ok....... dating depends on the intentions that is being carried out by the two people dating ....somepeople go out to explore and some really like each other and want to have a future togheter ...here is where i put my two cent ..if they want to have future and the guy ask the girl out why not tell ur parents and then u both can arrange a date while u both are being watched ..they wont listen to what u say but u wont do anything wrong when u are in ur parents house and ur mom is in her room and ur sister are cleaning the kitchen or something..and i know for a fact that islam grants the couple meet three times before they are married and if the couple agree that before they jump into marriage they would like have more social meets then they can do nikkax and they can talk on the phone or meeet and kiss like the regular people do and when they decide they are ready they can arrange for the marriage ceremony if not they can just call it quits .. i know nikkax is marriage but that is the only out according to me and i have seen a girl that had been nikkaxed to her husband for two years and those two years they dated casually lik e other do .....they decided to have marriege ceromony last year may and masha allah 1 year letter which is may 24 2003 they had their first child born ...

Putting aside the usual lengthy and semi-philosophical discussions that attempt to accurately explain the term "conspiracy theory," let's turn to a brief summation much more useful for the purposes of this essay: A "conspiracy theory" is simply any explanation, reason, or cause that strongly offends or contradicts others' ideologies or historically sensitive political systems and models. And, more generally, it is an explanation for events that seems wildly improbable and elaborate. So to some, the idea that the United States fought a war in Iraq over issues other than weapons of mass destruction -- even though the expert global consensus was that Iraq had either none or very small quantities of WMD and Colin Powell presented forged documents to the United Nations when making his case -- is a "conspiracy theory" because of how they view U.S. foreign policy (this is the first definition). These individuals see the U.S. as a benign, almost naively bumbling, superpower guided only by altruism. Ulterior motives are spirited away by associating them with some kind of exaggerated and paranoid realpolitik. And it is this historical theory, filled with a kind of de facto racism and condescension, which is quickly becoming America's favorite conspiracy theory: the moral argument (this is the second definition). This popular conception's basic assumptions are embodied perfectly in a recent essay by Michael Kinsley in the April 21 issue of Time entitled "The Power of One." In this curious piece, Kinsley, at times, both praises and criticizes Bush rhetorically while offering little of substance in his criticisms. He states that Bush lacks "a certain largeness of character or presence on the stage," but also that he is a "great man." Kinsley immediately qualifies this by indicating that "great" doesn't "necessarily mean good or wise." The author then combines the praise and criticism in a single, equivocal sentence: "Bush's decision to make war on Iraq may have been visionary and courageous or reckless and tragic or anything in between, but one thing it wasn't was urgently necessary." This seems to be a trend among journalists and critics: be just equivocating enough so as not to "take sides" or really say anything substantive while getting in your pot shots and simultaneously calling the butt of your pot shots a "great man." It's later in the article when Kinsley gets into the conspiracies: "Why did Bush want this war? His ostensible reasons were unconvincing. Whatever we may find now in the rubble of Baghdad, he never offered any good evidence of a close link between Iraq and al-Qaeda or of weapons of mass destruction that could threaten the U.S. His desire to liberate a nation from tyranny undoubtedly was sincere, but there are other tyrants in the world. Why this one? On the other hand, the ulterior motives attributed to Bush by critics are even more implausible. He didn't start a war to serve his re-election campaign or avenge his father or enrich his oil buddies or help Israel. The mystery of Bush's true motives adds to the impression of a wizard arbitrarily waving his wand over history." Here Kinsley lays things out fairly clearly. Since the "ostensible reasons" for the need for war were "unconvincing" and those offered by Bush's critics "even more implausible" (he doesn't say why), it must be Bush's (and by association America's, since Kinsley never uses the labels "Washington" or the "U.S." but only "Bush") sincere "desire to liberate a nation from tyranny." Moreover, this is the only possible conclusion one could have as the author likens Bush to a "wizard arbitrarily waving his wand over history" whose "true motives" are mysterious. Such observations are interesting for their notable lack of analysis. As mentioned above, Kinsley gives no explanation as to why theories of why the war was fought advanced by Bush's critics are "implausible," only that they are. So he discredits both lines of thinking -- those of the administration itself and then those of its critics. And in the final analysis, the President is abstractly portrayed as a mysterious wizard, albeit a sincere and morally guided one. Thus we have America's favorite explanation for world events. It's also known as the "bumbling bear theory," which, to reiterate, places the United States in the role of the benevolent benefactor of the global community whose guiding principles are Christian morals and who only unintentionally and accidentally does bad things. Some will even blame Washington's unquenchable desire and exuberance to do good as the reason that things sometimes go wrong. Kinsley's historical construction is finally topped off by a healthy dose of cynicism when he says: "Bush is not the only one who decided rather suddenly that disempowering Saddam had to be the world's top priority. When Bush decided this, so did almost every congressional Republican, conservative TV pundit and British Prime Minister. In polls, a large majority of Americans agreed with Bush that Saddam was a terrible threat and had to go, even though there had been no popular passion for this idea before Bush brought it up. You could call this many things, but one of them is leadership." Either the author is employing some incredibly dry sarcasm or he's very naive when it comes to politics and war in the 21st century. First, the decision was not Bush's. He was simply the man who was president when influential, lifetime politicos such as Vice President Dick Cheney, Defense Secretary Donald Rumsfeld, and Deputy Defense Secretary Paul Wolfowitz's long-time geopolitical aims came to fruition spearheaded by the increasingly well-known neoconservative ideology given great stock in Washington these days. These men were calling for the overthrow of the Ba'athist regime in Baghdad when Bush was still Governor of Texas and didn't even know what the Ba'ath Party was. Second, and more importantly, Kinsley attributes the Congress' and public's sudden decision to view the overthrow of Saddam Hussein as a top priority to Bush's leadership as well as his "spiritual power over so many minds." There's no mention of a pervasive and propaganda filled media that reached new heights of manipulation even by American corporate media standards. That the BBC openly questioned and even complained about stories coming out of the Pentagon, calling them "disinformation," and said American news agencies were too patriotic is immaterial when it comes to Kinsley's "great man" who is neither wise nor good theory. Implicit in the author's words is the sense that the media is of little influence over what the historically unaware American public thinks and that Republicans in Congress "during a time of war" feel no need to parrot what a Republican president thinks. Michael Kinsley, as well as a host of others, would well benefit from a viewing of the documentary The Trials of Henry Kissinger in which the former Secretary of State and National Security Advisor explains that it is impossible for states to interact in the way individual human beings do. Kissinger observes that people are typically guided by some kind of moral system when interacting with one another, but that this is impractical, if not undesirable, for state-to-state relations. The overvaluation of individual's rights and the need to protect the innocent can impede political objectives that have more pragmatic issues as their focus, such as resource security and regional hegemony. But it is critical that this is not how the Bush administration (U.S. administrations for decades have feared this as well) is seen by the general public, so -- to counteract this reality of geopolitics -- the American public is sold the mother of all conspiracy theories: the moral argument. Why delve into obscure and often difficult to understand historical and political topics -- for which most don't even have the time -- when world events can be summed up much more neatly with an us good/them bad, altruistically based explanation? By Matthew Riemer http://yellowtimes.org

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cute lil gir..........sis does that mean talib is muslim. :confused: ......am preety sure he said "walk with allah just to get by" in his song to get by .....but me no sure

DUDE! u are good ......loved the moral......

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Mother! My Best Friend- Muhammad al-Shareef Part II: We reap what we Plant In a far away land, a long time ago, a boy was born blind. His widowed mother – the good Muslimah that she was – did not lose hope in her dua’ and pray she did, continuously. A few years later, the boy’s sight returned. Al-Hamdu lillaah. She realized that her village was not befitting for her son to excel in Islamic education, so with her son in hand they migrated to Makkah. There she saw that he was being instructed in Quran and Hadith, the latter becoming the young man’s focus. He went out far and wide collecting Hadith and compiled a Hadith book that sits next to the Quran in authenticity, forgetting not his mother that had raised him well. His mother named him Muhammad ibn Isma’il, and many of us know him today as: Al-Ima, Al-Bukhari! Dear brothers and sisters, how often is it that a farmer plants wheat and it comes out as a sunflower? You may say, never! For how can someone farm the seed of one plant and expect some other plant to grow. It just does not happen. Similarly, some parents leave their children waddling in the mud of television, music, movies, and disbelieving friends. Then when the child reaches grade 12 and asks to go to the final dance with a girlfriend, or when he enters University and stops praying, or when he gets married to a Kafir and himself becomes one, then the parents say, “What happened?” Brothers and sisters, it is the harvest of what we planted. If we do not raise our children to be obedient, where do we expect them to learn? If we do not practice Islam ourselves, who will be our children’s example? How do you teach a child to wake up for Fajr, when he sees his own father and mother sleeping in, day after day? You may ask, how do I raise my children to be good Muslims, obedient to their parents? Consider the following: Firstly: One should discipline their children throughout their youth. Hisham ibn Abd Al-Malik missed a son of his during Jumu’ah one week. When he met him later, he asked him, “Why did you miss Jumu’ah?” He son replied, “My donkey couldn’t make the trip.” His father then said, “Couldn’t you have walked!” For an entire year after that, Hisham ibn Abd Al-Malik made his son walk to Jumu’ah. Secondly: The piety of the father and mother reaches the children. In the Qur’an, Allah recalls for us the story of Khidr, and how he rebuilt a wall for 2 orphans: And as for the wall, it belonged to two orphan boys in the town. Under it was a treasure belonging to them and their father was a righteous man… [Qur'an - Al-Kahf 18:82] Look at how Allah protected these orphans because of the piety of their father. In tafseer, it is said that it was their grandfather seven generations back! Sa’eed ibn Jubayr said, “I often lengthen my Salah for the sake of my son, perhaps Allah may protect him (because of it).” In conclusion, let us reflect on the virtue of respecting our parents: · It is one of the greatest things that we can do. In Bukhari and Muslim, from Abd Allah ibn Mas’ood (raa), a man asked the Prophet - Sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam, “What deed is most beloved by Allah?” He - Sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam - said, “Salah on time.” The man asked, “And then?” He - Sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam - said, “Respecting and revering ones parents.” He said, “And then?” “Jihad for the sake of Allah.” · It is a means by which our sins are forgiven. When Allah commanded in the Qur’an And We enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents... The next verse tells us: They are those from whom We shall accept the best of their deeds and overlook their evil deeds, (they shall be) amongst the dwellers of Paradise. [Qur'an - Al-Ahqaaf 46:15-16] · Respecting our parents will lead us to Jannah! In Muslim, from Abu Hurayrah (raa): I heard the Messenger of Allah - Sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam - say, “May he perish! May he perish! May he perish!” It was asked, “Who, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet - Sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam - said, “He whose parents attain old age in his life – one or both of them – and he does not enter Paradise (because of his goodness towards them).” And when our parents are gone, the goodness towards them does not end. Malik ibn Rabi’ah Al-Saa’idi narrated: We were sitting with the Messenger of Allah - Sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam - when an Ansari man came and asked, “O Messenger of Allah, is there anything left from my Birr to my parents that I should present to them after their death?” The Prophet - Sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam - said, “Yes, four things: Pray and ask forgiveness for them. Fulfill their pledges. Be kind to their friends. And maintain the ties of kinship that come from only their direction. That is what is left from your Birr to them after their death.” [Ahmad, Abu Dawood, and Ibn Maajah] Aamir ibn Abd Allah ibn Az-Zubayr (ra) said, “My father died, and for an entire year I did not ask Allah for anything except that He forgive my Father.” Remember dear brothers and sisters as you meet your parents today, the words of Rasul Allah - Sal Allahu alayhi wa Sallam - “Fa feehima fa Jaahid! Do Jihad in (your kind treatment of) your parents.” O Allah, forgive us and our parents, and reward them with the finest reward. O Allah, elevate their position in the hereafter and this Dunya; make that which befalls them an expiation for their sins. O Allah, grant them residence in Firdows, the highest level of Jannah, with the Prophets, the Siddeeqeen, and the Martyrs. Ameen.

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nooooooooo sirus dies :mad: its the voldermoth or what ever his name was ............man i need to go get the book now

waaaaaaaaw most def is a muslim ....I had a gut feeling talib kweli is a muslim and did y'll listen to his song "get by" ..but i gues he is not one ! :eek:

look at u take the faraxtin away from me ...for once i believe i was older than u ..and i heard the older the wiser.....shoot now i feel like am dhadaan or dhabaal whatever i u would wanna say..peave and love ma

^^^prediction predictions! .......heehehhee...just picture wiilo running around locking her self in a room and screaming ala xafsa adeerkaan caloosha weynle iga celi :rolleyes: .......i gota run now i got a communications test and am still serving the ne t ....peace and love ma :cool: ......naa horta do u plan to come by to our little town sometime! if u do hola at me i want to see the book u stole at those poems from! and y do claim they are urs :eek: ....(just kidding) P.S ...i repeat the statement above was a joke..i dont want this lady to come and dacas slap me in the middle of the night ..... i saw a bunch of cuties coming for orientation! and yeah bunch of mean girls ....what is up with mean girls and out skool dang

^^ walaahi u cracked me up this time sxb.....wiilo waaye nayaa .....u know what ama do ama nock him by doing a strip tease did u watch the hindi movie koyla ......the old guy would snore after i take my baagi shirt off ......u know i got 20 shirts underneath that baagi shirt..........BUT i will make u the malxiisad for my aroos ........lol

stop serving the web@still flying i didn't read what the article said but it must be a good one.........so good job kiddo

^^^^loooooooooooooool now u know why they call me wiilo eeh.....anywho! if i get a 40 year guy i will make sure i donate 50 dollars to u and ur husband (wink) ..that will be the monthly rate...lol........hola back ma ......

are we talking about talib kweli :confused:

OG_GIRL i could not agree more........40 year old and rich man that sound tempting enough......he got money and he can make me happy ..by taking me shopping ..i know i sound shalow but arent we all shalow on one way or another .......... p.s: y'll now all this is a joke right :confused:

hmmmmmmmm i did not think of that they will take me seriously..... well ladies and gents she is not just dissing me she left me a message on my phone saying she was gona kill me... :eek: ....where did u get my number from bal@0g girl......if u was in usa i would have had a restraining order against u.... stop asking me to leave my man and marry ur brother did i not say noooooooo noooooo o..iga qaley walaalo....... ladies a gents its aa joke for the record am bored and she is an easy sport

i dont think i can show love when og_girl keep private messaging me cay ......girl i thought we was freinds just cuz the boy liked is my man now dont mean u need to show hate.........bisinka iyo yasinka naa nin raadso wa la helaye. :mad: ..........just kidding girl

1: NOW TELL ME WHY SOMALIS GOTA CRITICISE PEOPLE...ARGGGGGG THAT I CANT STAND :mad: :mad: 2: NEWS MY GOD WHO EVER MENTIONED IT EARLIER SAID WHAT I WAS THINKING .....SOMETIMES THEY MAKE ME WANNA BE ***** I DONT THINK I CAN SAY WHAT ON MY MIND .THEY WAY TALK ABOUT US MAKE'S ME WANNA DACAS SLAP THEM UNTIL THEIR WHITE FACES TURN TOMMATO RED :mad: :mad: ..... 3:PEOPLE THAT ARE FEW YEARS OLDER THAN U TELLING U WHAT TO DO ..WHO TOLD THEM THEY HAD THE RIGHT TO TELL ME WHAT TO DO ... :rolleyes: 4: GOSSIPERS ........UUF CANT THEY SAY IT TO MY FACE...... :mad:

MAN OG GIRL NEVER BEEN SAID BETTER ....MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT MONEY.......I WILL MARRY THE RICHEST GUY IN TOWN .......ITS ALL ABOUT THE MATERIALS ....CALL ME MATERIALISTIC IF U WANT BUT WE WOMEN MARRY FOR MONEY....... .....LOOOOOOOOOOOL

looooooooooooool ya allah that was funny walaahi