are committing a sins which will be punished severely on the Day of Judgment: Molten copper will be poured into you ears!!!!!!!!!!!! for spying. You even will receive a reward if you conceal the hidden sins of someone because everyone of us have hidden sins and we all have enough in our own souls to be concerned with. If you conceal hidden, secret sins of a brother or sister then Allah will conseal your hidden sins on the day of Judgment and then inshaAllah forgive them. Usually, Allah will expose you sins to everyone who is assembled and everyone of the jinn and angels and humans and animals will hear what awful things you did. But if you conceal the secret sins of a brother or a sister then Allah inshaAllah will screen you sins and no one will be able to listen to the conversation between God and you. In this case there is no exposion of a sin so there is no enjoining good and forbidding evil. Of course if you know somebody who does or did a major or minor sin in secret, then you can talk to him in secret and help him as a brother or sister because a jamaat and our brotherhood and sisterhood can change a person. This every Muslim is a brother of every Muslim and every Muslima is a sister of every brother or sister Muslim. No one lets anyone down, but to go to the public and expose the sin is a corruption in itself. When someone exposed a sin of another then the whole community is corrupted because the sin maybe was not on the mind of people but when a person tell so and so did that then this may cause disunity or disharmony. Forbidding evil and enjoining good becomes a duty when someone exposes his sin to the public. If the same person goes out of the house on the street and drinks alcohol then the punishment is done on that person because he invites others to this sin and he corrupts the community. If someone starts a bad tradition then he will have a share in the sins of everyone who follows him until the day of Judgment. If there is a person who does not realize that he is sinning because he is not aware that that what he did is a sin then you just remind him or teach him. If a person commits a sin openly, or tells somebody about it, he/she will be responsible even for the sin committed by the person influenced by such exposure. This is very relevant for modern youth when they commit a sin and then brag about it, and try to pressurise their friends into it, directly or indirectly. Wassalam