Originally posted by Nephthys: We all know when a man takes a second wife (in his heart), he no longer has that "can't live without you uncondtional love for his 1st wife" and if he doesn't have that (and apparently doesn't care to have it for her, anymore), then a woman's gotta do what a woman's gotta do! A smart woman would rather go blind then see the new xaajiyo take everything she ever worked so hard for. Not only emotional investment is at stake here, but a large chunk of change too (whether they're both working couple or not, it's still less income ) Demanding a divorce or walking away waa u n-a-c-a-s-nimo. Keeping in mind that some men quickly abandon their children and financial responsibilities after a divorce. So markaa ku dhimo wax kastaa kaligaa, maaha all the while asagu raaxaysanayo! Ehe' isma oran! Kill him with kindness ie; uunsi+ xaax will make him happy and financially secure for her L0L. It's amazing what a woman will do and put up with for her kids, to give them a shot at a happy future. Emotional roller coaster rides really have an effect on everyone involved. Now if you try, you can find a lot of reasons (or excuses) for her wanting to stay or why she wants to keep her Farax or why she can't leave. Of all people I can't believe you [the bishy i know ] is saying this...bal maxaa soo kordhay did you hubby join sol? mise xiin ba hunguriga kasoo rideesa

^lool I can't believe you never heard of that. it's called masaafo I think and that is when spinsters go to different town, stay with family that has unmarried sons and the host family marries them off to their older son [ August 14, 2007, 05:29 PM: Message edited by: Keyf ]

^I am sure it was out of love....I mean who wants a dead wife

Rageedi

Only spineless woman would do such a thing :rolleyes:

^ lol good one. Islaanta caadi ma'aha walee but what is the message here

^LOL the last is just ...

Beautiful but probably not real!!

Inaa Nilaahi wa Inaa Ilaahi Raajicuun

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What a beautiful day! Despite the cloudy sky and the zero sun shine I am on cloud nine

There are so many parks in Columbus you just need to open up your eyes but since you couldn’t locate the city’s greatest parks let me help you out a bit. For endless gardens and a long beautiful trail check out Franklin Park on E. Brood St…if you would rather just run there is 5 mile hiking trail on Alum Creek rd called Madison park. And there is another 4 mile trail on Cleveland Ave just past 161 …I can’t remember the name but it was Sharon woods or something. Also check out the Hoover park on Sunbury Rd for boating, fishing and sailing PS can’t help you out any more than that as I don’t live in the city anymore….how I miss Columbus

^LOL it looks like she is giving you the finger

LOL what's up with her hair

^just cause ya'll don't have places dedicated to world's best tea and desert don't hate. all you have to do is give the address will be more than happy to ship you one of their fine concoctions

^ LOL [ August 02, 2007, 07:22 AM: Message edited by: Keyf ]

^^ Have you tried their masala tea ...it is to die for...oh Gosh I so miss CO

^^LOL half of them are wrong …try again lady you can do better

^^What are you smiling about horta One minute man by Missy Elliet comes tome mind whenever I hear these kind of talks

There is no better feeling then finally telling off co-worker from hell.

The poll results don’t make sense and apparently once you post it there is no option to modify the questions :rolleyes: Anyway here is an interesting article. =================================================== Are women earning more than men? NEW YORK - When I was on the board of directors for the National Organization for Women in New York City during the 1970s, I led protests against the pay gap. I wore a "59 Cents" pin to reflect my objection to the discrimination I felt was the cause of women earning only 59 cents to each dollar earned by men. Now, since I'm a husband and father, discrimination against women isn't just political, it's personal. But one question haunted me through the years: If an employer has to pay a man one dollar for the same work a woman would do for 59 cents, why would anyone hire a man? If women do produce more for less, I thought, women who own their own businesses should earn more than male business owners. So I checked. I found t hat women entrepreneurs earn 50% less than their male counterparts. It's not that women are less effective or productive — they just have different priorities. A 2001 survey of business owners with MBAs conducted by the Rochester Institute of Technology found that money was the primary motivator for only 29% of women, versus 76% of men. Women prioritized flexibility, fulfillment, autonomy and safety. After more than a decade of research for my book, Why Men Earn More, I discovered that men and women make 25 work-life choices that actually create a wage gap. Men make decisions that result in their making more money. On the other hand, women make decisions that earn them better lives (e.g., more family and friend time). But what happens when women make the same lucrative decisions typically made by men? The good news — for women, at least: Women actually earn more. For example, when a male and a female civil engineer both stay with their respective companies for ten years, travel and relocate equally and take the same career risks, the woman ends up making more. And among workers who have never been married and never had children, women earn 117% of what men do. (This factors in education, hours worked and age.) Without husbands, women have to focus on earning more. They work longer hours, they're willing to relocate and they're more likely to choose higher-paying fields like technology. Without children, men have more liberty to earn less — that is, they are free to pursue more fulfilling and less lucrative careers, like writing or art or teaching social studies. What about the headlines saying that even when their jobs are the same, men get paid more than women? Isn't that especially true in corporate America? Yes. But according to Catalyst, a nonprofit that advocates for gender equality in the business world, men are nine times more likely to be responsible for bottom-line sales, marketing and finances, not human resources or public relations. But wait. Don't companies favor men for these greater responsibilities to begin with? Sometimes. Overall, though, track records being equal, whoever is more willing to relocate, travel and work 80-hour weeks receives greater responsibilities. The male corporate model is built on a man's greater willingness to be a slave of sorts — especially once he has to provide for children. Is there discrimination against women? Yes. There's no denying that the old boys' network is alive and well. But there's also discrimination against men. For example, try getting hired as a male dental hygienist, nursery school teacher or cocktail waiter, or try selling clothing at Wal-Mart Stores. (Even the employees in the men's wear department are 93% women.) When we focus our binoculars only on discrimination, we miss opportunities available to women, such as the 80 fields (e.g., financial analysis, radiation therapy, statistics and most engineering fields) in which women now earn more than men. I want my daughters to know that working 44 versus 34 hours per week leads to more than twice the pay. As I took my binoculars off of discrimination against my wife and daughters, I discovered new opportunities in store for them. Dr. Warren Farrell is the author of Why Men Earn More: The Startling Truth Behind the Pay Gap — and What Women Can Do About It and the international best-sellers Why Men Are The Way They Are and The Myth of Male Power. Dr. Farrell is the only man in the U.S. ever elected three times to the board of directors for the National Organization for Women in New York City.

I am curious to know how many of us have mastered the art of negotiating for better income whether it’s starting salary or during promotions.

Future wife looks promising

I am allergic to bad weather especially when it ruins my sleep with loud a@s thunderstorms

I don’t really like referring to people as anything other then their name but if I were to start I would probably prefer “ninkayga” as opposed to “odagayga” the later one just doesn’t seem right. Funny this topic came up because I remember asking this same question recently to friend of mine when he referred his girl as “old lady”….so it probably is more common than we think.