Ngonge (what a mouthful)lad I understand your point. However if a man was to be unfaithful and catch God knows what, from who knows what, and he was to pass it on to one wife, chances are that the STD wouldnt spread (that is if she didnt cheat herself or remarry later). But the unfaithful man were to pass STD to 2 to 4 wives and their kids, more will be people will be infected. However once the partners are faithfull and tested each other beforehand, it wont matter if the man married 20 women, the risk would be lower. Lily I didnt assume anything. There are good faithful kind people in all creeds But it is all about people doing the decent things for their partners.

salaam aleykum br ameen The question was: "can a woman give her zakat to her husband?" The answer: Yes, a Muslim woman is allowed to give portion of her Zakat to her poor husband if she is capable of doing so and if the poor husband is poor enough to be entitled for Zakat. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is reported to have granted the permission to a Muslim lady who wished to spend part of the Zakat on her husband. Zainab, the wife of Abdullah (ra) had asked Bilal (ra) to seek for the prophet's permission for spending part of her Zakat on her husband and the orphans under her protection, thus said the Prophet (pbuh): "Yes, and she will receive a double rewards (for that): One for helping relatives, and the other for giving Zakat." (Sahih Bukhari, vol. 2, hadith no. 545) The next question is: Who is the prophet, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave him the ability to melt metal with his hands. In the prophets hands, it metal is placed he could mold and shape whatever he wanted, because metal became soft in his hands. Allah gave this prophet a wonderful voice. His voice was so beautiful that when he recited Recitations, then creation such as mountains, birds, jinn, animals, and trees made sujood to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in there own way. These are two miracles given to this prophet, alayhi salam. Who is he?

No He didnt have a point Dabshid. He obviously didnt go to school where Biology was taught.

Salaam There is a fine line between enjoining the good and judging someone. I was watching the lecture "Avoiding the Dangers of Self-Righteousness". It is the 6th lecture from the bottom of this link. http://alhaqq.net/AlHaqq/Khutbahs/default.aspx This is something we fall into without even realising. The starting duah is in Arabic (2min) but the rest 30min the talk is in all english.

^^ But who is getting killed? It is not the occupiers or their supporters..is it? This is a new phenomena and it is being copied from Iraqi insurgents.

Originally posted by cynical lady: :rolleyes: i VOTE NO 2 WADAAD HUSBANDS You want 2 wadaads? Well that will take some doing lol Seriously though..why dont you want wadaad bloke? Imagine innocent man who has the modesty and hayaa of a virgin girl and explore life and discover delights together...what could be better hon?

I get you now. I know it as 'inyow'. It is what my neices and nephews would say lol. War ninyahow you want a loose woman dee..I cant help you there. Inyow is good but slapping them hard usually worked for me in my heyday! Now some could say I would be grateful..if i was single again!

Some studies in this field suggest that STD has a chance of increasing among polygamy relationships. Many of you may disgaree with polygamy marriages however you cant use this as a stick to beat with it. At first i was very much against that polygamy increases the spread of STDs. But i have thought about this long and hard and common sense will tell you that when a ma, who is a carrier, marries 4 women and lets say that he dies and the women remarry to 4 different men, how many will be at risk? Because of that man, 8 people will be at risk. This is not to say that we should ban polygamy but one can be careful by screening their partner before they marry and after a period of time if you have tuhun. In an ideal world, the husband with the four wives have never been with other women before his wives and the wives have never been with other men before their husband. But how can one be so sure? It is good to think well of your spouse but not when your life is at risk. Coming back to the original post, in my opinion, distributing condoms tells people that lack of self control is okay. It says it’s okay to have sex, just put this on first. Which approach is more effective in preventing HIV infection among people... abstinence only or broad-based sexual health promotion? Abstinence only approaches usually have a strong moral basis, promoting Islamic values and typically teaching abstinence from all sexual activity outside marriage. I think this could really work. But when this isnt discussed among our society and that this problem is swept under the carpet, we have no way of stopping this desease. To me, sex education encourages early sexual activity in countries such as in Somalia. I find this is more effective in ultra-conservative society. Education on contraception encourages sexual activity. Condoms and other kinds of contraceptives frequently fail. Remember I am talking about sex outside/before marriage. After marriage, cheating on your partner is grave sin in Islam. I find most people take this seriously. In our country, this is a big problem.

cawaanle? shanaalle dufle dambiille Very fertile ground

iinyo? Waa maxay iinyo? Welle..somaligeygu qatar uu ku soo baxay ever since i became a member here.

Salaam Aleykum all Aisha that is a subect that i wanted to raise. How to balance "enjoining Al-Ma'ruf and you forbidding Al-Munkar". Many people jump on people's throat by saying 'who are you to judge' when you try to enjoin the good and forbid the evil. Anyhow this is today's hadith: From Anas : Rasulullah saw said : "By Him in whose hand is my soul, a servant (of Allah) does not believe (truly) until he likes for his brother what he likes for himself ". ( Bukhari, Muslim ) This is a very important hadith as it warns against selfishness and jealousy - selfishness in that we want to keep things for ourself both material and spiritual and jealousy when our brother gets somethings good be it material or spiritual and we moan or complain or criticise because we are jealous. This applies to not just Family brothers and sisters but brothers and sisters of the Ummah - even those we do not know we should love for the sake of Allah swt as we love our family also and want the best for them. I think that this is quite a hard thing to achieve in this day and age when society is very self-focused and competitive at times. Allah knows Best.

So it aint so bad then. I was close. I thought Dumbuluq was areebo lady.

Xalane In cuntada afka laguugu shubo miyaad dooneysaa? U gotta do all the leg work..so to speak I will present bilcaanta and u take it from there. Hunguri: Gabdhaha dhucdhucda ah oo dheylada really love in laga qosolsiiyo. Pls dont go near goosweyn. She is very cynical by nature and will see right thru you.

lol Hunguri..walaalo..the check in the post Xalane..I know for a fact that inaad is habeyn karto. Habeyn iskadaaaye, inaad hot property iska dhegi karto without my help. All you have to talk about is liquidating things Hungur..Walaalo you dont need advice here. You are funny and women dig that so much so that you will be in the inner circle in no time. JB..I would suggest that inaad Dumbuluqo ka doonato tii ku jafan laheyd.

I thought i stumbled into our very own SOL workingmen club.

Salaam eedo Salaam aleykum Me Long time no see. Inshallah you and your family are well. About the country needing dusting off..I think it needs much more than that. Who built Mogadishu? Surely Somalis built some of those marvelous buildings with lovely architecture after we got our independence from the Italians.

One massive building site. My hayfever went into overdrive when i visited this place.

So Dumbuluq is also an adjective? So what does it mean?

Originally posted by Captain Xalane: Cambaro,a wadaad is a man with short pants,a huge beard and a koofiyad.Some times they wear xxxl shirts,the kinda shirts that go down to the knees and they carry the somalian toothbrush (caday) and whenever they eat,mostly at the restaurants,they are mostly seen taking xabad soodo oils(the black seed)while being at the gate of the maqaayada.They always have 4 wives and have divorced atleast another 4 and they grow stomachs.Thats what a wadaad is,or so thats what they are now,as seen by many.What about the wadaad girls?I love them,thats all i can say about the lot,for now. Generalisation if i ever saw one. I can say (hand on my heart) that wadaad men i met were never like this. Appearance only cant indicate wether someone is wadaad or not. Their actions should also correspond with their appearance and intentions. Since we have no idea as to what their intentions are, we can only go by their actions and appearances. Now what you describes above can not be classifed as wadaad in my book. I think it is subjective. To me wadaad is someone who follows the sunnah with actions and appearances.

Ibti xabiibti I really cant speak for wadaad couples but i can shed some light as to why they are formal when outside. I see couples that are married kissing, holding hands, sitting in each others laps in public. Why is there a need to perform for the public? Just cos you dont see wadaad couple being effectionate with each other in public, it doesnt mean that they are boring or that they dont do what other couples do. Everybody (men and women) have feelings and they are intimmate but the difference is their modesty. And Thank God for that. I would hate to grabbed in public by my husband. Any stranger out there would see a muhajaba being grabbed by a man as they have no way of knowing that he is my husband. I have an image to uphold as a muslimah and as such I should act like one.

What is dumbuluq? Is is safe for me to ask? Is it town or village? What is it known for? What kinda women live there?

Salaam I agree with you there Northern. There was this car who didnt let us cross the road..behind him was the police and he was stopped and shouted at him because he didnt let us cross the road. We werent even at the traffic lights or zebra crossing. Rose..that also happened to us. We got lost and we asked this man, and he took us right there. They may have other faults in that country, but being disrespectful to women isnt one of them.

Yo Capt'n..how can a lady speak of whether a man is good between the sheets? By the way..what is wadaad? someone who prays 2 prayers? Someone who pray 4 prayers but cant get up for fajr? or it is someone who prays all 5 prayers at home? How about the one who prays all his prayers at the masjid? Is wadaad the bloke who grew beard but doesnt do much of practising? Is it someone with beard who doesnt do much practising but is shy around women or could be someone like Salman Rushdie (someone who has Islamic name, grew beard but doesnt practise or even is apostate).....How about the professional bloke who prays all his prayers at the masjid, grows beard, practises Islam as Allah asked of him. Whether he is good in bed or not..None of others' business but his wife. Now that last one..is my husband

Salaam Thanks for this walaalayaal. I was just thinking about my old school Xaawo Taako and the theater and the library.. Then i was thinking of Yusuf Al Kowneyn and its surroundings...We had a country. Keep these pictures coming

Salaam Aleykum Pucca and Shucayb..well said. Whatever happened to having hayaa?