Originally posted by Modesty: I can't speak for all of Somalia, but Alhamdulilah where I am right now, most people aren't starving, food and water is abundant, and life is still kicking. Most people that haven't been here recently think that all of Somalia is basically hungry, that is far from the truth. Some of the restaurants here have better food than some somali restaurants I ate from in America. P.S. thanks for your duas for those who wished me well. Are you doing something for somalis who are starving in another corner of Somalia? Not you individually but your city: do you do fundraising or collect food from these "good" restaurants and send to hungry people? We are glad to know that your corner of Somalia is safe from famine, but is there any solidarity for the starving? In the West, they are fundraising and stuff like that, so what's going on in Somalia?

I rather getting married to a gaal/foreigner than to a polygamous faarax. We are in the 21st century and people are talking about polygamy, what a shame, no wonder why Somalia is still in feudal times.

Oh My God, I almost died oh heart attack! What's wrong with you, dude? :mad: I am still shaking

Originally posted by Kafaaxiye: ^nacam. its your choice. to be free or religious? Freedom is in religion! There is no contradiction between freedom and Islam! Beaware that Saudi Arabia is a doomed example of an islamic country! Try Malaysia instead

Originally posted by Jimca Lee: quote: Remember walaal, good men are for good women, and that bad men are for bad women. Jimca, I would like to know what's your definition of "bad men/women". For me a bad man or woman is the person who doesn't take care of his/her family(children/parents), a person who is not generous, honnest, caring towards his/her relatives. A good person is the one who doesn't steal, cheat on people and stay away from crime. A person who wants to live a modest, honnest life. Now, what's sex has to do with it? :confused:

The Mad Mullah sounds like a national hero for Somalia, I don't see anyone else

I'd rather wearing mini skirt and high heels than being covered up head to toe and living in Saudi Bloody Arabia. They don't know how to respect women out there and they use Qur'an to justify their discrimination against women. Men don't even know how to relate to women in a non-sexual way, according to one of their newspapers this month.

Originally posted by The Flipmode: Makalajabti, quote: ... rare are the Halimos who stay virgin till marriage, and I am not even talking about the Faraax. Generalization..? maybe you didn't even read the article I posted earlier..xaliimos in Portland, USA.. "Our religion and culture teaches us that when you're a virgin it's something that comes once in a lifetime," says Maalim. "It's like a gift from God. And once you lose it, it's gone. Read it here We live in the West and prefer abstinence... I hate this notion.. we live in the west ...So what? Not all people are like you Makalajabti.. Flipmode, those girls are 18, most halimo/faraax are virgin at 18, they are teenagers right? All things being said, I know what I am talking about, and ..you know. If some people want to stay virging till their wedding , Man'Sh'Allah. Great for them, it means they have resisted temptation and stayed away from sins.I can only applaud. Now, reality check, we are only humans and therefore inclined to sin. But no one can lecture on how to keep one's virginity, those teenagers may but no one else. And I noticed that somali people are a little hypocrite when it comes to sex: men exhort abstinence and girls boast about being virgin. By fear of social stigma. I only hope people would assume their acts and not talk hypocritically

Why was my message censored?Who is sheherezade anyway, she is the one who erased it? :confused: Well, whatever! Flipmode, my point is some people said publicly they valued virginity whereas they had sex before without being married which is hypocrite and silly. We live in the West, it is easy to have sex without anyone knowing it exept your lover. Faraax and halimo are not different from the others nationalities, rare are the Halimos who stay virgin till marriage, and I am not even talking about the Faraax. So What's the point of stating you value virginity? Unless you stayed virging till your wedding night, flipmode! Myself I don't value virginity because Why would I frustate myself to my wedding night? My future husband will probably not be a virgin, so what's the big deal? I am muslim and I know it's haraam but at least I am not trying to be a hypcrite and I won't come to this forum and praise "virginity". If you talk the talk, walk the walk Flipmode. Now Miss Sheherazade, are you a virgin? Don't tell you are going to censor this again! Frankly, when will somali people can talk about sex openly and frankly?

Originally posted by The Flipmode: quote:Originally posted by makalajabti: Originally posted by Dabshid: [qb] Still there are those who don't value it either and that is their problem Did you value your Virginity Flipmode? [ March 05, 2006, 19:58: Message edited by: sheherazade ]

Originally posted by Dabshid: I witnessed many guys who divorced their new bride, after they were dissappointed. Why are they disappointed? Did the "not-so-virgin" brides fail to be a good housewive, a loving and caring wife? Or maybe these marriages failed because the husbands got into marriage just to f..ck virgins? :eek: It's time to pop up the question: what's wrong with some faarax?

Definition: "Virginity is a major issue over a minor tissue" So stop being hypocrite: Why telling other people to keep their virginity when you lost yours? or Are you all 40-year-old virgin?

Originally posted by Zafir: ^^So you didn’t even wait until prom night? What about , Dear?

Originally posted by Modesty: Salaamu Alaykum from Somalia, I just wanted to say everyone should live in Somalia!! It's so beautiful here. The Somalis here are so welcoming and not stuck up like "western" somalis. They have their true culture, the guys here are so respectful, masha'Allah.Contrary to what many people people say about somali girls being oppressed, I haven't seen that at all, girls here are respected as muslim sisters, they have many organizations run by women. Sure it gets hot sometimes, and there are lax and orgi running around the place like maxaa kaa galey, but nothing beats drinking caano ari oo hadaa la lisay.NOT TO mention caano geela!! Everyone who lives in the darkness of kafir lands should visit a muslim country, I hear the athan everyday, Quran is read out loud!!I don't even need an alarm clock to wake up because the fajr athan wakes me up! Masha'Allah, life here is so stress free, you see people who might not even have anything to eat but they never frown or get depressed, people here have strong faith and trust in Allah, their culture and faith is so untainted by kafirism. Somalis in the west are so different, I just noticed the major difference in their cultures, it seems the ones in the west take the western individualistic culture, but the ones here masha'Allah it makes me so proud of my country. I love Somalia! Big Fat Lies! We love Somalia too but our very own existence (the diaspora living in the West) is a proof that not everything is "great" in Somalia. There are good things and bad things like in any country, but let me add that if people are still leaving Somalia to seek a better life elsewhere, it means that SOmalia is Fcuked up like the whole Africa!

Virginity is a burden : the sooner , the better! This the 21st century so step in!

Koronkor= a bug, a vey small insect that lives in the camel's skin.

Originally posted by Pi: God forbid that it is lifted. Imagine the Fitnah Box that would open up. :rolleyes: Yep, White people in the South reacted the same way when they heard that Black slaves would be freed. They said those dumb black once free will be running around raping white women and killing whiteys for fun, they should be better kept in the plantations. The World hasn't changed, "Only two things are infinite, the universe and human ********* , and I'm not sure about the former. by Albert Einstein".

Originally posted by Pi: I think the author of that artilce has some insecurities about his intelligence. He's just trying to justify his inability to use/understand complex vocabulary. That's what people do when they lack a decent vocabulary span. They blame others for their own ignornace. "Oh, why is he/she trying to sound smart. Who do they think they are". Read: I never really payed attention in school. I cant understand all those words. And I'm too lazy to learn. Now, be like me and speak simple gobbelydook." Anyways, my vocab. sucks compared to alot of people on this site, but that doesnt give me the right to talk shidh. Its my own ignorance, not their pretension. You right man: some insecure people try to use complicated words just to pass as intelligent!! Well I can't say which one in SOL cos first I am new, and I started learning english 3 years ago so I can't say I am "qualified" to detect those people. But have some courage: Name and Shame so we can have a laugh

I'll recommend a book I just finished reading, it's called : Freakeconomics by Steven Levitt. It's about statistics and Life. It's crazy, provocative and You'll see life differently. Who said Maths and numbers were boring?

I can't believe the dude got interested in Islam just to get laid..... Even though there is a good outcome of that, his first goal was to get a Xalimo! lIFE IS FULL OF SURPRISES

Originally posted by fartun: i have always been wondering what would the the best day be like, and to behonest dont' seem to have a day, coz i seem to be doing samething each and every day and dont' know how to do little copration about my dail routine and i hope that you all gonna give me some tips to have a best day. here goes i wake up 5am every morning pray go to the kitchen cook fresh breakfast for my husband before he goes to work, after that i go to the gym work out to stay fit na'mean. i come back home take a shower get ready to go to school, leave the house by 8am get to class and so forth. leave school 3pm come back home, cook dinner and make it ready before my husband comes home, with that cleaning and so on, seems like is never ending. and making sure that i study or do homework before my man get home coz once he gets home wooooooooooooow no need to know info i guess i will consider that the unknow time of the day. so iguess that is how my day goes every day of the week. and for the weekend i mean is time to do the laundary and revrasing the house and so forth, and going out watching movies or going to the beach, thank god i live in California coz mos the other stated people don't seem to know what beach is like. any way my question is that back when i was single i thought i had more fun than now coz all back then i use to do was hang out have fun and with my punch of other friends but now it seems that the 24 hour is so small to do the things that i use to do, i dont' know why i gues something must have changed in me coz being responsible i guess is #1 on the least and all the other staff will come next, hopefully inshallah. any way let me know something that i can spice up my day and make more elabrate then it is. Woman are never happy, She got everything and though she is not satisfied!!! God, what's wrong with women!! Like Freud said: What do women want?

Yo brothers and sisters, let me tell you some stories from my experience. I personnally know somali women and men happily married to foreigners : Most of them to white people, and few to arab people. The truth is if you find someone intelligent, mature enough to start a life, it pays off : your are happilly married whether the spouse is somali or foreign won't change anything. However if you marry or even go out with a low life, ****** guy, you'll live a nightmare. He, or she for that matter, will treat you badly and your family and friend will feel sorry for you. I know some girls to my family married to low-life Faraax, shit happen in Life especially if you are not wise enough to avoid this kind of guys (faraax or jamaican). Of course, it's nice to get married to someone with you share the same values, tradition, and religion but life is full of surprise. So please do not generalise when it comes to jamaicans (even though most of them are womanisers it has to do with their culture), I am sure there are some nice jamaican guys outthere. So the morale of this : All Xalimos should target ambitious, hardworking, honnest men (Faarax or foreigners) as future husbands.

Salaam Nas You both should do everything to save your marriage since marriage is all about sacrifice and reaching a compromise, Start by listing everything that brings problems in your couple and together find a solution. Come up with rules and "don'ts" so that you both say what's not right in each other's behaviour. It's like a business deal, it involves negotiations and good communication skills so that everyone is happy after the deal. STick to the rules afterwards.

Viva Alexus I agree with you girl! I am fed up with this "it's a man's world" shit, Women should stick together and fight for their betterment. How come we count for half of the humanity and some of us are still slaves in mysoginistic societies? Most of us are exploited by men and traditions. It's time to challenge that Power to WOmen!

There are a lot of weird things in UK: I have been with the HSBC people and haven't had any problem with them yet but I am expecting the worst..... Because it's Great Britain (what's so great about it ? said Michael Moore one day), and not only customer service but all services are bad: they always try to ripp you off, starting with the compagnies that provide Water, Gaz or Electricity, Have you ever thought about the Congestion charge in London ?..... Everyone in UK would tell you that: This country is just plain weird and I assume we are all happy here because few of us actually leave the UK and worse it attracts more people every year...