I think somali women aint fatter than the most, but our men are skinnier than most. It is all illusion.

You girls are very harsh.,...and naive in the nicest possible way. Not every Somali man (I refuse to call our menfolk a derogatory name) is a chewer or has a big forehead (mind you, a lot of our ladies sport a shiny one too) or watches ALjazeera without understanding. Majority of our men are down to earth and you know what..they treat us women miles better than ajnabi men. Anyway if our men are that bad, guess who is to blame? yup..you got it..i blame us women for not bringing up a gentleman well rounded men.

^^ DOnt tempt fate my dear. You will definately end up with one. I have seen girls only interested in good looking one only to marry an average run-of-the-mill-kinda-bloke. Nothing like the hotties she used to go after. I will tell you how it happens: You make friends with a man. He is just firend mind you. And he is very happy being your friend. After a while you start thinking about him day and night. Ugly ones are quite the charmers which is why they get all the babes. About holding hands with the hubby, I dont. What would be the piont? It is what your house is for: To hold hands all you like in private.

Salaam Aleykum What is with this man-bashing these days on SOL? Mantra Can I ask you of your age? Cos these feelings you mentioned above are normally associated with pre-teen behaviour. I recall hating anything to do with boys when i was 10 or 11, and when people tease me about boys, i used to feel hatred for them. But as adults, we get over that. You say that you never had a bad experience with men, so i am inclined to ask, what have you based on this irrational hatred for men? Maybe you need to have few sessions with a therapist. Maybe it is something to do with your dad or uncles or brothers. Not suggesting anything nasty, but maybe you had a feeling of inferiority or maybe not enough attention was paid to you. Or maybe someone in your family has been mistreated by a man. We really dont know why you feel this. Only you can analyse yourself. But hating men isnt the answer. We need each other and complete each other. Or maybe the answer is more simple than we thought: You havent met anyone who have blown you away yet and you fear that you may never meet them. So you are in the defensive mode. Being alone is awful and having a companion in life is one's lives little luxuries. One's mental health, that is our happiness, self-esteem, and ability to work, is influenced greatly by our relationships. One should also be realistic though: Simply being married does not in itself guarantee a happy-ever-after. It does need hardwork, compromising is a must. On a side note...Did you know ... that you as a woman, by virtue of your femininity, have in your hands the delicious power to make a man fall in love with you, influence a man to your way of thinking, bring him to his knees, make him want to spend his life with you -- and want to fulfill your every desire? Dont despair sister. Being in a loving relationship is as closer as you can get to heaven on earth.

The thing is..I have family members in Muqdishu. Now they cant even receive the money i sent them cos they cant get to xawaalada to collect the money due to lack of safety. When the ICU where in charge, my neices and nephews, who have never seen sea, were thrilled to swim jazeera for the first time in their lives. The ICU may have had their faults but they werent was what the original post accused of. It is odd how it is a 'shame' about the war.

Oh..he is aint Somali. he is Palestenian. She is Somali.

lool Cynical. He is what my grandma would call "Bilaash Xeyte". At least i told her to stop being so modern and let him pay for the dinner and the parking, and the movie instead of paying half. I always believe that the man will go the distance if he truly loves the woman. That is just their nature in my experience. And when you say NO to them, the more they want you.

^^ Have you taken your medication today my dear? It appears that you have been misinformed.

Sky Love has nothing to do with kidnapping someone so her family would beg you to marry. This would be crime, wouldnt it? Back in Somalia, I used to hear girls were kidnapped to be raped by rich boys with the blessings of their influential dads. And this only started in the years just before the civil war.

No ibti, you are welcome to reply. But i am suprised that you dont think that he is messing her about. I am thinking of getting her this book: He is just not into you But I have a feeling we wont discover what we already didnt know. All i know is when a man is into you, wild horses wouldnt keep him away from you.

lool good picture Dev. Give us hope for when we get to our twilight years! "Love lights up couples' twilight years"

^^ Please speak to me when markhaanka uu kaa dhamaado. You will make sense then. In the meantime....cheerio my intoxicated friend.

Salaam I cant figure out men. I am sure they are not complex but they sure as hell drive women crazy. By the way..This isnt about me as I am happily married lady lol. In my years of couselling my girlfriends, why is it that when men messes them about, they still hang around. I was a single ones, and i seem to recall how finding the right man wasnt so hard. In this situation, the man said: 1- I cant committ to you, but i wanna hang around you as friends. If you want to offer me more (haraam i know), i am happy to take it. But i know i will change and will want to marry you. 2- He then comes back saying, i cant get you out my mind. Lets hang. Oh by the way, I have my rich, beautiful english ex-fiancee at my house since her university is closer to my house. She is just preparing her thesis for her PHD and i dont want to ruin it for her. But I promise she will leave the minute she finishes. By the by, we are not together. I sleep at the sofa. 3- He comes back again saying " i do love you" but I need to change and be perfect for you before we start a relationship. He also says "I have changed so much since i got to know you, I dont talk to woman anymore blah blah but i still have my ex living my house" Anyhow, being the good friend that i am, i told her that this guy is messing you about. Ka tasho. She says, "i really cant stay away, he will change, i believe him cos he didnt need to so honest with in the begining and he was. Therefore i give him credit." From the piont of veiw of men, could you guys tell me whether he is messing her about cos i sure as hell think so. It is easy for me to say she keeps reminding me!

Originally posted by NGONGE: ^^^ Are you a headmistress of some married men's school? Look! There goes a married man talking to a single girl. Stop him! Stop him now. Lemme find my whip! I will see to that he doesnt astray Che You rascal!

It is like pulling your teeth with couple of pliers. It is not so difficult. I asked the question Tukaale, because someone mentioned that your mother's side were Ethiopian, hence your unshakeable support of the Xabashis. Never asked your qabiil neither did i speculate. Never mind now.

Originally posted by Tukaale: don't make me become more obvious and sound more oblivious... I will take that risk. Pls do answer the question. Are you Ethiopian, Eriterian, Kenyati, or Somalilander?

Niiko should be banned from the weddings and any public gatherings. It does something awful to men and that is the sharta of women!

Tukaale Wadankeed u dagaalameysaa?

Salaam I certainly wouldnt allow a married man to become friends with a single woman. With or bilaa benefits.

Salaam Somehow I dont think this will make a dent in the case of Somalia.

HOw comes you have no sympathy for the girls? Xaasidiinyahow. Fartun sis, get a tan and tan lotion. In no time, you will be like us maarriin maryooleey

^^ Dont you mean cowards who pillaged the country for over a decade? Dont see any strong man in that pic.

^^ Sky..where one earth did this happen? I used think of it as a myth.

Gay rights laws facing challenge Peers are to debate a motion to annul the regulations New laws banning discrimination against gay people in the provision of goods and services face a Lords challenge. The Sexual Orientation Regulations have been criticised by some religious groups who say people will not be allowed to act according to faith. They are gathering outside Parliament in protest as a peer makes an attempt in the Lords to scrap the regulations. But gay rights group Outrage's Peter Tatchell said no mainstream religious groups were supporting the protest. The regulations came into force in Northern Ireland on 1 January and the government is planning to introduce them in England, Wales and Scotland, by April. Homophobia denied Critics say the regulations would mean hotels could not refuse to provide rooms for gay couples, and religious groups would be obliged to rent out halls for gay wedding receptions. Some also argue a Christian, Jewish or Muslim printer could be legally forced to print a flyer for a gay night club, or a teacher would have to break the law to promote heterosexual marriage over homosexual civil partnership. Christians...cannot and must not be forced to actively condone and promote sexual practices which the Bible teaches are wrong Thomas Cordrey Lawyer's Christian Fellowship Head-to-head: gay rights Have your say Democratic Unionist peer Lord Morrow has put forward a motion calling for the Northern Ireland regulations to be annulled and amended - to be discussed in an hour-long "dinner debate" in the House of Lords on Tuesday evening. Barrister Thomas Cordrey, from the Lawyers' Christian Fellowship, which has organised the rally, denied the group was homophobic, saying the regulations did not "strike the correct balance". He said: "Christians have no desire to discriminate unjustly on the grounds of sexual orientation, but they cannot and must not be forced to actively condone and promote sexual practices which the Bible teaches are wrong." He is backed by Bishop Michael Reid, founder of the Christian Congress for Traditional Values, who said discrimination was wrong, but so was discrimination against Christian values. Religious freedom But supporters of the regulations say they simply extend to gay people the same rights that had been granted to people of different faiths in 1998. Labour MP and Equality Act campaigner Angela Eagle told the BBC's Today programme: "We're not curtailing religious freedom, people can argue against the practice of homosexuality if they must. "What this law does is say it's wrong to put a sign outside a pub or a hotel saying 'no gays'...That is right, proper and moderate." Some of the things that we've come across are where schools aren't tackling homophobic bullying properly, where people have been struck off by GPs because they were gay. Alan Wardle Stonewall Controversy over the law The National Secular Society accused religious groups of "gross exaggeration" to get the law annulled. President Terry Sanderson said: "Parliament must not pander to their bigotry." And Alan Wardle, spokesman for gay rights group Stonewall, told BBC News: "Some of the things that we've come across are where schools aren't tackling homophobic bullying properly, where people have been struck off by GPs because they were gay. "These laws will prevent that kind of discrimination - not some of the lurid things that have been said about forcing people to promote a gay lifestyle." In a statement on Tuesday, the Board of Deputies of British Jews distanced itself from the protest, saying the regulations would "provide a further platform to combat discrimination in this country". But it said it hoped the regulations would be "framed in such a way that allows for both the effective combating of discrimination in the provision of goods and services whilst respecting freedom of conscience and conviction". A High Court judicial review against the regulations in Northern Ireland, brought by the Christian Institute, will be heard in March. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/6243323.stm

Yes I am back. Sent you a pm. I am still confused as to who this guy is. Somali Royal order?