^^^So what...I won't the first one oo la furo, ugumana dambeynaayi... As long as I am happy, I don't care...With me it is my way or the highway...No in between...

Originally posted by umu zakaria: A typical day What do u really think of this? 5.30AM> wife gets up, prays and starts to prepare breakfast, wakes husband up, he easts and goes to work. UNTILL NOON> wife does the domestic work and takes care of the children, those who go to daycare n the infants. NOON. Wife prepares lunch for her husband, tries to call some freinds Husband arrives home , gets his lunch n strait to bed for napping, wakes up lator n prays takes his casariya mid evening meals or shaah whatever u call it and heads to the town or the local mosques. Comes back late evening and he is tired n wants to sleep coz he has to start over 2morrow again! wife serves dinner, tries to make some conversations with him, he may or may not even listen. She on the other hand has the pressure of raising kids, doing domestic work, some of them work, take kids to school or day care and ofcourse take care of all the husbands needs. What does she deserve in return? Believe me, somali woman have alot of patience, i for 1 cant endure all of that. Kudos to those who do that just to keep their family intact. UMU, there is nothing wrong with this life style, adiga soo uma ogolid inuu sidaa kuugula dhaqmo... Here's a typical day for me: 7-8AM: Husband wakes up, makes his breakfast, then off to work 9AM: I wake up, prepare breakfast for me and my daughter 11AM: Start cooking lunch 12PM: Feed daughter and put her down for her afternoon nap 12-1/2PM: RELAX, do whatever I please...It is my TIME, while she sleeps 6/7PM: Husban is home from work...Eats dinner...Gives his daughter a bath, and dinner 8/9PM: Baby goes to bed...We have the rest of the night is for us...Whether we watch TV, movie, talk, whatever... ONE day out of the week is my day off, and I do anything I want to do...Go out with friends to dinner/movie or just XAN...lol Weekend: if I am cooking and cleaning, he is doing laundry...If am doing loundry he is cooking and cleaning... There has to be balance...

Legend, I didn't even think of it that way...It will be 7yrs in Nov... Skipper, thank you walaalo for the congrats...Don't worry I will keep my money in the piggy bank, but if you change your mind just holla at me... UMU, you almost made me cry ***holds back tears*** Thank you...Thank you...Thank you...Sidaasoo kalaa iga mudantahay... Khalaf, you're damn right it is all about me, cuz it is MY opinion...I am just say what I would've done...

I have loved, and alhamdulilah have been married for almost 7yrs... I just can not understand why commit yourself to someone for so long without seeing them...I want him there when i need him, when I am happy, when I need a shoulder to cry on, and when I just feel like seeing him for no special reason...I want him there in person, not 1000s of miles away...That's just me...

It all depends on if the husband was romantic when they dated...If he wasn't romantic, then they shouldn't expect any romance after marriage...If he was romantic and has changed sicne they got married; then there is a problem and they should talk about it - whether there are kids or not...There should always be some alone time...Even if it means, having a nice mean after putting the kids to bed, and enjoying a movie together at home...they don't have to go out... Also, the wife should do some romantic stuff for her husband too...

***Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits. okey thank you, check ***Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling. ***Grown women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth. check ***Grown women ignore the bad guys. check, good guys rock. ***Grown women make you want to come home. ***Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man. okey! check Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends). ***Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends. ***Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue. *******Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so. ********** Sorry can't help it if I like to be spoiled... ***Grown women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'. ***Grown women know that that was just one man. ***Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness. The way I see it, Boys want Girls; and Men want Women...Easy as that...

Originally posted by umu zakaria: K K I was in it 4 5 yrs but we met a couple of times in btw, we met in a country n both moved to different continents! coz of love, we endured and ended up 2gather alxamdulilaah! 7 yrs is not that different from 5 n they r meeting up in Decemeber insha Allah so KK intead of patting ur bro on the back n wishing him good luck, what do u suggest? am disappointed with u You have more patience than me...More power to you...I can not see myself waiting around for the person I love for 4,5,6,7yrs, that is just not who I am...Why would you be disappointed in me, if I spoke my mind...So I don't see they way you and Skipper see things...Big deal...I am sure he is not gonna go to her and dump her just cuz I suggested it...C'mon now... OK, Skipperoow xaal qaado...Don't dump the girl, she is not garbage...How about hadaan arooska ani idiin dhigo when she comes in December...

Originally posted by Skipper: Learn the meaning of soul mate and we will discuss the rest. Ok. Googled it, here's the meaning: Soulmate (or soul mate) is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy, sexuality, and/or compatibility... Hayeh, waan bartay micnaha Soul Mate, what is next... UMU, how long have you been in a long distance relationship, if you don't mind me asking? and for the sake of argument, say the two of you live in one country, then you moved...Would you have waited for him for 7yrs? If it is true love, and you feel the person is your soul mate, there is no way one would stay away from the person he/she loves for the damn long...7yrs is a pretty loooong time to be waiting for my soul mate...

Ohh, Skipper...What can I say...Whatever rocks your boat...If waiting for someone for 7yrs means she is your soul mate, what the heck, she is your soul mate...Waxaa rabtid iska dhaadhacsii... BTW, is the 7yrs a third of your life or since you met this chick is a third of your life? Just curious...

How about Qays iyo Layla = the greatest love story...Jaceyl intuu ku dhamaaday... Nin la odhan jiray madjnun(ninkii waalnaa) oo magaciisa caadiga ahi uu ahaa Qays ayaa Layla kula kulmay si kedis ah meel ay dumar xaflad ku lahaayeen dabadeed wuxuu bilaabay inuu geeliisii gawraco munaasibadaa haweenka awgeed,haweenkan waxaa ku jirtay Layla ,Layla waxay jacayl u qaaday Qays isna mid kii la mida ayuu u qaaday, si dhakhso ah ayaa Qays u doonay layla in uu u geed fadhiisto oo wuu weydiisto Aabaheed ,balse nasiib daro layla Aabaheed hore ayuu nin kale ugu balan qaaday inuu inantiisa siinayo,Qays arrintaasi waa u cuntamiweyday wuxuuna ku adkeystay in layla la siiyo,halka Layla aabeheedna ku adkeeystay in innantiisa uu nin kale ugu balan qaaday,Qays wuxuu noqday nin jacayl qaaday laakin innantii uu u qaaday ku hunguubay,Qays oo jacaylka Layla uu ku dheeraa ayaa ka samri waayey dabadeed wuxuu bilaabay inuu dugaaga weheshado oo uu duurjoogta u tago.Qays aabihii ayaa isku deyey inuu ilawsiiyo inankiisa jacaylkan haleelay balse qays xanuunkiisii waa ka sii daray oo wuxuu noqday nin waalan oo xiskiisii ayaa raacay Layla. Qays wuxu u tiriyey Layal gabay badan oo uu mar ku amaanaayo,marna ku calaacalaayo,marna uu ku muujinaayo marxaladan cusub ee la soo deristay.gabayada Qays uu u tiriyey Layal waxay qayb ka noqdeen suugaanta Beershiya iyagoo u isticmaali jiray siyaabo kala duwan waxaa la sheegaa mararka qaar inay u isticmaali jireen hees hawleedyo. Isla marka uu Qays ku sugnaa xaaladaas Layla waxay joogtay gurigooda oo lagu ilaalinaayey iyada oo gabayada uu tirinaayo Qays ay ka dhigeen Layal mawduuca qudha oo lagu sheekeysto iyo xanta dadka. Layla aabeheed wuxuu balan ku galay inuu Qays ka ilaaliyo Layal,qiimaha ay doonto ha ugu kacdee,waxaa la sheegaa in nin la yidhaa Ebne-e salam u weydiistay Layal aabeheed inuu siiyo laakin Layal aabeheed wuxuu ninkaa u sheegay in innantiisu weli yartahay oo uu sugo ilaa dhowr sanno si ay ugu soo korto, Qays wuxu galay nolol adag oo silic leh,sheekadii Qays waxay gaadhay nin la odhan jiray Nezamis's oo ahaa nin deeqsio ah oo sida la sheegay boqor ka ahaa dhulkii Beershiya ee hada loo yaqaan Iiran,ninkaas oo isku deyey inuu Qays la taliyo laakin markii u kala quustay waano iyo talo ayaa la sheegaa in Boqorkaa ay ka gaadhay in uu weerar ku qaado Layal reerkii ay ka dhalatay isagoo ka doonayo reerkaas in Layla iyo Qays laysa siiyo hadii kale dhiig daadan doono. Inkastoo oo dagaalkii dhacay oo la jebiyey Layal qabiilkoodii hadana Aaabaheed wuxuu ku adkeystay in aanu marnaba Layal siin doonin Qays isagoo ku dooday in Qays dhulka dhigay oo burburiyey sharaftii Layla,wuxuuna odhan jiray dabeylkasta oo soo dhacdaa waxay sidaa magicii innanteyda,isago sheegay in Layla oo uu Qays siiyaa uu ka dooranyo inuu dilo oo qudha ka jaro Layal. Boqorkii wuxu ogaaday in aanu ku guuleysaneyn inuu Layal aabeheed ku qanciyo in uu isa siiyo laamanahan isku dhibaateysan faraha ayuuna ka qaaday arrintii Layal iyo qays, ninkii Layla loogu balan qaaday ayaa doonay inuu ka faa,iideyso jaaniskaa isagoo u yimid Layala aabaheed mar labaad ,balse markan si dhib yar ayaaba Layla loo siiyey ..........wuxuuna Layala u kaxaystay gurigiisii,Qays markii uu maqlay in Layla nin la siiyey ayuu ka sii daray wuxuuna wehel cusub ku sii yeeshay keyntii uu markii horeba dugaaga la joogay. Qays aabihii wuxuu la dhintay murugadii iyo uur xumadii uu ka qaaday noloshii uu la dersay inankiisu isagoo Qays ahaa inanka keliya ee uu lahaa ,uuna u jeclaa si aada. Qays markii uu maqlay in Aabihii hoos maray ayuu xalkiisii ka sii xumaaday intii hore ..........balse nin qoyani biyo iskama dhowro.....isaga ayaaba tisii la il daran,wuxuuna Aabo ka sii dhigtay oo booskii Aaabihii u sii buuxshay habardugaagii uu la noolaa. inkastoo Layal la guursaday hadan ma ay ilaawin jaceylkii Qays waxaana ku sii siyaaday jaceylkii ay Qays u haysay......Layal waxay warqad u dirtay Qays iyadoo uga tacsiyadeyneysa geerida ku timid aaabihii waxanay u sheegtay in ninkeedu ogyahay in ay Qays jeceshahay oo aanu weligeed qalbigeeda ka baxayn. mudo ka dib waxaaba dhimatay Qays hooyadii,Laylana waxay fariin u soo dirtay Qays iyadoo u soo dirtay nin waayeel ah una sheegay in Layla ay dooneyso in ay kulmaan.......Qays waa raacay ninkii waxaana mar labaad kulmay lamaane is jeclaaday oo dhib aduunyo muquuray, Layla ninkii la siiyey wuxu ogaa inaanu marna qalbiga Layla ka saari karin Qays. balse Layla ninkii la siiyey waa xanuunsaday waana dhintay.................................... sida dadkaa dhaqanka u ahayd gabadha carmalka ah ee laga dhintaa 2 sanno ayey ahayd inay ku jirto guriga oo aanay mudadaa rag la kulmin...Layal iyada uma dulqaadan karto mudadaas dheer ee aanay Qays is arkeyn waanay xanuunsatay waanay dhimamatay............ War xumi dugsi ma fadhiistee Qays markii uu maqlay in Layla ay dhimatay oo dhulka hoos martay ayuu aad uga xumaaday wuxuuna bookhday xabaasheedii,halkaasna waxaa ku soo af-jarmay noloshi Qays waxaana uu ka daba tegay Layal oo isna waa dhintay............. inkasta oo sheekada jaceylka ah ee Layal iyo Qays ay adagtahay in si dhaba loo helo waayo waxay dhacday qarni aad u fog hadana sidan ayaa ugu dhow sida maanta loo weriyo.

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL@xagxagasho...Maxaa laguu xagxaganaa, bisinkee...Qofkuu ku xagto waa la xagtaa...

Originally posted by Skipper: Zafir and Kool kat are still teenagers That's the best compliment...Thanks... N'way, what you do or don't is none of my business...However, you're the one who started this thread and asked for our opinions...Right...Then that's my opinion... You mean to tell me, that for seven years, you haven't talk to or dated any other girl...There's something wrong with that...Seven years is a very very very loooooooong time, to wait for someone...However, if you want to wait another 7yrs or 17yrs is up to you...Koleey ani masugeen...Unless he is, you know, Bill Gates...lol I know the meaning of soul mate...And it certainly doesn't mean being away from my soul mate for 7yrs...Are you kidding me!!! ^ dump kulaha, xasidsanidaa abaayo. Allow yaa "kaada" ku yiraa ta yar sii daa ad aragtid xanuunkee LLPP, I will drop him like hot potatoes, if he is gonna be away from me for 7 long yrs...Girl got needs you know... Long distance relationships are just rubbish...Why can't you find your "soul mate" where ever you are...I wouldn't advise anyone to be in a long distance relationship...That's just my take on it...NOT WORTH IT!!!

Originally posted by Legend of Zu: Nephty & KK leave me cusin alone ey! They are your cousins eh...I didn't say anything bad about the...YET!!!lol

I liked "DHAGDHEER"...I don't remember the story thoe... DHAGDHEER DHIMATOO DHULKII NABADEE!!!

^^^Hi my dearest brother BadaCas...I am fine, thnx for asking...U?

A lot change in 7yrs...People change...People grow...People grow out of love if their significant other is not there... Dump her, and dump her fast...It is NOT worth it...

Somali food = Somali naked girls... EnglishBoy, what are you smoking...I want some too, not fair...

^^Report back asap, hadii kale eedoyinkey baan kuu soo diri...lol

JB, haku noqon yaan lagu lagdinee...Warhooy ka joog...Warhooy waa wax kuu fiican...Micno maleh, horaalooyiri wixii noolaa ku nooleeyo... -, what!!!What should I call you, the Sympol? I don't know, I just call him Madexeey...It is Cadi-something...Cadulaahi, Cabduqaadir, or something else...Did his sister and Sagaaro divorce...A way way back, they separated and then got back together...Oh well...

Ha'usoo dhowaanin hee... Adii lee dhahday you wanted to marry them at some point... Nephthys, isn't Baaceey brothers with Madexeey... I know that family...I know Sagaaro too...

Fulay kabo weyn...Exactly...No fulay for reer Qardhood Gilrs...Adoo kale hooskaagaa ka cararee...Ariboowe cagaha wax kaday...loool Back to the topic, how can I ever forget...My elementary and middle school principle at Yaasin Cismaan gave me the nick Habargaalo ...I used to talk too much, way too much...

Acuudubilaah!!!Ha'isoo marina...

Originally posted by Jacaylbaro: No they don't and they can't ...... you can find that kind of women only in Qardho as far as i know Wanted inaan gabadh ka guursado but was freakin' scared markaan arkay iyagoo geelii qalaya ,,, ma anigay ii daahayaan JB, reer Qardhoodka hablahooda nimanka jil-jilicsan majecla...So hadaadba waxaasoo kale kabaqeysid, iney ku guurkadaan iska dhaafee, maku fiirinaayaan xataa...

It all depends on her age, your budget, and what she likes... See, for me, the below is on my Christmas wish list (or should I say, wishful thinking List): All together about $2300plus applicable taxes...

^^JB, what are you tryin' to say, that women don't do that in S/land? Geel anyone!!!