well wt can i say am somali lol i ment to say u will stay young BRIDE not pride

Except for few mature men at ayoung age, i would say all the ladies should go for maturer guys above 30's ,somali says "niin kudhali karo ayaa ku dhaqikaru". Besides he will age faster n by the time he is getting into his "mid life crisis" u r still a new pride . well i still say older guys r sexier n u will feel like u r next to a MAN NO OFFENSE FOR THE YOUNGER ONES, BUT DONT WORRY U WILL GET THERE

salaam Hasna sis u r right, we should all pray to ALLAH to guide us to the right partner, n eventually our destiny! I had seen couple of guys who are even going back to baadiyo of somalia to marry coz they think that the women who r in the west or educated women in general will just be too much to handle, but the truth is that u would rather have soemone who is enlightened instead of someone who is has no idea about the sort of life or place u r taking her :confused: . Well i also dont think that u can know someone by going out with them for along time, ok atleast to an extent , but when it comes to the knowing them deep down ,it can happen after marrainge ONLY.After u marry u will think "how comes i did not see this n that b4 :rolleyes: So dont judge these guys by going home to marry or follow the traditional way, hey wt ever works for u is great But keep in mind there r fine educated ppl everywhere too. peace.

I agree with u dimante a gal has her reputation only, ppl love to scratch it all the time. Infact once u r born a gal that is something u r responsible for till the day u die, its no fun but its the society who sets the rules wc u will have to abide by UNLESS u want to be out law. i wonder wt these feminist gps do :rolleyes:

salaam ameenah thanx sis for wt u said, and teh reason why i had said that muslim youth( not all of them)dont like to be associated with religeous stuff is that they think all the other things r fun, but islam is work work work, most of the things are xaraam(wc is for our own good)n prohibited! if i may add even over here in this website if u see the number of visitors of "isalm" is not as big as the other areas! well i know that ALLAH said "inamal acmaal bil niyaat" but again we owe it to our selves to bring back the glory islam had :cool:

hey guys, As for the sis who does not prefer good guys, i tell u thanx for giving up urs coz there r few of them around ! Classique i agree with u sis, all the things u say happen everyday. infact if a gal lets say goes into the wrong side of teh road she is condemned for teh rest of her life BUT ITS NOT LIKE THAT FOR MEN, its as if society is blessing the men for doing that(not all of them) :rolleyes: Quantum leap Yeah i heard about that, but i dont think someone willinging will choose a person whose habits are bad,it will happen if it must coz of qisma, in arabic they say ILI MAKTOOB CAL JABIIN LAZIM TISHUUFU IL CEEN(meaning wt is ment for u u will get it,ur destiny. wa billah al towfiq

Brother Nur , u had really brought up a very sensitive topic wc too many ppl ignore coz they cant or wont face the fact that they have a problem. its a good suggestion to stop this harm if we all can, but how will we/anyone help such a person who is being victimized by their closest person eg; husband,wife,father or mother. i had seen it n its not easy, coz the victim does not know or is in denial!

This is question i have n u cant get a direct answer for it, but u can all tell me wt u think might be the reason. Why do bad guys r attracted to good decent gals /why do they just coem in the way of decent gals who desreve only the best. No offence to the guys cheers

Rayana sis u r right about everything u said , n us human beings are full of mistakes but ALLAH said "khayr al qataaeen al tawaabeen" meaning the best wrong doers are those who repent .so ALLAH knows that we all make mistakes and will forgive those who r truely repenting , and i think that is wt we should all do, n those who u know wont repent now u pray for them. Another thing that i had noticed with the young generation is that we r really ashmed to be called religeous person (not all but they r many),we would prefer to be known as the cool guy or the cool gal, but religeon that is for old ppl! infact some think that they will not be accepted by the ppl they like coz of religeon, coz they will call u ignorant, boring and too strict for life! But the funny part is that u can be true to ur religeon n live ur life at the same time, ALLAH says live ur life as if u r living for ever, and work for Aqira as if u r dying tomorrow! so bors n sisters lets be true to our selves n not fear anyone but ALLAH .

Eid Mubarak to all the muslim Uma all over the world. As i was listening to a Daciya of islam called AMR KHALID in Ramdan he was talking about a xadith of the Rasul calyhi al salaam MOHAMED. HE (SCW)said my Uma is like the rain ,as it does not rain all the time but it starts n then stops and as a result the nicma the rain brings is the same and so is MY UMA . HE(scw) said that when everyone thinks that all the khayr of my Uma is over they raise again and they bring prosperity. He (scw) said in Aqir al zaman(that is end of time)there will Uma that will take Isalm to its place, inshallah. So brothers n sisters dont we all want to be that Uma, that he also said when HE(scw) said when he was dying on his last QUTBA that i miss my brothers/sisters, and the saxaaba thought he was talking about them n they said but we are here YA RASUL ALLAH. HE (scw) said no ur are my saxaaba , but my brothers are those who will believe in me without seeing me , and they will bring NASR(victory) to islam. So bros n sisters we should all do our part to for islam .

Il CAPO r u for real

Intresting topic, for me i would say brains of course but it would not hurt if he was wasy on the eye too . n we really have to be realistic ppl do love good looking ppl even if it means suffering (well untill tehy have suffered enough :confused: , that is the human behavior) , but after sometme if the other partner have the brains he will not hang around wc si very hard if u r already married to him/her. although there are ppl who ALLAH gave them both beauty n brains, they r not easy to handle and the raeson is becoz of all the attention they get, and am not saying they ask for it but ppl usually make nonsense out of themselves around them :rolleyes: . NB for all the sisters hooked on skin lightening products, u r messing up with ur melanin(skin pigment) wc in the long run will cause u cancer n anything else u can think off. peace.

first of all let me say eid mubarak though its a bit early. for kool_kat u know in medicine or anything relating to health care of the humans its usually based on researches, ppl just did not wake up n found the effective n harmfull substances, but rather it took many yrs. n when i mentioned that research in 1975 is to let everyone know that ppl found out this issue long time ago, am sure that new researches are being done. never the less khat is still harmfull. it destroys men n their families, when i say thsi am talking about the regular chewers. there is a man we know who kept on chewing 24/7 till he an erosion tok all his teeth n is only having a tongue that lost all its sensations that even if u give him ACID he will not know. salaam.

viking WHO banned khat in 1980, classifying it as adrug with the potential to produce psychic dependence. khat consumtion affects the potency of male sexuality by affecting spermatogenesis and plasma testosterone concentration. also a reseach that was conducted by the united nations narcotics laboratory in 1975 indicated that one of the constituens in the khat specially the one the grows in kenya has a high concentration of cathinone ,wc can cause bladder problems(especially in men) among other things. need i say more here, we know that khat wc is taken daily to somalia is from meru,kenya.

really is that a somali talk or its based on science , coz science says other wise. if u r serious send me the article or where ever that u had seen it.

Salaam to everyone, To all khat/miraa chewers n their families n the rest of somali ppl, r u aware of the consequences of the long term consumtion(chewing )of khat! It had been investigated n results came out the khat reduces the fertility of especially MEN , although that of women could be affected directly or indirectly. As for the women,the most hazardeous effect on them is the effect on the fetuses if those women are chewing when they are pregnant and the same goes for nursing mothers becos it comes into the mothers' milk! so guys really believe that when they chew they become more relaxed n infact more romantic, so i wonder how this romance will be achieved if he is wasting his most important weapon for being romantic n so on :confused: . so here ppl ,wt do u think ? n especially to those who chew , wt are ur answers to this :confused: :confused:

salaam everyone, There is one fact that ppl r missing n that is we r not in the situation of the ppl of palestien or any of those countries that r being occupied, u dont wake up every day n u r told who was killed! wc family was thrown out of their home! u have most likely enjoyed ur childhood playing n doing the things kids all over the world do, u did not shed a tear coz the gal u used to play with was taken by a gun fire of the enemy! those ppl grow up with that! i still have not answered the q though, i know killing is xaram, n yes sheikh al azhar said that too, but those ppl's lives have been taken away from them , so they do wt they have to do. just watch al jazeera n u will know that there is no point of debatig about thsi topic. wt we should all do, is pray for islam unity.

so MR Qac r u saying that its ok for us ladies to marry a guy who is less educated than us !

First let me tell my bro IL CAPRIO that u cant know soemone inside out,the same goes for the two parites involved. ARRANGED MARRAIGES: alxamdulilah i dont think my family will force that on me, but if they happen to like someone for me i know he will be a good match , n we all know that to make anything work u have to ahve the love n blessings of ur parents by ur side. and i also agree with the sis who talked about the standards ur family set for u, we all know that with our traditions (somali) u dont want to break any rules with ur family. but then again when love comes u rarely think, so dont get carried away 4 u make sure that U TWO CAN HAPPEN .

loooooooooool if u think that is fair then u r some guy. peace

Salaam , well i think that the guy should be equally educated to the woman if not higher(u know for their self steem). the other nations are different, but our men think they have to be better than the woman even if they love u :cool: . anyways couples should be compatible so that no one is left out of the others affairs.

THEN one is enough, so the question is how fair do u think u will be to ur wife or wives for that matter,so think about that. at the end the only think we can all do, si to know our religion properly ,so that ur right is not taken from u. whether u stay married or separate. peace.

Besbaaso, dont worry about me am fine, n i agree with u that the man should tell hsi wife when he is getting married he should have the courtesy of telling her am going ahead and marrying another, but really will it make a diffeence. ur situation will still be the same ,maybe u might say ow i cant stand this so divorce me b4 u get together with the other one. am not here to make fitna between ppl but the only tiem u can control this is b4 HAND , like i told u make him sign a contract wc is allowed in islam. the other option is to get divorced n those who depend on their husbands cant always do that. plus their r kids to think of , they have their own opinions too. N finally since none of us is married n not in that situation we cant know how that lady feels. N FOR ALL THE GUYS i tell u this , yes ALLAh said "muthna wa thulaath wa rubaac, fain lam tacdilu fa waaxida" sadaqa ALLAH al cathiim. n it means ,u r allowed to have ,two,three n four wives BUT if u cant be fair then ONE

Sisade, Mashalalh abbaayo ALLAH had given u ur share of knowledege of our islamic shariica n would love to have met u . u know there are ppl who when they go into religion they become extremist , n its said that ( al diin yusr wa laysa cusr, n that means that the religion is is easy n not hard), but i find u that u r trying ur best to combine the two , wc i do too when ever possible. N i would like to tell Qacbro that am sorry if u felt that i had offended u but i thought i said sorry before, n if u think that am not wt u thought i was then u r FREE to think so. am not stating my opinions here to win anyone's heart n if i wanted that i would have shown it by now. I would be a lier if i had said yes i will be happy if my husband would marry many other women, but the truth is do i have a choice, the only choice i have is like my SIS SISADE said that i try to make him happy while he is there with me , N THAT TO ALL MY SISTERS IS SOMETHING THAT NO OTHER WOMAN CAN TAKE AWAY FROM U. so qacbro jealousy is there ,men have it too. if AL SAYEDA CAAESHA radiya ALLAH canhaa got jealous of Khadija radiya ALLAH canhaa after her death , where am i, plz give us credit here. N i challenge anyone who can say i can never be jealous, but ALLAH gave u al QACL to use, n cilm of diin n with those n ur closness to ALLAH u will be able to do wt he orderd u to,N do it when u r CONTENT. so qacbro there r things called feelings n a higher thing called XAQ N that i will never forget inshallah (if am faced with that situation). salaam.

Salaam everyone, Feebaro BRO u really have high rated fever coz i can see u really starting to halucinate, high fever is really bad for ur brain coz it makes u say things that u r not aware of. i can recommend for u some analgesics( for ur fever n pain . when u say n we dont understand wt am talking about, am talking to the ppl who like myself never went to somali schools( i know they can understand wt am talking about Ok), as for u U r very much free not to unsderstand wt am talking about . n i agree with u that we only came to learn english n other languages after schooling for it, n yes we have to do the same for our mother tongue even if we had not schooled for it. but u cant be perfect( mind u here am talking about writing n reading fluently AM NOT TALKING ABOUT SPEAKING COZ I CAN SPEAK AS any somali ought to), so let be realistic here n dont go around saying things that r not possible. Qacbaro bro(still not telling me wt it means unfortunely those women r not too famous that u can see them on Tv or read about them in the papers, but if we were in teh same place i would have made a point of taking u to meet some of them, but then the journey will be long coz those i know r in different continetns N BY THE TIME U R THROUGH SEEING THEM U WILL BE BROKE, N WE would not want that for u , would we now? so dont worry have hope, coz they r there n plenty of them. n to all u guys out there plz have more confidence in the somali women , u had seen how they made a difference in our world before n especially AFTER THE WAR. salaam.